Libra and Aqua, love/hate

I randomly met an aqua on Saturday night (a friend of a friend). I posted the scenario on the aqua board under "The Aqua Pursuit" recently. Would some of you guys have a look and post your opinions here. It was totally love/hate, but hell,im in total lust right now. Normally it takes me 4ever to decide what i want, but i want this man, right here, right now. Im too scared to do anything...helllp!!!

Sola

I read your first post on the Aqua-pursuit. This guy is a bit controlling. He will play with your mind. A Lot. I find Aqua guys tend to get into these mind plays.

If you fall for him, it will probably screw you up for a long time.

just my thoughts.

LS, i know because i have bee involved with one before!! That?s why i titled the post love/hate, coz that?s all it ever is with those guys...i hate to love them!!

I dont know what to do honestly. I can handle them fine, but its the age thing this time, nearly a 10 year gap.

Don't get involved. Just walk away.

You can do it!

🙂

"but its the age thing this time, nearly a 10 year gap."

I wouldn't worry too much about age. Women generally mature faster than men. Most of my relationships have been with older men (5 - 12 years older). As long as you are mature enough yourself, it shouldn't matter.

That being said, beyond just the age difference, there would seem to be other factors signaling that perhaps you should walk away. Lust is easy to come by, but a screwed up relationship, on the other hand, is not easy to get over.

I think the situation might be weird, not bad!! I want to give it a try, the "getting hurt" part is just natural one way or another. He?s certainly got my attention..its not lust, i dont feel particularly sexual or romantic about him...just a "something"??!

Really? I was just talking to my Libra girlfriend, she is on her second Aqua, she says they just mesh.

Exactly Benice!! You hit the mark with tht one. Feelis like he was always there, dont know if thats a good or bad thing though!

Sola

He is doing things purposefully to make you feel that way. Danger! Danger!

If you want to proceed, proceed. Just know you will probably get in deep and fall a long way when it is over.

Cant it never just be because he likes me?

Oh he likes you. It has nothing to do with whether he likes you or not. Just be careful. I can see where this is going.

"Cant it never just be because he likes me?"

He probably does just like you (as well as the others). The problem is the way they display that like shows a great deal about how the relationship might turn out. Merely because you like someone (or even love someone) and they like (or even love) you back does not ensure that you (collectively) are compatible enough or mature enough to have a successful and healthy relationship. Wouldn't you prefer a man that you both like AND isn't off his damn rocker? It is just assuring yourself failure.

He?s not off his rocker!! He?s perfectly sane, just a little strange...and no wonder because he just couldnt work me out at all! I could physically see him getting wound up because he actually had to make a half decent effort to woo me. The other women there that night were practically fighting to get close to him..it was quite funny. I think it could be perfect, i just dont know where or how to start. Im scared of his beauty, lol!!

LS, where do you see it heading?!

"He?s not off his rocker!!"

Sorry, when making points, I tend to go black and white. It makes them much easier to see, that being said the universe is a thousand shades of grey, and I do not doubt the man is not entirely off his rocker. That being said, he means of trying to woo you, even considering he was a little knocked out of his element by your inability to be esily wooed.

BUT, in the end, it doesn't matter what anyone says. If you want to go for it and listen to people telling you no, it will only make you miserable (and, in that sense, would be counter-productive). If you are going to possibly be miserable either way, then do it following your own heart and head, not anyone else's.

Go for it, if you want to go for it! The rest of the world be damned... 😉

"i just dont know where or how to start."

Try seeing if you could "bump" into him somewhere... Obviously you must have mutual friends, find out where he likes to hang out or talk them into having another get together.

* That being said, his means of trying to woo you, even considering he was a little knocked out of his element by your inability to be easily wooed, was a little questionable and is, atleast for me, what is sending up red flags.

"alcheme, that's exactly what I would've said! can you reading my mind or something? you're good."

Thanks! I always think you keep a clear head on your shoulders and look at things objectively, so I take that as a definite compliment!