Pls help!! So worried about my Libra bf!!!

Wake up.

My thoughts exactly! **shakes head**

At least if your going to trip over someone, meet them first. All the excuses of why you haven't met yet is enough red flags for an army!!!

Countries have been won by that amount of flags.

Assuming you did not get catfished (all signs point to you did- did you ever video chat with him?) this "if he sees me talking to a guy innocently he panics and freaks out and turns into this angry monster I don't like. But yet he does 1000 times worse.. I've caught him exchanging info with girls despite his idea to be exclusive!" is textbook cheater behavior. He said lots of pretty things to keep you hooked all while pursuing other girls with the same profile he used to pursue you, and all this after only a few months and before even meeting? He told you himself that he is not good enough for you...take his word for it.

First things first, ummmm yu guys haven't met yet, like everyone has said

If the man is loaded, there is no excuse why he can't go see you instead

Not to be mean here, but you in a relationship on your own here, but I'm telling ya, YOU JUST GOT LIBRA CHARMED

But the thing is you had so many RED flags I don't see how you guys were together or even dating if you haven't been on a date, those pretty words shouldn't have gotten you this far to get this angry, when you have really have done nothing but be pen pals

Posted by virlib01
But I can't accept the fact that I was played fr a fool there's just no way after all we have been through..

You need to.

And I gotta ask wtf your issue is that you fell into a situation like this so readily and so quickly? You go on about how crazy it all is, but that's truly what it is. Crazy. Not crazy funny or crazy unbelievable, but crazy psycho here.

He did his usual Libran bullshit and you fell for it like a sucker.

That, and online relationship bs leaves a ton of room for dishonesty. The fact that dude was so loaded makes one wonder why he wasn't off seeing you sooner than was planned?

I agree, you've been catfished and screwed around with. Theoretically, if he truly loved you, he wouldn't be doing questionable shit with other women. Irl or online, if a guy can't respect his relationship by following the implied boundaries of a normal relationship, there's something wrong.

The double standards and jealousy are also a big red flag.

I get that you're concerned, but Jesus Christ, wake up honey. None of this is right or normal.

I reread your last part and see that you skyped with him! Missed that. However, it still seems like he's been pretty dishonest with you.

LOL @ knife mark. Maybe he is involved in illegal activities if he is loaded but has no job. I have nothing more to say on this since you've never even met in person. To be this infactuated over a stranger is a bit crazy for me. All the best to you, dear.

Mental connections and relationship is as dangerous as physical one if gets out of hands. I am not here to tell you what to do (since you know it much better than anyone else).

Whatever your decisions are, dare to (initiate) it for the sake of your sanity.

Okay, I'ma libra/virgo cupser too (libra side) first thing I will not judge you for meeting someone online, because I met my Cancer online. And after a week of text and talking on the phone nonstop he insisted that he come visit me. (By the way..why were you going to him? Bad start, already.) Anyway, I told him he better not hop on that plane until he facetimes me, because I will leave his azz at the airport stranded if I don't get to see his face first. He laughed and we faced times 2 times before he came to visit.

Crazy thing is, he became more attached and jealous after his visit. I liked him too, but I'm not stupid, falling for someone takes time. He would do light flirting too, and I would make mention of it, but I wouldn't get pissed, and he would delete it right after I told him it bothered me. HOWEVER, when he felt like I was flirting omg it was like a tornado, he??d get so mad and pissed off I could feel the heat coming through the phone, then by him being Cancer he??d shut down and not talk to me, me being Libra I took that as a hint he needed time to cool off, and he would take it as I don't care. Lol. Crazy.

Then one day he was supposed to be coming back to visit again, and he told me his phone was going to be cut off and that money was tight for him because he —forgot?? to pay his rent, so I wouldn't hear from him for a little while. --__--. I??ve heard that when Cancer??s begin to fall they like to test the person they are falling for. Something deep in my gut told me he was full of it, and just wanted to see my reaction towards not being able to hear from him. Unfortunately I didn't give him the reaction he wanted. I felt if he knew something was wrong with his phone then he better damn well find another way to talk to me every day, if he wanted this long distance thing to work. I told him —alright then.?? And the next day around nighttime he texted me asking me why I hadn't texted him all day, I told him because he told me his phone would be off, why would I text a phone that was going to be off. He got all upset saying I could??ve at least checked. That's when I let him have it. I told him I don't play games, and don't test me. If you were going to let something as little as your phone stop you from talking to me, then I felt you couldn't be serious about me in the first place. Well that got him off of me, and things went back to normal.

Anyway, I'm sharing this story to tell you that this man did INDEED play you. However him being a Libra, I wouldn't be surprised if he popped back up with a damn good story and a bunch of damn good lies to answer every single question you??re going to throw at him. Yes they can be that damn grimy, especially when we know we are someone's soft spot, and you claim to love him so he knows you have a weakness for him and he WILL use it against you if it comes down to it. It's really up to you on whether you let him back to do this to you again, because I assure you if you let him back, he will dip out you again. Think about it, he has no real ties to you. You are miles away, you don't have his address, you don't have any mutual friends, all he has to do is change his number and start a new IG account, and poof! Babygirl you??re history and he gets a fresh start on his new conquest. If he was really into you, he would??ve told you an alternate number to dial him at, gave you a damn email address or something. He wouldn't have just vanished. The one time my Cancer??s phone did get cut off, he was calling me from his cousins phones and everything, then he downloaded an app that allowed him to text when he was in wi-fi zone just so he wouldn't have to go without speaking to me. I'm sorry but I agree with the others, wake up and smell the player card hun.

—I did think that it was illegal activities along with all the other scenarios that went on in my head. The fact is that we talked so much, exchanged so much info and stories and pics etc that I felt like I knew him. Also, I don't see how he could hide me if he had a wife or gf because my phone has been glued to my hand talking to him day and night for 2 months. Day and night. —

HAHA. Don't be na??ve dear girl. I dated a sagg and we talked day and night like this too, and it turned out he had an entire different life with another woman I never even knew about. I was with him on every holiday, every family function, Sunday dinner you name it, and STILL got played, and we lived in the same damn state.lol. Men can be clever when they are cheating and playing for keeps with both women, problem is they get comfortable and always drop the ball somewhere along the line.

—And my Libra side comes out a lot in love.. I'm a hopeless romantic and probably should've been more careful with my feelings but he pursued me so aggressively and romantically (being a libra charmer himself) that I fell for it deep.??

Yes, your Libra side is in full mode as far your feelings go. I'm just like that when I fall, but over the years I??ve learned this about myself, and have learned this is my biggest problem and often why I get hurt. SO??_I had to be a grown little woman and learn how to pace myself. Easier said than done, but if you get tired of getting your feelings hurt you??ll manage to make it happen.

—I know I've made mistakes and if I could just erase all my feelings right now that would be fantastic.. But I can't. And this is driving me crazy.??

Another famous Libra trait. Blaming yourself, when you are not in the wrong at ALL. So stop it. He should not have disappeared I don't care if there was a hurricane where he lives, if he knew it was coming like he knew his damn phone was off and found a way to tell you under your picture, then he sould??ve gave you an alternate means of contact before that sucker hit. I mean it, so make your peace with the fact that you got jipped, but be woman enough not to let it happen again. As far as him being in danger or something, I'm going to assume you believe in God and you??re going to have to pray that's not the case and leave it at the alter and in his hands, because there's really nothing else you can do.

Let's be real here

If the man really cared he would contact you by any means neccessary, let my libra not hear from me in like 1 hour, the man goes nuts

This libra clearly wanted to get rid of any form of Commuication with you, and I'm sure your phone is on, so there is no excuse for that period

And let's just face this, you guys have no real connection, so technically speaking he really doesn't owe you any explanation, you have to go by a libras actions

He doesn't want to be the bad guy so he is using the disappearing act on ya, instead of being a man about it, just dust yourself off and find a man that wants to meet you, want to take you out, wants to meet your family, not a Penpal

Disappearing is easier than all that, Libra??s don't like explaining why they don't want to be bothered, are no longer interested, or why they just need a break, so sometimes they may lie or just plain disappear. If he breaks up with you, or tells you he wants to do him for a while you??re going to have questions and he may think things will turn ugly. Libras hate confrontation of any kind. And you??d be surprised of the things they will do or lie about to keep the peace, peace for them anyway.

In his case you need to re-read what I said about him if he wanted to stay in contact with you he would??ve. And he didn't block you because you??d know he was full of it about his phone situation. Plus if he played you like he did, then there's the possibility that some other scorned girl might have reported his page and it got deleted that way. You do know that if someone reports your page, it automatically gets deleted right? So there's that option as well. But the one thing that should stick out like a sore thumb is the fact that he KNEW ahead of time that his phone was broke and if he made away to tell you it was broke, he should??ve made a way to contact you in a different way. There are plenty of other ways outside of a phone for people to communicate, so unless he's laid up in a hospital bed unconscious (heaven forbid), or in jail then there are no exceptions. Period.

Posted by TaurusNikki
Let's be real here

If the man really cared he would contact you by any means neccessary, let my libra not hear from me in like 1 hour, the man goes nuts

This libra clearly wanted to get rid of any form of Commuication with you, and I'm sure your phone is on, so there is no excuse for that period

And let's just face this, you guys have no real connection, so technically speaking he really doesn't owe you any explanation, you have to go by a libras actions

He doesn't want to be the bad guy so he is using the disappearing act on ya, instead of being a man about it, just dust yourself off and find a man that wants to meet you, want to take you out, wants to meet your family, not a Penpal

Hello ole friend. I think it's safe to say you are becoming a pro at dissecting us libras lol.

This is correct. Listen to her. I know it's harsh, and hard to swallow because you are stuck in your feelings, but when you are ready re-read our post, I mean REALLY read them, over and over if you have to. You are stuck in your emotions and they can run with you if you let them. Fact is, he dipped and you deserve better.

@ PinkLibra

Hey Ma, me missed ya, Still going strong with my libra Boyfriend, but still wanna knock him upside the head, lol

@Virlib01

I'm gonna tell you a known fact here about some male libras, and hear me well on this, You haven't gotten close to him enough for him to be completely honest with you yet, even if you get an explaination out of him, it won't be the truth, I'm sorry it just won't, it will be just enough to keep you on a string, and you are going to fall for it

Libras IMO express more through their actions, that's their truth, words can mean anything, but the action will speak loud and clear, libras know just enough pretty words to get out of a situation, I'm not even gonna lie about that, I have had my libra do it to me before I made him expect that he was wrong, but gues what I confronted him when I was ready, I just can't go up to a libra without facts otherwise they will get u again with those pretty words

You have to admit to yourself if you really want to know the truth, and I'm sure by now you really don't, because your hurt and the libra knows that, if he were to tell you He's married with kids or has a girlfriend, and you were the prefect getaway from all that how would you feel then, it won't feel good right? So he is doing what most libras do, they disappear until the smoke clears, and if he decides to come back, are you gonna forgive him, or make him work for it, and my guess is he is not ready to work at anything, he just wants a getaway plan

You want closure we get it. But he's refusing to give it to you, and personally I would add that to his list of offenses. As I stated before??_ him being a Libra he's a little unpredictable if you don't know them as well as you thought, and obviously if his behavior is a shock to you then you really didn't know him. A couple months is not enough time to get to know someone, my Cancer and I that I met online have been talking since October, and he's flown in to see me twice, and we've fallen out, made up the whole nine, but HE always comes after ME. Not the other way around. Even when he called himself being done and went 2 weeks without speaking to me, it hurt me a lot,but I still didn't chase. Maybe because I??ve had my feelings hurt enough to know that if a guy disappears, or runs out on you he's most likely doing you a favor, that you are unaware of. Plus I'm not into wasting my time. You either want me or you don't, there is no in between. Straight up.

It won't be easy to get over your Libra because he really painted the pretty picture of the two of you being together. Another thing you need to know about Libra??s is the fact that we change our mind like we change panties and boxers. So him changing his mind completely about you is not as farfetched as you think. I can be really into a guy, feeling him and everything, but he can do something that will turn me off completely and although I might be able to forgive it my reaction to him 9 times out of 10 will be 100% different, and if he continues to push on my change, I'm guilty and not above disappearing on him to get some air. Also I can tell you a libra does not like stuffy situations, or feeling suffocated, negative relationships, or bad vibe enviornments. It all goes against everything we love. So if the two of you argued a lot whether it was his fault or not, that alone can make him want to break free. Because I can tell you each time my Cancer and I got into it, I was thinking of ways to break free for good. But he would always catch me before I fell, but even now I'm weary of us as being together, and he keeps talking long term. After all the arguments I'm not sure now. I haven't followed him back on IG since our last falling out because he used to flip out so much about my page, and guys trying to talk to me. It was stressful.

And your wrong, I do know how much you are hurting. I??ve had 4 guys go cold turkey on me in my life. Three came back. To be hones

—Libras IMO express more through their actions, that's their truth, words can mean anything, but the action will speak loud and clear, libras know just enough pretty words to get out of a situation, I'm not even gonna lie about that, I have had my libra do it to me before I made him expect that he was wrong, but gues what I confronted him when I was ready, I just can't go up to a libra without facts otherwise they will get u again with those pretty words??

OMG this is me to a T. I hate to admit that ive done this in my past, I still do it. But chill on me I'm working on being more outspoken, I just cant shake that thirst for peace at all times. Peace for me anyway. Sound so selfish doesn't it, but that's why I tell people when Libra disappears you got two options, 1.Let them go and come back when they are ready. 2. Let them know you care, and just want to make sure they are alright, and then LET THEM GO.

Now the big deal is how to treat them when they come back. The best approach to a Libra that has disappeared is to be as cool as a breeze, and light as a feather. If you cant control your emotions enough to handle that approach, then you NOT let them back yet or not at all if you cant bring yourself to talk to them calmly and eventually let it go, because if you get to screaming, cursing, giving them attitude, asking a million one questions, suffocating them with all your built up emotions behind their absence---even though you have every right to, for some reason the Libra STILL thinks you need to chill out! And if you cant then we disappear again until you calm down some more. That's the way they/we are wired.

AGAIN, he is a Libra chances are he will pop back up, but then again chances are he won't. He's flighty like that. If he stayed closer, or had the two of you met at least once face to face, then I could see it happening, but because you??ve never actually met I would say the odds are leaning closer to him not showing up again. But Libra??s are known for their —here today, gone tomorrow?? personality, so you really can't hold your breath with them. To me this whole ordeal should be a huge red flag to you that he was all about words. That's it. If he truly meant the things he told you, he would never leave you like this without any explanation. When that first guy went cold turkey on me, it hurt, but the thing that got me through it is I started repeating to myself over and over —I didn't do SHIT!?? lol. I promise I would even say it out loud to myself every time I felt like blaming myself. I look in the mirror at my pretty face, and admire how cute I am, and how stupid he was. Then I??d say it again —I didn't do shit. I was good to him.?? Before I knew it was able to deal with it. I used the negative energy and reversed it to him, and what he did instead letting it fill me up and bring me down. I even use this tactic in other relationship because I know I can start to feel guilty if I really loved the person. I will start to question everything I said, everything I did, even my thoughts while I was them. It's crazy, and unhealthy. And you MUST remember, it's not your fault.

Maybe it's because I'm more Libra than you but I ABSOLUTELY HATE, being mad, sad or depressed for too long about anything. UGH, it's so damn draining. I do whatever I have to, to drag myself from my funk. I suggest you do whatever you have to do to stop blaming yourself. If you??re blaming yourself and he comes back, that leads me to believe you won't make him work hard to come back, and trust me he will see your weakness for him a mile away and use it against you to his advantage. You need to get stronger and fast and realize your worth. Stop thinking about what you think you lost. Because you DON??T know him. Not really. Hell you??ve never even seen his I.D to know if he even gave you his real name. Seriously girl, re-evaluate this thing. I seen my Cancer??s passport, and his I.D to make sure he wasn't lying to me about shit. I even peeped his address, I should??ve wrote it down now that I think about it. I know the city though, and I know

@Pinklibra

She's Not Ready yet

This libra is gonna put her in the cycle

Why so many women have such a hard time accepting the fact that the man is not interested anymore, maybe its an ego thing?. This is such a clean cut case - it can't be more clear. Its sad you are going through this, but maybe this is what you need, some time to sulk, cry, overthing, etc. But do not, and I mean do not chase or 'accidentally' show up at the place where he is. If he figures out, he will completely lose respect for you, and I am sure you don't want that to happen.

Posted by pinklibra
AGAIN, he is a Libra chances are he will pop back up, but then again chances are he won't. He's flighty like that. If he stayed closer, or had the two of you met at least once face to face, then I could see it happening, but because you??ve never actually met I would say the odds are leaning closer to him not showing up again. But Libra??s are known for their —here today, gone tomorrow?? personality, so you really can't hold your breath with them. To me this whole ordeal should be a huge red flag to you that he was all about words. That's it. If he truly meant the things he told you, he would never leave you like this without any explanation. When that first guy went cold turkey on me, it hurt, but the thing that got me through it is I started repeating to myself over and over —I didn't do SHIT!?? lol. I promise I would even say it out loud to myself every time I felt like blaming myself. I look in the mirror at my pretty face, and admire how cute I am, and how stupid he was. Then I??d say it again —I didn't do shit. I was good to him.?? Before I knew it was able to deal with it. I used the negative energy and reversed it to him, and what he did instead letting it fill me up and bring me down. I even use this tactic in other relationship because I know I can start to feel guilty if I really loved the person. I will start to question everything I said, everything I did, even my thoughts while I was them. It's crazy, and unhealthy. And you MUST remember, it's not your fault.

All of this! He could go either way if he's a libra man but if you'll take it once it'll happen again, especially when you're long-distance. No one can give you closure but you and the guy's actions are all the explanation about him you need. I understand feeling like you NEED answers to move on but trust me, you have them already. You might or might not have done or said the wrong things, but we're all humans and that doesn't mean what he's doing is not wrong. Accept that you are a human who makes mistakes and can't go back in time so there's no reason to stress over what you might've done wrong. Take it as a lesson learned!

Posted by virlib01
Hey guys so.. do you think he will come back and explain (even if it's bs) or will I never hear from him again? I don't want to have false hope and plan how I will speak to him when he does explain..

There is no good way to respond to bs anyway. If someone starts a lie, no matter what you say they're gonna keep on lying, trying to convince you and make you feel wrong, which will likely work if you already feel guilty.

Posted by WaterCup
LOL @ knife mark. Maybe he is involved in illegal activities if he is loaded but has no job. I have nothing more to say on this since you've never even met in person. To be this infactuated over a stranger is a bit crazy for me. All the best to you, dear.

Wow! That's one hell of a story! I just laughed my butt off!! There are women like you out there?!!! Is there something wrong with you that you entertained a virtual BF for two months? You were better off romancing Siri on your iPhone. At least Siri doesn't have double standards and does what you tell her to.

oops wrong thread, my comment was for another OP - the Taurus one lol, anyways carry on...

For what it's worth, this could very well be the typical libran bullshit: initially coming on too strong and then suddenly disappearing as they are trying to balance that rusted scale of theirs.

He may contact you after sometime with some shitty excuse like how he got busy helping his dad with business.

Wait they haven't met yet? LOL! Yeah no. Just move on. It's painfully obvious hes not willing to really do anything, next. Nothing should be THIS complicated. You meet quickly don't drag it on, don't say the L word, and when you meet it either is or it isn't.

Posted by Lib911
Why so many women have such a hard time accepting the fact that the man is not interested anymore, maybe its an ego thing?. This is such a clean cut case - it can't be more clear. Its sad you are going through this, but maybe this is what you need, some time to sulk, cry, overthing, etc. But do not, and I mean do not chase or 'accidentally' show up at the place where he is. If he figures out, he will completely lose respect for you, and I am sure you don't want that to happen.

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