Just want to get a Libra perspective on what a Libra guy would approach a situation where he likes a woman who's more 'powerful' (for lack of a better word) than he is -financially and career-wise?
AND on a specific case: He likes her (Girl A), he happens to mention this to her after a casual encounter but she brushes him off implying that he is not looking for a relationship. He therefore thinks he's in over his head, he turns 40, freaks out about having a family, he asks another girl he had been casually dating (Girl B) to go steady and a month later finds himself in a room with Girl A and a bottle of booze, where everything comes out... the rest of the evening was spent with Guy annoyed at why Girl A didn't say this before he committed to Girl B and the two trying not to cross a line since it would not be fair on Girl B. And they were successful but for the peck on the lips he gave her when saying good night. Girl A has remained keeping her distance. The End. (For now? or For Ever?)
So you're girl a? You blew him off because you thought you were out of his league, now you don't like that he went somewhere else?
To the question in the title, no woman is out of my league. A woman making more money than me would be fine. I make more than I need anyway, don't care what she's got.
Girl A blew him off, what do you expect him to do? he liked her, she said no, he moved on. Her seeing him with someone else and suddenly "confessing" feelings is crap.
There is such a thing as being out of someone's league in terms of your natural endowments (naturally given good looks or hot bod) and the other things you have attained/achieved on your own through hard work such as (maintaining good looks via education, good character/moralistic/ethical, mental stability/lack of baggage).
My dad told me this when I was younger: "Don't ever marry/date a guy who is below you or above you in terms of your credentials/merits because it's human nature to feel inferior when one party isn't anywhere close to the level of the other person".
No matter how confident you are, at one point you will feel pangs of jealousy or resentment towards your partner for being above you.
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AND on a specific case: He likes her (Girl A), he happens to mention this to her after a casual encounter but she brushes him off implying that he is not looking for a relationship. He therefore thinks he's in over his head, he turns 40, freaks out about having a family, he asks another girl he had been casually dating (Girl B) to go steady and a month later finds himself in a room with Girl A and a bottle of booze, where everything comes out... the rest of the evening was spent with Guy annoyed at why Girl A didn't say this before he committed to Girl B and the two trying not to cross a line since it would not be fair on Girl B. And they were successful but for the peck on the lips he gave her when saying good night. Girl A has remained keeping her distance. The End. (For now? or For Ever?)