Does this sound okay?

Have fun reading this and hope you guys can help. So I’m sexting with a guy friend who I eventually liked. I’m not sure if I did something wrong here as I always strive for improvement. Got out 10 year relationship haha

Anyways, I’ve never seen his 🍆 except through video that he sent me and I really liked it

Days after, I made a story about which size of a particular item I should get that I was buying and I inserted a caption that my bestfriend mentioned “bigger is better imo 😌” my guy friend replied and saying that’s what she said 😧” so THEN I replied that, “I was going to say something , but nahhh! I’ll save it for video chat 🤭”

The next day, we were building up to sexting so I thought it was a good moment to bring up that his size looked perfect to make him feel good. He then messaged “but you don’t know the real size” although he ❤️ my comment

I said, “Maybe that was hasty of me and you may be right that I don't know, but you did a good job presenting it last chat where I've been kinda peeking a few times after ☺️

-guilty as charged-

Didn’t get a reply back at all. Did I do something wrong? Tbh, he was high, but still competent enough to respond. I’m overthinking this because I haven’t heard anything for two days 😞 we’ve known each other for a year

Edit: he finally responded, but only said, “I did fell asleep, I was so high 🫣🫣🫣” idk how to feel or respond to that tbh

Posted by MonaLisa26
Let’s say…you aren’t a brightest bulb are you?

You 2 are weird AF!

You just been dying over saying I want to be where you are and after days of beating yourself senseless into a pulp - he is sending you a sick pick and you talking about size…and NOW you are back to beating yourself up AGAIN? You need to grow up or stop trying to be sexy. Or both or just stop everything or you’ll get yourself into some fucking trouble!

Do you post this to every thread? I feel so sorry for you spreading negativity 🙂

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Posted by WarEternal
Have fun reading this and hope you guys can help. So I’m sexting with a guy friend who I eventually liked. I’m not sure if I did something wrong here as I always strive for improvement. Got out 10 year relationship haha

Anyways, I’ve never seen his 🍆 except through video that he sent me and I’ve commented that his size was perfect and then he replied, “but you don’t know the real size” although he liked my comment

I replied: Maybe that was hasty of me and you may be right that I don't know, but you did a good job presenting it last chat where I've been kinda peeking a few times after ☺️

-guilty as charged-

Didn’t get a reply back at all. Did I do something wrong? Tbh, he was high, but still competent enough to respond. I’m overthinking this because I haven’t heard anything since last night 😞 we’ve known each other for a year

That's thot energy. You screwed up by coming on too strong like that... how long have you known this guy—

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Posted by Stony
IMO, nah. I mean, maybe a little rocky with the size comment, but he shouldn't have said that either if he wasn't ready for something like that to come back. Either way, I love when a girl wants to look at me. I can't see much wrong with this. I would still be tryna get at you, especially if you told me you've been peeking at it. I'd be trying to meet up. Lmao

I’m just pretty assertive in what I want instead of beating around the bush like most girls 🤭

The idea of sexting to learn someone's body is crazy to me. You use to have to have to take a complete gamble, and find out for yourself. We never knew if it was clean, dirty, or matched any description from a picture. We just threw the dice and hoped for the best. You 100% can't know the aspect of someone's body though a picture. Eventually you will have go find out for yourself in person.

Posted by Soul
The idea of sexting to learn someone's body is crazy to me. You use to have to have to take a complete gamble, and find out for yourself. We never knew if it was clean, dirty, or matched any description from a picture. We just threw the dice and hoped for the best. You 100% can't know the aspect of someone's body though a picture. Eventually you will have go find out for yourself in person.

It was a video, not picture, but I understand what you meant. I did admit to him that I was hasty in saying that 😞 it was in the moment, but I really like him a lot and he knows it

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IMO, nah. I mean, maybe a little rocky with the size comment, but he shouldn't have said that either if he wasn't ready for something like that to come back. Either way, I love when a girl wants to look at me. I can't see much wrong with this. I would still be tryna get at you, especially if you told me you've been peeking at it. I'd be trying to meet up. Lmao

I’m just pretty assertive in what I want instead of beating around the bush like most girls 🤭
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Better to be that way. Beating around the bush just aggravates everyone. Unless you're trying to get the bush beaten up.

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Exactly! As a woman, I get the femininity aspect of seducing. I’ve already done it with him earlier when we started and felt comfortable enough to go all out now. He even said, “I love it when a woman is assertive” which is an advantage for me. I’m just a little confused how he left me hanging 😅 he was high and passed out most likely, but it’s sad that I didn’t get a follow up text :/ that’s why I’m overthinking what I should I do?

Posted by Stony
IMO, nah. I mean, maybe a little rocky with the size comment, but he shouldn't have said that either if he wasn't ready for something like that to come back. Either way, I love when a girl wants to look at me. I can't see much wrong with this. I would still be tryna get at you, especially if you told me you've been peeking at it. I'd be trying to meet up. Lmao

Btw, the size comment was mentioned because I posted a story regarding what size should I get for a particular item and my bestfriend jokingly said, “bigger is better”. Then the guy friend replied, “that’s what she said 😦” so then I said that, “I was going to say something but nvm 🤭 I’ll tell you via video chat”. So it wasn’t really out of the blue and thought it was a good moment to mention 🤷🏻‍♀️

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Posted by Stony
IMO, nah. I mean, maybe a little rocky with the size comment, but he shouldn't have said that either if he wasn't ready for something like that to come back. Either way, I love when a girl wants to look at me. I can't see much wrong with this. I would still be tryna get at you, especially if you told me you've been peeking at it. I'd be trying to meet up. Lmao

I’m just pretty assertive in what I want instead of beating around the bush like most girls 🤭
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Better to be that way. Beating around the bush just aggravates everyone. Unless you're trying to get the bush beaten up.
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Exactly! As a woman, I get the femininity aspect of seducing. I’ve already done it with him earlier when we started and felt comfortable enough to go all out now. He even said, “I love it when a woman is assertive” which is an advantage for me. I’m just a little confused how he left me hanging 😅 he was high and passed out most likely, but it’s sad that I didn’t get a follow up text :/ that’s why I’m overthinking what I should I do?
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wait for him to wake up lol, talk as normal tomorrow or whatever

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So take the initiative, again? 😅 it’ll be considered day 2

Posted by Bumboklaat
He's probably trying to make you beg him.

You really think so?

I muted him until he reaches out tbh

You seem to be the one making all the first moves. Maybe you should hang back and wait till he sends a text. Also do y’all see each other in person often?

Posted by Aquavina
You seem to be the one making all the first moves. Maybe you should hang back and wait till he sends a text. Also do y’all see each other in person often?

That’s what I’m doing. I usually hype him up on social media, should I pull back? But yeah, I am making the first moves. He doesn’t really chase and is independent, but he likes me? We’ve known each other for about a month til he moved so we’re long distance, but we’ve been consistent for almost a year now and been video chatting

We’re planning on seeing each other in the spring/summer hopefully

Idk what you are trying to do here...FWB at distance? That's defeating the purpose...

If this is what you want from him though, don't do it unless you are willing to reciprocate and be flirty/seductive...otherwise it's a cringe fest. Your response to his dick video was dry, not horny. You sounded like someone conducting an online study involving dick size, giving some feedback to one of the participants.

Shouldn't be your turn to show your vagina now?

Posted by Undine
Idk what you are trying to do here...FWB at distance? That's defeating the purpose...

If this is what you want from him though, don't do it unless you are willing to reciprocate and be flirty/seductive...otherwise it's a cringe fest. Your response to his dick video was dry, not horny. You sounded like someone conducting an online study involving dick size, giving some feedback to one of the participants.

Shouldn't be your turn to show your vagina now?

Who says I wasn’t flirty seductive? Who says I haven’t shown mine? When I have! For the record, if you read the previous replies, there was a reason I brought it up and thought it was good moment to 🙄

The video he sent me and the comment I made were two separate days! I was just following up. Oh,but then he ❤️ the comment too? Which is why I’m confused. If you need more context, I’ll happily explain

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Posted by Undine
Idk what you are trying to do here...FWB at distance? That's defeating the purpose...

If this is what you want from him though, don't do it unless you are willing to reciprocate and be flirty/seductive...otherwise it's a cringe fest. Your response to his dick video was dry, not horny. You sounded like someone conducting an online study involving dick size, giving some feedback to one of the participants.

Shouldn't be your turn to show your vagina now?

Who says I wasn’t flirty seductive? Who says I haven’t shown mine? When I have! For the record, if you read the previous replies, there was a reason I brought it up and thought it was good moment to 🙄

The video he sent me and the comment I made were two separate days! I was just following up. Oh,but then he ❤️ the comment too? Which is why I’m confused. If you need more context, I’ll happily explain

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Well, for feedback it's good to give ALL the relevant information, in chronological order, ideally in the same thread....

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Posted by Undine
Idk what you are trying to do here...FWB at distance? That's defeating the purpose...

If this is what you want from him though, don't do it unless you are willing to reciprocate and be flirty/seductive...otherwise it's a cringe fest. Your response to his dick video was dry, not horny. You sounded like someone conducting an online study involving dick size, giving some feedback to one of the participants.

Shouldn't be your turn to show your vagina now?

Who says I wasn’t flirty seductive? Who says I haven’t shown mine? When I have! For the record, if you read the previous replies, there was a reason I brought it up and thought it was good moment to 🙄

The video he sent me and the comment I made were two separate days! I was just following up. Oh,but then he ❤️ the comment too? Which is why I’m confused. If you need more context, I’ll happily explain
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Well, for feedback it's good to give ALL the relevant information, in chronological order, ideally in the same thread....

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It’ll be too long of a story 😅 I tried it before and barely got any bites from other personal issues, but I guess I can re-edit

I finally got a reply back and all he can say is, “I was, I was so high 🫣🫣🫣🫣”

Posted by Aquavina
You seem to be the one making all the first moves. Maybe you should hang back and wait till he sends a text. Also do y’all see each other in person often?

He finally replied back and all he said, “I did, I was so high 🫣🫣🫣🫣”

Not sure how to feel tbh

I can just laugh react and end the convo or I can start another another conversation and just keep him at a distance for now. I’m just sorta disappointed

Posted by GeminiJim
Look,

It's supposed to be fun..

You keep worrying about what you said or didn't say and how he reacted, it all defeats the purpose

You have too much riding on this, too much expectations, too much need..

If you want it serious then be serious. If you want it fun then be fun

but it's like you are trying to "learn" how to be, rather than being authentic

I like to self improve. I thought of myself fun, but then he stopped responding 🤷🏻‍♀️ like why initiate then leave the person hanging? I wondered if I did something wrong

Posted by Eyeroll
Maybe just don’t bring up size at all anymore. To anyone. As a general rule going forward. Especially not in the context of “bigger is better”

It wasn’t my intention 😞 I was trying to make him feel good and it backfired. Since he texted, should I bring it up or just move on and talk about something else?

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Look,

It's supposed to be fun..

You keep worrying about what you said or didn't say and how he reacted, it all defeats the purpose

You have too much riding on this, too much expectations, too much need..

If you want it serious then be serious. If you want it fun then be fun

but it's like you are trying to "learn" how to be, rather than being authentic

I like to self improve. I thought of myself fun, but then he stopped responding 🤷🏻‍♀️ like why initiate then leave the person hanging? I wondered if I did something wrong
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Yeh, this self improvement thing is harming you though because it's making you question yourself all the time and then it will make you insecure and perhaps needy

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When you like someone, it definitely makes you question a lot 😅

Posted by TXCowboy
Looks like we're going to have to work on this some more.

Uh oh 🫣

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Looks like we're going to have to work on this some more.

I was trying to make him feel good and although he hearted my comment, it seems like it backfired 🤷🏻‍♀️

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Posted by Undine
Idk what you are trying to do here...FWB at distance? That's defeating the purpose...

If this is what you want from him though, don't do it unless you are willing to reciprocate and be flirty/seductive...otherwise it's a cringe fest. Your response to his dick video was dry, not horny. You sounded like someone conducting an online study involving dick size, giving some feedback to one of the participants.

Shouldn't be your turn to show your vagina now?

Who says I wasn’t flirty seductive? Who says I haven’t shown mine? When I have! For the record, if you read the previous replies, there was a reason I brought it up and thought it was good moment to 🙄

The video he sent me and the comment I made were two separate days! I was just following up. Oh,but then he ❤️ the comment too? Which is why I’m confused. If you need more context, I’ll happily explain
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Well, for feedback it's good to give ALL the relevant information, in chronological order, ideally in the same thread....
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It’ll be too long of a story 😅 I tried it before and barely got any bites from other personal issues, but I guess I can re-edit

I finally got a reply back and all he can say is, “I was, I was so high 🫣🫣🫣🫣”
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Is this man on hard drugs? Lol, I've never been so blown that I couldn't respond at all

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LOL it was muffin edible from Holland 😅

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Posted by Aquavina
You seem to be the one making all the first moves. Maybe you should hang back and wait till he sends a text. Also do y’all see each other in person often?

He finally replied back and all he said, “I did, I was so high 🫣🫣🫣🫣”

Not sure how to feel tbh

I can just laugh react and end the convo or I can start another another conversation and just keep him at a distance for now. I’m just sorta disappointed

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There are things we say, do and like ONLY when horny (or sometimes high, drunk, whatever....). Bringing them up at any other time is cringy to say the least, and I'm not even a prude!

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You seem to be the one making all the first moves. Maybe you should hang back and wait till he sends a text. Also do y’all see each other in person often?

He finally replied back and all he said, “I did, I was so high 🫣🫣🫣🫣”

Not sure how to feel tbh

I can just laugh react and end the convo or I can start another another conversation and just keep him at a distance for now. I’m just sorta disappointed

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There are things we say, do and like ONLY when horny (or sometimes high, drunk, whatever....). Bringing them up at any other time is cringy to say the least, and I'm not even a prude!

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What baffles me is that he has said much worse and can get crude with me 😅we’re both not even horny yet I like/adore him enough to take it and pounce on that opportunity 🙃

Posted by Soul
The idea of sexting to learn someone's body is crazy to me. You use to have to have to take a complete gamble, and find out for yourself. We never knew if it was clean, dirty, or matched any description from a picture. We just threw the dice and hoped for the best. You 100% can't know the aspect of someone's body though a picture. Eventually you will have go find out for yourself in person.

I know and I wouldn't want to know until that time. Dick piks do nothing for me but make me laugh.

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Posted by Soul
The idea of sexting to learn someone's body is crazy to me. You use to have to have to take a complete gamble, and find out for yourself. We never knew if it was clean, dirty, or matched any description from a picture. We just threw the dice and hoped for the best. You 100% can't know the aspect of someone's body though a picture. Eventually you will have go find out for yourself in person.

I know and I wouldn't want to know until that time. Dick piks do nothing for me but make me laugh.

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Its what works if you’re doing long distance to keep the attraction going 🤷🏻‍♀️

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Posted by Soul
The idea of sexting to learn someone's body is crazy to me. You use to have to have to take a complete gamble, and find out for yourself. We never knew if it was clean, dirty, or matched any description from a picture. We just threw the dice and hoped for the best. You 100% can't know the aspect of someone's body though a picture. Eventually you will have go find out for yourself in person.

I know and I wouldn't want to know until that time. Dick piks do nothing for me but make me laugh.
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Its what works if you’re doing long distance to keep the attraction going 🤷🏻‍♀️

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If I already had the thing and it was good it would be forever engraved in my mind so; I wouldn't need a picture.

I don't know about the guy.

But the girl sounds like one hot mess of an dumb, easy skank lost in life.

She sounds like one of those people that'd say something like "I got drunk, someone put something in my drink, fell asleep, I think I got gang raped by 5 men and Idk what happened after that" and she would insert a "haha" as she tells what happened to her.

Posted by Dastard2020
I don't know about the guy.

But the girl sounds like one hot mess of an dumb, easy skank lost in life.

She sounds like one of those people that'd say something like "I got drunk, someone put something in my drink, fell asleep, I think I got gang raped by 5 men and Idk what happened after that" and she would insert a "haha" as she tells what happened to her.

Good thing it’s an opinion, not fact 😉