@hopelesscapricorn
11 YearsCapricorn
Why is this Libra being cold/distant?
Why Do Libra Men Pull Away and Act Distant?
Libra men often pull away by suddenly texting less, acting distant, or going hot and cold when they feel pressured, unsure, or quietly losing interest. Many people notice this shift happens after things start getting serious or emotionally intense. Sometimes it is temporary and they come back once they rebalance, but other times it signals they are avoiding conflict instead of being direct. Watching whether he re-engages or stays inconsistent is the real clue.
It's the typical Libra honeymoon phase. They jumped in and it's not as exciting as it initially was.
3-4 month mark is usually when it happens. The chances of him dropping off the map/ending things could be likely, so brace yourself for that.
This is pretty much textbook immature Libra dude who jumped in too fast. They jump back out just as fast and leave you wondering what went wrong, which is nothing. They're just morons in these situations.
"He doesn't ask questions to further get to know me, he doesn't ask me how my day went, he rarely compliments me. He's just....emotionally distant. But when we're in each other's presence he's the complete opposite."
I don't understand this. Aren't you in each other's company in the car when he is not talking to you?
The problem is you've turned into his mother.
Posted by Timon
I don't think he likes you that much sorry. Libras are affectionate to the ones they care about.Maybe he just needs a ride? 😱
lolol!!! lol Timon 😛
This is what I was thinking too...
The relationship might feel like forced by the friend that paired them together... 😒
annnnnnd
He seems very cold almost like dead inside..
Maybe shy and reserved.
or maybe like you said it... He just don't like her...
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The friend paired us together because he expressed to her that he was interested in me and didn't know how to go about approaching me because I was so cold and stand-offish. It isn't forced by any means. He's literally just hot and cold and I don't know how to deal with the cold side of him. To speak on the ride, I offered to take him because his job is in the same direction as mine. He never asked me to transport him because he's too prideful and I'm helping him out temporarily until he gets his own vehicle.
Posted by jeane
"He doesn't ask questions to further get to know me, he doesn't ask me how my day went, he rarely compliments me. He's just....emotionally distant. But when we're in each other's presence he's the complete opposite."I don't understand this. Aren't you in each other's company in the car when he is not talking to you?
The problem is you've turned into his mother.
I was speaking to us being in each other's presence on the weekends when I spend time with him at home.
You should also fall back especially on the ride situation. It’s putting a damper on the romantic part if your mommying him. But if you’re personality is to support and he doesn’t respond well to that then maybe you’re not a good match.
Some people like to be very independent from their partners like almost have separate lives and others want it to be as integrated as possible.
A sign like a Pisces would appreciate the ride very much ... as a Libra he might need to do his own thing to feel happy go lucky.
Let me know what you think...
To me to only be with someone 4 months and to see that person everyday twice a day is a bit overwhelming... very overwhelming.
Also essay texts are hard to maintain ... that’s an unrealistic expectation.
He wasn't employed when I met him but now that he is
Perhaps his job is the reason why he doesn't have the time to text you essays anymore.
I'm kind of similar, in that I will text a lot initially and then kind of simmer down once the relationship feels more solidified. I prefer in-person interactions.
What does the rest of his chart look like?
He wasn't employed when I met him but now that he is
Perhaps his job is the reason why he doesn't have the time to text you essays anymore.
I'm kind of similar, in that I will text a lot initially and then kind of simmer down once the relationship feels more solidified. I prefer in-person interactions.
What does the rest of his chart look like?
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That makes sense. And usually I prefer in-person as well. I guess my expectations are maybe too high and I'm panicking because I don't want to repeat past situations where they stayed at the "friends with benefits" stage. He has expressed to me in the beginning that he wants to take me on dates and now that he has a job again, he can finally do that. I just panic when there's no official title and we're still in this getting to know each other phase but the flame seems to already be burning out. So I'm afraid that he's gonna lose interest or will find it in someone else.
As far as the rest of his chart is concerned, his moon is in aries, mercury in virgo. venus in leo and mars in libra. ascendent is libra as well. He's pretty damn Libran lmao! Jupiter in virgo and saturn in aquarius
Posted by stillstillwater
You should also fall back especially on the ride situation. It’s putting a damper on the romantic part if your mommying him. But if you’re personality is to support and he doesn’t respond well to that then maybe you’re not a good match.Some people like to be very independent from their partners like almost have separate lives and others want it to be as integrated as possible.
A sign like a Pisces would appreciate the ride very much ... as a Libra he might need to do his own thing to feel happy go lucky.
Let me know what you think...
U make a great point! He has expressed that he's very independent and hates to ask for things, or depend on others for things. I just offered him rides temporarily until he gets his first paycheck. didn't want him wasting money on ubers when he barely had any. but perhaps I am mothering him by doing that. I do have that mothering/nurturing/supportive personality though. I'm just gonna have to talk it out with him and ask him what his ideal partner is because if it is someone who's independent, then I will have to understand that. It will be hard to adjust because my ideal relationship is one where two people are relating and holding each other up.
RUN! Best advice i ever got about a libra.... If he's wishy washy fuck him. Do not wait.
Posted by jeane
"He doesn't ask questions to further get to know me, he doesn't ask me how my day went, he rarely compliments me. He's just....emotionally distant. But when we're in each other's presence he's the complete opposite."I don't understand this. Aren't you in each other's company in the car when he is not talking to you?
The problem is you've turned into his mother.
He's only in her presence when she's playing chauffeur. I make convo with my uber driver, doesn't mean I see them as a soulmate.
Op if I'm you I'm bringing up relationship terms. You've been dating for 4 months, time to move things forward or break it off completely.
Posted by stillstillwater
You should also fall back especially on the ride situation. It’s putting a damper on the romantic part if your mommying him. But if you’re personality is to support and he doesn’t respond well to that then maybe you’re not a good match.Some people like to be very independent from their partners like almost have separate lives and others want it to be as integrated as possible.
A sign like a Pisces would appreciate the ride very much ... as a Libra he might need to do his own thing to feel happy go lucky.
Let me know what you think...
U make a great point! He has expressed that he's very independent and hates to ask for things, or depend on others for things. I just offered him rides temporarily until he gets his first paycheck. didn't want him wasting money on ubers when he barely had any. but perhaps I am mothering him by doing that. I do have that mothering/nurturing/supportive personality though. I'm just gonna have to talk it out with him and ask him what his ideal partner is because if it is someone who's independent, then I will have to understand that. It will be hard to adjust because my ideal relationship is one where two people are relating and holding each other up.
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Yeah but most men don’t want to think they got to where they are because of a woman; they want to think they did it by themselves.
Libra and Cap don't mix. End of.
Posted by jeane
"He doesn't ask questions to further get to know me, he doesn't ask me how my day went, he rarely compliments me. He's just....emotionally distant. But when we're in each other's presence he's the complete opposite."I don't understand this. Aren't you in each other's company in the car when he is not talking to you?
The problem is you've turned into his mother.
Yeah. This is a man thing. It's not a Libra thing. Become any man's support system and this will happen. Every. Time.
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Hey guys, so I'm a capricorn and I've been dating this libra man for 4 months now and I am constantly confused by his off and on/wishy washiness!?
My friend paired us together because she thought we'd be a great match and we honestly are. I've never met someone so in tune with themselves and so much like me in so many ways. But there are times I feel like he doesn't like me OR that he may be distancing himself when things seem to be getting too hot and heavy maybe? I have met his mom in passing but he hasn't formally introduced us yet (though she does know who I am). When we're together, things are perfect for the most part and he's always very affectionate. We have been intimate and that's incredible as well because we share that mental connection. In the beginning of us talking, he was super sweet and we'd be texting each other essays throughout the whole day. But now....it's not like that.
He wasn't employed when I met him but now that he is, I've been helping him get to work and taking him back home until he gets on his feet to get his own vehicle. He barely talks to me in the morning, which granted, I understand some ppl are just not the morning type but I do expect him to at least be somewhat happy (and not crabby) when he sees me, ya know? And then once I take him home, we'll chat in the car for a while and then that's it for the rest of the night I will not hear from him and wonder what he's even doing. I honestly do not think he's cheating on me (at least not physically) but I'm wondering where all his communicative energy is going because it surely isn't with me anymore..
It seems like now that he "has me", he's stopped trying to win me over. He doesn't ask questions to further get to know me, he doesn't ask me how my day went, he rarely compliments me. He's just....emotionally distant. But when we're in each other's presence he's the complete opposite. Is this typical libran behavior? Should I mention this to him or will that further scare him away? He has been through a lot of pain and disappointment while growing up so I'm wondering if that's a factor as well. I really don't know what to do or how to melt away the ice.