After having kids

...some people just seem to go a little nutty.

I get that they're excited about being parents and whatnot, but some of it is just a little farfetched.

...like sharing baby's first diaper.

Or bombarding the social media feeds with 50 pics a day of your kid.

Or being absolutely delusional in regard to development. I had a friend claim that her 3 month old said her dad's name. Others go on and on about misc. things that their kids realistically not capable of doing til a few months older.

I've noticed this a lot lately as there seems to be a wave of new babies in my feeds. I have plenty of other parents who don't get this extreme with their kids, but some... wow. Talk about child worship that George Carlin absolutely hated. I've actually blocked a few from my feeds because I just... couldn't. Again, I understand that a lot are excited, but gawd.

MAH BABY!

MAH BABY!

LOOK AT MAH BABY!

MAH BABY IS THE BESTEST THING IN THE WORLD, CAN'T YOU SEE? WORSHIP MAH BABY!!



That said, I fear having kids, haha. If that's what it turns you into, I'm gonna avoid that one all together. :/

The experienced and non experienced- have you noticed this? Is this somewhat normal or overzealous behavior?

You sound very jealous

Oh yes. Totally. I cannot wait to have a small being ripped from my vagina.

And you sound 12.

My god you should try thespian parents they are the fucking worse..

Last year my theatre company was taken over as this new couple wanted to try and direct a show and they casted their daughter as the lead and their son as another lead and the wife was a lead as well. Woah boy did so much hate was spread about them and I didn't even have to lift a finger.

This year a new show was being directed by an out of towner and the daughter of the couple didn't get a call back after audition and they posted on the Facebook wall " Having to deal with a very upset child"

I was like bitch please you need to deal with your own upset child in silence because we sure as hell didn't raise her to be a spoilt cry baby who hasn't been taught how to deal with rejection.

I get that chances of existence are infinitely small and that every little life is a miracle but for fucks sake there are hundreds being popped out a second we don't need to be reminded on Facebook that your child is the new jesus.

Posted by aurora
Lol, i noticed the same thing and i have a baby myself. But i'm not one of those parents. Maybe i've gone nuts in a different way, cause i don't post her pics at all cause i respect her privacy lol. The truth is i'm not that active on fb, just comment here and there.

But yes, some parents post thousand of pics and videos of their kids, and yes they lie all the time about their abilities. So, when i talk to other parents my baby seems retarded cause she is not talking yet, walking, cooking, reading, driving...

So don't worry, you can be happy and not lose your mind 🙂

Good to know, haha.

Oh man, an example I forgot to mention was my friend posting a full blown shot of her breastfeeding her kid, all for the sake of the movement to support breastfeeding without hassle. I agree that they shouldn't have to feel bad about feeding their kid, but I had no idea how posting that picture would encourage support. There's a big difference between necessity and shoving that in everyone's face.

"WELL THEY CAN JUST KEEP SCROLLING LOL"

...wha? She seemed like a perfectly rational human being prior to getting knocked up. :/

That was a really big one that got me wondering all of this. I can deal with a lot of it though. Fortunately, most of my friends are sane parents. This is just a recent trend, I guess.

I dunno how you deal with all that one upsmanship. I'd slap a bitch after awhile. Attention whoring through your own child is the best.

Posted by The_eleventh_sign_11
My god you should try thespian parents they are the fucking worse..

Last year my theatre company was taken over as this new couple wanted to try and direct a show and they casted their daughter as the lead and their son as another lead and the wife was a lead as well. Woah boy did so much hate was spread about them and I didn't even have to lift a finger.

This year a new show was being directed by an out of towner and the daughter of the couple didn't get a call back after audition and they posted on the Facebook wall " Having to deal with a very upset child"

I was like bitch please you need to deal with your own upset child in silence because we sure as hell didn't raise her to be a spoilt cry baby who hasn't been taught how to deal with rejection.

I get that chances of existence are infinitely small and that every little life is a miracle but for fucks sake there are hundreds being popped out a second we don't need to be reminded on Facebook that your child is the new jesus.

Right?

Ohmygherd, mah baby has to deal with reality. OHNOES! Some people need to realize that they're a parent and not a worshipper of the crotch dropping they may, or may not, have intentionally had. :/

This issue also goes into the territory of people just not having filters on what should and shouldn't be shared via social media.

Is it the generations raised on attention whoredom are now having kids and this is the result?

When I was growing up my mum could care less that her vagina could create life and was in abundance of magic and fertility??_??_She was too busy focussing on a career, taking care of both of her dying parents and building a house ??_.. I used to go over to peoples houses and see pictures of their kids on the walls and family photos we weren't even allowed to have magnets on the fridge let alone pictures of us on the walls god forbid the fridge should get dirty or the walls bear our gaudy faces.

Posted by The_eleventh_sign_11
When I was growing up my mum could care less that her vagina could create life and was in abundance of magic and fertility??_??_She was too busy focussing on a career, taking care of both of her dying parents and building a house ??_.. I used to go over to peoples houses and see pictures of their kids on the walls and family photos we weren't even allowed to have magnets on the fridge let alone pictures of us on the walls god forbid the fridge should get dirty or the walls bear our gaudy faces.

Gawd, then there's the opposite end of the spectrum. I feel bad for kids on either end, tbh. Moderation is the key, haha.



Ugh, cannot get the embed link to cooperate.

Well shit, is it automatic now? Just paste the youtube link and it just creates the video for you?

....so much easier, haha.

That comedian is a classic ^^ love it when he says fuck..


Just in case anyone thinks so I'm not down the other end of the spectrum I'm just in the middle with a normal unconventional family with a salmon swimming upstream for a mother.

Posted by The_eleventh_sign_11
That comedian is a classic ^^ love it when he says fuck..


Just in case anyone thinks so I'm not down the other end of the spectrum I'm just in the middle with a normal unconventional family with a salmon swimming upstream for a mother.

George Carlin was an amazing man. I was truly sad when he passed away.

Posted by aurora

the pic with woman breastfeeding is debatable. I think posting that kind of pics has one purpose only, to make people get used to it in order to accept it easer. You know how brain works if it's seen enough times, brain won't attach negative feelings anymore. Especially when it's something completely natural. So i see how is that a support.

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It is. I understood why it was being done, but at the same time, it sort of countered the cause because it was more OMG LOOK AT IT NOW!! It works against them because there is a group out there who questions the validity of why some women are so adamant about being allowed to do this in public because they seem more into the exhibitionist side of it than the necessity of it.

If you gotta do it in public, fine. I personally don't care. But to post it so IN YOUR FACE on facebook, as a graphic down shot, is a bit questionable because it's not being displayed as necessity, but more like "OMG LOOK AT MY BEWB AND THE BABY LATCHED ON TO IT." Women aren't doing that in public, so I'm not sure how it's going to help desensitize people. Doesn't exactly win support from the asshat crowd. :/

Posted by Puvati
Haha. I have never been that overwhelming parent but it does make you a little crazy afterwards. I know for me, having my daughter naturally and experiencing her life before and after the birth, has truly been amazing. You become crazy because you suddenly love someone to an extent that you never knew love could exist in. So I was guilty, I think I posted like a picture a week. She just was so beautiful and increasingly more so by the days that passed. 🙂

I never wanted children but with her, my life is 10x more worth it now. She has given me more peace of mind, strength, passion, love, determination than I could have ever had without her.

It changes you, that's for sure.

I don't doubt it. There's a lot of brain chemistry change going on.

And a pic a week isn't bad, trust me, haha.

When their babies creates their own facebook and tries to add me while their mums and dad's suddenly gets a facelift to look like their babies and they post nothing but baby stuff.

It's time to bail.

Posted by Impulsv
U know the worse was being in out door restaurant n the damn woman starts changing the child's diaper on the table. No u didn't. We all
Slowly picked up
Our plates n left. Really I can handle the breast thing but changing ur sons god damn po in tables we eat!!

😱

Is that even legal?



It shouldn't be. 😐

Parents get very delusional about their kids. They think they're the cutest, the smartest, etc.

I like to buy People magazine & there's a baby section somewhere in there. The parents send in pictures of their babies for some sort of a competition. I believe the readers have to vote for the cutest or something like that. Some of the kids are REALLY adorable I must say, but some are ugly. But Ofcourse an ugly baby is still cute to their parent. It's just hilarious when there's an "Isnt s/he adorable" message (sent by the parent) next to a not so adorable baby. Parental love is as blind as the other forms of love.

Posted by starlover
Parent normally love their children.....don't they??

Is the Pope Catholic?

Posted by rockyroadicecream
Oh yes. Totally. I cannot wait to have a small being ripped from my vagina.

And you sound 12.

Well yea that's the thing. They have had a growing, throbbing parasitic alien critter embedded and growing in their innards, 10 pounds of it which will split her vagina into shreds as it's yanked and shoved out.

Then u sleep 2 hours a night to care for it. Crying crying.

damn right it feels like something to celebrate overcoming. All that work.

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That said, I fear having kids, haha. If that's what it turns you into, I'm gonna avoid that one all together. :/

Good.

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That said, I fear having kids, haha. If that's what it turns you into, I'm gonna avoid that one all together. :/

Good.

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That totally invoked the grumpy cat picture in my head.

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That said, I fear having kids, haha. If that's what it turns you into, I'm gonna avoid that one all together. :/

Good.

That totally invoked the grumpy cat picture in my head.

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I thought about posting Grumps, but my tablet makes posting pics tiresome.

Lol@ feeding that kid Pop Rocks

Posted by Impulsv
U know the worse was being in out door restaurant n the damn woman starts changing the child's diaper on the table. No u didn't. We all
Slowly picked up
Our plates n left. Really I can handle the breast thing but changing ur sons god damn po in tables we eat!!

I've seen this happen a few times, both at work and when I was out eating.

People are fucking ridiculous.

And it's not necessarily illegal, but it's definitely something the health department would freak the fuck out about. The employees should speak up and say something if they see that happening.

Posted by Nemesis
btw ladies without kids - don't believe the hype about vaginas being torn to smithereens lmao. what is up with this back alley wisdom? jesus christ. our bodies - for the most part - are constructed to endure pregnancy and birth (i think the pain of birth equates to having 22 bones broken at the same time lol). but even in this case, the body provides us with a natural high called endorphines. really, as soon as the alien is out of the cocoon - you??re high as a kite 🙂

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Posted by ombrerose
I was watching this last night and I thought you might have an opinion on this. It's hilarious!

This girl used to be a biach before but now shes turned to a full time mom

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You, too, can treat your kid as a science experiment!

My cousin's first did stuff like this. He loved lemons and would make the same face, all while reaching for more, haha.

Posted by BrightLights
It's really hard for me to relate to people who have children, men or women.

I pretty much stopped hanging with most of my friends who have children, which 8 out of 10 do.

Well, actually, I should clarify. There are cool parents out there whose life doesn't become their children once they become parents, and then there are those who become one with their children and completely change their life style and nothing else exists besides that child. I like the first group, who are able to separate an individual from role of the parent.

I don't have facebook, so I am not "forced" to look at their pictures and comment, luckily. I used to, and that was part of the reasons why I deleted that whole thing.

However, I am not judging them because I don't know how I'd act in similar situation. According to my mom, it is love mixed with pride that propels them to do that.
I can understand that, to a point. You want to show off your lil miracle to the world=)

Same here. I can only imagine because if I have kids, my life's over and it's all about them, which is why I don't have any, haha. Just not ready to drop my life style for that one.

I can understand to an extent, but that group you mentioned- the ones who become one with their child and all that shit, fine whatever. You want to worship your crotch dropping, go ahead. Just don't expect the rest of the world to, either.

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Posted by BrightLights
It's really hard for me to relate to people who have children, men or women.

I pretty much stopped hanging with most of my friends who have children, which 8 out of 10 do.

Well, actually, I should clarify. There are cool parents out there whose life doesn't become their children once they become parents, and then there are those who become one with their children and completely change their life style and nothing else exists besides that child. I like the first group, who are able to separate an individual from role of the parent.

I don't have facebook, so I am not "forced" to look at their pictures and comment, luckily. I used to, and that was part of the reasons why I deleted that whole thing.

However, I am not judging them because I don't know how I'd act in similar situation. According to my mom, it is love mixed with pride that propels them to do that.
I can understand that, to a point. You want to show off your lil miracle to the world=)

currently my baby is my dog. He is 70 yrs old but acts like a lil kid

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Mine was my 16 year old kitty (84 in human years) that I had to put down last year. :/

Posted by BrightLights
Rocky, what do you like about current life style that you think having kids will prevent you from doing?

I would like to think that I'd still be able to keep a part of myself and not just become a mom and have no other identity and life, but reality scares me😢
Lot of my friends here in USA work full-time, even two jobs while juggling kids too and their personal life seems perpetual mess and stress.

Some of my European friends who don't work seem to enjoy life more. They also still go out occasionally and do adult stuff, totally separated from children.

My current life style ?

I don't have kids to freaking worry about, haha.

Besides, I'm a caretaker to my mom atm. Kids just aren't an option.

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Posted by rockyroadicecream

It is. I understood why it was being done, but at the same time, it sort of countered the cause because it was more OMG LOOK AT IT NOW!! It works against them because there is a group out there who questions the validity of why some women are so adamant about being allowed to do this in public because they seem more into the exhibitionist side of it than the necessity of it.

If you gotta do it in public, fine. I personally don't care. But to post it so IN YOUR FACE on facebook, as a graphic down shot, is a bit questionable because it's not being displayed as necessity, but more like "OMG LOOK AT MY BEWB AND THE BABY LATCHED ON TO IT." Women aren't doing that in public, so I'm not sure how it's going to help desensitize people. Doesn't exactly win support from the asshat crowd. :/

yeah, well when women breastfeed in public, they cover themselves, so it's not really necessary to show your breasts in public.
Also i still don't know what to think about fb "revolutions", i'm old school so i only believe in, you want to protest, block the city. But then again, breastfeeding isn't forbiden, except in countries where is forbiden to show your face, so it is kinda weird what do you need support for. Ok, someone will say something to you, but so what. I'll say something back and we're even. But although i live in conservative society, nobody said a word to me.

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Facebook revolutions are for the lazy who want to feel like they're changing things, but do it with as little effort as possible. Posting pics and statuses is far easier than actually going out there and doing something about it. At least post some verified information if you're about spreading a cause. Pics and statuses do nothing.

And I agree, most of the moms I see feeding in public cover up. The ones I know do it because they're not cool with everyone and their dog seeing boob action, no matter how "beautiful" it's supposed to be.

The ones who are adamant about whipping it out with no cover, for all to see, are the ones some people question (are they the same category as diaper changing on restaurant tables??).

Posted by BrightLights
I don't have live pets who are my loves but I have lots of inanimate objects and activities who I love very much.

I simply never grew up around any children, so it is somewhat difficult for me to relate to children. Unless they are toddlers or school age where we can have at least somewhat of a conversation.

I don't have any issues with kids, unless they're assholes that need to be locked in a closet.

My mom worked in a daycare for awhile while I was growing up, so I spent a lot of time there after school from like 3rd grade til middle school or something. Got a lot of experience being around babies and toddlers.

I generally love kids, but I just don't care for any of my own yet.

Otherwise, I relate to them just fine. I am an Aries. I have as much energy as they do, haha.