Cancerleo32
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First signs that he is ready for someone better?
Posted by everevolvingepithet
Friends from old places of work etc, usually post on my wall, that's about it.Keeps it nice and simple.🙂
Agreed.. Like I think I am turning into a freak lol
Normally I'm just kinda like eh whatever.. but I feel like irritated by it.
I know it's just jealousy on my part and I need to you know get over it and trust him, but i'm just like arg.
True story, I am going off to college in November and he is going to a different state, but we had planned to stay together. But I think he is planning on meeting up with other girls ahead of time and thats why he is getting in contact with so many girls who used to like.
In my opinion it's cool.. but I am debating on why we are even together if that is the case. I'm a better or worse kinda chic. I plan on still dating him when I go to college but if he isn't why keep the relationship going at all?
BTW I am only going to college for 2 years as I am a college student currently, I'm just changing schools for my major. He is leaving to start on his own college goals.. I think that if we are going to be together, we need to have our lives together.. which means following our dreams.. that's why I am choosing to leave.. but i'm just frustrated.. friggen relationships.. friggen drama that come with them at times like this. Or maybe I'm just creating my won drama.. or I dunno. blarg.
Posted by everevolvingepithet
Friends from old places of work etc, usually post on my wall, that's about it.Keeps it nice and simple.🙂
dude I totally went passed what you said lol
I didn't even actually respond.
I think that posting on your wall is fine and good. Keeping in touch with old friends, even crushes is awesome imo. Even for my bf because it's what he wants to do. I don't care. I get bothered by the flirting though like he said something on the line of "Heyy, I used to have a crush on you in 8th grade. I just wanted to tell you now because I'm alot more confident. haha. I bet you'd like me more now." like it irritated meee.
I think normal conversation like "hey how are you" and stuff like that is ok but when you start flirting talking about how you like that person and how you are "unhappy" that seems like he is trying to hook up. That's how it starts. I'd be pissed!!
And yes, I would keep my options open too!
It might not be that he's looking for someone "better", he just wants to secure a rebound replacement. I'm not justifying his actions but he may be sad in his life because you 2 will inevitably part.
Anyway, I wouldn't wait around. You both fucked up in this case so just come clean. I'm sure you don't need this extra stress.
Anyway, I wouldn't wait around. You both fucked up in this case so just come clean. I'm sure you don't need this extra stress.
Posted by luvlylady2010
I think normal conversation like "hey how are you" and stuff like that is ok but when you start flirting talking about how you like that person and how you are "unhappy" that seems like he is trying to hook up. That's how it starts. I'd be pissed!!
*sigh*
yupp.
Posted by ninjamu
It might not be that he's looking for someone "better", he just wants to secure a rebound replacement. I'm not justifying his actions but he may be sad in his life because you 2 will inevitably part.
Anyway, I wouldn't wait around. You both fucked up in this case so just come clean. I'm sure you don't need this extra stress.
You are right. but I don't feel like cutting things just yet. or maybe I do. I'm not sure yet.
Love. I love him. but I feel like that could just be an excuse. Many people let their bf/gfs do stupid things because of love. but I think I would be sad if we just ended things now. but I know we inevitably will end. I can't sit here and imagine that I will have a fairy tale romance with him and that even if we part he will wait for me. I could wait for him, I'm that stubborn. But I doubt anyone would be willing to do the same. Especially when surrounded by beautiful girls you used to have crush's on.
Stupid situation.
I don't need the extra stress that's for sure.
Posted by QuietSt0rm
I never understood females and the need to 'retaliate'. You can never get ahead if you're too busy trying to get even. Just saying.
As far as he goes, I don't think you're being a freak or overreacting, I think you have very LEGIT reasons for being concerned. It's in black and white, right in front of you. I'm not really sure what I would do in that situation. I can't say that I would definitely just cut it off, but I couldn't continue on knowing what I know and pretending that I didn't. How would you sweep that under the rug? How are you going to pretend to be cool in his face, like everything is normal? Maybe it's just me being a scorp, but I would be like a raging storm if I knew my man was flirting with other women and saying he was unhappy with me. I would not be able to pretend like everything was normal. I have no poker face when it comes to hiding emotion.
I would probably have to let him know that I know. Your bf is probably gonna be upset that you went through his phone and email, but hey. LOL Nothing to lose there if he's seeking other chicks out. I would just ask him straight up like "are you unhappy here?" "are you searching?" I would just be straight up. It's the only way you'll get answers. Otherwise you can assume all day. After you get your answers, THEN you will better be able to tell which route to take.
Some people (both men and women) flirt just to see if they 'still got it'. Like geminis are naturally flirtatious (which is why I can't fool with one!) 😛 Or, like Ninjamu said, he could be getting a Plan B in order. It could be anything, major or minor but you won't know until you ask him.
Thank you. I will do that. 🙂
And yeah the whole retaliating thing is very childish. But I was so angry. I wanted him to know that if he is looking for others, he should be aware that so will i. I'm not just available only to him.
Posted by THEKingofLibra
OK so is there a 'put your dick into my Cancer-Leo cusphole' sign-up list? Are you gonna run it like a lottery, first come-first blown basis, or plain old fashioned all-inclusive gang bang?
I've read so many of your posts.
You seem really bitter. I don't understand why you assume everything is about sex.. I'm only 19 so of course there is not going to be any gang banging or whatever all that stuff is.
I just posted my situation for people's opinions and maybe advice.
Posted by size zero superhero
this situation sounds entirely corrupt, no offense intended your way.
usually this sorta thing doesn't just 'happen', meaning there are specific events leading up to indulging the wandering eye. back-up plans wouldn't even exist had you both been content in the relationship all along...ask yourselves what's missing and which needs are unfulfilled by one another. keeping others around as options while committed is a sign something is sorely lacking in the current relationship.
I posted as a response under my post the situation, which is I have let my bf know I'm leaving in november for college. I am pretty sure this would be the main cause, even though he said he wanted to still stay together even if we end up dating long distance.
Posted by Cancerleo32Posted by size zero superhero
this situation sounds entirely corrupt, no offense intended your way.
usually this sorta thing doesn't just 'happen', meaning there are specific events leading up to indulging the wandering eye. back-up plans wouldn't even exist had you both been content in the relationship all along...ask yourselves what's missing and which needs are unfulfilled by one another. keeping others around as options while committed is a sign something is sorely lacking in the current relationship.
I posted as a response under my post the situation, which is I have let my bf know I'm leaving in november for college. I am pretty sure this would be the main cause, even though he said he wanted to still stay together even if we end up dating long distance.click to expand
other than that, nothing is lacking. Honestly I make sure I look good most of the time when he comes over. I compromise with him and make sure we do what he likes, but also do what I like. I give him space when needed, he gives me space when I need it. We talk about our future together, we have alot in common, but we also do things separately. We are both affectionate towards one another. There really aren't any "problems" we have that I could complain about. I think because I am leaving and because he is going back to his hometown.. he just is getting in touch with old crushes. The fact that he is talking to them doesn't bother me, I just am a bit irritated that it's so flirty. But I guess guys are flirty in general for the most part. I shouldn't let it bother me, but him saying he is unhappy confuses me. I guess I should figure out what is making him unhappy but I have no idea. It may not even have anything to do with me at all, just in the context it seemed like it did.
Posted by 0987654321234567890
You are so kind. Do you know what I would have done, if that had happened to me?
I would have changed his fb password. 😄
Haha that is something my mom would do.. she has had these type of experiences alot before and I've watched how she has reacted to them and that is definitely something she would do 🙂
I just feel like it's his business. It's his choice to do whatever he wants to.. but I want to know whats going on ya know? If he is bored or planning on hooking up later, it would be nice if I could know ahead of time. Maybe we could talk about it. I should confront him, but knowing me I probably wont until it's like too late. lol I hate confronting situations like this.
Posted by THEKingofLibraPosted by Cancerleo32
I just posted my situation for people's opinions and maybe advice.
Well if you want my opinion, I think you should go for an old-fashioned gang bang. We could get a discount on hotel lodging, lubricant, and most importantly air fare and vag stitches in the ER. Do it once and get it over with, as they say. I'll bring a cucumber.click to expand
Haha you're a weirdo. >.
Posted by QuietSt0rmPosted by 0987654321234567890
You are so kind. Do you know what I would have done, if that had happened to me?
I would have changed his fb password. 😄
LMAO! *raises hand* GUILTY!!
But then I felt bad and gave him the new password. Sigh.
I still broke up with him though.
I agree with the subzerosuperchic about that not being healthy that you both are setting up plan B's. That's like planning/preparing to fail.click to expand
I'm not lol.
I only told him that, I have no intention of going with someone else. I didn't even say that to him, I told him i was just talking to someone I used to like, since he has been talking to girls he used to like alot lately.
He's not ready for a serious relationship. Even if you were working his nerves or causing his unhappiness, the fact that he'd go back to an ex means that he's not necessarily looking for someone "better" persay but instead that he's just trying to have his cake & eat it too. For all you know, he could've BEEN flirting with and/or drooling over other women. Don't assume this just started; no, you're just now noticing it.
If he's not happy with you, he should've broken up with you or communicated his feelings with you. But for him to unacknowledge the relationship to others, and even worse his exe's, is even worse & should be what you consider a huge slap to your face.
Screw playing games & trying to do what he's doing. It won't make you feel any better. You need to let it be known that if he wants to be with you, he's gonna 1. Have to leave those other chicks alone 2. He needs to be man enough to walk away if you're not all that he's looking for so he can spare BOTH you & him any more wasted time & 3. If he's not doing anything wrong with these women, he should atleast not give off the impression that/like he is.
If he's not happy with you, he should've broken up with you or communicated his feelings with you. But for him to unacknowledge the relationship to others, and even worse his exe's, is even worse & should be what you consider a huge slap to your face.
Screw playing games & trying to do what he's doing. It won't make you feel any better. You need to let it be known that if he wants to be with you, he's gonna 1. Have to leave those other chicks alone 2. He needs to be man enough to walk away if you're not all that he's looking for so he can spare BOTH you & him any more wasted time & 3. If he's not doing anything wrong with these women, he should atleast not give off the impression that/like he is.
Posted by krysrenee7
He's not ready for a serious relationship. Even if you were working his nerves or causing his unhappiness, the fact that he'd go back to an ex means that he's not necessarily looking for someone "better" persay but instead that he's just trying to have his cake & eat it too. For all you know, he could've BEEN flirting with and/or drooling over other women. Don't assume this just started; no, you're just now noticing it.
If he's not happy with you, he should've broken up with you or communicated his feelings with you. But for him to unacknowledge the relationship to others, and even worse his exe's, is even worse & should be what you consider a huge slap to your face.
Screw playing games & trying to do what he's doing. It won't make you feel any better. You need to let it be known that if he wants to be with you, he's gonna 1. Have to leave those other chicks alone 2. He needs to be man enough to walk away if you're not all that he's looking for so he can spare BOTH you & him any more wasted time & 3. If he's not doing anything wrong with these women, he should atleast not give off the impression that/like he is.
Agreed. Although they aren't neccessarily exes.. which I think makes it worse, because he never did get to date them, so that could be something he is curious about. I think that we both just need to sit and talk about it.. bottom line. Figure out what the heck is going on, and why I feel like he is flirting with them.
Posted by krysrenee7
He's not ready for a serious relationship. Even if you were working his nerves or causing his unhappiness, the fact that he'd go back to an ex means that he's not necessarily looking for someone "better" persay but instead that he's just trying to have his cake & eat it too. For all you know, he could've BEEN flirting with and/or drooling over other women. Don't assume this just started; no, you're just now noticing it.
If he's not happy with you, he should've broken up with you or communicated his feelings with you. But for him to unacknowledge the relationship to others, and even worse his exe's, is even worse & should be what you consider a huge slap to your face.
Screw playing games & trying to do what he's doing.You need to let it be known that if he wants to be with you, he's gonna 1. Have to leave those other chicks alone 2. He needs to be man enough to walk away if you're not all that he's looking for so he can spare BOTH you & him any more wasted time
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So i'm pretty irritated.. I feel like I can't really trust him as much and I'm just kinda waiting to see what move he makes.
But to retaliate, I told him that a guy I used to like and who liked me back started talking to me recently.. It did happen, but in reality I didn't really talk back as much, I let the guy know I was dating someone.. but now I am wondering if I should talk to the guy just to keep my options open since it seems like my guy is doing just that.