Self reflecting libra

Posted by black773

Libras and their damn “I’m single and can’t face conflict” bullshit.

Wah!! Wah!! Wah!!

Posted by black773

Libras and their damn “I’m single and can’t face conflict” bullshit.

Wah!! Wah!! Wah!!

Posted by DonnaLibra

I feel you OP. I'm going through the same thing regarding friends. I cut off 2 friends last year because of negativity and I just didn't want to listen anymore. You know what? It's been a little over a year and I don't miss them one bit. I agree that all Libra's seem to be pulling back. I read somewhere that 2018 and 2019 are going to be bad years for Libras.

Posted by BalancedBean

Hello fellow Libras,

I’m having a rough day and I want to know if any of you have shared the experience I’m about to detail below. If so, what worked for you?

I’m single and that’s my least favorite dating status but it has me wondering why a good portion of my relationships are in shambles.

I don’t like a lot of my friends and I’m partly to blame. When a friend upsets me, I used to try to keep the peace, then when they aren’t around say mean things about them. I thought I was just harmlessly venting but people talk and people get hurt. I no longer do this but it has made me into a depressed loner and ruined trust with people.

I don’t socialize the way I used to because I think of all the negative “what ifs” plus I don’t trust myself to avoid gossiping if i get upset. but I’m lonely. I want a few close friends and a relationship but I don’t want to charm them. I want to be myself but I’m sad and negative, who will want to befriend me without my charm.

I also turn into this person that’s not me in a group setting and it’s almost impossible to pull out of. Someone told me I’m either passive or aggressive. Which is exhausting because I don’t know how to process fast enough to communicate effectively without being mean or holding a grudge. I’m in therapy but I’m wondering if anyone has any insight or experience with this.

Thanks. My therapist thinks I have ASD but I just think I smoke a lot of weed, who knows.

Posted by DonnaLibra

I feel you OP. I'm going through the same thing regarding friends. I cut off 2 friends last year because of negativity and I just didn't want to listen anymore. You know what? It's been a little over a year and I don't miss them one bit. I agree that all Libra's seem to be pulling back. I read somewhere that 2018 and 2019 are going to be bad years for Libras.

Posted by tctaap

Posted by DonnaLibra

I feel you OP. I'm going through the same thing regarding friends. I cut off 2 friends last year because of negativity and I just didn't want to listen anymore. You know what? It's been a little over a year and I don't miss them one bit. I agree that all Libra's seem to be pulling back. I read somewhere that 2018 and 2019 are going to be bad years for Libras.

again, this strikes me strangely - I mean if they were once friends, what makes them all of a sudden be negative to you ? I don't get this. And I wonder this because of a Libra friends I have who did this to me but I think it was her, not me ... if they were friends, I'm not sure why you couldn't work things out - could you explain a bit more ?

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Posted by tctaap

Posted by BalancedBean

Hello fellow Libras,

I’m having a rough day and I want to know if any of you have shared the experience I’m about to detail below. If so, what worked for you?

I’m single and that’s my least favorite dating status but it has me wondering why a good portion of my relationships are in shambles.

I don’t like a lot of my friends and I’m partly to blame. When a friend upsets me, I used to try to keep the peace, then when they aren’t around say mean things about them. I thought I was just harmlessly venting but people talk and people get hurt. I no longer do this but it has made me into a depressed loner and ruined trust with people.

I don’t socialize the way I used to because I think of all the negative “what ifs” plus I don’t trust myself to avoid gossiping if i get upset. but I’m lonely. I want a few close friends and a relationship but I don’t want to charm them. I want to be myself but I’m sad and negative, who will want to befriend me without my charm.

I also turn into this person that’s not me in a group setting and it’s almost impossible to pull out of. Someone told me I’m either passive or aggressive. Which is exhausting because I don’t know how to process fast enough to communicate effectively without being mean or holding a grudge. I’m in therapy but I’m wondering if anyone has any insight or experience with this.

Thanks. My therapist thinks I have ASD but I just think I smoke a lot of weed, who knows.

so; after a friend upsets you - do you try to determine what actually transpired ? I ask because an old Libra friend of mine used to be great for years, then all of a sudden said I was being mean to her ? which I wasn't any different than I had ever been before but I think she changed and was taking everything personally during that period of time. I had to end the friendship because of that

of course she would still blame me because she's in denial of doing anything wrong; I'm just curious how you actually see things with your previous friendships after some time passes

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Posted by tctaap

Posted by BalancedBean

Hello fellow Libras,

I’m having a rough day and I want to know if any of you have shared the experience I’m about to detail below. If so, what worked for you?

I’m single and that’s my least favorite dating status but it has me wondering why a good portion of my relationships are in shambles.

I don’t like a lot of my friends and I’m partly to blame. When a friend upsets me, I used to try to keep the peace, then when they aren’t around say mean things about them. I thought I was just harmlessly venting but people talk and people get hurt. I no longer do this but it has made me into a depressed loner and ruined trust with people.

I don’t socialize the way I used to because I think of all the negative “what ifs” plus I don’t trust myself to avoid gossiping if i get upset. but I’m lonely. I want a few close friends and a relationship but I don’t want to charm them. I want to be myself but I’m sad and negative, who will want to befriend me without my charm.

I also turn into this person that’s not me in a group setting and it’s almost impossible to pull out of. Someone told me I’m either passive or aggressive. Which is exhausting because I don’t know how to process fast enough to communicate effectively without being mean or holding a grudge. I’m in therapy but I’m wondering if anyone has any insight or experience with this.

Thanks. My therapist thinks I have ASD but I just think I smoke a lot of weed, who knows.

so; after a friend upsets you - do you try to determine what actually transpired ? I ask because an old Libra friend of mine used to be great for years, then all of a sudden said I was being mean to her ? which I wasn't any different than I had ever been before but I think she changed and was taking everything personally during that period of time. I had to end the friendship because of that

of course she would still blame me because she's in denial of doing anything wrong; I'm just curious how you actually see things with your previous friendships after some time passes

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Posted by BalancedBean

Posted by tctaap

Posted by BalancedBean

Hello fellow Libras,

I’m having a rough day and I want to know if any of you have shared the experience I’m about to detail below. If so, what worked for you?

I’m single and that’s my least favorite dating status but it has me wondering why a good portion of my relationships are in shambles.

I don’t like a lot of my friends and I’m partly to blame. When a friend upsets me, I used to try to keep the peace, then when they aren’t around say mean things about them. I thought I was just harmlessly venting but people talk and people get hurt. I no longer do this but it has made me into a depressed loner and ruined trust with people.

I don’t socialize the way I used to because I think of all the negative “what ifs” plus I don’t trust myself to avoid gossiping if i get upset. but I’m lonely. I want a few close friends and a relationship but I don’t want to charm them. I want to be myself but I’m sad and negative, who will want to befriend me without my charm.

I also turn into this person that’s not me in a group setting and it’s almost impossible to pull out of. Someone told me I’m either passive or aggressive. Which is exhausting because I don’t know how to process fast enough to communicate effectively without being mean or holding a grudge. I’m in therapy but I’m wondering if anyone has any insight or experience with this.

Thanks. My therapist thinks I have ASD but I just think I smoke a lot of weed, who knows.

so; after a friend upsets you - do you try to determine what actually transpired ? I ask because an old Libra friend of mine used to be great for years, then all of a sudden said I was being mean to her ? which I wasn't any different than I had ever been before but I think she changed and was taking everything personally during that period of time. I had to end the friendship because of that

of course she would still blame me because she's in denial of doing anything wrong; I'm just curious how you actually see things with your previous friendships after some time passes

Also, it sounds like both of you are in denial

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Posted by tiziani

Posted by jeane

Posted by DonnaLibra

I feel you OP. I'm going through the same thing regarding friends. I cut off 2 friends last year because of negativity and I just didn't want to listen anymore. You know what? It's been a little over a year and I don't miss them one bit. I agree that all Libra's seem to be pulling back. I read somewhere that 2018 and 2019 are going to be bad years for Libras.

i don't know. i've been having a great last few years. after being stuck for a while (probably 3-4 years), things have been moving along quite nicely in all aspects of my life - career, financially, home life, matters of lurve. if anything has been problematic it's that i have recently been tussling over plans for the future but in the last week i have managed to resolve it.

This is great to read.

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Posted by tiziani

Posted by jeane

Posted by tiziani

Posted by jeane

Posted by DonnaLibra

I feel you OP. I'm going through the same thing regarding friends. I cut off 2 friends last year because of negativity and I just didn't want to listen anymore. You know what? It's been a little over a year and I don't miss them one bit. I agree that all Libra's seem to be pulling back. I read somewhere that 2018 and 2019 are going to be bad years for Libras.

i don't know. i've been having a great last few years. after being stuck for a while (probably 3-4 years), things have been moving along quite nicely in all aspects of my life - career, financially, home life, matters of lurve. if anything has been problematic it's that i have recently been tussling over plans for the future but in the last week i have managed to resolve it.

This is great to read.

aw, thanks tiz. yeah, i feel i'm on the ascent at the moment.

health is good - i'm the lightest and fittest i have been for decades

career - earning more money than ever before and had two promotions in the last year and getting a third in the next month

love - the bull and i have turned a real corner for us and are shaking off a lot of baggage that was holding us back.

financial - new car soon, new pet shortly, house renovations underway

socially - friends from all corners are in abundance. i'm not lacking in invitations.

family - finally i have cut the decay out of my life and not looking back

to be honest, as a chronic complainer, i have absolutely nothing to whinge about at the moment. all of this has taken place over the last 18 months.

(it's all going to turn to shit again in a month isn't it?)

If it does turn to shit then I lean on my favourite line from Edge of Tomorrow: "We've been through worse."

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