Seeking a Libra perspective on relationship

Hello, I'm a Gemini woman who is hopelessly attracted to a Libra male. Everything I've read in astrology is we are actually a very good match. And when we are with each other, the chemistry is obvious. So, my problem is... We'll be playful, flirtatious, sexual, laugh a lot and have these amazing open conversations. (Like I've never felt happier.) AND then just... nothing. He puts up a wall which seems out of nowhere. Tells me he's afraid of screwing everything up. I try to be encouraging and give him space. Then within a few days to a week of silence he's back to himself. That meantime I feel so hurt, confused, and just spend my time thinking of him. Is this common Libra behavior? What does it mean? What should I do?

What should you do? You should stop relying on him to be the source of your own happiness.

Are you a couple or friends?

If you're friends then you are placing too many expectations on this guy. Create a full life for yourself first and it won't matter a bit if and when he flits in and out of it.

Posted by blackphase
It's because he IS gonna screw everything up.. LOL

Take it from a Gem who took a trip down Libra lane..

oh please don't say that even if it is true lol - I just met another Libra ...

This sounds exactly what my best friends boyfriend does to her. It always seems like he get cold for no apparent reason out of nowhere! And then after a couple days he's bad to normal like nothing ever happened. She never cares to inquire why tho, its like she hates it but she just goes with the flow. I'll be trolling this topic, because I really want to know! If nothing else, I at lease want to know how it can be prevented (for her sake)

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It's because he IS gonna screw everything up.. LOL

Take it from a Gem who took a trip down Libra lane..

oh please don't say that even if it is true lol - I just met another Libra ...

Another? You willing to take that risk again? Ohh you poor thing.

Never again for me. I see wayyyy too many similarities among these males, even on here.

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I had already given up that Scorpio guy that I was dating because I knew the chemistry wasn't ever going to be there. Then I meet this guy at home depot last weekend and we've talked an entire year since then. I thought he was a Sag because he physically reminded me of a Sag from some time ago. So when I first talked to him he said no he was a Libra and I sort of shouted "Libra" (and then a silent ?✨#@ $ % &^*) ... now I'm seeing the comparisons but this one is much more mature and respectful - I'm not seeing much if any indecisiveness and he is definitely not into casual at all which I am totally so sick of anyway - so we are just talking and talking and talking ... yes, ohh you poor thing ... I got to watch what I'm doing ...

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A Libra man who knows what he wants will not be flakey. Said that on here numerous times.

He's hurting you with his actions and while it could be unintentional, you should put yourself first and keep it moving.

I agree, at least so far - with this new Libra who is not flakey at all so far (and I did see that from the start with the last Libra) I see a huge difference - could it be time of the month they are born or just the way some are and some are not ?

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A Libra man who knows what he wants will not be flakey. Said that on here numerous times.

He's hurting you with his actions and while it could be unintentional, you should put yourself first and keep it moving.

I agree, at least so far - with this new Libra who is not flakey at all so far (and I did see that from the start with the last Libra) I see a huge difference - could it be time of the month they are born or just the way some are and some are not ?

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Good luck! My only advice is make him work for it to deserve all that you can give.

Yes, it's probably emotional maturity but it's also about teaching people your boundaries and how you expect to be treated.

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A Libra man who knows what he wants will not be flakey. Said that on here numerous times.

He's hurting you with his actions and while it could be unintentional, you should put yourself first and keep it moving.

I agree, at least so far - with this new Libra who is not flakey at all so far (and I did see that from the start with the last Libra) I see a huge difference - could it be time of the month they are born or just the way some are and some are not ?

I think it's emotional maturity. Your new Libra sounds more mature than the last one. If he's not into casual dating then youre definitely on the right path. I personally don't casually date but I've seen Libra males do that.

Watch out however for times when he would need some space. All Libras need that for us to clear our heads. If this " space" I'm talking about however takes days or weeks then walk away.

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yes, I know that part very well - my last Libra spent a year and 4 months talking to me and seeing just me - we were monogamous and blah blah - all was going so well - we never argued ... then he just up and left me in the dust and started dating other women - said he got scared, we got too close, it wasn't me at all it was him, blah blah, I live too far away, I'm tall, not sure what he wants, looking for something better, better for his situation (lots of drama at his house with 2 ex-wives and 5 kids and stepkids), I should start dating too, I don't ever want to be in a relationship, I want to be alone, I am single and can date who I want, but I might get up tomorrow morning and want to get married ... I've left him in the dust for the most part but it still hurts - that "I have no idea what I want crap"!

yes I am aware of that space thing with Libra and I don't mind because I need space too - sometimes - a lot ... I just want to know that they are coming back because I can't take much more of this crap ...

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A Libra man who knows what he wants will not be flakey. Said that on here numerous times.

He's hurting you with his actions and while it could be unintentional, you should put yourself first and keep it moving.

I agree, at least so far - with this new Libra who is not flakey at all so far (and I did see that from the start with the last Libra) I see a huge difference - could it be time of the month they are born or just the way some are and some are not ?

Good luck! My only advice is make him work for it to deserve all that you can give.

Yes, it's probably emotional maturity but it's also about teaching people your boundaries and how you expect to be treated.

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thanks, yes

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Posted by blackphase
It's because he IS gonna screw everything up.. LOL

Take it from a Gem who took a trip down Libra lane..

oh please don't say that even if it is true lol - I just met another Libra ...

Nice.

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thanks Tiz

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It's because he IS gonna screw everything up.. LOL

Take it from a Gem who took a trip down Libra lane..

oh please don't say that even if it is true lol - I just met another Libra ...

Another? You willing to take that risk again? Ohh you poor thing.

Never again for me. I see wayyyy too many similarities among these males, even on here.

I wish i could dislike your comment.. lol

"willing to take the same risk again"

definitely not poor thing, that's a strong thing imo.

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I'm always willing to try again - thanks - but I am more aware now of things so I hold back even more so I stay more balanced but don't get judgmental cause still - people are different as their placements are different ...

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It's because he IS gonna screw everything up.. LOL

Take it from a Gem who took a trip down Libra lane..

oh please don't say that even if it is true lol - I just met another Libra ...

Another? You willing to take that risk again? Ohh you poor thing.

Never again for me. I see wayyyy too many similarities among these males, even on here.

I had already given up that Scorpio guy that I was dating because I knew the chemistry wasn't ever going to be there. Then I meet this guy at home depot last weekend and we've talked an entire year since then. I thought he was a Sag because he physically reminded me of a Sag from some time ago. So when I first talked to him he said no he was a Libra and I sort of shouted "Libra" (and then a silent ?✨#@ $ % &^*) ... now I'm seeing the comparisons but this one is much more mature and respectful - I'm not seeing much if any indecisiveness and he is definitely not into casual at all which I am totally so sick of anyway - so we are just talking and talking and talking ... yes, ohh you poor thing ... I got to watch what I'm doing ...

Maturity does make a huge difference! Fingers crossed for you 🙂

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thank you - you know I will be very "aware" ...

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It's because he IS gonna screw everything up.. LOL

Take it from a Gem who took a trip down Libra lane..

oh please don't say that even if it is true lol - I just met another Libra ...

Another? You willing to take that risk again? Ohh you poor thing.

Never again for me. I see wayyyy too many similarities among these males, even on here.

I wish i could dislike your comment.. lol

"willing to take the same risk again"

definitely not poor thing, that's a strong thing imo.

Live and learn.. I am not down for making the same mistakes over and over again.

Sorry :/

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everybody is different - it's ok

@OP sorry for running the train off the tracks with my thang ... the Libra female and Gemini male married couple I know are in it for life - however, he is a DOG and cheats all the time on his Libra wife. They have many children and grandchildren together. Not sure if she knows but geez, I would know. He and I are friends but I always call him a knucklehead. Maybe she does know and that's just how it is between them. But they are great together!!!

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It's because he IS gonna screw everything up.. LOL

Take it from a Gem who took a trip down Libra lane..

oh please don't say that even if it is true lol - I just met another Libra ...

Another? You willing to take that risk again? Ohh you poor thing.

Never again for me. I see wayyyy too many similarities among these males, even on here.

I wish i could dislike your comment.. lol

"willing to take the same risk again"

definitely not poor thing, that's a strong thing imo.

Live and learn.. I am not down for making the same mistakes over and over again.

Sorry :/

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You had a really shit time of it. I think not giving libras a wide berth at this point would be madness. But then again, don't punish one person for anothers behaviour. Your sensible though. You'll work out the best outcome for you.

Take it from a Gem who took a trip down Libra lane..



oh please don't say that even if it is true lol - I just met another Libra ...



Another? You willing to take that risk again? Ohh you poor thing.

Never again for me. I see wayyyy too many similarities among these males, even on here.



I wish i could dislike your comment.. lol

"willing to take the same risk again"

definitely not poor thing, that's a strong thing imo.



Live and learn.. I am not down for making the same mistakes over and over again.

Sorry :/



everybody is different - it's ok



I completely agree. But when I start to see similarities.. I run! LOL



well yes, similarities of the "negative" nature - I would run too - but I haven't seen anything like that yet - of course I'm much more aware and watching - he's got similarities of the good nature and then some other good stuff I haven't seen from the other Leeb - so, so far it's all good - but it's only been a week of lots and lots of talking several times a day ...

I agree, at least so far - with this new Libra who is not flakey at all so far (and I did see that from the start with the last Libra) I see a huge difference - could it be time of the month they are born or just the way some are and some are not ?



It's sheer pot luck. No guarantees. Being an awesome Taurus helps the percentages significantly, however.



I know, there are never any guarantees are there ... I have to say I about threw up when he said he was a Libra but then I said - well - so ok, wait a moment, breathe and let's see where this one is at ...

His wife died 14 years ago and it's been 7 years since he's been with another woman. He's a bit of a loner because he's tired of the dating scene PSYCHE but said he feels so lucky to have met me and so happy to talk to me - he said I blow his hair back - said he's been all over the world and never met another woman like me ...of COURSE that could just be bull but he's not moving on me which is the most important thing - he's very respectful - we are just talking - and I ain't falling for anything ... and he's been over to my house 3 times already and bought me a bath mat for my bathtub cause I fell last Saturday

I completely agree. But when I start to see similarities.. I run! LOL



That IS repeating the same mistake over and again.



Huh? I haven't had to run yet.. I mean if I see the same things with someone new in the future. And could you blame me?

You know me better than that. I'm still half stuck to that piece of shit. I refused to leave him and I still try to help him.. I just don't want another relationship like I had..



of course you don't - we just can't repeat and repeat - we have to learn and grow and grow to learn ... I'm still a bit stuck to the old Leeb even though he's a piece of shit too - and I don't trust anyone or anything anymore so nobody is going to get to me and/or touch me until they show me they are in it for the long haul - I'm done with talk, show me - somehow ...

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I know, there are never any guarantees are there ... I have to say I about threw up when he said he was a Libra but then I said - well - so ok, wait a moment, breathe and let's see where this one is at ...

His wife died 14 years ago and it's been 7 years since he's been with another woman. He's a bit of a loner because he's tired of the dating scene PSYCHE but said he feels so lucky to have met me and so happy to talk to me - he said I blow his hair back - said he's been all over the world and never met another woman like me ...of COURSE that could just be bull but he's not moving on me which is the most important thing - he's very respectful - we are just talking - and I ain't falling for anything ... and he's been over to my house 3 times already and bought me a bath mat for my bathtub cause I fell last Saturday

Yeah Libras say a lot of things at first 🍹 No guarantees.



I am psyching you out lol

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hahahahaha - yes they sure do and then ...

I said psyche because I am tired of the dating scene too lol ...

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Posted by blackphase
It's because he IS gonna screw everything up.. LOL

Take it from a Gem who took a trip down Libra lane..

oh please don't say that even if it is true lol - I just met another Libra ...

i'm glad to hear this..

Go Venus or go home!

right? 😄

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that is soooo true - I'm finding the same sort of communication tempo - never argued with the last Libra I had and this one seems to be rolling on that same track - and I really think it's a Venus thing ... something about the way we respect each other's opinions and just want to enjoy being with that person and don't try to change them but just be with them ... awhhh

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Posted by blackphase
It's because he IS gonna screw everything up.. LOL

Take it from a Gem who took a trip down Libra lane..

oh please don't say that even if it is true lol - I just met another Libra ...

i'm glad to hear this..

Go Venus or go home!

right? 😄

that is soooo true - I'm finding the same sort of communication tempo - never argued with the last Libra I had and this one seems to be rolling on that same track - and I really think it's a Venus thing ... something about the way we respect each other's opinions and just want to enjoy being with that person and don't try to change them but just be with them ... awhhh

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There is some truth to this I think. If I didn't like the person and wanted to change them then I wouldn't spend any time with them. Liking them means not wanting them to change. You take them warts and all.

Libras do need space so they come and go. Usually doesn't take long to return to you if we care. Libras who enjoy being with you, keep coming back for more.

With that said a libra is not for everyone, especially those who need consistency.

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It's because he IS gonna screw everything up.. LOL

Take it from a Gem who took a trip down Libra lane..

oh please don't say that even if it is true lol - I just met another Libra ...

Another? You willing to take that risk again? Ohh you poor thing.

Never again for me. I see wayyyy too many similarities among these males, even on here.

I wish i could dislike your comment.. lol

"willing to take the same risk again"

definitely not poor thing, that's a strong thing imo.

Live and learn.. I am not down for making the same mistakes over and over again.

Sorry :/

dont need to be sorry....

I genuinely am though. I stick to not wanting to make the same mistakes over and over, but I sort of took you all down with my comment. So yes, I am sorry.

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Don't be hard on yourself. It's all part of the process. Every day you are getting closer to being on the other side of this. Just remember where you were a year ago. Congratulate yourself on your strength, tenacity and resilience.

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Thank you jeane. You have always been very kind and helpful. I am trying and I am growing stronger little by little.. I really am. But this cycle has not completely broken and that's my fault, I let it happen every time. It's hard because I know better.

You're welcome. I've always got faith in you because unlike 99% of the people who come here to seek a second opinion, you were always genuinely open to considering another point of view and that's the attitude will lead to your success.

We all make mistakes. We all could do better. The key is acknowledging that and by trying to be better. All we need to do is sincerely try. No one gets it right the first time. No one here is without sin. We're all just trying to feel our way through.

When you are ready, you will break the cycle for good. Until then, be kind to yourself. You are getting stronger. I see it. You're getting there.

Posted by jeane
What should you do? You should stop relying on him to be the source of your own happiness.

Are you a couple or friends?

If you're friends then you are placing too many expectations on this guy. Create a full life for yourself first and it won't matter a bit if and when he flits in and out of it.

Easier said than done, but I always like your posts.

Posted by blackphase
It's because he IS gonna screw everything up.. LOL

Take it from a Gem who took a trip down Libra lane..

Ah come on was it really that bad? Yeah that is exactly why we back up... to not fuck it up.

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Hello, I'm a Gemini woman who is hopelessly attracted to a Libra male. Everything I've read in astrology is we are actually a very good match. And when we are with each other, the chemistry is obvious. So, my problem is... We'll be playful, flirtatious, sexual, laugh a lot and have these amazing open conversations. (Like I've never felt happier.) AND then just... nothing. He puts up a wall which seems out of nowhere. Tells me he's afraid of screwing everything up. I try to be encouraging and give him space. Then within a few days to a week of silence he's back to himself. That meantime I feel so hurt, confused, and just spend my time thinking of him. Is this common Libra behavior? What does it mean? What should I do?

I've never had this problem with Libra males. Isn't that odd? Like I get so many Libra men who come after me and are persistent and consistent. They never disappeared on me, they actually chased after me. It was I who would go MIA for a while. Or maybe I never noticed because I never really cared? Either way, I think you're being really 'clingy'. The libra must be sensing it so he's creating distance.

So it depends on the emotional maturity and whether or not the guy takes you seriously

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Aquariusbeauty - A Libra pursuing you means nothing. We do it for pure entertainment, sport and a distraction. As cardinals some of us - like a chase, a challenge, not necessarily the person. I guarantee you, while you were MIA, they were pursuing and chasing 5 other females. It means nothing! But since you didn't care, you can't really give advice to the OP because she loves him. Most of us can talk a big and bad game when we don't CARE about the guys pursuing us.

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Posted by jeane
What should you do? You should stop relying on him to be the source of your own happiness.

Are you a couple or friends?

If you're friends then you are placing too many expectations on this guy. Create a full life for yourself first and it won't matter a bit if and when he flits in and out of it.

Easier said than done, but I always like your posts.

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Aww, shucks - thanks.

Agreed. It is much easier to sit on the sidelines and five proclamations but I do strongly believe that our interactions with people can force us to grow, learn the lessons we needed to learn and make us better, stronger.

I know in my life I look back and see the point of all the struggles. I'm grateful for the pain because I walked through and it made me tough in the (I hope) right places.

This guy could be her lesson. Once she decides that she won't leave herself open to be hurt by a guy who hasn't shown he can be trusted with her feelings, then everyone after will know they have to reach her standards before she puts her feelings in their hands.

I'm afraid life gives us callouses. Sometimes it's on our hands and other times on our hearts.

Posted by HeatherisaGem
Hello, I'm a Gemini woman who is hopelessly attracted to a Libra male. Everything I've read in astrology is we are actually a very good match. And when we are with each other, the chemistry is obvious. So, my problem is... We'll be playful, flirtatious, sexual, laugh a lot and have these amazing open conversations. (Like I've never felt happier.) AND then just... nothing. He puts up a wall which seems out of nowhere. Tells me he's afraid of screwing everything up. I try to be encouraging and give him space. Then within a few days to a week of silence he's back to himself. That meantime I feel so hurt, confused, and just spend my time thinking of him. Is this common Libra behavior? What does it mean? What should I do?

OP, I do the same thing when I really like someone especially Venus in Gemini - I have a Venus in Libra... since we are speaking about romantic compatibility Venus-Mars combo are very important, You sound like a very stable Gemini, I don't think you are being clingy and needy at all; and when you have that connection to someone it's natural to be perplexed when they back up. Do you have earth sign in your Venus? it sounds to me that he is getting really serious about you and it's overwhelming. When I really like someone I back up and take it slower than with others. Be patient he may not be where you are yet. But seriously, when I have met a Gemini- with a lot of earth in their chart with Venus in Gemini I think about "forever" almost immediately and I take it really slow willing to be faithful as I feel a soul mate connection. You can Inbox me if you wish, but I am really for this connection, and yes some of it can be immaturity and opportunity. They call us the flakes of the zodiac yet we receive constant nonstop attention from both sexes. An enormous amount of attention but in my personal experience no one seems to move me like Venus in Gemini.

Posted by blackphase
It's because he IS gonna screw everything up.. LOL

Take it from a Gem who took a trip down Libra lane..

Sounds about right. This sounds like a Libra who may have something else going on somewhere but is struggling to stay away from you somehow hence the to and fro.

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I completely agree. But when I start to see similarities.. I run! LOL

That IS repeating the same mistake over and again.

Huh? I haven't had to run yet.. I mean if I see the same things with someone new in the future. And could you blame me?

You know me better than that. I'm still half stuck to that piece of shit. I refused to leave him and I still try to help him.. I just don't want another relationship like I had..



of course you don't - we just can't repeat and repeat - we have to learn and grow and grow to learn ... I'm still a bit stuck to the old Leeb even though he's a piece of shit too - and I don't trust anyone or anything anymore so nobody is going to get to me and/or touch me until they show me they are in it for the long haul - I'm done with talk, show me - somehow ...



I feel the same. But I am still making the same mistakes and running in circles, so i guess I am just frustrated with myself and it makes my opinion biased right now. Sorry for raining on the parade 😢



it's ok - JC I'm 58 1/2 and still looking for love in all the wrong places ... there really are not many good men out there at this age - or any age at all - people are shallow and shi tty ... I guess you have to get to the point that alone is better than lowering yourself to their standards, respecting yourself and not settling for less than the right things ... it's not impossible but I know its very difficult because we all just want to be loved ...

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I know, there are never any guarantees are there ... I have to say I about threw up when he said he was a Libra but then I said - well - so ok, wait a moment, breathe and let's see where this one is at ...

His wife died 14 years ago and it's been 7 years since he's been with another woman. He's a bit of a loner because he's tired of the dating scene PSYCHE but said he feels so lucky to have met me and so happy to talk to me - he said I blow his hair back - said he's been all over the world and never met another woman like me ...of COURSE that could just be bull but he's not moving on me which is the most important thing - he's very respectful - we are just talking - and I ain't falling for anything ... and he's been over to my house 3 times already and bought me a bath mat for my bathtub cause I fell last Saturday

Yeah Libras say a lot of things at first 🍹 No guarantees.



I am psyching you out lol

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so what are you really saying Tiz - that Libra says what they need to say to get their foot in the door ? lol - I think men and women think they need to do that which is the unfortunate thing because it doesn't work that way - it takes time to really get to know someone

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I know, there are never any guarantees are there ... I have to say I about threw up when he said he was a Libra but then I said - well - so ok, wait a moment, breathe and let's see where this one is at ...

His wife died 14 years ago and it's been 7 years since he's been with another woman. He's a bit of a loner because he's tired of the dating scene PSYCHE but said he feels so lucky to have met me and so happy to talk to me - he said I blow his hair back - said he's been all over the world and never met another woman like me ...of COURSE that could just be bull but he's not moving on me which is the most important thing - he's very respectful - we are just talking - and I ain't falling for anything ... and he's been over to my house 3 times already and bought me a bath mat for my bathtub cause I fell last Saturday

Yeah Libras say a lot of things at first 🍹 No guarantees.



I am psyching you out lol

so what are you really saying Tiz - that Libra says what they need to say to get their foot in the door ? lol - I think men and women think they need to do that which is the unfortunate thing because it doesn't work that way - it takes time to really get to know someone

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I don't know if the intention is to get their foot in the door. I think it is more that libs, like gems, like to flap their gums a lot. It's shooting the shit.

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I know, there are never any guarantees are there ... I have to say I about threw up when he said he was a Libra but then I said - well - so ok, wait a moment, breathe and let's see where this one is at ...

His wife died 14 years ago and it's been 7 years since he's been with another woman. He's a bit of a loner because he's tired of the dating scene PSYCHE but said he feels so lucky to have met me and so happy to talk to me - he said I blow his hair back - said he's been all over the world and never met another woman like me ...of COURSE that could just be bull but he's not moving on me which is the most important thing - he's very respectful - we are just talking - and I ain't falling for anything ... and he's been over to my house 3 times already and bought me a bath mat for my bathtub cause I fell last Saturday

Yeah Libras say a lot of things at first 🍹 No guarantees.



I am psyching you out lol

so what are you really saying Tiz - that Libra says what they need to say to get their foot in the door ? lol - I think men and women think they need to do that which is the unfortunate thing because it doesn't work that way - it takes time to really get to know someone

I don't know if the intention is to get their foot in the door. I think it is more that libs, like gems, like to flap their gums a lot. It's shooting the shit.

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lol - yes I did notice that - lol ... one of the similarities of the 2 Libra men - because I've never been around a male Libra before of that I was actually aware of

Has the OP even bothered to respond? She is doing the exact same thing she complains about the Libra doing to her. How rude! You ask us a question, you have some Dxpnet Libra giants answering your rude ass and you don't even bother to acknowledge the responses, say thank you or nothing. How rude!