FRUSTRATED BY A LIBRA WOMAN

Hi you leebs, so iv been dating a 24 year old libra woman (1st time dating a woman) for 2 months now, going on 3 at the end of the month, we work in the same dep and same office. i am frustrated because im getting no communication from her side, emotionally the relationship is stale and its not helping that iv moved back home (another town, travel to work every day) anyway, i don't know how she feels about this, she hasn't said anything and its been over a week since the change...and i too chicken to ask how this affects our r/ship according to her, i wanna know how she feels damnit!

now we've stopped calling each other, texts. she started the not calling biz and iv been trying to get us back to where we were (texting her, complimenting her, lettig her in emotionally) i mean iv had some drama ever since we started dating. i think she's had it with me and the drama except since iv moved back home, its the END of that drama!

Im so confused, i mean i really like this girl. i just got over a resentment phase towards her, i don't think she picked it up though. I guess what i need some help with is given these details of the relationshp, what would be goin on in her mind?

Just talk to her about it. When something is wrong ill let it get to me and then it'll blow up so she might brush of you asking about it but then she knows how you feel and shell talk about when she is ready

Posted by tiziani
I'm willing to bet anything she did pick it up. If you can't confront the truth then she's probably just going to let you hang yourself while you both continue to pretend nothing is wrong. Libras can play the long game just fine.

ahh hell! i will talk to her though, i just don't wanna seem like the emotionally intense woman that i am 😢

Posted by jaxz
Just talk to her about it. When something is wrong ill let it get to me and then it'll blow up so she might brush of you asking about it but then she knows how you feel and shell talk about when she is ready

i will talk to her, bring it up subtly (if i have that in me)

Thank you guys for responding, sometimes i could almost swear that this is a power game that we playing except im never had anything about air signs playing games sun, mer n mars libra, so maybe im the one whos playing games and she's just watching me on some "we'll see just how far u can get"

i know, iknow, im paranoid! this is why i should stay single

What is her Venus?

You don't want to ask her, but you expect us to know the answer?

You also admit to being a drama hoe, think she's distancing herself because of your tendencies, yet you want to know where she stands without actually asking her?


You're 21. Don't date. Stay single until that unstable brain stabilizes. Everyone is crazy at that age and really has no business dating if they don't and can't get their shit together.

Posted by rockyroadicecream
You don't want to ask her, but you expect us to know the answer?

You also admit to being a drama hoe, think she's distancing herself because of your tendencies, yet you want to know where she stands without actually asking her?


You're 21. Don't date. Stay single until that unstable brain stabilizes. Everyone is crazy at that age and really has no business dating if they don't and can't get their shit together.

meh.

Posted by Sugarfoot
You can't keep beating around the bush and expect the response that you're looking for. How is she supposed to know that you complimenting her and texting is you wanting to know how she feels about the relationship?

If you want direct communication, then give direct communication. There's nothing to be afraid of. No need to be subtle and indirect. You're dealing with a species that actually appreciates open communication. No need to hide your feelings. You are in a relationship with this woman. She's not a stranger, so don't treat her like one.

And don't expect her to read your mind. I was in a relationship with a crab and I swear to you I did not "get" his indirect brand of communication. It's frustrating taking time and wasting energy trying to guess what somebody means or what they want when they should just SAY IT.

Even with my BFF, sometimes it's like trying solve a puzzle figuring out what she's saying. She said her libra husband has said the same thing.

If you can't get over your fear of talking through your relationship problems, you may as well hang it up with this libra woman now.

thank you for this Sugarfoot, i will be direct with her because im not giving up on this one, not anytime soon anyway.

Posted by munchkin
What is her Venus?

her venus is scorpio

As others have mentioned, be direct and initiate contact. Venus in scorpio's can sense power games very easily. Be open with yourself and she will too.

First red flag I read was that you worked together AND in the same department, ugh. I believe people need space in their relationships and this right here would??ve made me feel smothered. I don't like dating people I work with, it sucks. Especially if you get mad at each other, work is the getaway, hell anything that has nothing to do with that person is a getaway, but that's just me.

Second red flag I read was that you are a Cancer. YIKES! I don't know how this works with Cancer female and Libra female, but I'm willing to bet it's not too different from the heterosexual version of the pair. It is NOT a good look. You take everything wayyyyyy to seriously and deep for the carefree Libra??s liking. Yes, she may come off nonchalant at times but sometimes it's because she would rather shrug it off then let it completely upset her. Once a Libra is upset they really need their space to breathe and settle things in their mind. Libras love a person that takes life by the horns, someone adventurous and fun, a free spirit. We are attracted to take charge, positive people. I swear every Cancer I??ve met seems to take things to seriously, they are overly emotional, and they have a constant need for attention and to be babied and I lose my patients and slowly drift away. I??ve only gotten along with one Cancer, but I'm sure he had unusual placements, because he's nothing like the others.

Third I wanna tell you if she's drifting away, she most likely making plans to stay away, and that's the hard truth. If you chase her, she may feel she owes you some type of explanation or even a second chance but honestly a 2nd chance won't last with a Libra because they will always leave you alone for the same thing. If she cares about you she will try to keep a slight friendship there, but nothing more. You??ve done something that has turned her off, or made her feel like she needs a break. And I'm going to suggest that if you??ve been a drama queen in the past, then pouring out all your emotions in her lap will not help the situation. She will think you are being extra as usual, and will try to escape you again. In my opinion you need to show her that you can be fun again. Stop making things so heavy and try a lighter approach, ease her back into a comfort zone with you and little by little tell her your concerns, this way it wont seem as though you throwing the book at her. I agree with being direct, I just don't think you should dump a bunc

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I just don't think you should dump a bunch of stuff you kept bottled up in one conversation. I swear just thinking about it makes me wanna look for the nearest exit.

Posted by pinklibra
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I just don't think you should dump a bunch of stuff you kept bottled up in one conversation. I swear just thinking about it makes me wanna look for the nearest exit.

thank you so much, i appreciate you saying all this to me. i have decided that its best to let it go. too much hardwork and maybe we are too different, and i can'tchange who/how i am so im doing both of us a favour and ending it.