Bad sex?

Good partner in most other aspects, marriage material in fact,..but bad sex..

You try to spice it up, talk about its importance of it, suggest things...but it takes two, ya know?

How important is it for you? Would you end it?

What if you are married, and sex gets bad later, with no effort from your partner? What would you do?

Donezo. Orgasms are too fucking important. Truth is..... if he's not interested in being a good lover he probably sucks at other things in his life too. You get a few talks and my full intentions to help you learn / improve. If it keeps up with little help from them..... I'm OUT.

Sex is pretty important because from my view, you feel safe enough to share your body, heart and mind with that person. But if I really loved someone I would stay with them if they had testicular cancer, so as important as sex is-it's not the be all end all for me.

sex is the beginning and the end. it lays the foundation. if my husband stopped giving me good sex, we would be in therapy.

Well if you're married you just have to keep working on it with them. Unless you married a retard they'll probably get better as time goes on. Besides you shouldn't just marry for the sex. As long as they love you and they're intimate with you then all you have to do is work with them.

Now if you're in a relationship or just seeing them that's a different story. Personally I'd still work with them, but I've never been with anyone that was so god awful I just told them it was over. I have grown tired of the act tho because the act wasn't that good

I'm starting to feel like sex is only good if your good with yourself and so is the other person.

I think in reality it's suppose to be the biggest expression of love. A serious thing.

Is it over all important I don't know. I think the connection mentally you have with eachother and how you fit into eachother lives is more so important. In reality.

I kept saying that cause I tend to go on in and out of it 😛

This is a hypothetical question. 😉

As far as the definition of bad sex...Lack of effort for example. Uninterested in partner satisfaction. Uninterested in variety, such as the use of toys or trying other possible venues. Bad sex, as in at least one "eye roll" after its over.

Again the person has other very good qualities.

i'm not sure. i've never had bad sex with someone i was in love with.

i'd have to say, though...bad sex would signal a problem to me. i don't think it's "right" and natural for sex to be bad. haha. so to me, if it sucked, that would mean either i or they really weren't into it. and that's a problem.

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Posted by iheartnerdyboyz
Good partner in most other aspects, marriage material in fact,..but bad sex..

You try to spice it up, talk about its importance of it, suggest things...but it takes two, ya know?

How important is it for you? Would you end it?

What if you are married, and sex gets bad later, with no effort from your partner? What would you do?

Mate you deserve someone who rocks your world in and out of the cradle.

I have a quadraplegic friend whose wife gives him an injection to get things rolling. If the guy can't make an effort it sounds like a sad scene😢

Posted by iheartnerdyboyz
Uninterested in variety, such as the use of toys or trying other possible venues.

Variety gets boring in the long run too.... it's just a temporary solution. You can only vary for so long with the same person. In the end he is still the one you're having sex with no matter which position, place or toy. The best sex is based on chemistry and not variety.

Let's assume you have done everything possible to communicate your sexual wants, needs and desires to your partner ... and he or she understands what you are saying but still is not trying to improve things. That means that either you are into stuff that is just unacceptable or totally unsexy to the other person; that your sex drives are so different that the other person physically cannot meet you even halfway; or the other person understands that it is important to you, but for whatever reason does not want to make the effort. ... Any of those would be a real problem in a relationship.

If the other person does not understand how important it is to you, then you would need to figure out a better way of communicating your thoughts and feelings to get your point across.
If the other person says that he or she does not understand how important it is to you, and you have communicated well enough for a person of his or her intelligence to understand ...then your partner is just ducking the issue hoping it will go away. That would also be a real problem.

If the sex between the two of you used to be great and now it sucks, it's a question of communication. Maybe your partner used to go along with things you were into ... but he/she was not ... and after some time, decided he/she had had enough and was done with it. That would also be a real problem, and one pointing back to communication in the beginning of the relationship. Let's say your partner is totally into really super kinky sex and you weren't, but went along with it to satisfy that person even though it was painful or humiliating for you. It was your obligation in the beginning to let your partner know you are not into that kind of sex, you might go along with it every once in a while to spice things up, but not to expect it all the time. If the relationship could hold up under those sexual conditions, then great; if not, the kinky person needs to find another kinky person who is into the same kind of thing.

The above situation actually happened with my sister. She's getting divorced.

If sex was good in the beginning..and I'll assume the connection is there already in place via relationship. Meaning you've made your choice, this is who you care about, back on you etc. If over time the quality of that lessened. And again not due to normal life b.s. Stress, chilluns, blah blah. I would wonder why someone was pulling away. I'd want to get down on that and tear its throat out. Sex IS that important in relationship. It's the physical connection that feeds and the bond that keeps those wheels turning. Even if it's a quickie or a bit of el strokerino in bed talking. Love/Desire/Care/Warmth on into infinity with it.

Posted by iheartnerdyboyz
Good partner in most other aspects, marriage material in fact,..but bad sex..

You try to spice it up, talk about its importance of it, suggest things...but it takes two, ya know?

How important is it for you? Would you end it?

What if you are married, and sex gets bad later, with no effort from your partner? What would you do?

Keep in mind that most people are "blinded" to the reality of thier partner in the beginning and actually fail to see what was present all along.

People tend to hide their true colors for purposes of making impressions ....


As for me, this is never a problem and never has been ... because you see exactly who I am, no superficial actions to make impressions .. therefore, sex with a partner has been the same in the end (if the relationship ended) as it was in the beginning = no false illusions

Hmm..my ex Aqua hubby was so so. We are divorced now. LOL..

Not because of that, but I'm glad that I don't have to put up w/ it anymore. He had this thing where no matter what I suggested (how I liked to be touched, etc), he would always revert back to HIS way of doing things. It pissed me off! Who does that? And he didn't like talking about our sexual relationship either. At first I thought he was just shy so it wasn't a huge red flag in the beginning, but it should have been.

But his lack of initiation was a major problem across the board, hence the divorce. So, no, wouldn't put up with bad sex; don't delude yourself. Sex is sometimes the glue that keeps you going when everything else is shit, a way to reconnect. And if its BAD, uh, can you IMAGINE what hell you're in for being married to that? No way.

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Posted by iheartnerdyboyz
Good partner in most other aspects, marriage material in fact,..but bad sex..

You try to spice it up, talk about its importance of it, suggest things...but it takes two, ya know?

How important is it for you? Would you end it?

What if you are married, and sex gets bad later, with no effort from your partner? What would you do?

Keep in mind that most people are "blinded" to the reality of thier partner in the beginning and actually fail to see what was present all along.

People tend to hide their true colors for purposes of making impressions ....


As for me, this is never a problem and never has been ... because you see exactly who I am, no superficial actions to make impressions .. therefore, sex with a partner has been the same in the end (if the relationship ended) as it was in the beginning = no false illusions

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Your game is no game 😉

Posted by Dreamer02


Sex is sometimes the glue that keeps you going when everything else is shit, a way to reconnect. And if its BAD, uh, can you IMAGINE what hell you're in for being married to that? No way.

I have heard/read a comment that is something like "God gave us sex so that we have a reason to learn to live with one another." I liked that one. Sex isn't the only reason to be with someone, but it is a very, very important reason. It also provides some real impetus to compromise, talk, and otherwise come to understand someone else, and learn to share with that someone else.

Brought to you by Jack Handy, or maybe it was Handy Jack Off, or some such thing....
Sure that is stupid. But hey, we ain't have sex, so what do I care what you think!!!

And now you see my point.