Libra man. Is it really over?

Hi. Long story short I’ve been dating my Libra for 3 years. It was mostly long distance but we would always spend 4 to 6 months together in one place throughout the year. It was a beautiful and harmonious relationship until recently. We started talking about finally closing the distance, came up with a plan and decided on summer wedding (he didn’t propose but he made it clear that he will do before the end of this year). I came back home to my country after 4 month stay with him to get some work done and was expecting him with his mom to come visit me and my family for Xmas (he’s been here before a number of times, met my parents and etc). He was in process of interviewing for a new job to move to a different city so we could begin our life together. It was a crucial step in our plan so once he got a contract he would be ready for me to move. That’s when things started to rapidly and drastically change. First he texts me saying he lost hope on getting the job he wanted and after I tried cheering him up he stated it was all my fault cause ever since we started dating his career went downfall (he quit his job to pursue a different career, ended up studying for 2 years and then decided to start his own business only to find out he can’t afford it). He disappeared for a few days leaving me hanging there with no certainty. Then came back apologizing and announcing the news he’s got the job after all. So things went back to normal or so it seemed. He started being whiny and demanding. If I won’t respond to his text within 5 minutes he immediately sees red and throws tantrums. It came to the point when he called me ***hole for not responding to his random text (I was driving) and claiming I am ignoring him intentionally. It hurt my feelings so I told him to watch his language and stop treating me like shit. He texted “bye” and disappeared only to reappear a few days later asking if I already told my parents we broke up?! I asked to call me and say it to my face if we did broke up because it’s the first time I hear about it. He never did. I contacted his mom to check what was going on. She knew nothing and tried talking to him so it brought him back. He told me that next time I speak to her I should tell her we’re doing fine... A few days later he started texting some random stuff like nothing ever happened so I decided it was time to finally address the issue. He called and told me he can’t say what I want him to say (I asked to make a decision whether we’re breaking up or not) but at the same time he thinks we’re becoming different people. And reminded me that I declined his idea to start a fixer upper business as a way for me to work once I move to live with him. I explained to him again I don’t have enough money for such business but I will certainly figure out what to do and how to make my living. Then he moved on to another topic that he can’t afford to buy a house right now and is crashing at his friends and it will take him up to 2 years to get one so he doesn’t want to wait that long until I can finally come be with him. So as you can see it was very confusing. He told me he needs me but at the same time it’s all of a sudden impossible to be together. He didn’t break up with me after all, never said those words just hung up on me when I pushed him to make a decision. It’s been a week since then. He started posting like crazy on social media showing how much fun he’s having. I contacted his mom to mail me my stuff and then he texted me asking if I was in touch with her. I ignored his message and calls (two days in row) and now he blocked me on his Instagram. So guys I need your advice - what is it all about? What could’ve happened? Is there still any hope or this ugly ending is my reality now?

Posted by Sodapop
Girl move on. He’s so freaking immature. Stop wasting your time.

I know. I thought he finally found his balance and was ready to commit but I guess a man in his 30s is still a boy.

Posted by tiziani
He sounds controlling. About all i could make from your story.

Yeah all of a sudden he started telling me what exactly I need to do. Like sending me workout plans every day. If I refuse to do it he starts an argument. I thought it was his way to push me away.