OPEN YOUR EYES AND LOOK

You've got your basic introverts and you got your basic extroverts.

And sometimes you got those people who can do both, pending on the situation.

Thing is both people on either extreme can be difficult to deal with.

Extroverts are open about a lot of stuff conservative types won't even talk about with their friends.

Which can make for uncomfortable listening 🙂

While introverts won't even talk about something as simple as the weather, like such conversation is beneath them or something.

Which can make for uncomfortable silences 🙂

Both can be pretty arrogant when it comes to how the world takes them. "Take me as I am or beat it".

Which is understandable.

I want your opinions, extremists and fence sitters like myself:

It is human to want to be appreciated by other human beings, that is a fact.

It is also a fact that not everyone will appreciate who "you" is (nope, not a grammatical error).

Would you change for love or friendship (introvert on extrovert/extrovert on introvert)?

Or do you stick to your own kind?

And how about opposites attracting? Are you friends with an introvert/extrovert? And do you find yourself changing for the other person? How does that make you feel?

And fence sitters like myself (both intro and extro)?

Do you find it hard dealing with a constantly wavering personality?

🙂 😢 😄 😉 :O

I'll go first (probably second if I take too much time thinking):

Sometimes I want to be fully extrovert and just go ape shit with everything. Be openly loving, kind, caring and at the same time be a tool, an asshole, a self-centered jerk. I want to say whatever pops into my head, fuck the consequnces, just fully explore being a naughty person (the appealing kind). I want people to point at me and go "he's the big swinging dick around here, sure enough".

At the same time, I want to brood. Just sit and plan and think about depressing things and depress myself and come out stronger, wiser and calmer, a different kind of naughty person, who can see both humour and wisdom in tragedy. I want people to point and say "he's got a sharp mind, that one, careful around him".

I hover between the two. When I meet someone whose extrovert i go the extrovert route and the other way around when i meet an introvert.

Sometimes i do the opposite and go introvert on an extrovert and extrovert on an introvert. I find I become an anchor to extrovers when I go introvert and pull introverts out of themsevles when I go extrovert on they asses.

But sometimes I just want to commit to one personality.

Posted by everevolvingepithet
"Both can be pretty arrogant when it comes to how the world takes them. "Take me as I am or beat it"."

"Beat me and Take it, as I am !" Has a nicer ring to it imo 🙂

"Would you change for love or friendship (introvert on extrovert/extrovert on introvert)? "
For love, to some degree I would.
Friendship, no. I think it builds better more respectful friendships long term, you never have to watch your back imo.

"Do you find it hard dealing with a constantly wavering personality?"

No, I'm at one with myself. 🙂

Ah. A fence sitter who's centered. Kewl stuff.

Sometimes I feel you have to compromise for friendship.

Take the introvert POV for example: to be lavished with so much attention, open-ness, joviality and honesty by an extrovert and not at least try to match this is very offensive, despite the fact that you are you.

Flip the scenario: if the situation were romantic, the extrovert would be showering the introvert with love while the introvert wouldn't be reciprocating.

Now the extrovert POV: To expect everyone to keep up with you is just selfish. And to not slow down sometimes and reflect is just dumb. And giving all of yourself to people all the time dulls your special-ness. To meet someone whose friendship takes a little work but which has potential to be very emotionally rewarding in the end and not slow down is just missing out on GROWTH. Yup, it's worse than not matching extroverted attention.

What i think, anyway.

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Posted by 1two3go
I'll go first (probably second if I take too much time thinking):

Sometimes I want to be fully extrovert and just go ape shit with everything. Be openly loving, kind, caring and at the same time be a tool, an asshole, a self-centered jerk. I want to say whatever pops into my head, fuck the consequnces, just fully explore being a naughty person (the appealing kind). I want people to point at me and go "he's the big swinging dick around here, sure enough".

At the same time, I want to brood. Just sit and plan and think about depressing things and depress myself and come out stronger, wiser and calmer, a different kind of naughty person, who can see both humour and wisdom in tragedy. I want people to point and say "he's got a sharp mind, that one, careful around him".

I hover between the two. When I meet someone whose extrovert i go the extrovert route and the other way around when i meet an introvert.

Sometimes i do the opposite and go introvert on an extrovert and extrovert on an introvert. I find I become an anchor to extrovers when I go introvert and pull introverts out of themsevles when I go extrovert on they asses.

But sometimes I just want to commit to one personality.

I don't see the confusion in this ?
Seriously, I don't. So it makes you somewhat unemployable and people will always snark it up behind you back ?
Work on those shoulder muscles, they'll come in handy 🙂

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lol Confusion, how? And is that your opinion ("it makes you somewhat unemployable") or was that a question?

Speak in extrovert, man! LMAO

Seriously, I don't understand.

it feels good to not capitalize my "i"'s. i think i'm gonna start using internet speak like "wot" instead of "what" and "ur" instead of "your".

Yeah... I feel bad ass alrdy.

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Posted by everevolvingepithet

Posted by 1two3go
I'll go first (probably second if I take too much time thinking):

Sometimes I want to be fully extrovert and just go ape shit with everything. Be openly loving, kind, caring and at the same time be a tool, an asshole, a self-centered jerk. I want to say whatever pops into my head, fuck the consequnces, just fully explore being a naughty person (the appealing kind). I want people to point at me and go "he's the big swinging dick around here, sure enough".

At the same time, I want to brood. Just sit and plan and think about depressing things and depress myself and come out stronger, wiser and calmer, a different kind of naughty person, who can see both humour and wisdom in tragedy. I want people to point and say "he's got a sharp mind, that one, careful around him".

I hover between the two. When I meet someone whose extrovert i go the extrovert route and the other way around when i meet an introvert.

Sometimes i do the opposite and go introvert on an extrovert and extrovert on an introvert. I find I become an anchor to extrovers when I go introvert and pull introverts out of themsevles when I go extrovert on they asses.

But sometimes I just want to commit to one personality.

I don't see the confusion in this ?
Seriously, I don't. So it makes you somewhat unemployable and people will always snark it up behind you back ?
Work on those shoulder muscles, they'll come in handy 🙂

lol Confusion, how? And is that your opinion ("it makes you somewhat unemployable") or was that a question?

Speak in extrovert, man! LMAO

Seriously, I don't understand.

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I get it now. You were telling, not asking.

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Posted by 1two3go
it feels good to not capitalize my "i"'s. i think i'm gonna start using internet speak like "wot" instead of "what" and "ur" instead of "your".

Yeah... I feel bad ass alrdy.

I read somewhere that peeps who analyse writing etc think it denotes feeling unworthy or less a person fwiw.

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REALLY? You mean, like, people who look down on bad grammar/colloquiial spelling?

Fuck chickens if I send my texts with proper spelling - texting was made to be done quickly!

The snobs...

Aaaaah, I getcha now, bling/4th Wall/everevolver.

Both people seem determined to mow you down with their personalities in my experience.

I've met introverts who were just being difficult because they could and i've met extroverts who want the floor at all times even if it means saying rude stuff.

I have in mind the people at either extreme that I've admired, personally.

I've friends who are both and bringing those friends together and watching them interact can be hilarious sometimes.

Pity this thread'll bomb, though. Would've loved POVS from all sorts of DXPers, the Tates and P-angels and even Tubbys.

Ah well.

Posted by Pandemonium
I'm in the middle. I love being with extros because they're entertaining and fun, and intros too because they're some of the most jawsome pple. I like both because I compliment them both pretty well. 😛

Cool. In what way do you compliment them, would you say?

That's someone's penis... under the! the! the -

*pukes*

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Posted by 1two3go
Pity this thread'll bomb, though. Would've loved POVS from all sorts of DXPers, the Tates and P-angels and even Tubbys.

Ah well.

I think you secretly have a thing for the Tubsmeister...

Just saying...

😛

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NO!

i am one of those people who are both ways, my 2 best friends are completely opposite, one is full out extrovert and when hes not being funny, hes annoying as hell, and he is a wavering personality and yes i do have problems with that cuz sometimes im just asking myself 'who the hell am i dealing with' and ive known him for years. my other friend is a full out introvert too, its easier to just chill with him cuz he's not a spaz and i find that introverted people are alot more unique and smart, but they are more awkward to be around socially. these 2 clash all the damn time and im just like the mediator shaking my head but i dont change for them.

Would you change for love or friendship (introvert on extrovert/extrovert on introvert)?
no.

Or do you stick to your own kind?
no...i'm 50/50, and in one on one situations i can get along with extroverts, introverts, and "my own kind".

And how about opposites attracting? Are you friends with an introvert/extrovert? And do you find yourself changing for the other person? How does that make you feel?
i don't really have an opposite, since i'm 50/50. i'm friends with both introverts and extroverts. i don't "change" myself for anyone, but yes, if i am with someone who is gregarious i will generally be more gregarious as well. it's a natural effect.

Do you find it hard dealing with a constantly wavering personality?
no, i think being in the middle is great. there's a time and place for everything and i've never had a problem understanding that.