A Life of Regret

My new year's resolution was to put myself on a 16-month plan to move abroad. I initially planned on financing the move myself and looked for destinations in which I could continue my current profession. That way, money would not be my primary concern when I set foot in my dream paradise.

Part of deciding to move abroad is researching places of interest via the internet as this is not a temporary move. I don't want to do some extended study abroad stint. I want to make a life in this new location and in the past when I considered all the hurdles I'd have to overcome, I resigned to the fact that it would never happen. That is until I realized the US has territories. BINGO!

Where my initial searches were geared to the islands, I now find myself looking toward Europe...yes, you can thank Frenchy and an ebony American blogger in Europe for that. For anyone considering moving/studying/traveling abroad, try to find blogs of people who have blazed the trails before you. Going through a couple years worth of blogging is better than any book. You experience the highs as this stranger finally makes landing and the lows as they struggle with everyday life in a new country.

So for the past few days I've been knee deep in a blog that started back in 2007. Throughout my peak into this stranger's life, her reason for moving stood out to me. She gave up everything because she didn't want to live a life of regret. Lately, my life has been just that. Sure, I've done some amazing things accomplished goals I set out to achieve but I am currently not in love with my life. Simply put, I want to do something else.

What else? The funny thing is, I can tell you a million and one things I don't want to do. But there's only one thing that I am sure, without a doubt, I feel compelled to do. I've always wanted it. I just never thought it was possible...until now.

Anyhoo, if your life were to end right now, what would be your one regret?

If you could do any one thing right now, without worrying about all the details, what would it be?

That I cared too much about being in a relationship from a very early age. I've been with my husband for almost 11 years now since I was 18. I was so preoccupied with being with him that I put all my dreams to the side. I've known several women who've done the same thing. Now, in my late twenties, I unfortunately am having regrets about this. He's not exactly the most outgoing bull, so he's not really up for moving which has always been a dream of mine. "Breakin' out of this two star town"
That's what I'd do right now...I'd move closer to the coast, which mind you is a long way from where I live, and start over. I'd buy an acreage and take care of all the animals I could handle, buy a porch swing, tend to my garden, and live it up! In the next 5 years, I hope to accomplish this even if I stay in my current state.
The other thing I regret is not going away to college and having that experience...once again, was with a man at the time. I go to school now, but it of course is nothing like it would have been when I was young and dumb.

Posted by satori
I'm also giving up everything right now to pursue my dreams. I'm quitting my job in August and finishing my degree now that I finally know what I want to do with myself.

It's scary but sometimes you have to take risks in life. I'm just going to go and not look back because I know I have to do this!

Sometimes we have to fight hard for what it is we really want, but it's so worth it. Life is so short, we have to make it what we want it to be.

Good luck to you, Tubby and ramfishtwins!

That's great Satori! Good luck to you too!

yeah, i think it really is a matter of "just do it." trying to find a way to plan, cover bases and make a "safe" risk is generally what has stopped me in the past. that and worrying about friends/family and what they would think. but being away for the past several years has taught me that it's ok to venture out. "home" will always be home. my friends and fam will always be there for me and a flight is the only thing that separates us.

so i dunno, maybe i needed this intermediate phase in my life to have the courage to do what i feel i've always been destined to do. now if only i could pick. the world truly is my oyster at the moment.

good luck to you both as well and congrats satori! 🙂

Good luck to you guys.

On the subject of regret... I don't regret a single thing. In the last few weeks I have found absolute peace and calm in my world and every event in my life up until this point have led to it.

That's terrific VM. 🙂

VM20 - it's not about what you regret. it's about what you would regret if you were to die today? if you say nothing, then you're a pretty boring guy.

a virgo fem friend surprised me with the most BORING answer in the world to a similar question. i'd asked her something to the effect of, "what would make you happy?" of course she default to kids and a husband. i said no, i mean you're 60 years old, the kids are grown, what would make you happy? she said kids and a husband.

WTF!?!?!? that's the limits of your imagination? kids and a husband. your happiness resides outside of yourself and in other people. i don't get it. never have. no wonder i'm single.

big surprise...ian's another boring one 😛

tauruswmn - what coast are you moving from if you don't mind spilling the beans? i remember when i moved from the technical "south" to the technical "north." i was so jaded thinking that life would be so different, much more fast paced, etc... i got there and found that the "north" was more country and isolated than my home city in the "south." lesson...you don't have to sound southern to be a hick.

congrats on taking the leap. i hope all goes well in august. having moved a number of times myself, if i could offer a suggestion it would be NEVER stop playing the "new girl." when people find out you're not local, BUT not a tourist/visitor, they take pity on you and become less defensive. they're more likely to take time to answer random questions. they're more likely to invite you out with their friends or give you their number and offer to show you around.

the more eager, humble, inquisitive and helpless you are, the more folks wanna grab you by the hand. it's like the found a stray puppy that they want to take home. so just enjoy being new and clueless for as long as it lasts. you'll meet tons of people and hopefully some of them will remain friends for life.

let us know when d-day arrives and good luck 😉

prince that is not a regret! they can touch you up before they put you in the box.

prince the mortician will use bronzer and don't listen to the salty fish. in heaven, we're all blondes.

You guys saddened me, because imho there are no regrets, what you??ve done at (that point of your life was correct and a right decision in its own time) according to your life style .

Why regrets..? you haven't done anything wrong or god forbid killed someone.!

After spending glorious 50 years on this planet I have no regrets for what I did earlier in my life what so ever! Why should you at this age..?

Can you all show some gratitude to the life for what you??ve experienced earlier..?

Im actually kinda smart and could have done sooo much more with my life, career wise,

There are much more to life than a lousy career ??_. Imagine that you are a PM of some country, no.. president??_king/queen of some country.. You are still a slave and have to work on demands of the population??_.!...


Be free and stay free..!


Loss of freedom is regrettable??_! All I can say..!

everything you did in your past you did cuz it felt like the right thing to do at the time...

Don't make me regret to point that out for you and a like and every thing else will be just fine.. you are young , beautiful and full of energy male or female doesn't matter much..!


Open your wings and fly away and you??ll have no regrets where you landed.. I??ll promise you that much!

Fearsome life is reserved for the scared people??_!

You are not reducing to that cowardice yet, Aren't you..??

No regrets... you live your life for what it is??_ why regrets then..?

Don't make me regret to point that out for you and a like and every thing else will be just fine..

And why do you have a problem to understand the statements above..?

Dont worry..


One thing I really know, is the working mind of Libra/ fucking FISHES/Virgo(myself) and Aries (my ex)..

I have no personal interest in your life or your system of living, just wanted to point that out that (regret) does not exist (as long as you accept the way you lived your life sofar), every chapter you open in your life is another lesson to be learned. (don't you agree)..??


Let me decode the message for you since you English people are so depend on (punctuations and so forth)??_


Don't make me regret to point that out for you and a like, and every thing else will be just fine..

ok..? it was just a comma??_!

lord, i wish people would read and understand my questions. maybe i should rephrase?

WHAT WOULD YOU REGRET IF YOUR LIFE ENDED TODAY?

if you've accomplished everything in life and you're not old as dust, then you are, without at doubt, the least inspired human being in the world.

i don't regret the decisions i've made...per se. i started a business, something i always wanted to do. i've done it for nearly a decade. now i'm bored!

so the past two years has been frustrating as my level of boredom has increased. earlier this year, i decided what i wanted to do and unlike the flighty of the zodiac, taurus plans then moves. i've given myself 16 months.

point is, there's NOTHING you want to do that you have yet to do and would regret if you never did it? nothing? not even, visit a park/monument? lose 5 poiunds? paint your garage...i don't care...somethin?

oh and not from the bay area...no

still *wondering what happened on the mango farm*

are there monkeys or other *poo-throwing* animals on mango farms?

you are soooooooooooo lucky i'm not in the mood today.

ok, back to my international job search...

well that's easily solved.

go up to the first group of "feral" people you see 😛

well then you shouldnt have run q-bone off. i think you hurt his feelings. you should be ashamed. he's a kindly old gent who tried to impart wisdom only to meet with a boxing roo.

ok...adieu.

you should start looking online for yourself. i found out that i was almost too old. missed a 30 year-old cut off for a job. luckily found an oppotunity for 35 y/os that will pay well so gotta get on it. never know what ya can find when ya look.

TOC - you're "prejudiced" if that term makes you feel better.

AA - were you able to see the movie? i want my update!

AA - you're an aries. no one takes you seriously.

TOC - look up "sardonic." i would NEVER fathom saying some of the things you said....even jokingly. was shocking but hey, you're an internet person and therefore not real so i don't let it bother me.

AA - yeah dude. you are in for a cinematic treat. you will be able to be amongst those who have seen the rarest of all gems. i'm still scared by it to be honest with you. and i'm not even sure i mean that in a good/bad way.

scarred not scared

look, i like my racists out in the open. but it never ceases to amaze me the depth of an individual's bias. i don't care what end of the race spectrum you're on. it's all stupid and it's all beneath me.

AA - yes, the sad part is i got your turn of phrase. did i hype it up? "hype" is such an odd word to use in the context of this discussion but rest assured, i didn't. you will so NOT enjoy it that i could bet money on the outcome. if you watch it with a friend though, you might have a better time than i did.

in fact, i was calling my bff as i was watching it and we both were like "WTF?" so maybe if you have someone watching it with you, it's better? sorta like the rocky horror picture show? only the cult really is crazy.

ooooooooooh, and AA, they blocked out the nudity with big black boxes because Americans are prudes. sometimes all but like 1/8th of the screen was covered with a black box. that was for comedic effect so it made it more enjoyable i guess....the random black boxes. not sure what the unadulterated is like. will wait for your verdict.

TOC - i'm not trying to drive you away. you have excellent comedic value.

oh and on an astro level, i would like to point out that AA - is ruled by Mars and is speaking with two Venus ruled signs. which one of us is hotter? if you don't say taurus i'm gonna punch you in the face....TOC will punch you in the face regardless.

he doesn't care. he's ruled by mars. it's only enough to know we both have vaginas. you do have a vagina right TOC? not sure how you aussies are built.

TOC - i bribed him with freebies....it's the taurean way.

Hey..



O just put my opinion here.. and AA is 99.99% is right. What else you guys to deliver..??.

NOTHING..!!!

Anything else..??

Stop bullshitting??_!!

Q - deliver in terms of? happy endings? i think TOC has a sit and spin in her repertoire.

can a bull stop bullshitting? that is the question.

TOC - it's a part of you that leaks around the right man.....ooooh, that was so vulgar!

Tubby??_



Hehe




Goddamn you are too fuunnnnnny..


Hey I might get in love with you....sometime in future??_!

he's mine bitch! step off!

oh q, you only like me because i'm going international. probably want to get me all the way to norway and choke the shit out of me.

AA just wants to diddle me while his parents are asleep and hide me in the closet when his mom comes in to tiddy up his room.

he's mine bitch! step off!

me..??

I like you only because of ONE thing..

Can you ever GUESS..??

oh she has standards? after calling human beings "feral" and running away from folks with black skin. i'm shocked? racists are usually hypocrites. or maybe she didn't know what a vagina is and that, is just sad.

Q, yes you. and is it because i'm 'Merican?

AA - i apologize. you pick up your own socks and undies. you're a big boy now!

Nah..

Not because of you —mericans—?_ damn you are to funny??_

It is because you are stupid.. (my kind of stupid).. ! ever get it..??

Hey..

Love ya.. and you know it??_!

cock prints are sexy....

but then i think..."what size are his boxers that they'd be equivalent to huggies?"

awwh, q is cute...really. i like wacky foreigners. they're so peculiar with their penchant for abusive women.

she got drunk and lost her sense of humor.

i gotta go watch my friend's kid.

you all have fun. AA, let me know how it turns out if you get to watch it.