Why is this bothering me so badly?

To recap, had a ONS with a Libra Sun, just about every other aspect (Moon, Venus & Mars) in Scorpio. The intelligence on this guy isn't good -- he was charged a number of years back with slashing the tires of his ex-wife's friend (when she had to drive home from a game with her kids in the car), and currently owes over $ 2 million on a failed real estate deal.

He pursued me relentlessly for months. Not knowing the above, we had one night together (because NO, I don't want him, I am sane). He then proceeded to blow off our dinner date, disappeared after asking me out for another date, got pissed at me for calling him on it and subsequently ignored my apology and disappeared again.

We are both involved on a troubled project, for which I have to communicate to a team that he is on throughout the day. He hasn't once even asked how I am or said hello. It makes me feel so cheap . . . no, to answer a question on a much earlier thread, as much as we might like to be, Libras are not so good with casual sex.

I know that he is just making it REALLY REALLY clear that he was never interested in anything other than a roll in the hay, but I wish it didn't hurt so much. It's like each time he ignores me I'm being rejected again. I wish this project would just end . . .

Sorry, just blue on a Monday morning.

Love, LS67

Libra/Scorpio Sun
Taurus Moon
Venus in Virgo
Aquarius Ascending

Gee Whiz with a record like that maybe YOU should be ignoring HIM ! And with your placements youre prolly quite a hottie and could do much better...just sayin'
Yea when the project is over hopefully it will be a new beginning and you can put him in your rear-view mirror. Good luck and enjoy , you only live once

I know . . . the logical Libra part of me understands that I dodged a bullet. The emotional Scorpio part of me is PISSED that I have given him the upper hand (I had left the ball in his court when we last spoke, again not knowing his past or background yet), and that I have put myself into a situation where I am letting an @sshole get the best of me. I ignored him (I mean ignored, no reply) for months while he pursued -- I thought he was married -- and while I apologized for the misunderstanding, I can't help but feel that some part of him is thoroughly enjoying being a dick to the girl who blew him off.

OR, possibly worse, that he really did just see me as a conquest and now doesn't even give me a second thought. I guess I'm just not made that way -- I can't just pretend that a person that I have slept with doesn't exist when I have to face him again.

Never again . . .

Posted by LibraScorpio67
I know . . . the logical Libra part of me understands that I dodged a bullet. The emotional Scorpio part of me is PISSED that I have given him the upper hand (I had left the ball in his court when we last spoke, again not knowing his past or background yet), and that I have put myself into a situation where I am letting an @sshole get the best of me. I ignored him .

OR, possibly worse, that he really did just see me as a conquest and now doesn't even give me a second thought. I guess I'm just not made that way -- I can't just pretend that a person that I have slept with doesn't exist when I have to face him again.

Never again . . .

In this case you are really better off trusting your rational Libra side , try and tuck those Scorp feelings aside (I have a strong Mercury in Scorp and i know it can be difficult to ignore) forget about him and his silly conquests . HeII ,who cares what he thinks anyway ? If you want revenge , get it by finding happines with someone better.

UPDATE:

So, today he called me directly on one of the projects we're working through together. We have not spoken in weeks. Everything was as if nothing had ever happened, as if he hadn't ignored my apologies or blown off our two dates. I played it cool and was completely professional; pleasant but not overly chatty or friendly. He made comments about how he had been hoping he would see me in person on a job site today, and called me a term of endearment right before hanging up. Didn't ask me out, though.

WTF?

I don't know. After getting out of a 20 year marriage, I guess I just don't understand men and women anymore. I've dated a few people, but I'm still so perplexed. What is a 50 year old doing acting like he's a player? Not too long before he's eligible for AARP, for Christ' sake.

Just curious -- what's everyone's take?

^ he's priming you to get you into the sack again

Let him try ... Right or wrong, psycho or not, his behavior was really hurtful and disrespectful. I won't be taking the bait. I'm too old and ate up for gamesmanship. I'll take a guy who knows what he wants and makes it clear, thankyouverymuch.

Love, LS67

I'm referring to my reaction when I say "right or wrong" etc. I don't know that everyone will deem it justified, but his disappearing act made me feel BAD, and that's that. I've gotten to the point where I trust my gut, and this doesn't feel good or right.

Love, LS67

Dreaded double post ... ^^

Yeah ... Good luck to me on that one! I'm just not made for ONS anymore. I was fine when I was younger, but along the way something changed.

XO

He's acting like a player because that's exactly what he is, 50 or not. I think you are feeling the way you are because this person, who really you see as below you, has rejected you, how dare he. So its nothing about him per se, its more about someone who should have been lucky to have you not wanting you, in your eyes. And you are obviously right, you are too good for him, leave him to his debts and chalk it up to experience, you get a lot of them after a 20 year marriage and its difficult to learn the lessons as you've been out of the scene for so long.

Thank you so much, everyone. It's crazy, being "out there" again. Especially as a 44 year old woman ... What a different game it is. I don't know that I have the gumption for it. I'm seriously thinking of taking in cats and living a "Grey Gardens" existence. Though some may laugh or make fun, this foru
has been a Godsend, so ... Thanks.

Love, LS 67

Posted by LibraScorpio67
UPDATE:

So, today he called me directly on one of the projects we're working through together. We have not spoken in weeks. Everything was as if nothing had ever happened, as if he hadn't ignored my apologies or blown off our two dates. I played it cool and was completely professional; pleasant but not overly chatty or friendly. He made comments about how he had been hoping he would see me in person on a job site today, and called me a term of endearment right before hanging up. Didn't ask me out, though.

WTF?

I don't know. After getting out of a 20 year marriage, I guess I just don't understand men and women anymore. I've dated a few people, but I'm still so perplexed. What is a 50 year old doing acting like he's a player? Not too long before he's eligible for AARP, for Christ' sake.

Just curious -- what's everyone's take?

Ok Im going to go for a long shot here and mybe Im wrong, but could it be that you don't take rejection well and you are used to being the one that rejects guys, and maybe you are like WTF?? im the one that's supposed to be ignoring him, so you feel out of place by him doing this. The reason why I say this is because Im exactly the same way....Im used to being the one that rejects guys not guys rejecting me, so I know if one would do it I would feel like a fish out of water. Im not stuck up at all...maybe a bit bratty🙂. But seriousley it can be that.

Good Morning, all!

Yes, the rejection thing ... I am ALL Libra when it comes to that. But even more telling is a text I received from him last night, wherein he described himself as simple, complicated, evasive, private and happy. Translation: He is not looking to make any big changes to his life, and is content. While he doesn't object to the idea of us spending time together and would like to sleep together again, he is not courting me just yet. This would explain why he has never asked me out to dinner ... He does not seem to be looking for a girlfriend.

So, I am not waiting by the phone, and I am not chasing him. If he wants to be with me, he will need to work a bit harder than he has. I've left the ball in his court, and now I'm living my life. All I wanted to know is where I stand, and he has been honest which I appreciate. So, we'll see! Now, to deal with my Scorpio fellow...

Love, LS67

Edited: "Elusive," not "evasive!"