Deadbeat Parent

Random topic, but do you think there is any justification for a woman or a man to owe considerable amounts of child support?

Under what circumstances, would we as a society justify it? Or is there no justifiable excuse?

How would you feel if said parent that was in arrears in support, had moved on with someone else that had children from a previous relationship as well, and supported those children emotionally and financially, and did not do the same for for his/her actual biological child?

You can blame Judge Judy for this topic.

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Maybe he lost his job?

Garner their wages.

Yeah my sister briefly dated a dude who bragged about how much money he made each month.

Irony was he was hiding 2 ex wives and a current wife from her. 6 kids to pay child support on and it automatically was withdrawn from his check each month (gov. employee).

Ironic cause she owns a business, properties, etc. So its like, dude, why even lie about that. She wasn't looking at you like a meal ticket. And now she's not looking at you period cause your a liar.

Womp womp.

Posted by TheRabbit

If he becomes disabled and unable to work.

That begs the question of, prior to his disability, he/she should continue paying the child support. When the disability occurs, then he could have applied for a modification of support, that would take into account his new level of income.

So is there really any justification for any parent, to be in arrears in the thousands, if modifications can occur that would decrease the support to a manageable amount?

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Posted by nikkistar

Posted by TheRabbit

If he becomes disabled and unable to work.

That begs the question of, prior to his disability, he/she should continue paying the child support. When the disability occurs, then he could have applied for a modification of support, that would take into account his new level of income.

So is there really any justification for any parent, to be in arrears in the thousands, if modifications can occur that would decrease the support to a manageable amount?

Modification may take some time and some family court judges are vindictive cunts. So if the arrears were post disability, that would be the only excuse.

I'd say there's another reason, but it might be triggering for some folks with less than stellar abilities to view a situation in objective terms, and I simply don't want to sort through all the hate notifications I'd get.

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Mind pming me it? I'd like to know.

This is a sticky situation. I think that it sucks for the deadbeat parent to lose their license and get jail time for not paying child support but at the same time It would just depend. If the parent was able to take the kid on all vacations out of school and summertime, I wouldn't have any issues with him not paying.

If I was in a 2 parent relationship and providing for me and my kid/or kids and had support from my man, it would also be a non issue. I wouldn't care if he was taking care of his other kids. If they have money like that, I would at least ask for some sort of payment into a college fund that he could set up for the kid but other then that, what he does with his new family isn't really an issue if I'm not a single parent.

As a single parent, I would expect more help though and I would be upset that he wasn't providing.

Posted by saggurl88

This is a sticky situation. I think that it sucks for the deadbeat parent to lose their license and get jail time for not paying child support but at the same time It would just depend. If the parent was able to take the kid on all vacations out of school and summertime, I wouldn't have any issues with him not paying.

If I was in a 2 parent relationship and providing for me and my kid/or kids and had support from my man, it would also be a non issue. I wouldn't care if he was taking care of his other kids. If they have money like that, I would at least ask for some sort of payment into a college fund that he could set up for the kid but other then that, what he does with his new family isn't really an issue if I'm not a single parent.

As a single parent, I would expect more help though and I would be upset that he wasn't providing.

I like this answer.

I know someone who steal his kid’s money (given by the government) and his kid is disabled.

Some People are monsters inside.

sometimes the other parent (who has full custody) is to blame

they are difficult with providing meaningful contact with the child for the other parent

there are unfortunately lots of parents who are deadbeat, because they dont want any physical or financial bond to their crazy exes who hold the child as a pawn 😢

Posted by TheRabbit

Posted by nikkistar

Posted by TheRabbit

If he becomes disabled and unable to work.

That begs the question of, prior to his disability, he/she should continue paying the child support. When the disability occurs, then he could have applied for a modification of support, that would take into account his new level of income.

So is there really any justification for any parent, to be in arrears in the thousands, if modifications can occur that would decrease the support to a manageable amount?

Modification may take some time and some family court judges are vindictive cunts. So if the arrears were post disability, that would be the only excuse.

I'd say there's another reason, but it might be triggering for some folks with less than stellar abilities to view a situation in objective terms, and I simply don't want to sort through all the hate notifications I'd get.

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Modification takes forever. 10 months to be precise. So, if you get laid off or hurt and let them know, all that money racks up until the court date.

Also, if you want to change careers, go back to college or what not, you better have a huge savings acct built up. They expect you to pay the same amount regardless.