Do looks matter?

Must your man or woman be attractive or gorgeous? Or is it about the inside?

I personally don't think so. It adds, but it's not what i am attracted to. I like someone to make me laugh.

For me, looks are what attracts me visually first, BUT (huge but)--it's all about personality after that. I have seen some incredibly nice heart-stoppingly gorgeous guys, and then I've seen some drop dead gorgeous a-holes. The thing is, as soon as a guy acts like a jerk, his previously unbelievable good looks turn to s h i t right before my eyes. Immediate turnoff if he's a jack a s s.

jackass I mean. lol.

I was afraid to curse because I thought they would turn jackass into like, jackbutter or something crazy like that. lol.

jackbutter in the house 🙂

i think i might have to steal that and use it as my new username

LOL!

ha ha, you are a riot dxp. ; )

Err..."jackbutter" (lol)

So funny!

You know, I think you should call yourself The Master, for obvious reasons, you know because you are like, the Alpha Male of the duncan expose. lol.

Still giggling about jackbutter though. LOL : )

I think that a person has to be physically attracted to someone.

But I do think that what a person is on the inside has alot to play in the relationship and attraction.

Physical Attraction is a must for most people. I personnally think that to many people in the world base thier opinions or feelings toward someone on what the outside looks like. The outside is the bonus, the inside is what makes or breaks your relationship.

-scorpio woman - is a fox on the outside, and more beautiful than an angel on the inside. and that is what attracks me to her both physically and sexually, and that is why I can not keep my hands off her.

-MarineSag

That is good that you have accpeted yourself, that is healthy, and I just started doing it myself. Like I said in a past post on this subject, they way people act and how kind, funny etc has alot to play in finding someone attractive, but I feel that it goes deeper than that...I have to be physically attractive to someone in order...I guess u could say to start converstaion if I think I might be intrested.

Personally, I have to be attracted to someone, though that attraction is rarely based on looks - more a case of a person being comfortable with themselves and confident rather than a conventionally attractive person who (from experience) is more likely to be insecure. I've gone out with beautiful people and others who, in hindsight, are well within the realms of circus freak.
For me, that initial lust has a blinding effect - i find myself identifying the good points and inflating them so that they overwhelm any negative aspects.

Cortica, I agree with you all the way. Yes, looks are great, but I have dated both beautiful and not so beautiful people in my life, and I think that I am much more attracted to someone who may not be a celebrity lookalike, but makes me laugh and has extreme confidence like he is prince charming. That is very attractive to me. Also, think of this. If he puts himself down, then why the hell do I want him. I am thinking.."am i missing a flaw". I also find that beautiful men usually think they are more attractive than a female, and they normally cheat.

twinkee77

Yes! on attractive. I have never dated an unattractive person. Never really got to date much. I got married and then two weeks after my divorce I got hooked up on the rebound! I can usually find something appealing in every one. I ended up with the ones that had reputations!!! I agree with Cortica; it is more about how a person 'carries' themselves vs. looks! Never found farm animals attractive though, like Cortica HAH!

"How much money is spent anually on cosmetics, plastic surgery, diet pills, steroids, hair replacement drugs, skin care products, and teeth whiteners? Money doesn't lie"

yeah, and drugs and alcohol are good for ya! LOL! it depends on who is buying it, I would say!

I have to be attracted to someone in order to start convo. My man that I am with now has all of the qualities that I am looking for and we plan to get married the first week in may of 03.

The person who spends their money on drugs and alcohol, is seeking escape, just as the person who spends their money on music, must love music. A society can't spend a billion dollars a year on beauty aids and say that looks are unimportant. But I must say it's refreshing that so many of the responses stressed the importance of qualities other than looks. (!)

I agree, like I have said looks somewhat matter to me, but thier are alot of thinks that people loose when they look for that good looking person. Alot of good qualities people do not look for anymore. I need someone who is funny, passionate, goal oreintated (sp?), just an all around wonderful person and I have found that and I think that he is the best looking person in the world. It is amazing how much peoples personalities will affect thier aperarance rather thier personalities are good or bad, it will afect it guarenteed. 🙂

Well, I always find myself falling for guys that I didn't find attractive or seem to notice at first. I'm not going to lie though. I do sometimes find myself walking around thinking, "Hmmm, you're cute. You're cute. Oh you're not so cute..." But when it comes to actually FALLING in love, I think most of us can agree that looks can be the most inconsequential aspect of that person. Either that or your personal ideal of a "beautiful" man/woman is molded to your beloved's form. It's like, they turn into the most beautiful creatures right before your eyes and Their imperfections become perfect to you. It's funny.

Just thought I'd share....

I totally agree with you, Free.

I, too, have found myself falling for guys that I would not considered attractive initially, and if they hadn't approached me, I wouldn't have noticed them!
Falling in love takes time for me, and I am not one to act on an impulse of lust and attraction...as I think I deserve more than that...

I have dated some beautiful men and have found most to have a very high opinion of themselves (regarding their looks), and also to be very critical of what I was going to wear...they wanted to dictate to me what I wore, what jewelry I wore with the outfit and how I wore my hair! (I am just too much of a free spirit to put up with this kind of butter!)
Sorry...I had a few bad memories as I wrote!! LOL!

In truth, it takes me a long time to decide if the person is attractive or not..
I still haven't decided about Brad Pitt, for instance!!

Parallax, I always enjoy your posts! I enjoy hearing your insight and your realism!

Love and Light,
Star

I truly did not type 'butter'...Jackbutter did it! LOL!!

At the end of the day, it all boils down to attitude.

In a way yes, although I believe once the love spell has been cast the person will automatically look attractive to you 🙂

Can someone bump up Prince_Pisces music thread?

I fucking scrolled forever and seem to keep missing it

gracias

Posted by AneemA08
It MATTERS. And believe it or not.

For practical use.

Yep.

Like career, social, and business.

Looks MATTER!!!

Like if Trump is a looker!!! —?

Of course looks matter! Anyone who says otherwise is lying to themselves.

In my opinion, a persons personality contributes so much more in regards to whether or not a person is attractive. But I suppose it's a combination of things. Different people will have different opinions on who is and isn't attractive but overall, yes looks do matter also because it's important in a relationship for two people to find each other attractive physically also.