What do Libra woman want exactly when they say "let's stay friends"?

Hi, I have a weird question. I've been out with two Libra women last year and then went on a couple dates with another one just before xmas.

Anyway the two dates with the third Libra went well for me (who knows for her, can't exactly tell with Libras) but we chatted for about 8hours on the second date and we kissed goodbye. The first date we did coffee which turned into drinks. The second date we did theatre which turned into restaurant and drinks after. We both had plans over xmas and New Years, but we messaged each other. Then after New Years, the number of kisses on her messages started dropping down. A week after New Years, I tried arranging a date, but we would agree a day and then never a time, and she'd suggest a different day. Anyway, I already know how indecisive Libras. Also I know they can make an effort and arrange meet ups if they like the guy, this didn't happen. I realised I was probably losing her, so I added her on Facebook, she added me but hid her profile (don't know if this was intentional). I thought it might help if she could see more about me etc, might help her decide (I couldn't think of what else to do).

But then a couple of days later she sent the "let's be friends" text. Normally I don't need this explaining to me. But the text was the usual format. Saying I'm a "great guy" but then she also said "we get along really well and have so many similarities" and "I was wondering if we could stay friends" ...I know women don't mean "let's be friends", but why go extra? Just to be more diplomatic?

Anyway this was two weeks ago, I replied to message at the time. We do have common friends and similarities, she's 36 and I'm 35 soon (I'm Aries btw). It was really nice to meet her. I don't meet many women my own age with the same interests, usually younger (and at a different stage in life. I did have tickets for a party in a couple of weeks, and I was going to ask her anyway. But then I realised that she might be at that party anyway. there's maybe a 5% chance she will go. We were both at the last one, but we didn't meet then. I'm fairly certain I would have said hello to her if I'd seen her.

Anyway I thought after the "let's be friends" text, the guy isn't really meant to "be friends" ...but I was reading an article today written by a libra woman who said she puts all the guys in the "friend zone" and expects them to have patience? So now I'm stuck, do I invite her to the party or not? Or do I even try and be friends with her, I do like her and would like to get to know her better, it just depends if she does want to be friends. Would she expect being friends with a guy that has already shown interest and kissed her? Or do I forget her / take the chance I might see her again anyway.

She told me she broke up with her last boyfriend four months ago, and they went out for four years on and off. So I have kind of assumed she got back with him over New Years.

Thanks for any help.

Holy crap, don't follow that bullshit line of thinking, if somebody wants to be friends with you be friends. It is often guys that can't make that transition, and feel insulted for some reason. At least they still want you in their life. Take somebody's word for it if they say lets be friends, and then let actions speak for themselves.

I do tend to put guys in the friend zone (if i didn't know them for awhile already) however if i knew you & we went on a couple of dates & i didn't feel the chemistry then thats that back to friend zone. The reason I put guys in friend zone is to see how they act (when they're not trying to impress me- how they act towards other females etc, or if they generally do anything i don't like). Loads of times if I see something i don't like in a guy I distance/detach myself & just treat em as a friend. It might be worse with me cos of my 3 virgo placements.
as for the ex, there may still be feelings there if they keep in touch because once I'm over someone i hardly ever keep talking to em. I hope that made sense/helped.

She told you that really early and she was with the guy for years. I dont think she's ready for more than just friends. If you really want her, stick around. Be her friend. If you dont, then move on. I'm now starting to understand libras but this is also a female thing...she isn't ready.

She may like u but id b cautious of ex. 4 months isnt long at all. She need to heal. Anyone who puts u in friendzone isnt ready yet at all. They could like u as a friend or more. Either way u in fridzone etc. Nobody has time 4 them games especially if ur looking for a serious rel right or? If not chill b her friend see where it goes.

She sound like a Libra with maybe Taurus in her chart? Libra and Taurus are both ruled by the planet Venus (Beauty Love Sex, Desire, Finances) and one thing we have in common for sure is, we do NOT like to be rushed in any situation versus Aries ( I figured you might be one) likes to get the ball rolling because you're decisive and know EXACTLY what you want and want it NOW! Libras are hella indecisive.

I'm a Libra girl and I love Aries men. My boyfriend is an Aries. I think the best thing would be to just go with the flow which Aries are pretty good at doing anyway. I think she likes you, otherwise she wouldn't have gone on the date. Yes, she wants you to be a friend for now because it's possible she is dating someone else or she is nervous of a commitment because she just got out of a relationship.

Air signs can be fickle.

🙂 just my two cents

Thanks so much, it makes a lot of sense. I should try to be friends with her, we spoke of a few events coming up this year and I thought we both sounded interested in them. I don't have friends for those things, so hopefully I can at least ask her if she's interested and just keep it really casual.

Yeah she Libra / Scorpio cusp. Maybe I should have said that before.

Thanks, I think it's clear what I need to do next.

Also thanks for the quick responses :-)

I either want you or I don’t. I don’t really do this friendszone testing thing everyone is talking about.

I am capable of being friends with a man … meaning really liking him but not being interested in him romantically.

>Would she expect being friends with a guy that has already shown interest and kissed her?
I have even set some of those guys up with female friends I thought were more appropriate/compatible. Not really sure what the issue is. :/

Posted by tiziani
Libra at the end of a great evening out:

"I had a really good time 🙂 "

Libra at the end of a disaster evening:

"....(awkward silence)....I had a really good time 🙂 "

hee hee! That just about sums it up. 🙂