OBVIOUS signs your man is a DIRTY DOGGING and planting his MEAT STICK in other women!

1. text messages coming in at 2 am when you are asleep next to him
2. text messages coming in, in the morning and he goes to the bathroom and locks the door to answer them
3. makes you walk down the steps, separately and before he goes down the steps
4. you ask where the things you left at this house are and he pulls the out from being hidden behind the washer
5. you ask where the bondage kit you brought over is, and its hidden behind the washer as well.
6. he doesn't return text at night and says he was asleep the next morning.
7. refuses to let you see his phone
8. was leaving hickies on your body now refuses to
9. makes you both wash privates after engaging in relations.
10. wont acknowledge you at work, says he doesn't want to cause drama

are men really this BRAIN DEAD?

Why does your man have to ask you to wash?

Posted by DMV
Why does your man have to ask you to wash?

hes never asked before and now he put both us in the bath afterward and washed both of our private parts bizarre. we use spermacide so he's washing off? i don't understand this is new

Posted by moondust
Did all that happen to you?

yep and can you believe he thinks i am not noticing all this this? this is why we are donzo. what a moron

I'll add to the list.
-He talks incessantly about another woman (coworker) in glowing praise "she's so nice, smart, wonderful..."
-He talks shit about the same woman if you question why he's talking about her so much. Suddenly she's "a crazy bitch, lazy, stupid...."
-He defends the woman if you say anything bad about her.
-He buys you an expensive perfume that you've never worn and have never shown interest in for absolutely no reason at all (especially if he doesn't normally buy you things for no reason at all).
-He hides his credit card statements and phone statements (applies to those in partnerships/marriages).
-He changes his routine and blames it on work (home late, etc).
-He has contact with your friend and you've never given either of them the others' contact info (such as email addy).
-He suddenly changes collogne brands and wears a lot more than he used to. Especially suspicious if it has a similar smell to the perfume he suddenly bought you for no reason.

I knew when my ex leo cheated on me. he always shaved his pubic hair when we first met, but he got lazy and stopped.

Then one day I went down on him and his hair was clean gone. Smelled differently 2. At that moment, between his legs, I knew he stepped out on me. I knew that I didnt love him anymore. My heart broke. At that moment, I knew that I was deveated.

Posted by moondust

Posted by KittenLaRouge

Posted by moondust
Did all that happen to you?

yep and can you believe he thinks i am not noticing all this this? this is why we are donzo. what a moron

usually both men and women unintentionally drop hints that they're cheating, but he went a little too far

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he actually thinks im not making mental note of all of this, are some girls dumb and dont see this?

Posted by MoonArtist
I'll add to the list.
-He talks incessantly about another woman (coworker) in glowing praise "she's so nice, smart, wonderful..."
-He talks shit about the same woman if you question why he's talking about her so much. Suddenly she's "a crazy bitch, lazy, stupid...."
-He defends the woman if you say anything bad about her.
-He buys you an expensive perfume that you've never worn and have never shown interest in for absolutely no reason at all (especially if he doesn't normally buy you things for no reason at all).
-He hides his credit card statements and phone statements (applies to those in partnerships/marriages).
-He changes his routine and blames it on work (home late, etc).
-He has contact with your friend and you've never given either of them the others' contact info (such as email addy).
-He suddenly changes collogne brands and wears a lot more than he used to. Especially suspicious if it has a similar smell to the perfume he suddenly bought you for no reason.

haha! UNREAL! these men think that women are idiots and dont notice! haha!

Posted by KittenLaRouge

Posted by DMV
Why does your man have to ask you to wash?

hes never asked before and now he put both us in the bath afterward and washed both of our private parts bizarre. we use spermacide so he's washing off? i don't understand this is new

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that is indeed suspicious. He's having unprotected sex.

Posted by KittenLaRouge

Posted by MoonArtist
I'll add to the list.
-He talks incessantly about another woman (coworker) in glowing praise "she's so nice, smart, wonderful..."
-He talks shit about the same woman if you question why he's talking about her so much. Suddenly she's "a crazy bitch, lazy, stupid...."
-He defends the woman if you say anything bad about her.
-He buys you an expensive perfume that you've never worn and have never shown interest in for absolutely no reason at all (especially if he doesn't normally buy you things for no reason at all).
-He hides his credit card statements and phone statements (applies to those in partnerships/marriages).
-He changes his routine and blames it on work (home late, etc).
-He has contact with your friend and you've never given either of them the others' contact info (such as email addy).
-He suddenly changes cologne brands and wears a lot more than he used to. Especially suspicious if it has a similar smell to the perfume he suddenly bought you for no reason.

haha! UNREAL! these men think that women are idiots and dont notice! haha!

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Every liar thinks they're so clever that no one else can see what they're doing. That's why it's always a better option to just be truthful....less complicated.

Posted by DMV
I knew when my ex leo cheated on me. he always shaved his pubic hair when we first met, but he got lazy and stopped.

Then one day I went down on him and his hair was clean gone. Smelled differently 2. At that moment, between his legs, I knew he stepped out on me. I knew that I didnt love him anymore.

yep. a lot of the things i mentioned went down one morning we spent together. i felt so turned off and disgusted, any attraction i had fizzled and died at that moment. just like you said, i knew i didnt love him anymore. he then said i want to make love to you again before you go home. he insisted. i went in the bedroom and i said "hurry and get it done because i cant wait to get away from you" and i lay there like dead fish corpse staring at the ceiling with my arms crossed. uggh disgusting man.

Also....

-He stops having sex with you or can't get hard (not referencing actual ED issues. There's real psychological evidence that a man who is more into the woman he's having an affair with will have problems performing with the partner because on some level he thinks he's cheating on the woman he's more attached to at that moment).

Posted by DMV

Posted by KittenLaRouge

Posted by DMV
Why does your man have to ask you to wash?

hes never asked before and now he put both us in the bath afterward and washed both of our private parts bizarre. we use spermacide so he's washing off? i don't understand this is new

that is indeed suspicious. He's having unprotected sex.

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this dude is unreal. i CANNOT believe my items were hidden behind the washer, out of sight!! lol im just like WOW.

Posted by KittenLaRouge

Posted by DMV
I knew when my ex leo cheated on me. he always shaved his pubic hair when we first met, but he got lazy and stopped.

Then one day I went down on him and his hair was clean gone. Smelled differently 2. At that moment, between his legs, I knew he stepped out on me. I knew that I didnt love him anymore.

yep. a lot of the things i mentioned went down one morning we spent together. i felt so turned off and disgusted, any attraction i had fizzled and died at that moment. just like you said, i knew i didnt love him anymore. he then said i want to make love to you again before you go home. he insisted. i went in the bedroom and i said "hurry and get it done because i cant wait to get away from you" and i lay there like dead fish corpse staring at the ceiling with my arms crossed. uggh disgusting man.

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yeah you got "baby boy"'d

-He tells you he is having sex with another chick
-You go on dxp to make a list on obvious ways your bf is dogging behind your back

Posted by MoonArtist
Also....

-He stops having sex with you or can't get hard (not referencing actual ED issues. There's real psychological evidence that a man who is more into the woman he's having an affair with will have problems performing with the partner because on some level he thinks he's cheating on the woman he's more attached to at that moment).

SMH WOW some men are vile creatures and why? i don't it? why the need to lie and cheat? is it that important? but you see celebrities/politicians loose their families, lives and careers over it.

Have you broken up with him? Dont take this the wrong way, but you seem codependent towards unhealthy relationships.

Youre rewarding bad behavior.

Posted by KittenLaRouge

Posted by DMV
I knew when my ex leo cheated on me. he always shaved his pubic hair when we first met, but he got lazy and stopped.

Then one day I went down on him and his hair was clean gone. Smelled differently 2. At that moment, between his legs, I knew he stepped out on me. I knew that I didnt love him anymore.

yep. a lot of the things i mentioned went down one morning we spent together. i felt so turned off and disgusted, any attraction i had fizzled and died at that moment. just like you said, i knew i didnt love him anymore. he then said i want to make love to you again before you go home. he insisted. i went in the bedroom and i said "hurry and get it done because i cant wait to get away from you" and i lay there like dead fish corpse staring at the ceiling with my arms crossed. uggh disgusting man.

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Ohhhh HELL NO!! My ex (then husband) tried a stunt like that after years of no sex and a few months before I left him. I REFUSED, even when he tried to pay me to let him kiss me (and then forced his fucking mouth on me!!). He whined about "what am I going to do? You're torturing me, I'm horny!" and I told him he could use my vibrator if he needed to get off that bad (a vibrator he didn't know I had lol). He was shocked, mortified AND put in his place. I felt completely violated just from him shoving his tongue down my throat after I said NO and was pushing him away. He's lucky I didn't use a spoon to scoop his nuts out of him.

1. He's dating the OP

Posted by KittenLaRouge

Posted by MoonArtist
Also....

-He stops having sex with you or can't get hard (not referencing actual ED issues. There's real psychological evidence that a man who is more into the woman he's having an affair with will have problems performing with the partner because on some level he thinks he's cheating on the woman he's more attached to at that moment).

SMH WOW some men are vile creatures and why? i don't it? why the need to lie and cheat? is it that important? but you see celebrities/politicians loose their families, lives and careers over it.

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There are so many reasons......they're cowards, they get off on it, they can't live as they want and just own that they like numerous partners, but mostly because they CAN"T BE HONEST.

i want to play him back so bad. first time i've wanted to do this. any ideas or experiences with this?

Posted by moondust

Posted by MoonArtist
I'll add to the list.
-He buys you an expensive perfume that you've never worn and have never shown interest in for absolutely no reason at all (especially if he doesn't normally buy you things for no reason at all)..

Why is that? guilt?

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Yep! And a weird fear they'll somehow get caught having bought the other woman that thing. Usually they will buy both women the same item. The ex friend he's been fucking? Her husband cheated on her with a Chinese gal. He bought the gf an ipad and also bought one for his wife, but had some lame cover story for why he bought one for the gf (he called her a business associate).