six out of six

The last six couples I've met (friends, acquaintances, family and even strangers) I knew instantly weren't going to last and have not. The sixth one ocurred this past weekend. I started keeping count this year, as I've done this for as long as I can remember.

Anyone here ever sense this from couples?..and just know it's not going to last? I don't mean fighting either, or seeing them all lovey dovey, all six I've pegged right in the beginning I pretty much had no idea of their personal issues. Yet when I see couples who I sense are going to make it do.

Don't know what that is or what type of energy that is. I don't say anything to my friends either that I've done this with in the past unless they've asked what I thought, but they do go out of their way now to introduce me to their new dates/boyfriends. Very uncomfortable, I avoid them like the plague. I never know why it's not going to last, I just sense it. Anyone?

You're not the only one_

Posted by Rabbit
I've experienced this.

To me there always seem to be little behavioral clues that reveal they aren't completely comfortable and honest/open with each other.

True, body language is pretty telling. Even if they have the lovey dovey thing(you know what I mean) going on, I see it as doom and darkness. Then when I hear "marriage" is in the plan, ugh...I want to scream, but I still don't. It's like I know they have to figure it out themselves, so I just distance myself.

One of my family members went through a divorce three years ago. Was a pretty quick one, but a long marriage with kids involved. Close to a year later I'm told he met his soulmate. He and I share b-day 7 days apart, so we celebrate always the weekend after Thanksgiving. He brings her for the weekend, I open the door, and I knew. Yet she is the bomb, sweet, so much fun, very giving and loving and I love her to death. I've put it on a backburner, and we visit each other's homes from time to time. It's been two years now, and I see it in his eyes. It's painful to watch, I see it in her eyes too. He told me he's looking for a ring to propose for Christmas, and I'm dying inside. Is it worse to go to a wedding, or to tell him...DON'T DO IT!!!!!!!!!!! ? Instead, I will keep quiet. That's my decision. If it's an open bar at the wedding, even better. 😢

I think what's missing from the discussion is that is there a chance that things will change. When I've experienced this I'm seeing couples, and I'm water heavy too, I say at this point it's not. It all depends on the lessons one has learned. I say things could change and hope for the best.

I also want to add this. As much as I love spirituality and discussing fate and the possible, I guess I'm not naive enough to forget that it eventually boils down to what's real.

DJ mentioned a lack of respect. Yes that is the kiss of death and I think people often over look the real things needed for a relationship to work. Mutual respect is not discussed enough. Why? I don't know.

My sister's and I have, all the time. We don't "predict", it doesnt work like that. Just something you see between a couple.

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Posted by Rabbit
I've experienced this.

To me there always seem to be little behavioral clues that reveal they aren't completely comfortable and honest/open with each other.

True, body language is pretty telling. Even if they have the lovey dovey thing(you know what I mean) going on, I see it as doom and darkness. Then when I hear "marriage" is in the plan, ugh...I want to scream, but I still don't. It's like I know they have to figure it out themselves, so I just distance myself.

One of my family members went through a divorce three years ago. Was a pretty quick one, but a long marriage with kids involved. Close to a year later I'm told he met his soulmate. He and I share b-day 7 days apart, so we celebrate always the weekend after Thanksgiving. He brings her for the weekend, I open the door, and I knew. Yet she is the bomb, sweet, so much fun, very giving and loving and I love her to death. I've put it on a backburner, and we visit each other's homes from time to time. It's been two years now, and I see it in his eyes. It's painful to watch, I see it in her eyes too. He told me he's looking for a ring to propose for Christmas, and I'm dying inside. Is it worse to go to a wedding, or to tell him...DON'T DO IT!!!!!!!!!!! ? Instead, I will keep quiet. That's my decision. If it's an open bar at the wedding, even better. 😢

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^^^^Make it 7. 😢

...at least he doesn't have to go through another divorce.

All the time with other people.

Sometimes even with the people I pair up..I get a vivid image of how the relationship will run its course.

I try not to make it a self fulfilling prophecy and still enjoy them as if the moment would extend into infinity.

Posted by Damnata
All the time with other people.

Sometimes even with the people I pair up..I get a vivid image of how the relationship will run its course.

I try not to make it a self fulfilling prophecy and still enjoy them as if the moment would extend into infinity.

Damnie, why would you pair up folks who you know won't last? 😕

Besides, people usually find who they want (equality) - none of this unrequited stuff either.