obsessed Libra

Yeah. I see you guys do that. Get a life..

Yes, done that. Nothing or no-one seem to fit in our scale of perfection which is why it works better in your head. The idea of the person or the physical being is perfect but their actions don't match up!

With myself in particular I have to realize no one is perfect so as not to have such high expectations and then take it slowly. Also I find it's where you're at in life ie: if you are happy in yourself and with your life in general. I think you have to be happy with yourself before someone else can love you whic is why I think we sabotage the realtionship in the beginning! Maybe we won't meet their expectations!

EK what's obese got to do with this question—

You are in a Librian forum therefore perfect is the key! 🙂

Reality v/s the dream

I wouldn't look at it as you sabotage the relationship, the reality just doesn't match your expectations. Libras are not phony so getting out before you truly hate that person is a great decision not a sabotage. Just don't get caught up in the fantasy and miss a real opportunity when it comes around.

typically when I sabotage, it is like jojojo said, because I ultimately know that it won't work with that person. Sometimes I fight that sabotage, but it always ends eventually.

How old are you nikki? Obbession like that is more of a youth thing than a libra thing, I think

Just did a blitz and run myself: Virgo guy told me he was falling for me after the 1st date (36yr old), I was already out of the door mentally and dropped him an email the next morning. I know it was cruel and mean, but I could feel the clingy-ness creeping up. Triggered a run for the hills mentality and he is STILL writing me email novels today. Imagine what I'd have to deal with to detach if he had more datapoints on my personality...would be counterarguing his analysis till the cows come home....yeeehhhsshh

I am a libra moon...yes I believe so

My best pisces friend and I were talking about this exact issue: She always has the problem of never being able to cut people off, thus they keep on pursuing her and she then feels guilty for leading them on. I tend to sever and run, thereby ending things abruptly and leaving the other person hurt. I think I am doomed to incur bad relationship karma, and she is doomed to have these people lingering in her life forever. We all suffer the consequences of our methods.

I think it's an insecurity thing nothing to do with a person's sign. I do the same thing I ruin things before they even develop out of fear. My gf who is a pieces does the same thing, we once had a long convo about it. Being scared of it turning into something more then not working out (even though it might of worked out). Being afraid to go into a territory where it's deep enough it might be it but what if there is someone else that you may miss out on meeting that might be better.

I'm an Aries.

yea there's some insecurity attached to it - you know the reality does NOT work but hang on to the dream instead of moving on...

with air signs influence in chart, they think idealistic, but love involves emotions which they don't trust and is messy. So it's like an out of body seperation, living love in your head instead of reality... or being tempted to change the other person not to be so emotional.

with fire signs, steady flow of romantic emotions need patience and grounding which they lack so can find them sabotaging a relationship instead of working on it - aries is most guilty, followed by sag 😛 it also has to not feel like caging because fire will leak out sooner or later --- same as air and water...

with water signs, most non-water cannot live up to the depth of emotional expression they're prone to expect with romantic relations, so they can be found testing the person's emotional depth --- at which point they can try to slip away or get the person to try and express more...

i think earth like water can be patient even when it's not right for them, but with earth it's more of a goal to be achieved if the love aspect is not compatible enough.

If you face that being patience will not change people, incompatibility is incompatibility, then it will probably go smoother.

((well, i am in my thirties. I always suspected that i sabotage out of fear.))

thats our critical nature. We seek and need some perfection. and many of those relationships were not worth having in real life and should be good only in our imagination.

we know big bear. you like to take one thing a libra says and make it applicable to all of us. whew.

Well I wouldn't generalize to that level...we are merely individuals, we can share our experiences, it would be a little silly to start suspecting the flirting means that they still like you...

But then again i subscribe to the fact that no one knows what is happening in a relationship better than the people in that relationship...so i'd say trust yourself...it is your life

my take:
I agree with what was said - preferring fantasy to reality, but I feel what libra truly wants is that fantasy be brought to reality. Though you "sabotage" the relationship, to continue "fantisising" it in your mind means you really like the person. However, you want things to be the way you pictured it - the person is not - yet since librans arent the bossy type, the only place they get the other to do their bidding is in their heads!

I think if Libra fantasises about you, then you are blessed. Basically I don't give alot of space in my thoughts for dreaming up situations with people I don't like.

Just that libra smiles when they think of their little dream, because they know one day it will become reality.

my take:
I agree with what was said - preferring fantasy to reality, but I feel what libra truly wants is that fantasy be brought to reality. Though you "sabotage" the relationship, to continue "fantisising" it in your mind means you really like the person. However, you want things to be the way you pictured it - the person is not - yet since librans arent the bossy type, the only place they get the other to do their bidding is in their heads!

I think if Libra fantasises about you, then you are blessed. Basically I don't give alot of space in my thoughts for dreaming up situations with people I don't like.

Just that libra smiles when they think of their little dream, because they know one day it will become reality.

great_bull, i'm gonna put a harness over your bull mouth if you keep being so flippin blunt. be kind to libra ladies, we need it.

teddybear - don't give up on libra ladies. it'd be a great loss as the attraction to cancers is great! i think your venus in gem also makes them very attracted to you and vice versa, it's a good combo for you!! you just need to find the right one. you're 21, give it tiiiiime 🙂

to the OP: libras can be pretty fantastical. it's because we're so idealistic and romantic and live in a world of hearts and flowers created by ourselves instead of looking at the reality. but you need to give yourself the chance to be open to pain and heartache. it's absolutely awful but you'll be so much stronger and better off after the experience. it will be worth it and then your actual true love fantasy will be all the sweeter when it comes true. and it will. 🙂

Speaking from a Libran standpoint....I think that for the most part we all want to be with someone...and when we get into a relationship and realize that it's not making us as happy as we fantasized we can't bear the thought of breaking up ourselves so we sabatoge it to get it over with w/o having to flat out break it off ourselves.
Another reason to sabotage is maybe we are in denial. Maybe we think that since the relationship isn't going well and if we try and rock the boat a lot and splash water everywhere then if that person really loves me...they will come save me again and again and then we can feel reassured in the relationship. The problem is...not everyone is willing to rescue the Libra on a regular basis because it's emotionally straining on the partner. And like someone else said in earlier posts..maybe it's jsut insecurities...

"Yeah. I see you guys do that. Get a life.."

LMAO!!!

Way to go LibraScorp 😛

Whoa.

It was a joke...don't wanna take it that way. whatever ya kno