lost my libra

Yep, lost him. He's so far away - I don't even know who he is anymore. ... and I'm moving out in a week ... he doesn't appear even the slightest bit shaken. I don't get it ... and I don't even have hope that he'll come back.

Same here bluescorp. Same here.

Ya, I told my libra I love him. And than we both disappeared🙂

Who knows, he didn't have a problem with me saying it. I said it twice. Than he held me close to him and and I said what are you thinking? And he said "I'll tell you when I'm ready, I'm scared your a stronger person than me." I said thanks. Than he told me how I want kids and a white picket fence lol. I was like no I don't. lol and than we joked about what it'd be like if we were married.

I have no idea what he thinks. I told him that too. And he was like you should know. And I said I'm not a minder reader. I don't, sorry.I haven't talked to him since than, that was the 6th and he hasn't tried to get ahold of me either. I mean in the big picture, who really cares?

"I think with holding their thoughts and feelings is slot like lieing." I agree, elaborate ash🙂

"i dont think libras actually realize that they arent letting you know things, they probably think that they are and you arent getting it and then they become frustrated that you arent getting it and then it keeps getting worse somehow" Umm yes! I think that is very true. But I'm a sag man, we are a clueless bunch unless you say something straight in are face. We aren't gonna pick up on it. Were too all over the place to catch onto shit like that.

"he probably thinks that you should know because he is probably trying to show you by his presence in your life, talking to you on the phone, etc....even though libras like to talk, it is hard for them to verbalize their feelings for some reason" Yes, your posts are very spot on. I love him so much. But there is nothing I can do about this.

Yes, I notice you guys do. And that must really suck. I can see him struggle to say things and being scared but really wanting too. It breaks my heart seeing someone have such a hard time, so I just kept kissing him and he kept trying to talk lol. I think I know how he feels but you can never be a 100% .

".....yes you can, you can encourage him to verbalize his feelings and try to make him feel comfortable doing so" Yes, I agree. I did. It's just that being a sag It's hard to wait lol and than I just want to forget about the whole thing.

^^ I know, I said that. He has nothing to feel bad about. We were never dating.

That's why I told him I love him. I knew it would scare him off and I could be honest/ look like the good guy and have this end on a good note.

He also knew about the leo boy that I had a little crush on him I told him. And he said nicee and I was like ya. Than the next day I told libra I love him. I just felt bad for him because he couldn't express himself.

Don't you see? I trying to get him to leave and I didn't want to look like the bad guy. No one wants that🙂

Yeah, we both do that to eachother. I fuck around and lie and he doesn't tell me how he feels. That's why there's no more talky I guess. It's been 7 days so far, so we just go on from here. I keep saying this over and over. But I really think this is the LAST time.

Yeah of course I do! He likes me too. But it's going now where, that's just the thing.

Oh and I always knew that🙂 You just keep going with it till one drops off the face of earth, which is always me. Than he comes around and is like hey, whats up? But this time we both to have seem too. So I say, LIBRA, give up!

We both do. But bottom line is we both aren't ready for a relationship and we just really gotta cut it off. It's over due.

He needs to stop coming back (which I think he won't this time) and I just need to not feel bad about it.

My mother and step father are the same as you and your libra, sag89. My mom is a sag and my step father a libra. It took a LOT for them to finally truly get together, but they did it and have been together for about 18 years now.

They still bicker and argue and piss one another off but I swear that woman still looks at him with those googly eyes like she's a 17 year old school girl.

I always gotta pull for the the sag girls and libra males! Sounds like you guys had a pretty intense connection. Do you really want it to all end? Makes me sad 😢

^^ That's a sweet story. Yes we do and we are prefect for eachother. I always stand by his side, love him for who he is, I think he's faults are the best parts about him at times. You see the real truth and it makes me love him even more. It makes me sad too Lovelibra. But I don't believe in the fairytales🙂 Your very pretty btw. Such a libra lol.

We could make eachother very happy. I know we could. But I don't want that and either does he lol

My grandmother is a sag and my grandpapa is a libra they have been married for 53 years🙂

What are you saying moon_eyes?

Irish has been right on about us Libras....sag89 seems to really get us.

From a Libra guy....we open up and communicate on an emotional level with only a very select few and the ones we are happy we did with are the ones that never asked us to. That were just there giving us the opportunity to like we do for others.

I think that a lot of times and for very good reasons our lack of emotional display is taken as being un-genuine or FEAR of someone seeing who we really are....being vulnerable.

We don't fear emotion, there really is not a lot we fear for better or worse. But a lot of times people who see the private us as very controlled, poised and contemplative side think we are struggling or suffering. It only really becomes a struggle when someone projects a judgment on our behavior.

LS and I have talked about this in several other threads. It isn't that we are hiding or are afraid to open up emotionally, it is that we do not think or feel like our emotions are anyone els's concern. This is probably the single hardest lesson for Libras once the relationship turns serious and both people are working towards forever.

It's not that I am afraid of what someone will think of me, we are a lot more resilient and self aware than many give us credit for, for Libras are self made, self designed. It's that I don't desire to share that part of me with the world. We get frustrated when we get the "I can see they want to so bad but it is like something is holding them back, like they are afraid."

Because what they are really reading is us getting frustrated about them wanting "in" so bad and not just allowing us to be OK by letting it go.

Thanks Sag89!

Sounds like you need a libra man...maybe just not him. Or, maybe just not right now?

Wow your and idiot. I do not want "in". "It isn't that we are hiding or are afraid to open up emotionally, it is that we do not think or feel like our emotions are anyone els's concern." Yes, thats exaclty what he said to me. It's his private thoughts and he said he'd share them when he's ready. I really don't care. If it's none of my business, why would I care? You don't want to tell me what's on your mind cool. I'm not going to be upset about something that's beyond my control that's stupid and wasteful. I think it's sad you want to close off that part of you to other people or the world but that's your choice. Everyone does something for a reason. I'm not my libra how would I know what's best for him. Only you know what's best for you. I was not judging. I'm a sag. I just felt sad seeing him be feel weird sitting there, I didn't think him opening up was going to make it better I just thought that sucks, lets talk about something else. You guys need to stop thinking everyone gives a so much of a shit about what you think.

I tried, but it's too late. I think he felt threatened. I just wanted to talk to him. Maybe he will come back in time, but I know it's not right.

air and water only create bubbles; not sparks.

Sag89, maybe you should stop relating your problems with this ONE libra to all libras...we are still different ya know.

I know. I like the women most the of time, and the guys can be great when your not romantically involved with them. But what the core of you what you guys stand for sometimes I just can't rap my saggie mind around it lol.

Ssg I wasn't trying to lecture you. I wasn't addressing anything specifically just the topic of Libras and emotional expression, especially of the verbal variety.

Moon eyes, I when Libra guys say that they have trouble expressing emotion it can be that they don't see a good argument for verbalizing what they are feeling at the particular time or with the particular person.

We actually express ourselves emotionally a lot but not in matter of fact words. we do it through our mannerisms and our reactions to things. Were not so much emotionally suppressive as we are verbally suppressive when it comes to emotions. We communicate how we feel through touch and ideas and in the verbal sense through metaphor and other detached manors.

For me specifically the reason I am not verbally direct or blunt with my emotions is because I don't place a lot of value on emotions in most situations. Why let everyone know your irritated, why act irritated? that is my problem not anyone elses is the way I think about those kinds of things. When it comes to the more personal one on one emotions I am a lot more verbally expressive but extremely rarely act in extremes.

Really energetic displays of positive emotion tends to make me uneasy. Really energetic displays of negative emotion makes me start to de humanize the other person for some reason.

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