Need advise from Libra man...

Recently i fall in love with a Libra man, we have known each other for years, and just recently both of us started to have feelings for each other. unfortunately, he is stuck in his bad marriage with a one year old son. But due to he is married, we just can't have a normal relationship. We were so closed until i told him that he need to settle his marriage if he wish to move on.

He still text me at first, but the week after than, he started to behave differently. He didn't text me, and he told me he doesn't suit anyone at the moment. I felt very upset and was just about to let him go, as i thought i don't stand a chance.
But last week, i can feel that he started to show his interest back to me just like before.

He likes me but he doesn't want to tell me anything about his marriage, or how he is going to settle it. He kept everything inside him.I know nothing about what he think except that I know that he still has feelings for me.

Can any Libra man tell me what is keeping him from opening himself up to me?

Cause i got the feeling that he is settling his marriage, or maybe i am wrong again, cause it is just me who is doing the guessing alone.

Yeah, you are right, as long as he is unavailable, I shouldn't be hoping here. I really love him, that's why i still hope that i can have a chance to be with him.

Do you think i should ask him on his decision?

The feeling you are getting is that he is "contemplating" settling his marriage. Unless he demonstrates his choice by producing proof he's filed for divorce (not just filling out the papers anyone can do that and not go thru with it) then he's just thinking about it and the fact remains......he's a married man and you are putting yourself in the middle of a drama that will hurt everyone. Your intuition is telling you it isn't right...and you know it.

You are correct in assuming that you are "guessing" and are alone in that and you shouldn't be "hoping" for anything other then accepting that you are willing to become his mistress for which he will string you along forever on the "hopes" that you are willing to wait for him to one day decide to take action and get a divorce. The unfortunate victim in this is the child. He will most likely use that child as the #1 reason for delaying his obtaining a divorce to be with you. If you accept those terms now......he'll see no reason for you not to continue to accept them for as long as he can have you on the side.

If he had strong feelings for you......he'd move heaven and earth to be with you...including a much easier way to demonstrate those emotions by simply getting a divorce. But do you really want to be the reason that he is getting a divorce? It's better he leave his wife because he wants to ...not because of you.

You want to ask him his decision? He'll probably not have made a decision and that "indecision" will be his answer. which tells you nothing. Do what you intended to do. Be strong and distance yourself from this situation.

Thank you very much! Templeofjaguar, you give me a slap on my face, and pull me out into reality. Yes, you are right. If he really loves me, he will do something. plus, the reason that i don't want to get involved with him is because he is married, that is why i told him to settle his marriage, not because of me, but he need to move on. Since he told me that he and his wife's relationship has already gone to a very bad situation.

We work together, and we see each other everyday. He sits just next to me, that's why it's very hard for me to resist him if he shows any gesture that shows he likes me.But i will keep in mind on what you tell me, which is true. I really need to stay away.

Thank you so much.

get ready for a long chaotic ride...

arianl, that's what I was thinking - is he out publicly, muddy? What are the chances he would still be married to a woman who knew that?

I assume he is married to a woman right?

zenalchemy also brings a vary valid point ****what are the chances he would still be married to a woman who knew?***** The decision to divorce is a hard enough decision to make now that a child is involved. Coming out of the closet........and with a co-working....multiply that decision by 20 on the difficult-things-to-do scale. It's a no win situation for you if you got involved on any level. You're being supportive of him...but who's being supportive of "you" in this situation?

You're an intelligent, professional, individual and you need to draw on those strengths to continue to maintain your working relationship without compromising the emotional difficulty you might be having of working near him. Good luck to you!

try not to let him suck you in - an indecisive Libra's an unbalanced one and may stop at nothing to get you where he wants you - including how much feelings he has for you. Good luck !

A libra usually wont file for a divorce and would put up with the troubles thinking abt his son's future and his needs to be with his mom. It will be most likely his wife who would file for a divorce.

Whats your zodiac and his wife's zodiac by the way?

thelibran is right, he won't file for divorce. he would much rather let her (i'm assuming he's married to a female) file the divorce.

good luck.

Wow....Sorry that I was away for awhile,and received such great great advise from all of you. Thank you very much.I understand that there is no chance for us to be together due to he will nvr file a divorce because of his son. So right now, we are still good friends but maintaining a level of 'flirtationship' in the office. I can't help it. He kept pursuing me on that.

I am honest to my feelings. I like him, and therefore, I will always be there for him if he needs any help. Although he dropped me once after I told him that he needed to settle his marriage if he truly love me. I've been through a hard time, but luckily it only lasts for few days. After I place myself in his shoe, that if it's me, I will also choose my son instead of an office romance.

But what makes me sad is that, I treated him as a real and trusted fren besides lover, but when he made that decision, he just suddenly walked away without 'notifying' me. I felt that I was being played during that time. What are all that love talks and care he shown if he can just walked away like that?

But now, like i mentioned earlier, we are getting better now. I don't know what will be the next, but I truly understand that this will just be a game.

My answer to Thelibran:
I am pieces, he is libran, and his wife is Capricorn.

I doubt she will let him go to be honest - Caps are very concerned about public image - finding that out about her husband and a divorce is the type of stuff earth signs want to sweep under the carpet and show happy face in public...but I may be wrong.

What are all that love talks and care he shown if he can just walked away like that?

romantic alliances are not the same for pisces (water) and libra (air) - there's an attraction because you're physically similar in mannerisms but your minds and outlook in life couldn't be more different...

Beside being a pieces, I just found out that my moon sign is Leo (Fire), and my rising sign is Aries (Fire), I think that's why we are attracted to each other...

hmmm... Pisces after a Capricorn would be like an oasis in a desert for a lonely man. In a way he would benefit a lot out of your company. But how much can you convince him to divorce, that i dunno. May be you shud try to tell him all the positive side of his wife and let his brain automatically think abt the negative sides of her's. 😉

"May be you shud try to tell him all the positive side of his wife and let his brain automatically think abt the negative sides of her's."

LOL..that's a good one. But I will not convince him to divorce, because the reason that I asked him to settle the marriage is because it was a bad marriage, not because of me. If he decided to stuck in it, because of his son. Then, I will have to respect his decision.(Although I think that's just a stupid decision, cause filing for divorce doesn't mean you can't take care of your son anymore right?)

In that case, he won't get me 100% . I won't be his mistress, but I can be his soulmate or I don't know...casual lovers but deep in mind, that's just it, I don't belong to him !

zenalchemy,

Yup he is married to a women. Capricorn women. 🙂
He is not out publicly out officially but everyone that he is in the verge of divorce, although right now i think he decided to be 'happily stuck in' his marriage because of his son.That's why he doesn't talk so much of his bad marriage to me anymore.

"arianl, that's what I was thinking - is he out publicly, muddy? What are the chances he would still be married to a woman who knew that?

I assume he is married to a woman right?"



**** scratches head confused ****


Zen, please explain what you meant by that.

Muddy is female Pisces in love with male Libra ... so, I don't understand what you meant by implications of genders and being "out" in this scenerio.

yea I thought it did too latay...I could have sworn it did...but I could have sworn I had money in my account last week too... 😕

ha ha ha
now i know why u guys are confused. YES, i am a male last week. that's because I accidentally set myself as a male in my profile...

OOOOPSSS>.
sorry for the confusion. I am a 100% naturally born female. LOL

oh Ash, you're so late hopping on this band wagon