5 Lies Women Always Tell

"I'm not mad at you."
Oh, yes she is. Don't think you're getting off that easily. This lie is one of the most frequently used in relationships. Typically, women who have been hurt by men in their lives -- often inadvertently -- use this phrase as an emotional defense. For example, if a guy forgets his girlfriend's birthday, calls her by his ex's name or commits any of the other minor screwups that most men do on a daily basis, women usually can't just let it go. They dwell on it, letting worries whittle away normal feelings of well-being like a dog gnaws on a bone.

Instead of admitting that she's actually quite hurt by his relatively minor offense, the woman will halfheartedly pretend that she doesn't care at all. In reality, she does care, very much so, but doesn't want to look too anal-retentive or bitchy about it, so she puts up the flimsiest of facades to indicate otherwise and tells one of the five lies all women tell.

"I don't mind if you go to strip clubs with the boys."
Wow, you have the coolest girlfriend ever! Not quite. If this one sounds too good to be true, that's because it is. Word to the wise: Virtually all women mind when their men go out to ogle other women at strip clubs without them. It's only a question of how much they mind.

This one of the five lies women tell is very similar to lie No. 1, in that it is another fib that only comes up in relationships and is told by women to make themselves seem less pathetically needy. In general, women are extremely wary of their boyfriends being in highly sexually charged situations without them. Also, they hate to feel second best to a boys' night out. In this case, she's either telling one of the five lies all women tell to save face or to test you.

For the same reasons, they are also lying when they say they don't mind you checking out other women in front of them.



"I'm just not ready for a boyfriend right now."
Once again, this statement is almost always false, although at least it's told with the best intentions, in order to soften rejection. It might be followed by an additional excuse such as: "I just came out of a bad relationship, and I don't want to be hurt again," or "I'm just too busy with my career right now to have a boyfriend." The truth is, if the woman is single and at all interested in you, she will certainly make the time to date you. It's that simple.

"I don't mind picking up the tab tonight; you always pay anyway."
Not true. Although this lie doesn't apply to all women, most still do expect men to pay for things, especially if the man asked them out in the first place. They will secretly think that the guy is cheap if he wriggles out of the bill on a regular basis. Men should always at least offer to pay for dinner if they have asked the woman out. If she protests vigorously , then go Dutch; if she just protests casually, she's only doing it out of politeness -- so pay for it.



"That was f*cking great!"
This lie falls under the broad category of sex lies. When women are committed to a man, they focus on him, often believing, time and time again, that he is "the one." Because girls have this tendency, they also tell guys whatever they think they want to hear (like they just had an orgasm), just to make them feel good about themselves.

Sex lies are a dime a dozen. Other sex untruths women often tell are the following: "I only cum with you"; "You have the longest penis"; "Yes, I came"; and "I've only been with X number of guys before." (They will decrease their actual number of sex partners because they're worried you will think they're promiscuous.)

I post this for men because the solution to all of this is because I believe women sort of expect us to just understand and except them. I'm hoping some women on here can give some more validity to this and give us men some pointers on how to better understand women in general and what we should look for. Because the good men out there really want to give you everything you want and that includes emotional stability. We're just naturally bad at it.

except = accept

There are girls and there are women.

Girls are lost and self-centered. Everything they do they do for the attention of other girls, without even realising it.
Even when they??re trying to keep a man, they??re doing things from a checklist dictated to them by other girls, whose approval they want even more than the man they??re dating/married to, as opposed to what they feel is right and best.
They can't think for themselves, basically.

Women are other-worldly. Without any effort they make men fall because of how brave, kind, honest, just and drama-free they are. And these traits DO NOT make them boring because they have an almost anything goes quality to them. They know how to tell a man (not boy) what's bothering them and not seem —pathetically needy??. That label doesn't even enter dude's mind. And they aren't afraid to stand alone/apart because they know they have no competition. No one comes close. They??re the real deal.

One more thing: The two classes of female is a mindset, really.

A girl can be as old as 50 and a woman can be as young as sixteen.

Women rule. Girls notsomuch.

I've never used any of these. I say what I mean and I mean what I say. The only thing I do unfortunately is sometimes say nothing at all when I should. If i'm mad you will know about it, I really am ok wth my guy going to strip clubs, I am not ready for a relationship right now as I need to work on myself even johnny depp couldnt persuade me to go out wit him right now (well mabe 😉 ), im all about equality I have a million posts on ere about not understanding why the guy is supposed to pay all the time lol and if the man was rubbish he will know by the sigh and look of diappointment on my face! 😛

"I'm just not ready for a boyfriend right now."

I hate this one..grrrrrrr,JUST FUCKIN SAY YOU ARE NOT INTERESTED!!!!!

I think #1 is done to avoid seeming petty or like a naggy little bitch....in my case I do it more because yeah I'm irritated, but not enough to dwell on it and make an issue. I know if I'm honest about it how it bothered me he will dwell on it and it's not worth it. I know I will be over it shortly, so why make a premature issue out of something. If I decide later that I'm not getting over it and it's a deep rooted issue, I'll bring it up the next time it arises

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Are all women fundamentally the same?

Posted by TeflonDon
Are all women fundamentally the same?

I think there are two types of women, as predesrcibed in this thread as "girls" and "women," however, I classify them more as self confident women and under confident women.

Self confident women are honest because they are secure in their thoughts and actions. Clean and simple.

Under confident women lie to build walls and avoid having to take direct responsibility for their actions. They don't have to risk being misunderstood by never trying to be fully understood. And they are all very alike deep down, past all this astrology shit, because they look toward each other for security in their choices; they don't ever look inside for acceptance. They have that sort of mob mentality and need a group to decide things for them; that way they don't ever have to take direct responsibility for their actions (they never have to confront themselves internally)...

It takes life experience and nurture for a self-confident women to be formed; that usually has little to do with astrology. Astrology still effects the personality (imo) to make women variate quite a bit from each other in these two groups, but it effects self-confident women more (imo) because they are more true to themselves and care less about societal acceptance.

^ so true!

Posted by aPiscesPrincess

Posted by dreamer23

Posted by JayDee33
"I'm just not ready for a boyfriend right now."

I hate this one..grrrrrrr,JUST FUCKIN SAY YOU ARE NOT INTERESTED!!!!!

I dont think thats always the case. There are some women who MAY be interested but dont want any romantic entanglements at that particular time in their lives. Maybe they are recovering from a breakup..work, school, etc..

Relationships are great but a successful one requires time and attention, and I respect a woman who can assess her situation and decide that its not a good time in her life to get involved w/ anyone. You cant be mad at that. Though I dont doubt that many women use that as an excuse to blow a guy off.

Exactly. I tell guys that now too for just that reason. I'm not ready, I need time on my own, it's that simple. I've been in some kind of relationship since I was 15. And I need a break to find out what my needs are etc., without having to worry about a guy and his needs too.

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Hmmm...interesting..but I just had a moment,as I glanced out the window at the pale evening sky...theres a world of takeaways that are always ready for a relationship with me!!

*zooms off in the JayDee-mobile*

Posted by DazedScorp

Posted by aPiscesPrincess
And I need a break to find out what my needs are etc., without having to worry about a guy and his needs too.

My needs are easy to satisfy.

Sandwiches and orgasms

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😄 These are very wise words. 😢 Just don't get fat on sandwiches or else you'll also need a StairMaster

Posted by ellessque
"I'm not mad at you."

I'm probably not NOW but was a little bit ago. I don't want to talk about it anymore because it more than likely was petty.

Exactly! It's said for the sake of moving on...
Let's stop dwelling on it, it was petty, don't worry about it, etc.

No reason to beat a dead horse and get all deep into reasons why one little thing he did/said annoyed you in that moment.
I hate people that want to talk about everything and how it makes them feel....probably no one cares as much as you - move on!

& the last lie: "it was fucking great!"

You wont catch me saying that period.

I was mentioning this the other day to KOL I think....sex is never really "awful." Sex is sex, and sex is good, and always welcome....
But it can be better and/or amazing.

Like cheesecake! It's never like "ew get that shit away from me." You're crazy if you don't like cheesecake!
But sometimes it's not made well or whatever and it's like "meh it could have been better." Other times it's an orgasm in your mouth 😄

Posted by amethyst2002
This list was incredibly sexist and biased.

hahahahahaha I love Ames

Posted by brianafay
& the last lie: "it was fucking great!"

You wont catch me saying that period.

I was mentioning this the other day to KOL I think....sex is never really "awful." Sex is sex, and sex is good, and always welcome....
But it can be better and/or amazing.

Like cheesecake! It's never like "ew get that shit away from me." You're crazy if you don't like cheesecake!
But sometimes it's not made well or whatever and it's like "meh it could have been better." Other times it's an orgasm in your mouth 😄

Unfortunately i have had AWFUL sex. I liken it to standing in a queue for hours waiting to go on a roller coaster your getting more and more excited as your getting closer to the front. you finally get to the front of the line your about to get on for the ride of your life when the person behind you pushes in front takes the last seat and the ride closes 😢 what a waste, filled with disappointemt, wish I'd never bothered standing in line, or I should have lined up for a better ride 😉 haha but you got me on the cheescake all cheesecake is good!!

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Posted by TeflonDon
Are all women fundamentally the same?

I think there are two types of women, as predesrcibed in this thread as "girls" and "women," however, I classify them more as self confident women and under confident women.

Self confident women are honest because they are secure in their thoughts and actions. Clean and simple.

Under confident women lie to build walls and avoid having to take direct responsibility for their actions. They don't have to risk being misunderstood by never trying to be fully understood. And they are all very alike deep down, past all this astrology shit, because they look toward each other for security in their choices; they don't ever look inside for acceptance. They have that sort of mob mentality and need a group to decide things for them; that way they don't ever have to take direct responsibility for their actions (they never have to confront themselves internally)...

It takes life experience and nurture for a self-confident women to be formed; that usually has little to do with astrology. Astrology still effects the personality (imo) to make women variate quite a bit from each other in these two groups, but it effects self-confident women more (imo) because they are more true to themselves and care less about societal acceptance.

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How does "nurture" build confidence? And what does nurture entail?

Posted by amethyst2002
This list was incredibly sexist and biased.

Get some fucking dick already.

Posted by AiryBri

Posted by TeflonDon
Are all women fundamentally the same?

I think there are two types of women, as predesrcibed in this thread as "girls" and "women," however, I classify them more as self confident women and under confident women.

Self confident women are honest because they are secure in their thoughts and actions. Clean and simple.

Under confident women lie to build walls and avoid having to take direct responsibility for their actions. They don't have to risk being misunderstood by never trying to be fully understood. And they are all very alike deep down, past all this astrology shit, because they look toward each other for security in their choices; they don't ever look inside for acceptance. They have that sort of mob mentality and need a group to decide things for them; that way they don't ever have to take direct responsibility for their actions (they never have to confront themselves internally)...

It takes life experience and nurture for a self-confident women to be formed; that usually has little to do with astrology. Astrology still effects the personality (imo) to make women variate quite a bit from each other in these two groups, but it effects self-confident women more (imo) because they are more true to themselves and care less about societal acceptance.

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See what I mean when I say a woman can be as young as 16?

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Posted by AiryBri

Posted by TeflonDon
Are all women fundamentally the same?

I think there are two types of women, as predesrcibed in this thread as "girls" and "women," however, I classify them more as self confident women and under confident women.

Self confident women are honest because they are secure in their thoughts and actions. Clean and simple.

Under confident women lie to build walls and avoid having to take direct responsibility for their actions. They don't have to risk being misunderstood by never trying to be fully understood. And they are all very alike deep down, past all this astrology shit, because they look toward each other for security in their choices; they don't ever look inside for acceptance. They have that sort of mob mentality and need a group to decide things for them; that way they don't ever have to take direct responsibility for their actions (they never have to confront themselves internally)...

It takes life experience and nurture for a self-confident women to be formed; that usually has little to do with astrology. Astrology still effects the personality (imo) to make women variate quite a bit from each other in these two groups, but it effects self-confident women more (imo) because they are more true to themselves and care less about societal acceptance.

How does "nurture" build confidence? And what does nurture entail?

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By nurture, I would vouch she means "pain".

The painful things you learn from life, your peers and work colleagues, irrespective of the way your parents brought you up.

Most girls are shielded from painful experiences all their lives because, well, society loves "cute" and eventually "beautiful" people and females are "the fairer sex" and all that crap (you don't have to hit someone to hurt them, you know. Both women and girls know this.).

As a result, they never really learn the one thing that makes women wonderful: "compassion".

Nurture is learning from the pain as opposed to being crushed by it.

Thus, a strong woman is born.

Knowing you are a survivor and remembering what you survived and the things you did to survive and looking at the good place you are in gives confidence.

I would think.

^^ I like that ^-^