Uphill battle with Libra should I keep trying?

Hi guys, here I am again. After the "bump" that my Libra and I had last week, I thought we were pushing forward. He seems to have made great strives to try and make it work, our communication has been better, our intimate life has been fireworks and hes even opened up to me more emotionally but my feelings just are still hurt and i'm not entirely sure if my heart is in it anymore.

It's insane to me because I don't usually flip flop feelings like this and I was so head over heels for this guy I was ready to walk down the aisle 2 weeks ago if he asked me lol.

Anyway to add insult to injury, not sure if this guy is just dumb but we went out to dinner for "2nd valentines day" last night and he stayed at my place, this morning we were drinking coffee outside and watching the fog roll in off the water and it was very peaceful and blissful and nice. My new roommate walked outside and he hasn't met my boyfriend yet so i introduced them to which my Libra replies" Yeah im "name", im her boy, guy, man thing for now" .....stumbling over his words, excuse me? Freudian slip much?

I was kind of livid, he could tell by my face and immediately apologized and said "Please don't harp on that, its still early in the morning my brain hasn't turned on yet"

im just reeling from that, i dont even know what to think of that, I read that as him not being serious about this and me and since im already on the fence about this that i should just leave, i dont think ill be able to change his feelings and vice verse. Over these last two weeks i think hes told me everything he needs to that he just doesnt feel this being serious.

any thoughts? thanks

Posted by Timon
It sounds like he was nervous and came off a bit awkward but I guess there is more to the story that you haven't shared?

I posted something last week about a drunken night were he essentially broke up with me and said he didnt feel a connection or spark.

I haven't quite recovered from that, i'm trying to push on but now i seem to be on the fence and looking/over analyzing what he does.

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@Tiz, maybe it is just me...maybe i'm the one whose lost interest...but normally i'm the fighter and i work though those thoughts. I'm a stubborn Taurus. i hate letting relationships die. I work until there is nothing left to squeeze

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Posted by Timon
It sounds like he was nervous and came off a bit awkward but I guess there is more to the story that you haven't shared?

I posted something last week about a drunken night were he essentially broke up with me and said he didnt feel a connection or spark.

I haven't quite recovered from that, i'm trying to push on but now i seem to be on the fence and looking/over analyzing what he does.

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@Tiz, maybe it is just me...maybe i'm the one whose lost interest...but normally i'm the fighter and i work though those thoughts. I'm a stubborn Taurus. i hate letting relationships die. I work until there is nothing left to squeeze

OK maybe you both need to work on your communication skills? I'm sure calling him dumb isn't going to help either. Something is clearly wrong in your relationship. He broke it off but regretted it?

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Sorry dumb was a poor choice of words trying to be funny with the "dumb boy" silly would have been better.

I feel like at this point were beating a dead horse, we just keep going around and around witht he same topic and him saying he is in it and is trying, so like i said maybe its just me...

and yes he broke it off and regretted it.

Posted by Koniuchaa
Sort of seems like you two are trying to force something that just isn’t there

Exctally, but can it be there? it was there...

Sorry but I think this is your fault. When you forgive, you forgive. The slate is wiped clean and you start fresh.

If you can't truly forgive and move forward then you need to talk it out more. You can't make him responsible for your happiness.

Either forgive him for what happened or keep talking about your feelings. Anything else makes you guilty of being passive aggressive.

Posted by jeane
Sorry but I think this is your fault. When you forgive, you forgive. The slate is wiped clean and you start fresh.

If you can't truly forgive and move forward then you need to talk it out more. You can't make him responsible for your happiness.

Either forgive him for what happened or keep talking about your feelings. Anything else makes you guilty of being passive aggressive.

Yea, I think i need to talk it out more, but i also don't want to chase him off.

Communication is key I guess

and you don't think that "...for now" comment is off-putting? unless hes picking up on my indecisiveness and meaning that i can end it with him too

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Posted by jeane
Sorry but I think this is your fault. When you forgive, you forgive. The slate is wiped clean and you start fresh.

If you can't truly forgive and move forward then you need to talk it out more. You can't make him responsible for your happiness.

Either forgive him for what happened or keep talking about your feelings. Anything else makes you guilty of being passive aggressive.

Yea, I think i need to talk it out more, but i also don't want to chase him off.

Communication is key I guess

and you don't think that "...for now" comment is off-putting? unless hes picking up on my indecisiveness and meaning that i can end it with him too

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Nah, don't think too much about the "now" comment. Nothing is certain or set in concrete. Although I would like to think that my partner and I are for keeps, but there's a chance our relationship could end. Nothing is guaranteed. People are married for 25 years and divorce. People wake up and realise they want out. All you truly have is now.

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Posted by jeane
Sorry but I think this is your fault. When you forgive, you forgive. The slate is wiped clean and you start fresh.

If you can't truly forgive and move forward then you need to talk it out more. You can't make him responsible for your happiness.

Either forgive him for what happened or keep talking about your feelings. Anything else makes you guilty of being passive aggressive.

Yea, I think i need to talk it out more, but i also don't want to chase him off.

Communication is key I guess

and you don't think that "...for now" comment is off-putting? unless hes picking up on my indecisiveness and meaning that i can end it with him too

Nah, don't think too much about the "now" comment. Nothing is certain or set in concrete. Although I would like to think that my partner and I are for keeps, but there's a chance our relationship could end. Nothing is guaranteed. People are married for 25 years and divorce. People wake up and realise they want out. All you truly have is now.

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that is very profound and true

Thank you

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Posted by jeane
Sorry but I think this is your fault. When you forgive, you forgive. The slate is wiped clean and you start fresh.

If you can't truly forgive and move forward then you need to talk it out more. You can't make him responsible for your happiness.

Either forgive him for what happened or keep talking about your feelings. Anything else makes you guilty of being passive aggressive.

Yea, I think i need to talk it out more, but i also don't want to chase him off.

Communication is key I guess

and you don't think that "...for now" comment is off-putting? unless hes picking up on my indecisiveness and meaning that i can end it with him too

Nah, don't think too much about the "now" comment. Nothing is certain or set in concrete. Although I would like to think that my partner and I are for keeps, but there's a chance our relationship could end. Nothing is guaranteed. People are married for 25 years and divorce. People wake up and realise they want out. All you truly have is now.

that is very profound and true

Thank you

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fighting my possessive Taurus nature on this one. but you are right things end

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Posted by jeane
Sorry but I think this is your fault. When you forgive, you forgive. The slate is wiped clean and you start fresh.

If you can't truly forgive and move forward then you need to talk it out more. You can't make him responsible for your happiness.

Either forgive him for what happened or keep talking about your feelings. Anything else makes you guilty of being passive aggressive.

Yea, I think i need to talk it out more, but i also don't want to chase him off.

Communication is key I guess

and you don't think that "...for now" comment is off-putting? unless hes picking up on my indecisiveness and meaning that i can end it with him too

Nah, don't think too much about the "now" comment. Nothing is certain or set in concrete. Although I would like to think that my partner and I are for keeps, but there's a chance our relationship could end. Nothing is guaranteed. People are married for 25 years and divorce. People wake up and realise they want out. All you truly have is now.

that is very profound and true

Thank you

fighting my possessive Taurus nature on this one. but you are right things end

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Yeah I get it. It's just a libra truth and a bit of a throw away line for us. We don't think too deeply about it. You shouldn't either.