So...being a Scorpio I have been very honest and open about liking this Libra man I just started dating. I have been giving him heartfelt compliments..which I truly do mean. They are not just words. Last night he told me that I was good for his ego. Does this mean I am doing something right or am I just giving him too much too soon. Do Libra men appreciate honest compliments or do they just take them as "yeah...I got her where I want her"
I'm having a hard time understanding what I need to do to keep him attracted to me. I am trying to give him his space and let him make the moves but being a Scorpio it is very hard. When I know I like someone I let them know it! I've been out of an 11 year relationship and now dating again and this is who I feel I am falling for. Ugh!!! Just hear so many wicked things about Libra men putting up with you till someone better comes along....just hoping that doesn't happen.
I am not the overly jealous type of Scorpio. Not saying I don't get jealous but what person doesn't!? I don't want to push him into anything. We have agreed to take things slow (although very hard for me)
Hi there, Libra likes to do the conquering so please be conquered. We also don't like 'sticky' so drop all the praising and clingy behaviour (am not implying that you are clingy). We love the journey of checking whether someone likes us, saying things and see how someone responds, and it's a journey we have all the time in the world for. We also take a little longer to decide (with our heads) that we're in love. And you have to tick all the boxes, two boxes out of three is not good enough. But drop the sticky stuff and let Libra conquer you. A lot of this falling-in-love process for a Libra takes place in our minds. Being mysterious but being available at the same time drives us crazy.
Under no circumstance must you tell Libra you like them; Libra themselves have to get there first. You have to wait it out and there might be some flip flopping along the way but this will not be obvious to you.
I have to disagree... sort of. If it is a genuine feeling, say it. I agree that you do not want to "butter us up" though. I agree it shouldn't be overdone and am definitely not saying to shower us with it, but don't hold it back either.
When I first read suninx's comment I was wondering if the moon had something to do with it, then he said it too. His sig looks like his is in in Aqua so the distance thing fits imo, mine is Aries so maybe more gung-ho? I could see myslef saying someone was good for my ego and I would simply mean that I like the compliments... they make me feel good about myself and/or what I am doing. It is a postivie reinforcement to his behavior. Especially if it is genuine, why would you stop? Then he's gonna be thinking he must have done something because you changed the way you interact with him. Yet another reason to always just be a straight shooter.
I dont know if you have put other stuff up here about him, I ain't been around for a while. So some others may have more insight into your specific situation, I'm just talking about me. I have NEVER though, "hah, got her where I want her" even if in retrospect it was. I honestly do not understand the manipulation stuff like that. If I got a girlfriend and am doing sweet stuff for her and she verbally expresses her appreciation for those acts, it a good thing to me. My acts are going to be coming from inside me and her showing appreciation for them makes it seem like a good fit to me. Why play games with that?
This comment "Under no circumstance must you tell Libra you like them" is not accurate for me either. I am shy and generally do not make the first move. If you never tell me you like me, I'll think you don't. It don't have to be a grand display, just say how you feel...
I'm rambling again now...
It's give and take. Both people should be chasing. Both should make the other feel special. If he is special to you, let him know in whatever way you naturally express it.
Our history is that we met last spring and he all of a sudden disappeared. Back in September he texted me out of the blue. Saying he wanted to give it another try. He had been scared of "liking me" so soon after just getting out of a hurtful relationship. I was very happy to hear from him as I thought about him a lot since our first meeting. He said he had thought of me too. Sooo...this is why I feel I should not hold back on how I feel about liking him.
So far so good. We are taking things slow but I am just not sure what I should or should or should not do to keep his interest, hence my post.
I tend to dote on people when I care/like them and maybe I do it too much. Spoil them, etc. I DO know that I need to back off and let him show me what he thinks/feels but it is hard.
So you only really been talking to him a month or so. Taking it slow can be hard especially with us. People 'round here always saying that we rush to go all in, then we decide and either continue or disappear. I see some truth in it but it ain't that simple.
I understand his fear of liking someone but disappearing with out a word because of it is a bad sign to me. I suck at relationships though so what do I know? You seem to really like him right now so just enjoy it. I wouldn't worry about his ego comment or keeping him interested. He came and sought you out which shows some interest on his part. Just keep being your sweet doting self. if it ain't broke, don't fix it.
As far as turn offs or things not to do... these are true for me at least Don't be overly rude or crass. The loud obnoxious stuff just upsets our internal balance. Don't be a debbie downer, everyone has bad days and he should be there for you when you do but you gotta snap out of it. Don't throw a pity party. Don't withhold emotion or affection. Don't be stupid... not talking about silliness (I like that a lot) I can't stand stupid people though. People who believe things without knowing why, that kind of stuff.
See all that stuff is situational and depends on the amount too. I am an affectionate man. I love hugs, kisses, holding hands, all of it, just being close physically... however if everyday when I come home you run over and jump on me, eventually I'll drop you. Sprinkle that in with the plain jane hugs everyday and I'm all over it. I am rude and crass sometimes, I've been told I am an marker many times. But that too is situational, some people deserve it haha.
Aramel just try to be light and fun with him, If he is a true Libra that part should be easy.We are very romantic and enjoy a sexy woman so you (as a Scorp) should always have that in your back pocket as well. I personally enjoy compliments and hugs and some doting , we are the sign of partnerships. Let him be sweet to you , it's part of his nature as well, just enjoy eachother and don't get too rough with the fighting .