@coldwateryvirgo
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Feel like I don’t fit in anywhere
Posted by pompower
try acting
What would that do
I'm a venus in scorpio too
Idk.. I don't think it's really venus related maybe more so uranus and neptune squaring my moon..
I don't feel like I fit in too well.. at work, growing up, out at a club and especially on this site..
I always feel like I'm in the background. I'm sorta an introvert but im still out there.. I think I'm awesome and weird and funny but idk I wonder what everyone else sees you know?
People have let me down too...
Posted by HarleyTwinFlame
I'm a venus in scorpio tooIdk.. I don't think it's really venus related maybe more so uranus and neptune squaring my moon..
I don't feel like I fit in too well.. at work, growing up, out at a club and especially on this site..
I always feel like I'm in the background. I'm sorta an introvert but im still out there.. I think I'm awesome and weird and funny but idk I wonder what everyone else sees you know?
People have let me down too...
I feel the same way !
You're an INTJ. Embrace it.
Seriously, we're not meant to have lots of friends. Just a few who leave us alone when we ask without getting bitchy, and who like deep diving and pondering all things mysterious.
Honestly there aren't very many people like that. As you get older, you learn to accept and like the way you are.
I am only a couple of years older than you and until recently I felt the same way, it’s something I also struggled with almost all of my life. My advice would be to realize that nothing compares to living life in real time vs a screen. You want to look back at your life and have memories doing things, being with the people that you love and experiences that change you. I don’t know how else to put it except that I’ve realized as of late that I have wasted most of time being too afraid and not living in the moment. I should have yes more often, I should’ve done this and not that, I should’ve said this and so on but at least I can start doing that now and so can you. Life is not going to wait for you, there is no perfect or right time for anything. Life is passing you by and you need to get out of your head once in a while. I like being a part of someone’s life because you meet people at a certain time of their life and as time goes by some change some don’t, but there’s something about knowing someone and knowing things about them that is magical. Alright rant over, but if this is something you seriously want it’s not going to be easy and you’ll be uncomfortable, but what you want requires change, a different version of yourself. If you like to read books go join a book club or whatever it is that you enjoy. Another thing that helps is to be the friend that you would like to have, be that person for someone else. At the same time be cautious of people, make sure you invest your time in people that won’t do you wrong.
-Good luck xoxo
Posted by HarleyTwinFlame
I'm a venus in scorpio tooIdk.. I don't think it's really venus related maybe more so uranus and neptune squaring my moon..
I don't feel like I fit in too well.. at work, growing up, out at a club and especially on this site..
I always feel like I'm in the background. I'm sorta an introvert but im still out there.. I think I'm awesome and weird and funny but idk I wonder what everyone else sees you know?
People have let me down too...
I feel the same way !
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I think it’s a Uranus thing. I have Uranus in first and I have always felt like I didn’t belong anywhere. Now I am proud of it 🙂
Posted by HarleyTwinFlame
I'm a venus in scorpio tooIdk.. I don't think it's really venus related maybe more so uranus and neptune squaring my moon..
I don't feel like I fit in too well.. at work, growing up, out at a club and especially on this site..
I always feel like I'm in the background. I'm sorta an introvert but im still out there.. I think I'm awesome and weird and funny but idk I wonder what everyone else sees you know?
People have let me down too...
I feel the same way !
I think it’s a Uranus thing. I have Uranus in first and I have always felt like I didn’t belong anywhere. Now I am proud of it 🙂
It IS a Uranus thing. Ain't no thinking in that one. I got Uranus in the 1st house too and I don't fit in nor feel like I belong. Actually quite proud of it too. Like who wants to try and fit in anyway.
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I think Uranus in first it’s super cool. I didn’t like it when I was growing up but as a teenager I embraced it and never looked back 🙂
Posted by HarleyTwinFlame
I'm a venus in scorpio tooIdk.. I don't think it's really venus related maybe more so uranus and neptune squaring my moon..
I don't feel like I fit in too well.. at work, growing up, out at a club and especially on this site..
I always feel like I'm in the background. I'm sorta an introvert but im still out there.. I think I'm awesome and weird and funny but idk I wonder what everyone else sees you know?
People have let me down too...
I feel the same way !
I think it’s a Uranus thing. I have Uranus in first and I have always felt like I didn’t belong anywhere. Now I am proud of it 🙂
It IS a Uranus thing. Ain't no thinking in that one. I got Uranus in the 1st house too and I don't fit in nor feel like I belong. Actually quite proud of it too. Like who wants to try and fit in anyway.
I think Uranus in first it’s super cool. I didn’t like it when I was growing up but as a teenager I embraced it and never looked back 🙂
Word. Having Uranus in the first house makes you look unique and stand out from the crowd.
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Do you relate to it?
Posted by HarleyTwinFlame
I'm a venus in scorpio tooIdk.. I don't think it's really venus related maybe more so uranus and neptune squaring my moon..
I don't feel like I fit in too well.. at work, growing up, out at a club and especially on this site..
I always feel like I'm in the background. I'm sorta an introvert but im still out there.. I think I'm awesome and weird and funny but idk I wonder what everyone else sees you know?
People have let me down too...
I feel the same way !
I think it’s a Uranus thing. I have Uranus in first and I have always felt like I didn’t belong anywhere. Now I am proud of it 🙂
It IS a Uranus thing. Ain't no thinking in that one. I got Uranus in the 1st house too and I don't fit in nor feel like I belong. Actually quite proud of it too. Like who wants to try and fit in anyway.
I think Uranus in first it’s super cool. I didn’t like it when I was growing up but as a teenager I embraced it and never looked back 🙂
Word. Having Uranus in the first house makes you look unique and stand out from the crowd.
Do you relate to it?
Oh yeah. Every bit of it except I'm not tall and linky like astrologers say Uranus in the first house is suppose to be.
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Same here. Maybe they got wrong about that part 😄
Posted by HarleyTwinFlame
I'm a venus in scorpio tooIdk.. I don't think it's really venus related maybe more so uranus and neptune squaring my moon..
I don't feel like I fit in too well.. at work, growing up, out at a club and especially on this site..
I always feel like I'm in the background. I'm sorta an introvert but im still out there.. I think I'm awesome and weird and funny but idk I wonder what everyone else sees you know?
People have let me down too...
I feel the same way !
I think it’s a Uranus thing. I have Uranus in first and I have always felt like I didn’t belong anywhere. Now I am proud of it 🙂
It IS a Uranus thing. Ain't no thinking in that one. I got Uranus in the 1st house too and I don't fit in nor feel like I belong. Actually quite proud of it too. Like who wants to try and fit in anyway.
I think Uranus in first it’s super cool. I didn’t like it when I was growing up but as a teenager I embraced it and never looked back 🙂
Word. Having Uranus in the first house makes you look unique and stand out from the crowd.
Do you relate to it?
Oh yeah. Every bit of it except I'm not tall and linky like astrologers say Uranus in the first house is suppose to be.
Same here. Maybe they got wrong about that part 😄
I think it's because I got so much Pluto placements. Plutonians are short and fuller in stature.
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Well I have Pluto in first too so maybe that it’s why. But I wouldn’t say my stature is fuller 🙂
Posted by HarleyTwinFlame
I'm a venus in scorpio tooIdk.. I don't think it's really venus related maybe more so uranus and neptune squaring my moon..
I don't feel like I fit in too well.. at work, growing up, out at a club and especially on this site..
I always feel like I'm in the background. I'm sorta an introvert but im still out there.. I think I'm awesome and weird and funny but idk I wonder what everyone else sees you know?
People have let me down too...
I feel the same way !
I think it’s a Uranus thing. I have Uranus in first and I have always felt like I didn’t belong anywhere. Now I am proud of it 🙂
It IS a Uranus thing. Ain't no thinking in that one. I got Uranus in the 1st house too and I don't fit in nor feel like I belong. Actually quite proud of it too. Like who wants to try and fit in anyway.
I think Uranus in first it’s super cool. I didn’t like it when I was growing up but as a teenager I embraced it and never looked back 🙂
Word. Having Uranus in the first house makes you look unique and stand out from the crowd.
Do you relate to it?
Oh yeah. Every bit of it except I'm not tall and linky like astrologers say Uranus in the first house is suppose to be.
Same here. Maybe they got wrong about that part 😄
I think it's because I got so much Pluto placements. Plutonians are short and fuller in stature.
Well I have Pluto in first too so maybe that it’s why. But I wouldn’t say my stature is fuller 🙂
If you have Pluto conjunct ascendant within 10 degrees it will make you a short thick one. We rarely gets tall. And they say scorpio risings rarely gets tall and are stocky but thats not true. Ive seen tall scorpio risings and skinny ones. And i know a scorpio rising when i see one cus they gives off creepy vibes. That's really the main culprit. Pluto conjunct close to the ascendant. I got Pluto in just about everything but just not in the first house.
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Yes I have Pluto in first conj asc. I am not tall. 5.4 and thin but muscular 115/120.
A mix of Uranus and Pluto? 😄
Posted by HarleyTwinFlame
I'm a venus in scorpio tooIdk.. I don't think it's really venus related maybe more so uranus and neptune squaring my moon..
I don't feel like I fit in too well.. at work, growing up, out at a club and especially on this site..
I always feel like I'm in the background. I'm sorta an introvert but im still out there.. I think I'm awesome and weird and funny but idk I wonder what everyone else sees you know?
People have let me down too...
I feel the same way !
I think it’s a Uranus thing. I have Uranus in first and I have always felt like I didn’t belong anywhere. Now I am proud of it 🙂
It IS a Uranus thing. Ain't no thinking in that one. I got Uranus in the 1st house too and I don't fit in nor feel like I belong. Actually quite proud of it too. Like who wants to try and fit in anyway.
I think Uranus in first it’s super cool. I didn’t like it when I was growing up but as a teenager I embraced it and never looked back 🙂
Word. Having Uranus in the first house makes you look unique and stand out from the crowd.
Do you relate to it?
Oh yeah. Every bit of it except I'm not tall and linky like astrologers say Uranus in the first house is suppose to be.
Same here. Maybe they got wrong about that part 😄
I think it's because I got so much Pluto placements. Plutonians are short and fuller in stature.
Well I have Pluto in first too so maybe that it’s why. But I wouldn’t say my stature is fuller 🙂
If you have Pluto conjunct ascendant within 10 degrees it will make you a short thick one. We rarely gets tall. And they say scorpio risings rarely gets tall and are stocky but thats not true. Ive seen tall scorpio risings and skinny ones. And i know a scorpio rising when i see one cus they gives off creepy vibes. That's really the main culprit. Pluto conjunct close to the ascendant. I got Pluto in just about everything but just not in the first house.
Yes I have Pluto in first conj asc. I am not tall. 5.4 and thin but muscular 115/120.
A mix of Uranus and Pluto? 😄
In what degree? Any pluto degree in conjunction beyond within the 10 degree mark not so much as the 1st decan of Pluto conjunct the ascendant. And yes being muscular is a Pluto thing in general.
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1 degree
Posted by HarleyTwinFlame
I'm a venus in scorpio tooIdk.. I don't think it's really venus related maybe more so uranus and neptune squaring my moon..
I don't feel like I fit in too well.. at work, growing up, out at a club and especially on this site..
I always feel like I'm in the background. I'm sorta an introvert but im still out there.. I think I'm awesome and weird and funny but idk I wonder what everyone else sees you know?
People have let me down too...
I feel the same way !
I think it’s a Uranus thing. I have Uranus in first and I have always felt like I didn’t belong anywhere. Now I am proud of it 🙂
It IS a Uranus thing. Ain't no thinking in that one. I got Uranus in the 1st house too and I don't fit in nor feel like I belong. Actually quite proud of it too. Like who wants to try and fit in anyway.
I think Uranus in first it’s super cool. I didn’t like it when I was growing up but as a teenager I embraced it and never looked back 🙂
Word. Having Uranus in the first house makes you look unique and stand out from the crowd.
Do you relate to it?
Oh yeah. Every bit of it except I'm not tall and linky like astrologers say Uranus in the first house is suppose to be.
Same here. Maybe they got wrong about that part 😄
I think it's because I got so much Pluto placements. Plutonians are short and fuller in stature.
Well I have Pluto in first too so maybe that it’s why. But I wouldn’t say my stature is fuller 🙂
If you have Pluto conjunct ascendant within 10 degrees it will make you a short thick one. We rarely gets tall. And they say scorpio risings rarely gets tall and are stocky but thats not true. Ive seen tall scorpio risings and skinny ones. And i know a scorpio rising when i see one cus they gives off creepy vibes. That's really the main culprit. Pluto conjunct close to the ascendant. I got Pluto in just about everything but just not in the first house.
Yes I have Pluto in first conj asc. I am not tall. 5.4 and thin but muscular 115/120.
A mix of Uranus and Pluto? 😄
In what degree? Any pluto degree in conjunction beyond within the 10 degree mark not so much as the 1st decan of Pluto conjunct the ascendant. And yes being muscular is a Pluto thing in general.
1 degree
Cool beans🙂 I'm at 1 degree too. You sure we not long lost twins? We got the same aspects.
And this thread is about not fitting in anywhere and here you and I are feeling like we fit in talking to each other.
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Ha! That it’s so funny!!!
Nice to meet you twin brother 🙂
Yes! We were so proud of not fitting, hahaha
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Back ground is I’m
-an only child
- grew up with adults
- moved around a lot
- family problem forcing me to grow up young
-shy
I’m now in my twenties and I don’t feel like I fit in anywhere . I never have a group of friend I can feel like home . When i think I find someone who I feel understand me and who I am they turn out to be a let down such as not being there, can’t count on them, or cares about their own benefit (human nature).
I dreamt of a day where I would a place I belong where I can just be me . The only place I can do that is in my own head .
To this day, with many people in and out of my life , friendship lacking deep connection, i still feel like there’s no place for me to fit in or maybe I’m so used to being alone now .
So I find comfort in place like Internet forum which makes me feel a little pathetic . But at least I get to talk to someone