shitty libra

Usually i love being Libra, i mean we are actually awesome 🙂 But recently im starting to fucking annoy myself. When i was younger (20's) i could have a new man every week, get really intense but move on without much effort. Now i meet a guy, we arent even bf/gf and i feel myself like actually mourning when it doesnt go to plan. And i keep chasing them up like a loser type that i cant stand, Grrr, isnt it that you should be older and wiser instead of acting like a 16 yar old child?? Sucky libra right now 😢 Dang!

Well either you should get used to getting older or karma is paying you a visit. But hey maybe I just see the world differently

my age isnt an issue for me..and i dont think its Karma, some BAD shit has happened to me over the years. I think the problem is that there is so little respect for each other these days.Its changed soooo much in the 5 years ive been out of the dating pool 😢 People just dont give a shit, and just think about themselves.

Posted by NotYourAverageAquarius
Well either you should get used to getting older or karma is paying you a visit. But hey maybe I just see the world differently

I'd go with karma and life coming full circle. All those guys you dated in your 20s...now you're in their shoes.

Sola, how is chasing someone you love and care for make you a loser? Thus suggest that you think it makes you weak when in fact it makes you stronger to actually go against the grain...and your ego. You basically responded to your own assessment in your OP. Now that you're in your 30s, the tug of true love and partnership is tugging at you. The problem is, you're still approaching it with the same underlying attitude and principles even though you haven't dated in five years. True, people are selfish. But they are no more selfish than they were 500 years ago. We're simply more connected now and everything is out in the open. It starts with you, not them. Change you. If you truly want love, you're gonna have to let go of self in order to get it.

Posted by Sola
When i was younger (20's) i could have a new man every week, get really intense but move on without much effort.

LOL! Wheren't you whining about how the Cancer man betrayed you....lol...

Posted by Sola
my age isnt an issue for me..and i dont think its Karma, some BAD shit has happened to me over the years. I think the problem is that there is so little respect for each other these days.Its changed soooo much in the 5 years ive been out of the dating pool 😢 People just dont give a shit, and just think about themselves.

This IS karma. You basically had the same mindset before when you were in your early 20s. Now it's coming back to bite you.

Posted by rockyroadicecream
This IS karma. You basically had the same mindset before when you were in your early 20s. Now it's coming back to bite you.

LOL!!! And you said on that thread I set her up!!!!

Sola just try and be your normal balenced sparkling Libra self and some lucky guy will take notice.It's a mean world out there and sometimes aint always fun being Libra . This I know 🙂

Posted by incandescentcancer

Posted by rockyroadicecream
This IS karma. You basically had the same mindset before when you were in your early 20s. Now it's coming back to bite you.

LOL!!! And you said on that thread I set her up!!!!

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I have no idea wtf you're talking about. I don't pay attention to names all that much unless they're a repeat offender.

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Posted by rockyroadicecream
This IS karma. You basically had the same mindset before when you were in your early 20s. Now it's coming back to bite you.

LOL!!! And you said on that thread I set her up!!!!

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Now I know what you're referring to.

And you DID help set her up. Condoning something that equals instant disaster is shitty advice. The end. You have a penis, so I wouldn't expect you to get the female outlook to it.

However, I did skim over a few of her past posts.

This bitch is a lost cause, I swear. She's gotta be dealing with some crazy Saturn return bs or something. She's dallying around like she's STILL 20 and then is baffled when shit isn't going her way?

YOU'RE 30. Start acting like it! You sound like an out of control teen, banging any guy she finds and crying when he won't stick around. Maybe if you changed your approach to men, they'd start treating you better/want to keep you around for more than just a bang buddy.

I know I'm being rather short in my response, but god damn. I've seen this SO much with Libran women. Some of you just do not see the entire picture and will NEVER get it until you grow up and look beyond your "me" bubble. Baffles the hell out of me.

Basic rules for females-

1. Do not put out right away. It puts you in an undesirable category. One that will put you low on the respect scale, and you will be nothing but "fuck buddy #58954" in his phone.
2. KNOW WHAT THE HELL YOU WANT BEFORE YOU PROCEED FURTHER.
3. Don't be a goddamned cock tease.

You demand respect yet you show no actions that prove that's how you want to be treated.

If you are right for someone doenst matter if you sleep with them on the first second or 500th date. Why should you wait to have sex if you like someone to me thats just playing games?! I slept with my.man on the first date and he I'm guessing he respects me since I didnt get labled as a fuck buddy he married me instead lol.

I think Libras (myself included) tend to be able to just walk away from people who are no longer of interest. I have done it a lot of times. But if someone dares walk away from them before they are done they are all folorn even though given it a week more they would have been fine and walked away from them no issue.

I love being a Libra but have always hated the "in love with being in love" thing. Before I always had the "dont chase them, replace them" attitude as I also used to think it was pathetic but I learnt that if you really want something go and chase the hell out of it! So glad I am out of the dating game 🙂

I think Sola is more thoughtless than having any intention to harm.. most people project on her.. I don't think she offered alot of details to form a big picture.

everything spica and librasun said. I mean, ok i slept with CAncer man on 2nd date, havent slept with taurus man, so as has already been mentioned, its not about the timing of the sex. I just dont get why guys come on to you full throttle and think its ok to disappear. I mean i can take a knockback, im not a baby, so hit me with that instead of a brick wall.

And just to clear it up, in my 20?? i didnt pretend to love anyone, everything was just what it was..a good time. The ones i did love i stayed with through 5 and 7 years, and all the shit that went with it. So its not that im incapable or a cock tease. If im interested then take the hint dumbass..why all the d.r.a.m.a??

Posted by Sola
I mean i can take a knockback, im not a baby, so hit me with that instead of a brick wall.

You're grown up enough to know that people are never going to give it to you straight up. Most people lack the courage to be honest.

Posted by libra sun
If you are right for someone doenst matter if you sleep with them on the first second or 500th date. Why should you wait to have sex if you like someone to me thats just playing games?! I slept with my.man on the first date and he I'm guessing he respects me since I didnt get labled as a fuck buddy he married me instead lol.

You're the exception, not the rule.

HOW many women come here and have the same exact sob story about putting out asap and the guy ditching her/changing into a jerk? I've seen it so many times here, irl, and have experienced it.

I think it's total bs that women can't approach sex like men do and are risking it when they put out when they feel like it.

However, it's unfortunate that so many guys pull this shit, hence it being a basic rule of dating for women. If one wants to put out asap, so be it. But be prepared for the possibility of him running the hell away/changing once he's gotten ass from you. That's what her other thread was about.

Posted by incandescentcancer

You're grown up enough to know that people are never going to give it to you straight up. Most people lack the courage to be honest.

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This. I think the disposition that Librans have leave them rather naive with others. They see the good, want to be friends/friendly, and can't see the bs until too late.

Posted by Sola
everything spica and librasun said. I mean, ok i slept with CAncer man on 2nd date, havent slept with taurus man, so as has already been mentioned, its not about the timing of the sex. I just dont get why guys come on to you full throttle and think its ok to disappear. I mean i can take a knockback, im not a baby, so hit me with that instead of a brick wall.

And just to clear it up, in my 20?? i didnt pretend to love anyone, everything was just what it was..a good time. The ones i did love i stayed with through 5 and 7 years, and all the shit that went with it. So its not that im incapable or a cock tease. If im interested then take the hint dumbass..why all the d.r.a.m.a??

Considering you haven't been dating in such a long while, maybe you're inadvertently sending off the wrong vibe without realizing it?

Second, I'm learning that some guys in their 30's tend to freak out and go through this really immature phase. Like they can't come to terms that they're no longer in their 20's and start behaving just as badly as when they were in their earlier 20's. It's a trend I've noticed with quite a few friends that I have in this age range. It's like they revert and start going around using chicks (though usually younger ones). It can also be linked to them becoming "jaded" from all their dating woes in their 20s. Also, maybe because you're older and not some idiot 20 year old, they feel intimidated and run away...?

I know it's hard to wrap your head around, but sometimes guys are just dicks and you gotta practice self control and common sense here. I can relate to this tidbit of yours, as can many women. Why do guys chase and then disappear? Because they're cowards. Because they have no scruples, especially when thinking with that penis of theirs. When they let it do all the decision making, it leads to bs that makes ZERO sense.

That said, why would you want such a guy? It helps when you start asking yourself that when this happens. "Well if it takes so little for him to take off, why the hell would I want to hang on to someone like that??"

PS- apologies for the "lost cause" bit, but come on, chica. Get a grip and wake up to what's really going on. You can't go around being this naive about everything and not realizing that consequences come with actions. Consider some of these situations as a learning experience.

Posted by rockyroadicecream

HOW many women come here and have the same exact sob story about putting out asap and the guy ditching her/changing into a jerk? I've seen it so many times here, irl, and have experienced it.

I think it's total bs that women can't approach sex like men do and are risking it when they put out when they feel like it.

However, it's unfortunate that so many guys pull this shit, hence it being a basic rule of dating for women. If one wants to put out asap, so be it. But be prepared for the possibility of him running the hell away/changing once he's gotten ass from you. That's what her other thread was about.

You repeat this sentiment quite often, personally I don't agree with it entirely but both of us are grown up enough to accept different points of view. However I am curious to know a couple of things, how long would you make a guy wait? and what is your way or evaluation for knowing someone is decent?

I can usually tell if a person is decent or a dick in about 5-10 mts of initial conversation. How long does it take you?

@rockyroadicecream. I personally dont see and never have seen a link between putting out on a first date and a relationship not working out. I sleep with who I want when I want. If it works out great if not oh well either way its no loss. The people who lose out are the ones who only put out to try and get the guy to commit because that doesnt work.

Posted by rockyroadicecream

I know it's hard to wrap your head around, but sometimes guys are just dicks and you gotta practice self control and common sense here. I can relate to this tidbit of yours, as can many women. Why do guys chase and then disappear? Because they're cowards. Because they have no scruples, especially when thinking with that penis of theirs. When they let it do all the decision making, it leads to bs that makes ZERO sense.

Don't you think this is extreme passive aggression? You're making a generalized statement about 3.5 billion men. Would you like it if I called all women gold diggers on the basis of the bad behaviour of a few?

Posted by libra sun
@rockyroadicecream. I personally dont see and never have seen a link between putting out on a first date and a relationship not working out. I sleep with who I want when I want. If it works out great if not oh well either way its no loss. The people who lose out are the ones who only put out to try and get the guy to commit because that doesnt work.

+1. This is the right way to go. Not all sexual encounters have to lead to a relationship. Be smart, use protection and do what you want. I don't understand the need for all these stupid games.

Posted by libra sun
@rockyroadicecream. I personally dont see and never have seen a link between putting out on a first date and a relationship not working out. I sleep with who I want when I want. If it works out great if not oh well either way its no loss. The people who lose out are the ones who only put out to try and get the guy to commit because that doesnt work.

I think you wouldn't because of how you approach it with that airy mindset there.

Posted by incandescentcancer

Don't you think this is extreme passive aggression? You're making a generalized statement about 3.5 billion men. Would you like it if I called all women gold diggers on the basis of the bad behaviour of a few?

And you're assuming I'm referring to ALL men. Did you not see earlier in my post where I said "some" men? I know not all are like this.

Why don't you attempt to not get so butthurt and assume ALL when that's not the implication? kthx. That is the number one response from guys. Are you really that insecure that you have to assume something said applies to all and you? Come on.

Posted by incandescentcancer

You repeat this sentiment quite often, personally I don't agree with it entirely but both of us are grown up enough to accept different points of view.

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You aren't female! I wouldn't expect you to understand! Of course you have a different outlook. You're a freaking male. You do not have to worry about the same things that most women have to concern them about. Your argument is ridiculous and that was proven several times over in that other thread.

You need to realize that OUR SOCIETY has not gotten to the point where women can freely do what they want as you're implying. Really, what planet do you live on? Are you not familiar with the paradox that if women approach relationships/sex as many men do that they're labeled "whore/slut?" and with men it's perfectly okay? THAT is what I'm referring to. And until our society decides to outgrow that bullshit ideal, then yes, women ARE going to have to pay attention to how they handle themselves in regard to dating and sex.

There's a huge difference between what you THINK and what the reality is. Head out of clouds pls.

Posted by rockyroadicecream And you're assuming I'm referring to ALL men. Did you not see earlier in my post where I said "some" men? I know not all are like this.

Why don't you attempt to not get so butthurt and assume ALL when that's not the implication? kthx. That is the number one response from guys. Are you really that insecure that you have to assume something said applies to all and you? Come on.

No you said "sometimes" men not "some" men, that's why I read it the way I did. Anyway thanks for the clarification on that and no there is no reason for me to be personally insecure. I just don't like blanket statements and stereotypes.

Posted by rockyroadicecreamYou aren't female! I wouldn't expect you to understand! Of course you have a different outlook. You're a freaking male. You do not have to worry about the same things that most women have to concern them about. Your argument is ridiculous and that was proven several times over in that other thread.

You need to realize that OUR SOCIETY has not gotten to the point where women can freely do what they want as you're implying. Really, what planet do you live on? Are you not familiar with the paradox that if women approach relationships/sex as many men do that they're labeled "whore/slut?" and with men it's perfectly okay? THAT is what I'm referring to. And until our society decides to outgrow that bullshit ideal, then yes, women ARE going to have to pay attention to how they handle themselves in regard to dating and sex.

There's a huge difference between what you THINK and what the reality is. Head out of clouds pls.

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I think the people who surround you and I are of very different nature. In the most recent instance I have personally been invited out on a date by a woman (who also picked up the dinner tab btw) and the same has happened to a lot of my friends. A lot of this has resulted in relationships. So, I don't fully agree with you that the outcome is as concrete all the time as you make it out. I do admit that what you say maybe the case in majority of the cases.

Lastly, any guy who is invited on a date by a girl and thinks she is a "whore/slut" probably shouldn't be out with any woman at all in the first place.

i started this thread in response to a taurus guys behaviour last week..we didnt have sex. But now im thinking i should have because i was very attracted to him, and i would have probably gotten the same response. I think he disappeared because he didnt get any!

oh, incandescent..love the avatar 🙂

Posted by Sola
oh, incandescent..love the avatar 🙂

I know there's a barb in there somewhere 😛

Posted by Sola
i started this thread in response to a taurus guys behaviour last week..we didnt have sex. But now im thinking i should have because i was very attracted to him, and i would have probably gotten the same response. I think he disappeared because he didnt get any!

At some point in time do you intend to just live your life the way you want to or are you always going to keep playing these little games for society?

Posted by Sola
i started this thread in response to a taurus guys behaviour last week..we didnt have sex. But now im thinking i should have because i was very attracted to him, and i would have probably gotten the same response. I think he disappeared because he didnt get any!

Then he wouldn't have been a good choice then, would he?

Get some self respect. You regret it because he took off after he didn't get any? Then you'd be here, all upset again about how he hit it and quit it.

You're going to feel much better knowing this now than after the fact (assuming your goal wasn't to hit it and quit it too).

This response alone is just really, really sad. Go work on your self esteem, m'dear.