Cutting him off for good?

Met a Libra a year ago. It didn't take long for him to work his way into my waking thoughts. It wasn't his physicality that captured my attention if that's what you're thinking, but how uncanny it was that everything he had built his life around fit so perfectly with everything I stood for. He was like my mirror and would never know it. I came to admire him from a safe distance. Yet fate decided to align our paths, and suddenly one afternoon, I found myself walking beside him, mesmerized by his charm and affable personality. The gaping distance between us narrowed that day, and I was no longer that girl he barely knew existed. I was the girl he could befriend. But the feelings I had about him were deep and remained in my thoughts even as we formed a bond. He was special somehow and stubbornly remained that way. I felt as if I'd found someone like me. And I was home. And those feelings, they clouded my intuition and made absolutely no sense. My heart screamed for release, but I just couldn't get rid of the thoughts that ran through my mind, like how he belonged to someone else. And also, I didn't want to play the fool. Insecurities danced as I contemplated our relationship.

But why did it have to be this way? To have fallen for someone so unavailable, yet someone who fit me so perfectly? Like my other half? Like a soulmate? He'll never know what he could had. What he lost. Maybe he had an idea, but he'll never get to realize what it would have been like to choose me. I kept it well hidden, I think.

As I write this, I get flashes of him and my heart just aches. It hurts me more, as it always does when you're the one left behind.

I'd like to close my heart off to him now. I'm not sure it's at all justified as I know I didn't really give him a choice in this matter. But as my Libra friend once said, "All's fair in love and war," right?

It's goodbye- What's the best way to cut him off?

Probably the distance make you think all this and the insecurity also. But you don't say anything about him, how the things was when you two met ? You see/feel he is not into you ? Did he asked you to move to his city ? or expressed how happy he would be if you do it ? If nothing from all this come up from him, then he is not into you or he is very weak that just waiting for you to take any decision . You say somewhere , that he did not choice you ? If things was nice between you, I am sure he will contacting you after a while. Libra man need time to figure things out and think if is worth or not. Even is not something worth for a relationship, but he may ask you to be friends only. Now depend of you if you can accept this only or if you are dreaming to a relationship with him. If so, you should tell him what you feel and how you feel. Hiding this , you will suffer by yourself with questions and questions in your mind . So , make things clear with him. There is a lack of communication also between you .
If you really think to cut off the things with him for good, then just tell him it was nice to know and met him . I always prefer honest way, not to disappear without say anything and explain.

This is classic "the heart wants what it can't have."

I wouldn't get too caught up on these feelings if I were you.

Posted by tiziani
You know, Delia... somehow you have a very good grasp of what people are feeling. Funny old world out there isn't it

Is something from my inside , not only this, but I can feel very exactly about a person also. By the way, I am a good fortune-teller . Is not funny , I don't make fun with my replies here, I only try to say a opinion. If the person want to take it in consideration, is up to her/him 🙂

Posted by esortelracs
Met a Libra a year ago. It didn't take long for him to work his way into my waking thoughts. It wasn't his physicality that captured my attention if that's what you're thinking, but how uncanny it was that everything he had built his life around fit so perfectly with everything I stood for. He was like my mirror and would never know it. I came to admire him from a safe distance. Yet fate decided to align our paths, and suddenly one afternoon, I found myself walking beside him, mesmerized by his charm and affable personality. The gaping distance between us narrowed that day, and I was no longer that girl he barely knew existed. I was the girl he could befriend. But the feelings I had about him were deep and remained in my thoughts even as we formed a bond. He was special somehow and stubbornly remained that way. I felt as if I'd found someone like me. And I was home. And those feelings, they clouded my intuition and made absolutely no sense. My heart screamed for release, but I just couldn't get rid of the thoughts that ran through my mind, like how he belonged to someone else. And also, I didn't want to play the fool. Insecurities danced as I contemplated our relationship.

But why did it have to be this way? To have fallen for someone so unavailable, yet someone who fit me so perfectly? Like my other half? Like a soulmate? He'll never know what he could had. What he lost. Maybe he had an idea, but he'll never get to realize what it would have been like to choose me. I kept it well hidden, I think.

As I write this, I get flashes of him and my heart just aches. It hurts me more, as it always does when you're the one left behind.

I'd like to close my heart off to him now. I'm not sure it's at all justified as I know I didn't really give him a choice in this matter. But as my Libra friend once said, "All's fair in love and war," right?

It's goodbye- What's the best way to cut him off?

Sooooo...you were the only one in the relationship then? If so, you can't cut something off that was never on..right?? However, your posting read like it could be the start of a good book though. Wait...Hold on....Are you writing a Harlequin Romance Novel?
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Posted by tiziani
You know, Delia... somehow you have a very good grasp of what people are feeling. Funny old world out there isn't it

@Tiz...IKR....
Delia, is this dude you despise the only Libra dude you've ever dated? I haven't read all of your posts, but I noticed that you're pretty much in every Libra thread giving advice to the love and lost..IJA.

This is similar to something I??ve experienced recently. Libras move on quick. But they say what you want to hear and are extremely flirty and seductive, and manipulative. They will manipulate your feelings, they mirror what you say and agree with you, they make you feel good about yourself. And when you think things are going well and will last forever, you find out the Libra has only been flirty to make you feel good, what they feel is not that into you. Never consider anything a libra says in a relationship, it's all a mirror. Only look at their actions, actions speak louder than words, they know how to get what they want, if he wanted to be with you he would. You need to think about what you want, what you fell in love with isn't real, the only real thing a libra does is their action, their words are all fake and charming because they want you to feel good, they don't say them because they like you. I??ve learnt my lesson, always only be friends with a libra, never develop feelings!