Do we all have to compromise...

...to get ahead in life?

My goal has always been to live with little to no compromise in who I am, what I'm about and my ethics.

But sometimes I feel the pressure to give in to the bullshit of appeasing people, playing games to get what I want, fakeness. Etc.

Has anyone ever reached success without compromising? Why do I feel so guilty about it?

I'm not sure it's a compromise for some people...they are more than willing to do what they have to do to get ahead.

Yes... We all have to compromise... In this beautiful world we could never live on our own. The world, including the human population, is a beautiful master piece each stroke of the brush and color makes us individual and unique. Yet we are all part of the larger live master piece.

If you can't work with others and compromise you will never get where you want to be... Do you honestly think no one has ever compromised for you. Did you family not compromise to feed you... Did they not compromise there life and change to take care of you... Even though it was not easy. Do you think I am not compromising what I want to do by responding when I could be doing something else...?

Do you honestly think that not one of your friend has compromised and did what you want even though they wanted something else...

Always be willing to compromise as long as your core values remain intack

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Okay so here's the story. I just assisted this 1.8m sale. And now its like now what... Not sure where my next big deal is coming from.

Out of nowhere, this guy calls me and and goes into detail about how he has a 3M condo hes looking to rent out.. Worth nearly 7k. Commission on a rental like that is 4-6k, if I can convince him to sell its like 20-40k take home commission.

I've become suspicious because 1) he found me from our company website. We all have profile pictures. So he basically scrolled down and looked at which agent he would like because there is nothing in my profile that makes me stand out qualified to take a listing like that.

2) he's texting me asking me personal questions like where am I from what's my nationality. What are my plans for Friday night. Being kind of flirty.

I'm sensing a bit of quid pro quo here.... He wants something from me in order to give this listing.


Theres a really dark part of me that thinks "anyone who uses their business to get laid, deserves to get played". I would only lead him on until i got his listing or sold/rented his property. On the other hand doing so feels no better than being a really really really high end escort.

Of course I'm going to talk to hubby about it. We always joked that we would pimp each other out for listings but not sure how he would feel about it in real life.

Again wouldn't sleep with the guy but would have to wine and dine to get the listing and also be flirty. Like friend zoning him to get what I want.

This what I mean by compromise. Another listing like this has its benefits for sure. You build your list of closed deals and you start to look like an expert in luxury listings.

I think you mean selling out...not compromising

I also once sat with a colleague of mine and we talked shop together.

He basically told me that the people he got listings from were also interested in screwing him (men and women). At the time I was shocked by it like he was making it up.

Now I get what he's saying and wondering maybe that's how everyone at the bottom has had to build themselves up. or been born into really good connections...

Again no physical contact but would have to flirt somewhat to be likable enough to get the listing. Hmm...

I guess I mean selling out... Compromising myself. Corrupting my business. It wouldn't be based on merit anymore.

Welcome to that business... Lol...

Many people try that... You can see if it works. My mother quite as well as another girl I know I am guessing she quite for the same reason.

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I can also say people think that market will go up forever. It is about to crash again... Also realtors think that Being a realtor is like being in business for yourself it is not... In reality it is not... The people that buy and sale make profit. Brokers maybe if they speculate on there own property. True business is being able to take something and sale it for at min 20% profit or it is not worth the taxes and other stuff. Learn to save your money invest in something you speculate and make a profit. Good luck... Lol

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It all comes down to how you measure success personally...if to you making big deals and more money is success...that will likely take compromising on your part since it depends on other people.


Personally I consider myself successful because I am doing what I believe in and love...I don't have to compromise or sell out to achieve that because it depends on no one but me.

If that makes sense

Thanks everyone for all your insight.

I guess I feel guilty because I'm married and have t had a chance to discuss with hubby. If I were single I dont think I would care. A listing is a listing. Some people have looks, some people have intellegence, some have connections, some have the gift of gab. Should we feel guilty for the advantages we get in life?

I guess I always imagined my success to be 100% based on merit. but the more I think about the top producers in our company most are not based on merit but rather family connections or sexuality.

Tiziani, your take is interesting lol. The guy who said his clients always want to fuck him was a Libra.

I will discuss with Hubby and see how he feels about me hustling this guy. If he doesnt feel comfortable I'll just drop it or refer it out.

Lol^

Women are just always going to have this internal struggle...to use the PP (pussy power) or not. On one hand you want to be valued for more than what's between your thighs...but on the other hand you know what it can get you/where it can take you.

I am sure plenty of women got to the top without topping someone off...but I'm also fairly certain the majority did.

COLD WORLD

So I've definitely come to the loose conclusion that this guy is a Libra..... Uh oh lol

He's an attorney (balancing of scales) and is very flirty in text conversation to someone is essentially a stranger.

It would be a sigh of relief if he was a Libra because then I know not to take his flirting as anything serious or hopefully dangerous. And he will be an agreeable personality so hopefully ill be able to sway him yo get his listing.

I have a meeting over dinner tomorrow....

Honestly I met with this guy over drinks. I'm definitely not getting this listing. I did not give any impression. That I was going to be an agent with a happy ending

He made his intentions pretty clear. He has both properties for sale and rent and he uses it to pick up girlfriends.

Aside from the fact that I am happily married I am not attracted to this guy at all!!! I can't respect anyone who tries to thinly veil his business with an opportunity for pleasure. I mean there are people out there that really need the business and might feel like they have to give a sexual favor in order to make ends meet! and he's taking advantage of that!

I played coy and flirty but I'm not going any further to get this listing. Screw that.

That might be exactly why you do get the listing actually...men like that can't resist the chase.

@brianafay hilarious if that were to happen lol wouldn't say I wouldn't be happy to get a listing like that. It would just suck I'd have to games to get it and keep it.

@tiziani Mercury is in Gemini so I'm not to far from that. Trying to rationalize it as a means to an end.

oops sorry your right my merc. Is in Aquarius. Confused with my hubbys mercury placement. I knew it was an air sign!

Pulled my chart off astrology cafe. I think its somewhat accurate. Not sure.

Yeah it my favorite placement in my chart and I think its the only way I stay positive. I'm mainly earth dominated, 4 cappie placements!!