Libra male-- creep or nah?

Ok so I know this Libra through a mutual couple friend of ours. We've (hubby and I) hung out once or twice with him and his girlfriend and along with our couple friends over the last 2 years. I ran into him 1 on 1 during a night out and walk over to say hello. I figured he wouldn't remember me so I mentioned our mutual friends recent wedding and how he his girl and me and my hubby snuck off to get lit in the parking lot. He laughed and said yes I do remember. Well I went to sit down in the lounge area to wait for a friend and he came over and offered to join me. I asked about his girlfriend, he facetimed her I waved hello, blew kisses and said goodbye I couldn't really hear her we were in a club. I offered him a drink since I was ordering he said no thanks and we made small talk until my friend came. He stuck around for a bit I apologized for ignoring him and explained I was just catching up with a friend. I introduced them and they chatted a bit. Later, my friend whispered to me and asked if he was with me and I said noooo he was already here-- we have mutual friends I just invited him to sit until his friends arrived. She says well he's pretty cute. I shrugged my shoulders and said he's alright. Later I saw him walk by and he'd taken his leather jacket off. I saw him a little differently and admit I was attracted. I never acted on it and the night goes on. Anyways the night ended and he asked me to take his number for business purposes I gave him a hug said it was nice seeing him and we parted ways. 2 days later he DM'd me. There wasn't any shady intentions worded in his messages (he was fishing) but my scorpion suspicions sensed some shady intentions in the act of him DM'g me.

Welllll... long story short I entertained him just to see how he would finally reveal himself. I asked him to explain what made him reach out to me. Are you just trying to secure me as a client or... then he says I'd like to explain in person. He asked if we could link up that night and I declined and we ended the convo. I'm sure I left some kind of door open. Anyways 2 days later he contacted me and asked if I wanted to blow one with him. I accepted and we set up a time and place to meet. We linked up and after all the formalities-- I asked him once and for all why take such a risk? He's a pretty well known entertainer in our area. Many people know him. He could have ANYONE he wants. Women are literally throwing it at him so why take a risk with someone so closely associated (but not actually friends with) his girlfriend.

He explained "I don't know why actually, I think that night when we hung out-- I felt something. I thought we formed a bond or some sort of connection.... I don't know there was something there if nothing else a friendship. I meet a lot of people in my travel, other entertainers and artists and such and sometimes theres like an instant connection so it happens with both men and women but with you I felt that. I mean you were hella cool that night I really enjoyed being there with you. Just the way you are... I don't know you were just kind of catering to my needs and I don't even think you know it-- it's just who you are. I mean you invited me to sit with you, kicked it with me, offered me a drink, checked on me to make sure I was good and you didn't have to. I felt like you showed me hella love that night and I just thought maannn she's dope. It would be cool to hang out with her and just kick it. I will admit I am very attracted to you and if my instincts serve me correct-- I picked up just enough to make me feel like I don't know maybe you were feeling me too? I mean it wasn't anything obvious just slightly enough that if you're paying close attention you might be able to pick it up. I thought about it for 2 days and weighed my options and decided you only live once. I went for it and was prepared to pack my bags for Mexico if things didn't work out. So I am not asking for anything specific just wanted to explore the possibilities. I feel safe with you in the sense we're both in similar situations and I just feel like you're hella cool and that maybe if it did lead to something more between us, I trust that it likely wouldn't get out. so that's pretty much it so I hope that makes sense."

I was all prepared to say-- I think we both got caught up in a moment of attraction which has led us both here but we probably shouldn't act on it and quit while we're ahead and blah blah blah.... well nothing happened. We agreed to link up again soon and kick it some more. He mentioned that he's a patient guy and he can wait as long as it takes but that it's definitely me that he wants.

I was so turned on by him. It should have been a crime. He contacted me the following morning and again I agreed to get back with him soon and he requested before Thanksgiving but I'm trying to avoid him. I don't plan to call him (I never do). I just need time to get him out of my system because if I see him again anytime soon, I'd be too weak to deny him and I really need to do the right thing. I know I've led him on. I think he's probably one of the most attractive men I've ever encountered with the body of a GOD. Hands as big as bananas so you know what that means just sexy from head to toe. I'm sure he knows it--he's in the public eye-- I can tell by his photos he's very into his looks but he's pretty humble. I know this can't end well so I will definitely have to let it go. It just makes things awkward when we hangout in the future with them and our couple friends. But I guess it could have really been awkward if more had happened.

What's up with that-- do Libra men get down like that?

married and thinkin bout creepin' should be the title

my dear @op - Libra/whatever - a lot of men get down like that, and then they get up and walk away ...

I ask myself now why would that even matter to a married woman?

Posted by Plagued


Both of you

el oh el !

ho ho hoing around and it ain't even Christmas yet - I hope there are no children involved !

I want a photo

Posted by jeane
I want a photo

of the hoe, the banana hands or the body of God ?

Posted by tcta

Posted by jeane
I want a photo

of the hoe, the banana hands or the body of God ?

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The God-like banana fingered local entertainer.

I've gone way too far I'll admit. Theres no reasoning with this situation. I'm not here to argue, debate rationalize my wrong doings etc. Guess I was just venting. this is all Entertainment I thought I will not be seeing this guy 1 on 1 again. He's cool and we have a nice vibe but it's just wrong on so many levels me first and foremost being married. He's pretty much fair game. I've been down this road before with a young bull... did not end well. I don't think this situation would be any different. My hubby and I are good. We're happier than ever... my friends tell me I just get bored. BTW I'm a Sag moon. Pretty Fuc'kd up combo sooo... lets just say the struggle is real.

Oh and I would buuuut I can't post pics for the sake of anonymity.

Posted by MonkeyInTheMoon
Hands as big as bananas - never heard that one before. I'm convinced though it must mean friend with some benefit 😉

Who never was tempted while married, engaged or in a serious relationship, may throw the first stone.

You know they always say big feet big dyck NO-- Big HANDS are the indicator. And yes many people project this holier than thou I will always do whats right no matter what truth and justice and all that shyt. I turn down men all the time... theres always one that makes it a little more challenging... prolonging the nooooooo. But it must be done.

Posted by tiziani
And besides if you're bored just tell your husband. You never know it might just spice up your sex life together.

I'm not the moral police, I'm just saying secrecy in a relationship has been known to kill libido.

Listen to this man.. Just saying..

It could help if you just talked to your husband. Or else, you're just going to keep going down this road....

Thanks for the responses... all of them. Gemini husband Venus in Cancer. LOL he's never bored with me! He's pretty obsessed with me. I don't know If I want to talk to him about me being bored just yet. I don't need him becoming insecure about our relationship about something that I'm not sure we can fix very easily-- not even sure what to ask for which could make things worse.

@2moon I believe it just being in the same space is insane enough!

@tiziani I'm sure that's it in a nutshell. My concern was that if he has the bright idea of hooking up with a married woman to keep his secrets--why one that is so closely associated with his current GF. I mean I could have completely flipped the script when he reached out and busted on him. How could he be so sure that I wouldn't'.

Anyways I haven't been in contact with him for 2 days since he put it all on the table and put the ball in my court. Sooo maybe this will all blow over. I will not reach out to him and I definitely wont be seeing him-- unless its in my fantasies 🙂