Libra man HELP!!!

So my bf of 5 months (we broken up at the moment) is a libra and he’s been acting so weird it has be confused a lot lately. We lived together until we decided to have a break because we quite fought a lot lately but we solved it before I left for a trip and we said okay we take a break and then I’m going back we not breaking up or nothing. Two days after I left he had a fight with my best friend and he started making rude comments on the pic I would post online it was a selfie. So then he went on and unfollowed me saying I post annoying things then blocked me when I tried talking and he only left his ig and WhatsApp texts. After that it has been a lot back and forth. I’ll ask his straightforward what he wants and he would ignore it then he’d reply and be all cool then he said I’m not going back because his family is visiting I’m like cool okay then he’s like I’ll get back with my ex then we talk all good we still on the break the two days after he wants to be single. He hasn’t cut off communication completely like he will ignore some messages or reply to some others he even told me he’s coming to my country so we can meet and talk everything I told him to think about giving it another try he said okay when I’ll ask him before that questions like bruh should I just let it go he won’t reply he also validated my message when I said I kno you still care you still want me and all so I really don’t know what’s going on or what to do. I lowkey want him to beg me back but I really love him and he knows so I’m really confused on his actions. Anybody has any idea about it?

I am a Virgo and I have met him we lived together for 5 months we was exclusive in a relationship we broke up a week ago

Also one day he says he will go back with his ex three days later he has changed his mind then again changed his mind I don’t understand what haven’t you got from what I wrote that we were together living together and where I said I want for him to beg me back when I clearly say that he’s unstable and doesn’t know what he wants is me day this next day that so please read again what I said.

Posted by blackphvse

Posted by hival

I am a Virgo and I have met him we lived together for 5 months we was exclusive in a relationship we broke up a week ago

Ohhh, okay. And now you live in different countries?

The fact that he pulled out the "I'm gonna get back with my ex" and then ya'll was fine.. Big red flag.

I had a super toxic, dramatic relationship with a Libra who constantly pulled this shit to manipulate me. Don't fall for it.

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They have a kid together and he said he wanted his kid that he never wants to go back with her he just missed his kid but now he’s fine. I noticed that everytime he wants to manipulate he would threat like we gonna break up and all so after a while I stopped it I was like fine then do it and he never did. But I also did the same sometimes.

Posted by blackphvse

Posted by hival

I am a Virgo and I have met him we lived together for 5 months we was exclusive in a relationship we broke up a week ago

Ohhh, okay. And now you live in different countries?

The fact that he pulled out the "I'm gonna get back with my ex" and then ya'll was fine.. Big red flag.

I had a super toxic, dramatic relationship with a Libra who constantly pulled this shit to manipulate me. Don't fall for it.

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And sorry I forgot for the time being yes since early April and until June and then again we’ll be for a month on a distance

He's trying to have relations without being a cheater, so he breaks up with you. He's balancing those scales.

Posted by saggurl88

He's trying to have relations without being a cheater, so he breaks up with you. He's balancing those scales.

So what is a good plan to draw him back to actually chasing me instead of this lowkey ghosting thing we give each other?

Lol Virgo and Libra with personal insecurities and doubts about the relationship.

You fight and threaten each other with breaking up to get your way?

Is this the way you both treat the people you love and value in your life( ex-boyfriends, friends, family) too? Or just each other?

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Posted by saggurl88

He's trying to have relations without being a cheater, so he breaks up with you. He's balancing those scales.

So what is a good plan to draw him back to actually chasing me instead of this lowkey ghosting thing we give each other?

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I don't know why you would want him back if he's talking crap and treating you like garbage.

But maybe fighting for him is a good thing. It could give you a few months to a year, before he breaks up with you again, to do the same thing.

Only you know if he is really messing with his ex, I'm just saying a possibility- It might not be true. Ask him and see.

If your looking for someone to chase you prolly best to set your sights on someone who in the same country as you, at the very least.

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Posted by saggurl88

He's trying to have relations without being a cheater, so he breaks up with you. He's balancing those scales.

So what is a good plan to draw him back to actually chasing me instead of this lowkey ghosting thing we give each other?

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She just told he is breaking up with you to fuck someone else and not have it be considered cheating and you still want a plan to make him chase you. Delusional!

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And I’m saying again read what I said. He’s not getting back with anybody again I repeat one day he said this then he was saying he is on a break with me then he wants to be single and then that we still on a break and we meeting each other in a month so talk everything so what exactly haven’t you understood. I’m trying to understand his game he isn’t going with anybody this is either a game like a previous user said or he’s unstable af. And of course I’d like him to chase me I want to see if we can fix it if not I go on with my life he is with his because I know he still has feelings for me he admitted it. So

Posted by Lostthoughts

Lol Virgo and Libra with personal insecurities and doubts about the relationship.

You fight and threaten each other with breaking up to get your way?

Is this the way you both treat the people you love and value in your life( ex-boyfriends, friends, family) too? Or just each other?

No way I know how to love and treat people right I don’t threaten my friends nor anybody in my life. I’m the person who’s always putting myself under and everybody else even above me making sure everybody is okay first and then myself. So no and I wasn’t treating him like this even on bad terms I’m still supportive of him still listen when he needs help.

Posted by saggurl88

Only you know if he is really messing with his ex, I'm just saying a possibility- It might not be true. Ask him and see.

No he isn’t messing with her no more they have a clear co parent communication

Posted by LadyNeptune

If your looking for someone to chase you prolly best to set your sights on someone who in the same country as you, at the very least.

We live in the same country he works on a different country for 3 months I went with him until I had to leave to visit my family and then we broke up during the time I was away. He is coming back in less than a month plus somebody can chase you without having to chase you down your house. Cause even before we lived in different cities and he still chased me.

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Posted by saggurl88

Only you know if he is really messing with his ex, I'm just saying a possibility- It might not be true. Ask him and see.

No he isn’t messing with her no more they have a clear co parent communication

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Does he still live with you or did he move out?

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Posted by saggurl88

Only you know if he is really messing with his ex, I'm just saying a possibility- It might not be true. Ask him and see.

No he isn’t messing with her no more they have a clear co parent communication

Does he still live with you or did he move out?

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No I left I’m living at my house at the moment

Posted by thatlibralife

If he is waffling about getting back with you it’s not a good sign. He likely has been contemplating this break up for a while. He doesn’t want to hurt you by completely shutting you out. The arguing probaly has a lot to do with it. I wouldn’t count on this relationship being repaired unfortunately. Good luck...

Why you say that tho? Yes the arguing was the big part why we took a break on the first place because outside of our relationship we deal with a lot so we drained each other with arguing but I think that if we both put the ego aside and realize we are here to enjoy each other’s time and not control nor act possessive and enjoy our time and trust each other more it can be a lot better.

I would be shocked if you were ever good enough for a Libra long term. Libras like passion, but constant fighting is a no no for keeping us in the long run. We are great at meeting new replacements to fulfill our needs.

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Posted by Lostthoughts

Lol Virgo and Libra with personal insecurities and doubts about the relationship.

You fight and threaten each other with breaking up to get your way?

Is this the way you both treat the people you love and value in your life( ex-boyfriends, friends, family) too? Or just each other?

No way I know how to love and treat people right I don’t threaten my friends nor anybody in my life. I’m the person who’s always putting myself under and everybody else even above me making sure everybody is okay first and then myself. So no and I wasn’t treating him like this even on bad terms I’m still supportive of him still listen when he needs help.

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IF YOU ARE BEING HONEST WITH ME AND YOURSELF, then there are 2 possibilities that come to mind.

1. You 2 may not be compatible in the kind of relationship you have. It happens.

In those situations, in order for the people to get thier needs met from the other person to maintain thier happiness in the relationship, they force the other to give or act in a way that is not who they are or want to do. Forcing someone to give or act in a way they do not wish to causes pain, frustration, and resentment.

Things become toxic. find it elsewhere in a healthy manner or move on.

2. You both have internal issues that are being triggered by the other. Such as insecurities, complications in life situations, and bad behaviors.

I do not know which is true for you. However you putting others needs before yourself too much, can cost you your own wellness and build resentment and neediness within yourself. There must be a balance with your relationships of giving and receiving. At the very least, you must be able to give without expectations of a return to truly give freely and without the risk of self harm.

there's another woman

Posted by jeane

there's another woman

I wish there was another woman but there isn’t

Posted by hival

Posted by jeane

there's another woman

I wish there was another woman but there isn’t

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that you know of.

it may not have gone further than his own fantasy of her but that's where my money would be.

Posted by hival

Posted by Lostthoughts

Lol Virgo and Libra with personal insecurities and doubts about the relationship.

You fight and threaten each other with breaking up to get your way?

Is this the way you both treat the people you love and value in your life( ex-boyfriends, friends, family) too? Or just each other?

No way I know how to love and treat people right I don’t threaten my friends nor anybody in my life. I’m the person who’s always putting myself under and everybody else even above me making sure everybody is okay first and then myself. So no and I wasn’t treating him like this even on bad terms I’m still supportive of him still listen when he needs help.

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Time to put yourself first instead of lowering your standards to please everyone else.

You are in an unhealthy relationship with this Libra, people here are trying to tell you this but you dont listen because its not what you want to hear from us. Your relationship is toxic & unhealthy. He acts this way because he knows he can and gets away with it too. You let him (and others) walk all over you, even tho you are on here blowing out steam and trying to convince us thats not case. It is! And he wont improve his game with you. Start living your life for you instead of pleasing everyone else and putting others first. There is only one you, time to put yourself first and start learning to set clear boundaries. Even for family and friends!!

Good luck!

Why would you want this guy?

Don’t you think you can do better?

Posted by hival

Posted by Lostthoughts

Lol Virgo and Libra with personal insecurities and doubts about the relationship.

You fight and threaten each other with breaking up to get your way?

Is this the way you both treat the people you love and value in your life( ex-boyfriends, friends, family) too? Or just each other?

No way I know how to love and treat people right I don’t threaten my friends nor anybody in my life. I’m the person who’s always putting myself under and everybody else even above me making sure everybody is okay first and then myself. So no and I wasn’t treating him like this even on bad terms I’m still supportive of him still listen when he needs help.

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Put yourself first for once.

Posted by FadedAri

I would be shocked if you were ever good enough for a Libra long term. Libras like passion, but constant fighting is a no no for keeping us in the long run. We are great at meeting new replacements to fulfill our needs.

As Jeane said there is probably another woman. Libra's usually replace you before they break up. He won't chase or he'd be chasing you now. It sounds like he's grown tired and is trying to move on. Sorry.

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Posted by FadedAri

I would be shocked if you were ever good enough for a Libra long term. Libras like passion, but constant fighting is a no no for keeping us in the long run. We are great at meeting new replacements to fulfill our needs.

As Jeane said there is probably another woman. Libra's usually replace you before they break up. He won't chase or he'd be chasing you now. It sounds like he's grown tired and is trying to move on. Sorry.

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or entertaining the possibility this other woman but oscillating and not sure if he should pursue her or not.

It seems like you're the problem. What do you have to offer in a relationship & what qualities are you looking for in a man? Do you have kids?

I have learned one thing, if he breaks it off with you then leaveee him.

A man only stays if he wants to....he seems like he has a foot out the door and he is tired