chemengin
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When Libra's Past Comes back to haunt them
He loves the man cave btw, he had tears 🙂 I will post pics as soon as I find my camera, its around here somewhere. It has been chaos these last few days.
thanks 🙂
"They dated 4 months.
She was in love with him, he wasnt in love with her.
He told her she was to clingy and he needed space.
He broke it off for a week then they got back together.
she told him either they plan to get married or she is leaving him. He left her instead."
A lot of Libra guys have relationships like this in their past. I mean literally just like this. Well, actually, most guys do - regardless of sign. But Libra boys.. yeah, they get labelled heartbreakers because of this. And personally, I think the reason Libras (more than any other sign) are crucified for this whole "short term relationship didn't work out" thing is.. well, Libras are just SO amazing when they start dating you, really Mr. Wonderful pulling out all the stops, really trying on this relationship thing for size and fit and feel, apparently giving it his all... and girls who don't know about Libras, they are convinced this man is just head over heels in love with her, Prince Charming like in a fairytale, they hear wedding bells pealing.. what they don't realize is that the Libra is still weighing and deciding internally if she really IS The One.. but on the outside, it seems like he's behaving as if he's already decided she is!
Then the inevitable hot-cold thing happens.. he pulls back to get clarity, to really think things through.. and this is the make or break time... this is where HER reactions and behavior give him the input to make a decision. She's so used to him being the ardent lover, the hot pursuer.. if she goes crazy and dramatastic, well he might be attracted enough to give it another attempt (they really are people pleasers and hate hurting others) but the truth is, her crazy, clingy demands just pound nails in the coffin of their limping relationship. But if she keeps her cool, keeps her OWN life regardless of what HE'S going through, lets him make his own decisions, doesn't try to convince him that she's the one (cuz if he doesn't figure it out on his own, then HE'S not the one for HER!).. it gives him the space and time to think it through and see that she's adding to his life.
LOL sometimes it comes back to bite them in the ass.. esp with the very crazy chicks LOL Can be hard to get over a Libra man, esp when he apparently gave the very NEXT girl what he said he didn't want and couldn't give you. That's a hard blow to an ego, some women don't take it so well, esp ones who validate themselves through others.
She was in love with him, he wasnt in love with her.
He told her she was to clingy and he needed space.
He broke it off for a week then they got back together.
she told him either they plan to get married or she is leaving him. He left her instead."
A lot of Libra guys have relationships like this in their past. I mean literally just like this. Well, actually, most guys do - regardless of sign. But Libra boys.. yeah, they get labelled heartbreakers because of this. And personally, I think the reason Libras (more than any other sign) are crucified for this whole "short term relationship didn't work out" thing is.. well, Libras are just SO amazing when they start dating you, really Mr. Wonderful pulling out all the stops, really trying on this relationship thing for size and fit and feel, apparently giving it his all... and girls who don't know about Libras, they are convinced this man is just head over heels in love with her, Prince Charming like in a fairytale, they hear wedding bells pealing.. what they don't realize is that the Libra is still weighing and deciding internally if she really IS The One.. but on the outside, it seems like he's behaving as if he's already decided she is!
Then the inevitable hot-cold thing happens.. he pulls back to get clarity, to really think things through.. and this is the make or break time... this is where HER reactions and behavior give him the input to make a decision. She's so used to him being the ardent lover, the hot pursuer.. if she goes crazy and dramatastic, well he might be attracted enough to give it another attempt (they really are people pleasers and hate hurting others) but the truth is, her crazy, clingy demands just pound nails in the coffin of their limping relationship. But if she keeps her cool, keeps her OWN life regardless of what HE'S going through, lets him make his own decisions, doesn't try to convince him that she's the one (cuz if he doesn't figure it out on his own, then HE'S not the one for HER!).. it gives him the space and time to think it through and see that she's adding to his life.
LOL sometimes it comes back to bite them in the ass.. esp with the very crazy chicks LOL Can be hard to get over a Libra man, esp when he apparently gave the very NEXT girl what he said he didn't want and couldn't give you. That's a hard blow to an ego, some women don't take it so well, esp ones who validate themselves through others.
this is so true nefer! and she was so set and determined to let him know that he missed out on the best woman that there was....her...LOL. he was so high off of meds he said he only heard less than half of what she said. but he got all the negative stuff. he said he told her a few times, "well im happy for you, your husband and your family". but she wouldnt let it go. when he would drift off to sleep she would scream, to wake him up and make him listen, so he lost it and yelled at her.
your right, her behavior when he set back to think about things, was the deciding factor in their relationship. i dont know about any of her placements, i dont really know any cancers that stalk people either. but she called him 6 times a day, text him over 40 times a day and he said she showed up unannounced at his apartment that he shared with his brothers. she was following him to work because she would show up at the starbucks that he got his morning coffee from. and sometimes she would already be there sitting in his favorite spot. thats why he ended up at the coffee shop that is 25 minutes out of the way of his job. (actually where we met 🙂 7 months later)she told the cashiers and customers at starbucks, how he was treating her so bad, etc.
they do get a bad rep for this, and it is exactly what you said. the women get caught up in the prince charming and get used to them giving all this attention. the women are on cloud nine, then he backs up to really analyze the situation. and they freak out, instead of realizing the honeymoon phase is over and he has to decide if he really wants to be with you. i really dont know when this happen in my relationship, i think because aquas do the same thing. well we are not thinking about whether or not we want to stay. we are more like, 'damn i been with him to much i need a break, let me take care of some things on my to do list..geesh!" LOL 🙂
your right, her behavior when he set back to think about things, was the deciding factor in their relationship. i dont know about any of her placements, i dont really know any cancers that stalk people either. but she called him 6 times a day, text him over 40 times a day and he said she showed up unannounced at his apartment that he shared with his brothers. she was following him to work because she would show up at the starbucks that he got his morning coffee from. and sometimes she would already be there sitting in his favorite spot. thats why he ended up at the coffee shop that is 25 minutes out of the way of his job. (actually where we met 🙂 7 months later)she told the cashiers and customers at starbucks, how he was treating her so bad, etc.
they do get a bad rep for this, and it is exactly what you said. the women get caught up in the prince charming and get used to them giving all this attention. the women are on cloud nine, then he backs up to really analyze the situation. and they freak out, instead of realizing the honeymoon phase is over and he has to decide if he really wants to be with you. i really dont know when this happen in my relationship, i think because aquas do the same thing. well we are not thinking about whether or not we want to stay. we are more like, 'damn i been with him to much i need a break, let me take care of some things on my to do list..geesh!" LOL 🙂
Posted by chemengin
i really dont know when this happen in my relationship, i think because aquas do the same thing. well we are not thinking about whether or not we want to stay. we are more like, 'damn i been with him to much i need a break, let me take care of some things on my to do list..geesh!" LOL 🙂
Winner winner chicken dinner!
I feel Airy girls (esp Aquas.. and Sag girls, for the same reason) are a Libra boy's kryptonite.. she can "outdetach" him.. she usually doesn't get all caught up in that fairytale stage and lose herself or convince herself that this guy is the be-all and end-all in the space of 2 to 5 months (very common relationship duration for Libras -- they tend to have long term partners, but have several short term attempts sprinkled in), not like those Water (and Water-influenced or emotional) signs admittedly can and do .. so when he pulls back, she's relieved and takes a breather herself to decide about the relationship.. and that's when she lets the magic happen, without even realizing she's doing anything.
If I were a "typical" or Watery Pisces, I'd have lost my Libra for good at 5 months.. well, I sorta did.. we broke up, he needed space and all that jazz. Halleleujah! I needed space too, he was all up in my grill. But I swear I'm half Aqua, and the least Watery Pisces I've ever known - enough emotions to not be a total Ice Queen (but still on the little bit unemotional side), and not enough to lose my shit over stupid stuff. Libras and Virgos have always dug that about me.
LMAO...thats funny, im going to show him this 🙂. Libra and his brothers have a standing bet on which of their overenthusiastic exes has the most call or text. 40 is still the highest.
I just can't believe women actually DO that. 40 is psychotic sheeeesh! A guy once texted me 5 times throughout the day. I stopped seeing him *PRONTO* because it was too early on in the courtship for all of that foolishness. Was totally turned off.
Posted by QLIbraMale
This type of stuff happens to me sometimes, I swear the Stuff i've experienced feels like it written in a Japanese Manga.
😢
I dated this one girl back in high school for about a year. We broke up, of course, and both started seeing other people. Some time passes and I started getting serious with my new Leo woman. The old gf hears that we moved in together and started showing back up at places I went to. One day my gf and I were sitting in church and my ex and her best friend walk in. They sit just behind us (the ex wanted a real good look at my new girl) and stare for the majority of the service. After service the ex stays just a little back from us while we made rounds and said our goodbyes but watching the whole time. When my gf and I went to the car to leave, the ex follows us into the parking lot and gets in her car and began following us home. She was intentionally trying to piss off my gf and it worked. The Leo gf was roaring at me about 'why is she following you', 'she kept looking at you the whole time', etc. When we got off the highway I took a couple quick turns and lost them so that the Leo was comfortable they didn't know where I lived since the ex had now graduated to stalker level in her eyes. Once all the smoke settled my gf calmed down and things were fine but in that moment, wow it was stupid.
Thinking back, that same ex caused me and another girl to break up too. She and I were still friendlyish after our break up (mostly because I let people use me) and I'd give lots of people rides to church or youth group. So I'm dating this Libra girl and the ex starts coming around all the time again. After a little bit the ex was in the group that I'd occasionally ride to church. This one week I was late getting out the door and most everyone made other arrangements real quick to get there... not the ex though. I went and picked her up. When I showed up and it was just her and I in the car, 30 minutes late, it sent the Libra gfs scales flopping all over the place.
Thinking back, that same ex caused me and another girl to break up too. She and I were still friendlyish after our break up (mostly because I let people use me) and I'd give lots of people rides to church or youth group. So I'm dating this Libra girl and the ex starts coming around all the time again. After a little bit the ex was in the group that I'd occasionally ride to church. This one week I was late getting out the door and most everyone made other arrangements real quick to get there... not the ex though. I went and picked her up. When I showed up and it was just her and I in the car, 30 minutes late, it sent the Libra gfs scales flopping all over the place.
thats horrible Sid. some people just need to let go.
Posted by chemengin
thats horrible Sid. some people just need to let go.
this sounds suspicious, but im not going to say anything because i dont want it to be true 🙂
Posted by chemenginPosted by chemengin
thats horrible Sid. some people just need to let go.
this sounds suspicious, but im not going to say anything because i dont want it to be true 🙂click to expand
You're calling yourself suspicious?!?
I'll never understand women 😢
lord half of what i wrote is not there. geesh dont know what happened, nevermind.
it was a copy/paste malfunction...it happens🙂
You're right... you are suspicious 😛
yes i am, i admit it. 😢
Posted by everevolvingepithetPosted by DominoooPosted by everevolvingepithet
She's also a nurse on a shift so there's professional concerns to take into account too (quite a lot in that line of work too imo).
time for a complaint letter?
As much as I think chem's approach is kick-ass and far cooler (especially for her man) something like this would definitely go further in making sure the nurse/crazy ex won't do this again in a hurry as he should have been treat as a patient not an ex-lover and things like this would be taken pretty seriously I think. I wouldn't want her to lose her job but I'd expect the matter to be addressed as it should.
(Also chemengin can have a little chuckle too as an aside 🙂)click to expand
🙂 i wanted to complain, but his brothers talked me out of it. (all libras) so i just let it go. they told me i told her off well enough she wont try it again. but that was so totally unprofessional. and he is hurt and medicated, you dont do stuff like that. im getting mad again.
and at the end of the day i wouldnt want her to loose her job, although it would be totally her own fault. but still. its hard these days.
Posted by everevolvingepithet
True, it does read like you shot her down pretty good lol.
yea, but on the negative side, my future bro in laws know i have a potty mouth. 😢 that was going to be my secret to the grave. but the youngest brother said, "well chem its a time and a place for everything, this was the time and place for that"..... i guess. i know they are going to tell him about it. 😢 im not saying nothing.
If you have a potty mouth, you have a potty mouth. You shouldn't hide it just to increase your chances of being married or liked. IT's pretentious. He should like you for you, because it will come out sooner or later, and then he'll feel tricked. Don't need any trickery here anywhere.
^^^thats not why spica. i never let my s/o know i have a potty mouth. that is why the aqua ex was so shocked that i cussed him out so bad. its something i dont like. and i am trying to change..but its soooooo hard!
he knows about it now. i havent gone home yet to talk to him but he text me that he knows about me talking to carrie. 😢 😈
i mean if he and i can have a belching contests behind closed doors, then he can accept my potty mouth. 🙂
i mean if he and i can have a belching contests behind closed doors, then he can accept my potty mouth. 🙂
Posted by everevolvingepithet
Lol, the younger brother was right, I think given the environment it was more than relevant.
Of course they'll tell him hahaha, and have a laugh about it no doubt. 🙂
yea apparently he is very pleased about the whole thing. 😄
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They dated 4 months.
She was in love with him, he wasnt in love with her.
He told her she was to clingy and he needed space.
He broke it off for a week then they got back together.
she told him either they plan to get married or she is leaving him. He left her instead.
She is married now and wanted to through her life in his face.
After all of this rambling on, she finally really looks at me and ask me who I am. I tell her I am his fiance. She literally screams in my face...i had spit on my cheek. and yells toward the room, "you fucking bastard...." I cut her off and told her dont talk to him like that. He is in pain and she needs to direct her drama somewhere else. I closed his door. She and I have words. A couple of bad words. I didnt yell, I didnt scream. I told her. if she has her own life why is this stirring her up so much. I told her, it didnt work out, you moved on so did he. Then she started going on about how she did this and that for him. I just cut her off and said, "LOOK! I dont give a damn about all that, take your craziness some where else. Get the fuck out of my face because I'm tired of you spitting on me!" She turned red again and walked away. His eldest brother walked up, "Oh i see you've meet crazy carrie the cancer". I just burst out laughing.
Just thought I would share our latest craziness!