SweetSerenety
@SweetSerenety
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Need advice on libra man..
Posted by SweetSerenety
hole week he would text me but not pick up the phone calls. One weekend he didn't pick up at all or follow up with me and told me he went to another city to help a friend move. Another time he told me he forgot the phone over the weekend in the car so we didn't talk. As expected, I was so frustrated and I started to think that he was just making up excuses. When I got to speak with him, I explained that I needed to speak with him as that is what a LDR is about. ...
He listened and among other things said "well, it's gonna be like this sometimes". I thought that was the most stupid answer ever and pretty much a nice brush-off, however I didn't say anything to hurt his ego, rather explained my side of it and asked how he'd feel if I did the same to him. He agreed.. I spoke with him again and then we said our goodbyes. I see my phone an hour later and he had called twice and had left me two pocket voicemails again.
I listened to the voicemails and it was pocket calls again and yet again I could hear him laugh with his friends and joking around. A minute later, I could hear him with a serious voice introducing this girl to one of his friends. Yet, I couldn't get anything substantial to consider as cheating. I call him back one hour later and he didn't pick up.
Valentine's day he text me early in the morning to wish me happy Valentine's day. I replied back. He didn't call or come to see me. However, he calls me at 2am and I woke up from the call so we spoke until 5am. We had not spoken for the past week other than txt. I called him a couple of times and he didn't pick. So, why call at 2am to discuss and tell me he misses me? It's puzzling. I'm not sure what his deal is..
...And I mean we had a full 3 hour conversation talking about our lives, relationship etc. This wasn't like a drunk phone call of lets meet and have sex. So, I'm really confused. Can someone shed some light? Why not pick up the phone and talk about it on regular day hours but have convo at 2am..?
He's been disappearing all week and now its no text at all and just calls me once a week. Its very confusing... 😢
I am not a Libra man.
shit i think its true
Posted by MeanStreetRider
shit i think its true
lol, yes... i see a pattern here my friend.
Anything.. to add to this thread though? Help a girl out.
Posted by MeanStreetRider
shit i think its true
I've been meaning to turn that into my user icon for shits n giggles.
The site's been a slow whore lately though. :/
you are sweet. I wish I had an aries in my life !
this situation seem awful for you !
you deserve happiness. everyone deserves to be happy.
we don't know if he cheat or no. we don't know him . and a lot about him .
I'm a libra and I want to say : sometimes we have our troubles ... with family , jobs, task, personal .... e.t.c.
sometimes we can create our own problems in our head !
nothing is sure and clear in this situation . I think.
or maybe it's me ... ( my english is not the best ... )
talk with him about this . seriously .
ask him :
why he acting like this ?
------------------------
be careful with him ... you never know !
but I wish : to you and him to be happy. like before!
if it's not working .don't waste your time with him ...
you can try another libra or another man ...
haa !
🙂
this situation seem awful for you !
you deserve happiness. everyone deserves to be happy.
we don't know if he cheat or no. we don't know him . and a lot about him .
I'm a libra and I want to say : sometimes we have our troubles ... with family , jobs, task, personal .... e.t.c.
sometimes we can create our own problems in our head !
nothing is sure and clear in this situation . I think.
or maybe it's me ... ( my english is not the best ... )
talk with him about this . seriously .
ask him :
why he acting like this ?
------------------------
be careful with him ... you never know !
but I wish : to you and him to be happy. like before!
if it's not working .don't waste your time with him ...
you can try another libra or another man ...
haa !
🙂
Oh lawdy, where do I start—
One, it's been 3 months. Three is the magical number for a lot of these knuckle dragging variety. Three months in, and you see changes? Stop bothering. This goes with any guy. Three is the magic number because that is how long it takes for the facade to drop and the real guy to show up. Three months also seems to be the mark where guys start thinking about how serious they want to be and/or lose their attention in the object of their affection and start behaving like tacky assholes.
Two, he's totally fucking around with you. You need to listen to your gut because it is NO coincidence that his dumb ass isn't communicating with you during regular hours. And then you hear accidental pocket dials and hear him introducing another woman? I'm sorry, but with the flaky communication as of late, his dick is getting happy over this new chick. These idiots have ADD when it comes to women and they're just greedy like that.
Also, him calling early in the morning and then late at night? Come on, why do you think that is? I saw this exact behavior with one I dealt with and it was pretty freaking obvious what he was trying to pull. Spare time first thing in the morning before the day starts, and 2 am on V-Day? HMM whatever could he be doing all day and well into the night on the national day of fucking?
And then his downplaying your concerns! Omg, been there, done that. It's awful when you confront these asshats on their shitty behavior and they have the audacity to shrug it off like your feelings don't matter.
THIS IS A HUGE INDICATOR OF WHERE YOU STAND WITH HIM. You should pay close attention to that. If you talk to anyone about what is bothering you, and they dismiss you like he did, eff that. I had the same thing happen to me, too. If anything, it left me confused and pretty pissed off.
If you want, try talking to him, FACE TO FACE, one more time and see what happens. But I think this guy is a lost cause and you should work your way out of it. It's just going to continue like this. LDRs are not ideal, tbh. It leaves too much leeway for shady guys to get cakey eaty.
In short- RUUUUUN. Soo many red flags. :/
One, it's been 3 months. Three is the magical number for a lot of these knuckle dragging variety. Three months in, and you see changes? Stop bothering. This goes with any guy. Three is the magic number because that is how long it takes for the facade to drop and the real guy to show up. Three months also seems to be the mark where guys start thinking about how serious they want to be and/or lose their attention in the object of their affection and start behaving like tacky assholes.
Two, he's totally fucking around with you. You need to listen to your gut because it is NO coincidence that his dumb ass isn't communicating with you during regular hours. And then you hear accidental pocket dials and hear him introducing another woman? I'm sorry, but with the flaky communication as of late, his dick is getting happy over this new chick. These idiots have ADD when it comes to women and they're just greedy like that.
Also, him calling early in the morning and then late at night? Come on, why do you think that is? I saw this exact behavior with one I dealt with and it was pretty freaking obvious what he was trying to pull. Spare time first thing in the morning before the day starts, and 2 am on V-Day? HMM whatever could he be doing all day and well into the night on the national day of fucking?
And then his downplaying your concerns! Omg, been there, done that. It's awful when you confront these asshats on their shitty behavior and they have the audacity to shrug it off like your feelings don't matter.
THIS IS A HUGE INDICATOR OF WHERE YOU STAND WITH HIM. You should pay close attention to that. If you talk to anyone about what is bothering you, and they dismiss you like he did, eff that. I had the same thing happen to me, too. If anything, it left me confused and pretty pissed off.
If you want, try talking to him, FACE TO FACE, one more time and see what happens. But I think this guy is a lost cause and you should work your way out of it. It's just going to continue like this. LDRs are not ideal, tbh. It leaves too much leeway for shady guys to get cakey eaty.
In short- RUUUUUN. Soo many red flags. :/
Posted by muwik
you are sweet. I wish I had an aries in my life !
this situation seem awful for you !
you deserve happiness. everyone deserves to be happy.
we don't know if he cheat or no. we don't know him . and a lot about him .
I'm a libra and I want to say : sometimes we have our troubles ... with family , jobs, task, personal .... e.t.c.
sometimes we can create our own problems in our head !
nothing is sure and clear in this situation . I think.
or maybe it's me ... ( my english is not the best ... )
talk with him about this . seriously .
ask him :
why he acting like this ?
------------------------
be careful with him ... you never know !
but I wish : to you and him to be happy. like before!
if it's not working .don't waste your time with him ...
you can try another libra or another man ...
haa !
🙂
Yeah, some of you guys are absolute shit at life and adult stress and want to be coddled like no other.
And then it's woe is you because the chick couldn't handle a man baby.
'you deserve happiness. everyone deserves to be happy.'
Haa.. that;s such a Libra statement. Thats what he says as well.
When he called on valentines day he did say 'u deserve better' referring to his life style and that he may have to move away and he can't talk to me like he would normally and thought it wasnt fair for me to wait for him. However, I felt as though he could make it work if he wanted to. We talked for a long while and I said "well it seems like you already made up your mind. However, what bothers me is that you didn't discuss this (the waitin) with me".... So, I let him be and didnt contact him after. The next time he called I didnt pick up because I was still processing what he said. Though on the second time he called on that weekend after, I picked up. He wanted to know what I had been up to (my intuition says mainly because I always pick up his calls) and I told him..
I said it seemed like from our last convo you have other priorities in life and Im not it for you now. So, im not goint to sit and wait here when you've already made up your mind that it will not work when you move. He did a lot of backpedaling on that second phone call. Oh lord!
"No I didn't mean that. What I said that I want to be with you and give you more but I wont be able to when I move. I have tried this before with an ex and it didnt work." I said "Im not ur ex." So, the result of it is go with the flow.
Though this convo was a while back he's become more and more distant. As an Aries I can give space to help you cope, but what you're telling me needs to make sense and your actions need to prove that you care, otherwise Im not gonna waste my time. It's sad because we had such a strong attraction (literally butterflies in the stomach) in the beginning and now... 😢
Nevertheless, thanks for the feedback muwik. I'm sure you'll find ur Aries girl!
Haa.. that;s such a Libra statement. Thats what he says as well.
When he called on valentines day he did say 'u deserve better' referring to his life style and that he may have to move away and he can't talk to me like he would normally and thought it wasnt fair for me to wait for him. However, I felt as though he could make it work if he wanted to. We talked for a long while and I said "well it seems like you already made up your mind. However, what bothers me is that you didn't discuss this (the waitin) with me".... So, I let him be and didnt contact him after. The next time he called I didnt pick up because I was still processing what he said. Though on the second time he called on that weekend after, I picked up. He wanted to know what I had been up to (my intuition says mainly because I always pick up his calls) and I told him..
I said it seemed like from our last convo you have other priorities in life and Im not it for you now. So, im not goint to sit and wait here when you've already made up your mind that it will not work when you move. He did a lot of backpedaling on that second phone call. Oh lord!
"No I didn't mean that. What I said that I want to be with you and give you more but I wont be able to when I move. I have tried this before with an ex and it didnt work." I said "Im not ur ex." So, the result of it is go with the flow.
Though this convo was a while back he's become more and more distant. As an Aries I can give space to help you cope, but what you're telling me needs to make sense and your actions need to prove that you care, otherwise Im not gonna waste my time. It's sad because we had such a strong attraction (literally butterflies in the stomach) in the beginning and now... 😢
Nevertheless, thanks for the feedback muwik. I'm sure you'll find ur Aries girl!
Dude, he's telling you straight up what's going on with him. Don't fall into that stupid female mindset of ignoring what he is telling you and then proceed anyway, only to be shocked.
When a guy starts throwing around, "you deserve better" or anything along those lines, it means he's telling you who he really is.
Voila, you're seeing it and still baffled.
In my experience, and many others' who I've talked to, when a guy makes comments like that, there's a very good chance he's going to live up to it. Guys know themselves better than you do.
Backpedaling is what these guys do best! When I confronted the two I was involved with, their responses were almost hilariously identital. A lot of back pedaling, stuttering, etc. These guys suck at conflict and will do their best to try to salvage things all for the sake of not being the "bad" guy. Because, you know, their skin will melt away if someone doesn't like them.
The connection between Aries and Libras is pretty intense and it makes it all the harder to separate when things go south.
I dunno about you, but it sounds like this guy was already pulling away and making excuses as why not to stick around. He clearly doesn't value you or your time. It's shitty, but ask yourself, "why am I putting so much energy into a guy who's so willing to write me off so easily?"
When a guy starts throwing around, "you deserve better" or anything along those lines, it means he's telling you who he really is.
Voila, you're seeing it and still baffled.
In my experience, and many others' who I've talked to, when a guy makes comments like that, there's a very good chance he's going to live up to it. Guys know themselves better than you do.
Backpedaling is what these guys do best! When I confronted the two I was involved with, their responses were almost hilariously identital. A lot of back pedaling, stuttering, etc. These guys suck at conflict and will do their best to try to salvage things all for the sake of not being the "bad" guy. Because, you know, their skin will melt away if someone doesn't like them.
The connection between Aries and Libras is pretty intense and it makes it all the harder to separate when things go south.
I dunno about you, but it sounds like this guy was already pulling away and making excuses as why not to stick around. He clearly doesn't value you or your time. It's shitty, but ask yourself, "why am I putting so much energy into a guy who's so willing to write me off so easily?"
Posted by rockyroadicecream
Oh lawdy, where do I start—
One, it's been 3 months. Three is the magical number for a lot of these knuckle dragging variety. Three months in, and you see changes? Stop bothering. This goes with any guy. Three is the magic number because that is how long it takes for the facade to drop and the real guy to show up. Three months also seems to be the mark where guys start thinking about how serious they want to be and/or lose their attention in the object of their affection and start behaving like tacky assholes.
Two, he's totally fucking around with you. You need to listen to your gut because it is NO coincidence that his dumb ass isn't communicating with you during regular hours. And then you hear accidental pocket dials and hear him introducing another woman? I'm sorry, but with the flaky communication as of late, his dick is getting happy over this new chick. These idiots have ADD when it comes to women and they're just greedy like that.
Also, him calling early in the morning and then late at night? Come on, why do you think that is? I saw this exact behavior with one I dealt with and it was pretty freaking obvious what he was trying to pull. Spare time first thing in the morning before the day starts, and 2 am on V-Day? HMM whatever could he be doing all day and well into the night on the national day of fucking?
And then his downplaying your concerns! Omg, been there, done that. It's awful when you confront these asshats on their shitty behavior and they have the audacity to shrug it off like your feelings don't matter.
THIS IS A HUGE INDICATOR OF WHERE YOU STAND WITH HIM. You should pay close attention to that. If you talk to anyone about what is bothering you, and they dismiss you like he did, eff that. I had the same thing happen to me, too. If anything, it left me confused and pretty pissed off.
If you want, try talking to him, FACE TO FACE, one more time and see what happens. But I think this guy is a lost cause and you should work your way out of it. It's just going to continue like this. LDRs are not ideal, tbh. It leaves too much leeway for shady guys to get cakey eaty.
In short- RUUUUUN. Soo many red flags. :/
Actually it has been 8 months that we been dating. Sorry, for the typo..
On the 5th month in though he started acting different.
My gut tells me that he is currently unsure with our sit
Actually it has been 8 months that we been dating. Sorry, for the typo..
On the 5th month in though he started acting different.
My gut tells me that he is currently unsure with our situation and what will happen with his future. He seems to be very accepting with change.
Is he meeting other people? I don't doubt it. He's an outgoing libra afterall.
Is he cheating? I can't say. I'm not there so I dont speculate. I have not found anything to determine that.
Are there some red flags? Sure, that's why Im posting in this site lol. But I have a sag moon so I always think positive. I realize its my weakness as well.. Hence, need the advise.
My last try: Next week is my birthday. He remembered it and wants to come by and celebrate. Will see if this will materialize.
If he doesnt come, I will drop him completely. I can't deal anymore. I have been very patient recently and do not want to be destroyed by this guy.
If he does come I will speak with him for one last time and see where it goes.
On the 5th month in though he started acting different.
My gut tells me that he is currently unsure with our situation and what will happen with his future. He seems to be very accepting with change.
Is he meeting other people? I don't doubt it. He's an outgoing libra afterall.
Is he cheating? I can't say. I'm not there so I dont speculate. I have not found anything to determine that.
Are there some red flags? Sure, that's why Im posting in this site lol. But I have a sag moon so I always think positive. I realize its my weakness as well.. Hence, need the advise.
My last try: Next week is my birthday. He remembered it and wants to come by and celebrate. Will see if this will materialize.
If he doesnt come, I will drop him completely. I can't deal anymore. I have been very patient recently and do not want to be destroyed by this guy.
If he does come I will speak with him for one last time and see where it goes.
lol, you sound like me.
I used some sort of upcoming event of sorts to help determine what to do next.
"Okay, this important date is coming up. If I don't hear from him/ he doesn't hold up to what he said on that date, I'm out. Can't even be considerate on a holiday/important date/birthday, fuck that. I don't need people like that.
There's nothing wrong with being positive, but when that outlook does nothing but hinder you from seeing the obvious, then yes it's quite the weakness.
I tend to go down the dun dun dun path with this one because I've personally dealt with the SAME behavior and then the numerous stories you see here, it's just all too familiar.
Do I wish it'd turn out better for you (and anyone else in this spot)? Of course. But you gotta be prepared for the potential scenarios.
The unevolved Libras are an absolute headache to deal with. They're not mature, they're still figuring themselves out in life, and will drag you along with their madness until they settle the hell down and grow up.
It sounds like that's what yours is dealing with. I mean really, once a week? Are you sure you're in a relationship? :/
I used some sort of upcoming event of sorts to help determine what to do next.
"Okay, this important date is coming up. If I don't hear from him/ he doesn't hold up to what he said on that date, I'm out. Can't even be considerate on a holiday/important date/birthday, fuck that. I don't need people like that.
There's nothing wrong with being positive, but when that outlook does nothing but hinder you from seeing the obvious, then yes it's quite the weakness.
I tend to go down the dun dun dun path with this one because I've personally dealt with the SAME behavior and then the numerous stories you see here, it's just all too familiar.
Do I wish it'd turn out better for you (and anyone else in this spot)? Of course. But you gotta be prepared for the potential scenarios.
The unevolved Libras are an absolute headache to deal with. They're not mature, they're still figuring themselves out in life, and will drag you along with their madness until they settle the hell down and grow up.
It sounds like that's what yours is dealing with. I mean really, once a week? Are you sure you're in a relationship? :/
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If you want, try talking to him, FACE TO FACE, one more time and see what happens. But I think this guy is a lost cause and you should work your way out of it. It's just going to continue like this. LDRs are not ideal, tbh. It leaves too much leeway for shady guys to get cakey eaty. ''
I agree with Rocky .
Long distance relationships are horrible
If you want, try talking to him, FACE TO FACE, one more time and see what happens. But I think this guy is a lost cause and you should work your way out of it. It's just going to continue like this. LDRs are not ideal, tbh. It leaves too much leeway for shady guys to get cakey eaty. ''
I agree with Rocky .
Long distance relationships are horrible
2 1/2 hours is long distance to me and I wouldn't even try one. For me I know it wouldn't work. If I am going to be in a relationship, it's going to be with someone I can hang out with regularly, not every other weekend.
It could work as short term fun, but couldn't get serious to me.
He told you this too. He said he tried it before and it didn't work. He wants to be casual with you. He doesn't have the balls to say it though because he knows you probably won't be down for that. It's much easier to just string you along, but he feels bad for it. No sympathy, he should feel bad, he's playing you.
Now you know, and knowing is half the battle... Or something.
It could work as short term fun, but couldn't get serious to me.
He told you this too. He said he tried it before and it didn't work. He wants to be casual with you. He doesn't have the balls to say it though because he knows you probably won't be down for that. It's much easier to just string you along, but he feels bad for it. No sympathy, he should feel bad, he's playing you.
Now you know, and knowing is half the battle... Or something.
Posted by LibraSid
2 1/2 hours is long distance to me and I wouldn't even try one. For me I know it wouldn't work. If I am going to be in a relationship, it's going to be with someone I can hang out with regularly, not every other weekend.
It could work as short term fun, but couldn't get serious to me.
He told you this too. He said he tried it before and it didn't work. He wants to be casual with you. He doesn't have the balls to say it though because he knows you probably won't be down for that. It's much easier to just string you along, but he feels bad for it. No sympathy, he should feel bad, he's playing you.
Now you know, and knowing is half the battle... Or something.
Well, he was fine with the 2-1/2 hours because when i met him he was here in my city. He was the one who asked me right away to be exclusive. He knows I have options so I dont play around.
But when he moves to the other state he will be 8 hours away by plane and he knows it will not be ideal. Though, i feel that if someone cares about you they'd make it work no matter the circumstances.
This is the first Libra Im dating so I'm learning... They usually are attracted to me but I dont give them the time of day. Usually, Im bored within a month. The ones I've met before were too feminine. This guy seemed the perfect balance for me. But... oh, well then.
'It sounds like that's what yours is dealing with. I mean really, once a week? Are you sure you're in a relationship? :/'
YES! Exactly... It's been very weird to say the least. Luckily, I got things going on but..
One phone call a week and meeting once a month for the past LAST 3 months. smh
YES! Exactly... It's been very weird to say the least. Luckily, I got things going on but..
One phone call a week and meeting once a month for the past LAST 3 months. smh
@LibraSid - I understand that he may have not have the balls to just tell me he is not that into me. I asked him before if he wants to be casual and he said no. I do not know though, if it is because he already knows I wont go for it or if thats what he really wants. And if he doesnt care about me why does he string me along? Im sure that if he has someone on the side he can move on with that person right?..
As far as his ex, I know that they were living together for a couple of years and then he moved away for 4 months on a contract. She couldnt stay so she left him while he was away. I dont think our relationships are comparable so I dont know why he brought it up.
He is moving away again on a contract but it will be temporary. He says that he is moving to make big money (this is very important to him; he wants to be the provider) and he is not going to have any relationships because he is going there strictly for business. He thinks because I got my shit together and I got a lot going, it would be unfair for me to put my life on hold. He told me I had and option to move on if I wanted. So, it really annoyed me that he decided without discussing it and when we spoke again he clarified again with the backpedaling.
Last time I went to him, he cooked for me. The friday he had invited a bunch of his friends that I know as well and he cooked for all of us. The saturday it was just him and I and he cooked and grilled again. He was very sweet and caring.
I feel his love when we're together and its hard for me to think that someone can switch it off and on as needed. I just can wrap my head around that one.
As far as his ex, I know that they were living together for a couple of years and then he moved away for 4 months on a contract. She couldnt stay so she left him while he was away. I dont think our relationships are comparable so I dont know why he brought it up.
He is moving away again on a contract but it will be temporary. He says that he is moving to make big money (this is very important to him; he wants to be the provider) and he is not going to have any relationships because he is going there strictly for business. He thinks because I got my shit together and I got a lot going, it would be unfair for me to put my life on hold. He told me I had and option to move on if I wanted. So, it really annoyed me that he decided without discussing it and when we spoke again he clarified again with the backpedaling.
Last time I went to him, he cooked for me. The friday he had invited a bunch of his friends that I know as well and he cooked for all of us. The saturday it was just him and I and he cooked and grilled again. He was very sweet and caring.
I feel his love when we're together and its hard for me to think that someone can switch it off and on as needed. I just can wrap my head around that one.
Posted by feby16aqua
I definitely think that there is something going on behind the scenes with him. What are you going to do about it? Calling him out on it again with my full argument thought through sounds like something I would be doing...
Hi feby16aqua, yes something is up but I know in the end the truth will come to light.
My last try: Next week is my birthday. He remembered it and wants to come by and celebrate. Will see if this will materialize.
If he doesnt come, I will drop him completely. I can't deal anymore. I have been very patient recently and do not want to be destroyed by this guy.
If he does come I will speak with him for one last time and see where it goes.
Posted by SweetSerenety
Well, he was fine with the 2-1/2 hours because when i met him he was here in my city. He was the one who asked me right away to be exclusive. He knows I have options so I dont play around.
But when he moves to the other state he will be 8 hours away by plane and he knows it will not be ideal. Though, i feel that if someone cares about you they'd make it work no matter the circumstances.
This is the first Libra Im dating so I'm learning... They usually are attracted to me but I dont give them the time of day. Usually, Im bored within a month. The ones I've met before were too feminine. This guy seemed the perfect balance for me. But... oh, well then.
There are a few reasons he could have okay with it at the beginning. Maybe he said it because he knew it was a requirement of yours, people lie. Maybe he was sincere at first. Who knows...
At some point he decided he'd put in enough to keep you going, but nothing more. Knowing it's going to be 8 hours, I'd let it go.
Posted by rockyroadicecreamPosted by MeanStreetRider
shit i think its true
I've been meaning to turn that into my user icon for shits n giggles.
The site's been a slow whore lately though. :/click to expand
Greatest joke on dxp to date...LMAO!!!
Posted by rockyroadicecream
Oh lawdy, where do I start—
One, it's been 3 months. Three is the magical number for a lot of these knuckle dragging variety. Three months in, and you see changes? Stop bothering. This goes with any guy. Three is the magic number because that is how long it takes for the facade to drop and the real guy to show up. Three months also seems to be the mark where guys start thinking about how serious they want to be and/or lose their attention in the object of their affection and start behaving like tacky assholes.
Two, he's totally fucking around with you. You need to listen to your gut because it is NO coincidence that his dumb ass isn't communicating with you during regular hours. And then you hear accidental pocket dials and hear him introducing another woman? I'm sorry, but with the flaky communication as of late, his dick is getting happy over this new chick. These idiots have ADD when it comes to women and they're just greedy like that.
Also, him calling early in the morning and then late at night? Come on, why do you think that is? I saw this exact behavior with one I dealt with and it was pretty freaking obvious what he was trying to pull. Spare time first thing in the morning before the day starts, and 2 am on V-Day? HMM whatever could he be doing all day and well into the night on the national day of fucking?
And then his downplaying your concerns! Omg, been there, done that. It's awful when you confront these asshats on their shitty behavior and they have the audacity to shrug it off like your feelings don't matter.
THIS IS A HUGE INDICATOR OF WHERE YOU STAND WITH HIM. You should pay close attention to that. If you talk to anyone about what is bothering you, and they dismiss you like he did, eff that. I had the same thing happen to me, too. If anything, it left me confused and pretty pissed off.
If you want, try talking to him, FACE TO FACE, one more time and see what happens. But I think this guy is a lost cause and you should work your way out of it. It's just going to continue like this. LDRs are not ideal, tbh. It leaves too much leeway for shady guys to get cakey eaty.
In short- RUUUUUN. Soo many red flags. :/
Love the bolded part!!! So very true! Three is the magical number when it comes to the duration of the mirage.
+1 on everything Rocky said!
Posted by SweetSerenety
'It sounds like that's what yours is dealing with. I mean really, once a week? Are you sure you're in a relationship? :/'
YES! Exactly... It's been very weird to say the least. Luckily, I got things going on but..
One phone call a week and meeting once a month for the past LAST 3 months. smh
Uh, sounds like he's got other things going on. That's not a relationship. Like Sid said, he's stringing you along. ...And you're going with it. You haven't been "with" this guy for awhile. He's more or less ended your relationship. And really, if he was into you, like he should be in a relationship, he'd be seeing you more often and calling more often.
You need to nip this in the bud.
Fun fact- in touch once a week and meet up monthly? Honey, that was my schedule with a fwb I had. JUST to give you perspective...
Posted by SweetSerenety
And if he doesnt care about me why does he string me along? Im sure that if he has someone on the side he can move on with that person right?...
No. Guys like this are so self absorbed and they string women along because they want to keep their options/not look like the bad guy. This type are cowards have a tendency to do shit like this and hope you get the hint so they don't have to do the hard work.
Guys string women along because they CAN. Guys do a lot of stupid shit because they CAN. There's no rhyme or reason behind it.
I know it's baffling to wrap your head around, and this is the shit that Aries/Libra can get sucked into and it makes it hard to escape.
Do what you need to do to process this, but you need to reach that "fuck it" point (your birthday) and move on. That Aries ice needs to kick in because this behavior toward you is unacceptable.
Posted by Lust
"He told me I had and option to move on if I wanted"..
He is not into you, I guaranty you on this one.
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This. I said this earlier, too. He's been giving you the hint to take and you haven't. These guys are cowards like that.
That last one I dated also pulled some shit like that when I confronted him. I told him everything that had been bothering me and how it made me feel. Not only did he dismiss my feelings, he also said he felt he'd done nothing wrong and if I'm expecting better, he more or less couldn't give it to me and had no issue with dropping the relationship/friendship right there.
This dude is dropping hints that he doesn't want to do this anymore. Use that to wrap your head around- the guy is dismissing you and you're clinging on. Eff that noise. Dude doesn't respect you, either.
Posted by aquarius09Posted by rockyroadicecreamPosted by MeanStreetRider
shit i think its true
I've been meaning to turn that into my user icon for shits n giggles.
The site's been a slow whore lately though. :/
Greatest joke on dxp to date...LMAO!!!click to expand
lol and some people says I'm cruel. I feel so relieved
Yeah sounds like he's playing you. Move on. Not worth your time /:
Men/Women who are up to no good symptoms:
-After hour calls (not respectful of your sleep hours) (what is there to talk about when all you can think of is sleep)
-If he doesn't want to attempt to see you on special holidays
-A girl/boy in being introduced over a booty call ( haha get it a call you make with your butt because its funny..ok i'll stop)
-He doesn't know where you stand with him
-"You deserve better speech"
-Secretive trips
There is nothing to do to continue on with the abuse you suffer emotionally, mind over matter you know what your gut is telling you, so don't mask it embrace it and the flow of feelings. The connection was severed because of too much unhealthy distance, which may be the reason for the other woman a confiding friend to fill a space. It's innocent but i'm sure he is in some state of flattery with her. Which would be the cause of the constant reminders of "you deserve better".
How strong was your foundation of friendship? that could be a key factor. did you rush into a relationship from feelings that got stirred? Knowing this would be long distance did you plan ahead for the possibility of a "I'm seeing you" before "I'm dating you exclusively"?
-After hour calls (not respectful of your sleep hours) (what is there to talk about when all you can think of is sleep)
-If he doesn't want to attempt to see you on special holidays
-A girl/boy in being introduced over a booty call ( haha get it a call you make with your butt because its funny..ok i'll stop)
-He doesn't know where you stand with him
-"You deserve better speech"
-Secretive trips
There is nothing to do to continue on with the abuse you suffer emotionally, mind over matter you know what your gut is telling you, so don't mask it embrace it and the flow of feelings. The connection was severed because of too much unhealthy distance, which may be the reason for the other woman a confiding friend to fill a space. It's innocent but i'm sure he is in some state of flattery with her. Which would be the cause of the constant reminders of "you deserve better".
How strong was your foundation of friendship? that could be a key factor. did you rush into a relationship from feelings that got stirred? Knowing this would be long distance did you plan ahead for the possibility of a "I'm seeing you" before "I'm dating you exclusively"?
Yay my icon finally changed!
-__- haha not making the situation better
How is it not making the situation better?
This is like giving someone a present only it has a dunce hat in it on their birthday lol :p only to be reminded that they lost from the beginning when they thought you would actually give them something nice.
Long distance relationship in my opinion is not a hour or two. Smh. If you don't have to fly there, then I don't consider it long distance. I know people that live in Michigan and the other in Ohio (2hour drive apart) and they see one another more. I feel like you should be able to see one another much more especially if you both have cars.smh.
And plain and simple he's cheating. The signs are all there, but you??re welcome to stick it out and wait for the hardcore evidence like most women do when they are in love. However if you don't wanna drop him for cheating you need to drop him for his in-out behavior, unless your cool with this part-time relationship. He treating your relationship like a game of hop-scotch. One foot in, and one foot out, because judging by your post, he's only your man when it's convenient for him. Hence his nonchalant attitude when you spoke on your feelings about his short disappearing acts. Smh. You are in for a ride if you stick around. Just saying, I can see it clearly because I'm not in love or blinded by my feelings, so I can see that this man is taking you for a ride.
And plain and simple he's cheating. The signs are all there, but you??re welcome to stick it out and wait for the hardcore evidence like most women do when they are in love. However if you don't wanna drop him for cheating you need to drop him for his in-out behavior, unless your cool with this part-time relationship. He treating your relationship like a game of hop-scotch. One foot in, and one foot out, because judging by your post, he's only your man when it's convenient for him. Hence his nonchalant attitude when you spoke on your feelings about his short disappearing acts. Smh. You are in for a ride if you stick around. Just saying, I can see it clearly because I'm not in love or blinded by my feelings, so I can see that this man is taking you for a ride.
I know 1.5 hrs isn't THAT long...but it kinda is. I don't get home from work til 5:30ish, then I got my kids. Three hours on a round trip drive would leave just about enough time to say goodnight. It would limit visits to weekends only. While that isn't the end of the world or anything it sucks and it's not a restriction I'd want to start a relationship knowing was there.
When there's 500,000 people within 20 minutes, going five times that seems excessive
When there's 500,000 people within 20 minutes, going five times that seems excessive
Oh and I have commuted an hour and a half one way to work before too. I didn't live that far when I started there and once I moved I didn't stay but a few months. I have turned down jobs paying a good deal more because the commute wasn't worth it to me. Time and gas are expensive.
This is a rarity, but godang it, I have to agree with rocky road....You should have dumped his azz with the quickness!!!!!!
Never allow any man, no matter what his horoscope is to treat you like that!!!
Fuc $ 'em & Feed'em Fish😢
Never allow any man, no matter what his horoscope is to treat you like that!!!
Fuc $ 'em & Feed'em Fish😢
Posted by SweetSerenetyPosted by MeanStreetRider
shit i think its true
lol, yes... i see a pattern here my friend.
Anything.. to add to this thread though? Help a girl out.click to expand
LOL...Damn Rockyroad.....I agree with you 100% on this thread.....what a freakin jerk-off.....dayum...... it looks like most Libra MEN are butt wipes!
Thanks everyone for the comments/opinions.
But.. wow this hurts.
But.. wow this hurts.
Sending a butterfly aquarius hug your way 🙂..wait is it too soon to be hugging? Pain is inevitable suffering is optional, love them as they come and go but do not be bitter.
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