Staying friends with the ex?!

Ok so I always like to stay friends with my ex's, and most of my ex's have been libras and they have always been the same towards me. My current ex, a cancerian, seems to be having real problems with this. Just cant seem to accept the fact that we are now just friends. All my friends think im crazy for even wanting to be his friend since it was his fault we broke up. Ive herad this is a particular libra trait, so was wondering if any of you guys are the same?

In general yes I am this way as well. I am however learning that it is not always a good thing. Depending upon the details of the relationship, how long it was, how it ended, etc... it is not always a good idea. I understand the desire to remain friendly with people, especially those who were once so close, but look past that. Why do you want to remain friends? After everything you have been through with this person, do you think it could be a healthy friendship? I have just went through a break up as well and this only the second ex with whom I will not remain friends. The end of the relationship dealt too many blows to the trust and respect that is needed to maintain a healthy friendship. The only reason I would have to remain friends with this one is "for old time sake" and frankly, to hell with that.

Im staying friends with him as all our problems were "relationship problems" I demand a lot of attention when I am with someone and he was not willing to give me that, but as a friend I do not demand much and we get on fine. Strange how he is willing to give me more attention as a friend then he did when we were together though?? we have always got on well together and still do. seems a shame to me to cut someone off who has meant so much to me and helped me through hard times just because we are not relationship compatible.

If it was just incompatibility I see nothing wrong with staying friends. If the friendship piece of the relationship survived in tact, why not continue it? What issue is he having?

But to the original question, yes trying to remain friends with an ex is very common in Libras.

Posted by Mizaru
My ex is a libra. We're friends and I know he's friendly with other exes as well. Interestingly, he couldn't really deal with me being friends with my exes when we were together.

Yes i do wonder how my new partner will feel about me being friends with my ex fiance, but i'll cross that bridge when i come to it.

my cancerian ex just doesnt seem to understand what "friendship" means. At first he was getting it confused with "friends with benefits" and now he seems to think were back together.

friendly, yes. friends no.

friends can be fine if things weren't ever very serious, if i liked someone but things fizzled out and we realized that were really not into each other like that. if i have feelings, it can't possibly work. my feelings don't shut off like that.

there's also the possibility that someone i think is a friend will end up going off on me because he thinks i want him back, or his girlfriend will go off on me. these things have happened. this is why i'll mostly do friendly, but not friends.