After death, what happens: what they tell their kids....

Jewish:
Atheist :
Wiccan:
Agnostic :
Spiritual (define as you want):
Catholic:
Southern Baptist:

Whatever other thing I may be missing:

Why specifically catholic and southern Baptist?

What my elders tell -- the departed is up there with God.

What I think -- nothing. The departed has just perished physically. I won't tell my kids anything about death...they will form their own opinions - we can discuss. But I'm not saying anything.

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Posted by RumiL
What I think -- nothing. The departed has just perished physically. I won't tell my kids anything about death...they will form their own opinions - we can discuss. But I'm not saying anything.

and when a grandparent dies?

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IDK.. I think these communications or interactions happen at such small small levels.. I dont think I can decide before (what to tell them).

If you are my child asking me now I will say this - IDK. Some say after death they just integrate with earth, some say they integrate with universe, some like me believe that they just physically perished but have always been integrated with (part of) universe. That's because you are here to understand what I'm typing :p

I can say stuff like this also - "idk what happens after death, I did not see it yet"

Or..

"IDK child, we are here connecting on this plane... And I only know about that which I can see or percieve" .

But saying what I would say will depend on my child.. Their psyche...perception...reception...beliefs..thoughts...

I'd be down to talk endlessly though. But in the formative years I will not say much.. But ask them "what do you think?" ..make them speak up or think.. And I will give mine and other inputs slowly...like lay them out for them to pick and form their own opinion. Maybe I will just ask them to read... "you should say" kind of thing.

Such things...beliefs need originality..imo. And these beliefs are also never constant...ever changing. What you think at 10 years will change at 12...17..21..and so on...

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Posted by RumiL
What I think -- nothing. The departed has just perished physically. I won't tell my kids anything about death...they will form their own opinions - we can discuss. But I'm not saying anything.

and when a grandparent dies?

IDK.. I think these communications or interactions happen at such small small levels.. I dont think I can decide before (what to tell them).

If you are my child asking me now I will say this - IDK. Some say after death they just integrate with earth, some say they integrate with universe, some like me believe that they just physically perished but have always been integrated with (part of) universe. That's because you are here to understand what I'm typing :p

I can say stuff like this also - "idk what happens after death, I did not see it yet"

Or..

"IDK child, we are here connecting on this plane... And I only know about that which I can see or percieve" .

But saying what I would say will depend on my child.. Their psyche...perception...reception...beliefs..thoughts...

I'd be down to talk endlessly though. But in the formative years I will not say much.. But ask them "what do you think?" ..make them speak up or think.. And I will give mine and other inputs slowly...like lay them out for them to pick and form their own opinion. Maybe I will just ask them to read... "you should say" kind of thing.

Such things...beliefs need originality..imo. And these beliefs are also never constant...ever changing. What you think at 10 years will change at 12...17..21..and so on...

thanks for explaining.

i was wondering more along the lines though, that when a grandparent dies; do you take your child to the funeral/wake and answer their questions then and there; or if you don´t take them to the funeral - and they ask where their grandparent is and when can they visit etc.

of course; it goes without saying - we are talking age appropriate - or more character appropriate - as i like to see it.

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I see lol.

That's interesting you ask that because in our culture we cremate the body along with 101 rituals. And...it does raise lots of questions. I myself had many. But I never found courage to ask because people would be crying, and .."mourning". And... The atmosphere itself would make me silent .my father whom I could speak to would be busy at such times(our culture is..different.) I wouldn't get to see him basically. When I would he'd be tired

..When I would he'd be tired and IDK I never spoke about it on the spot. But sure did later when things were back to normal. (a funeral here happens for 9 days with too many rituals and hundreds of relatives involved).

One has too many questions in their minds when they see things that are done in our culture lol.

IDK.. I'm not sure how it'll go about.. I think I speak or communicate in some way to my child whenever they want to talk though..

Posted by kbear1988
Why specifically catholic and southern Baptist?

No real reason why. Just what popped to my head. It could be anything. I am just wondering what differing views, be it significant or insignificant differences, might say in response to a death or just being asked the question.

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Posted by christinelovessnickers
Jewish:
Atheist :
Wiccan:
Agnostic :
Spiritual (define as you want):
Catholic:
Southern Baptist:

Whatever other thing I may be missing:

it´s a cycle of life; we are born; mature; reach our peak (hopefully) and then we die. ashes to ashes. ideally we die in a sort of natural order; but that is not how it works, so, i have found, being truthful about a situation has worked out best. and if they need to vent or ask questions- brace yourself and be there - even for those curious macabre questions

just try not to confuse them - be as honest and truthful as you can be. also about how a person died - i find it is important to say it.

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Thank you for the input 🙂

So what if they ask what happens after death? What would you say? Death is final or something different?

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Posted by christinelovessnickers
Jewish:
Atheist :
Wiccan:
Agnostic :
Spiritual (define as you want):
Catholic:
Southern Baptist:

Whatever other thing I may be missing:

just noticed you missed Islam ....

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By mistake....any ideas?

That's why I mentioned whatever else I may have missed in the original post. 🙂

Posted by RumiL
What I think -- nothing. The departed has just perished physically. I won't tell my kids anything about death...they will form their own opinions - we can discuss. But I'm not saying anything.

I like that you would give them a chance to form their own opinions instead of trying to force them to see yours.

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and a bunch of others too ....

Yeah, I don't know all of them. Those were literally just what popped into my head. I guess I should have thought more about ones to add. But have at it, make a list 🙂