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Posted by SsupermanSure do. And I am not going to paint the world in only roses and unicorns shitting rainbows. It would make my kids ill prepared to endure hardships in life.Posted by nikkistarJesus girl. Do you have kids?Posted by SsupermanI blew her off, so to speak, because I was incapable of giving her the empathy I think she needed. I am not going to sit there and coddle her with false words. I could not relate to her on any level of her thinking that. Does that mean when she asks me if I think she is pretty, I sit there and say "FUCK NO". No, I find her beautiful and state so. But I am not going to sit there and give her advice on something I will never see eye to eye with her with.Posted by nikkistarOk, in a way she isn't good enough. He's getting off to someone else. She might not be physically touching him but, he's "imagining" her being there. It's realistic fantasy. To her its emotional cheating. To you it might be perfectly acceptable because you enjoy it. She doesn't enjoy it so.........Posted by HareSee, this is my logical stand point on it.
Porn isn't cheating.
It might be distasteful to you, and you might not want to be with a person who watches porn, and that certainly is your right.
But to call it cheating is going too far. You may indeed want to examine yourself and why it puts you in an emotional state where someone watching a video is equivalent to actual sexual intercourse.
I created this thread, really trying to figure out the reasoning for the thought process of porn equates to cheating. Because cheating to me, would be physical or emotional with anotherperson. Porn isn't personal, so I can't understand it.
I am really trying to wrap my mind around how people think otherwise. I still can't really grasp it though. I want someone to post and give me a detailed rationale on why they feel this way.
Cause when I talked to my friend, it was just "I should be good enough".
I just am curious as to why people feel this way.
I really think it's funny that you are bashing her just for this. The chick is young, naive and reached out to you. What did you do? You blew her off when she's trying to learn and was looking for advice. No wonder this world is fucked up
I am not her mother, to coddle her. And I refuse to lie to make her feel better.
Bashing? Did you see me call her stupid? No, I said it was fucking weird. Not her.click to expand
Posted by lisabethur8Yes, unrequited love is when you fall in love with someone - who doesn't feel the same way.Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by lisabethur8That is very true Lisa. In some ways, it can be worse than being sexually unfaithful as it can run deeper. I have heard some men say *it meant nothing* but then others that have met another woman, connected with her on a deeper emotional level and fell in love with her. That is worse in a way for the other personPosted by Palerioit is cheating if you feel more emotions for someone else. and the person you are with feels betrayed because they thought you felt more for them than anyone else in the world.
Believing watching porn is cheating is the same crap as believing emotional cheating is a thing.
if there is no emotion, you can throw them away like they are yesterday's newspapers.
which is pretty crappy for the other person who feels more.
it's called unrequited love which happens a lot.
one feels more and the other wouldn't care. it's sad but it's true. it happens a lot.
i'm sure it happens a lot in high school, with high school crushes, but also in adulthood, it's worse cause you are getting old and you want children and family and these people don't want to be with you. it's horrible. So you have to move on somehow.
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Emotional cheating on the other hand is - when you meet someone while you're already in a relationship - and you relay on that someone to fulfill your emotional needs (for affection and intimacy) - which, should be the role of your partner. If you can't find that in your partner - then you're suppose to leave him before looking for that in other places. Same principal applies to physical intimacy (looking for sex in other places - while still in a relationship).
Posted by nikkistarPosted by SsupermanSure do. And I am not going to paint the world in only roses and unicorns shitting rainbows. It would make my kids ill prepared to endure hardships in life.Posted by nikkistarJesus girl. Do you have kids?Posted by SsupermanI blew her off, so to speak, because I was incapable of giving her the empathy I think she needed. I am not going to sit there and coddle her with false words. I could not relate to her on any level of her thinking that. Does that mean when she asks me if I think she is pretty, I sit there and say "FUCK NO". No, I find her beautiful and state so. But I am not going to sit there and give her advice on something I will never see eye to eye with her with.Posted by nikkistarOk, in a way she isn't good enough. He's getting off to someone else. She might not be physically touching him but, he's "imagining" her being there. It's realistic fantasy. To her its emotional cheating. To you it might be perfectly acceptable because you enjoy it. She doesn't enjoy it so.........Posted by HareSee, this is my logical stand point on it.
Porn isn't cheating.
It might be distasteful to you, and you might not want to be with a person who watches porn, and that certainly is your right.
But to call it cheating is going too far. You may indeed want to examine yourself and why it puts you in an emotional state where someone watching a video is equivalent to actual sexual intercourse.
I created this thread, really trying to figure out the reasoning for the thought process of porn equates to cheating. Because cheating to me, would be physical or emotional with anotherperson. Porn isn't personal, so I can't understand it.
I am really trying to wrap my mind around how people think otherwise. I still can't really grasp it though. I want someone to post and give me a detailed rationale on why they feel this way.
Cause when I talked to my friend, it was just "I should be good enough".
I just am curious as to why people feel this way.
I really think it's funny that you are bashing her just for this. The chick is young, naive and reached out to you. What did you do? You blew her off when she's trying to learn and was looking for advice. No wonder this world is fucked up
I am not her mother, to coddle her. And I refuse to lie to make her feel better.
Bashing? Did you see me call her stupid? No, I said it was fucking weird. Not her.click to expand
Posted by nevesi agree with you. but there are still people who have marital affairs or open relationships out there. or polymary. that's still cheating.Posted by lisabethur8Yes, unrequited love is when you fall in love with someone - who doesn't feel the same way.Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by lisabethur8That is very true Lisa. In some ways, it can be worse than being sexually unfaithful as it can run deeper. I have heard some men say *it meant nothing* but then others that have met another woman, connected with her on a deeper emotional level and fell in love with her. That is worse in a way for the other personPosted by Palerioit is cheating if you feel more emotions for someone else. and the person you are with feels betrayed because they thought you felt more for them than anyone else in the world.
Believing watching porn is cheating is the same crap as believing emotional cheating is a thing.
if there is no emotion, you can throw them away like they are yesterday's newspapers.
which is pretty crappy for the other person who feels more.
it's called unrequited love which happens a lot.
one feels more and the other wouldn't care. it's sad but it's true. it happens a lot.
i'm sure it happens a lot in high school, with high school crushes, but also in adulthood, it's worse cause you are getting old and you want children and family and these people don't want to be with you. it's horrible. So you have to move on somehow.
Emotional cheating on the other hand is - when you meet someone while you're already in a relationship - and you relay on that someone to fulfill your emotional needs (for affection and intimacy) - which, should be the role of your partner. If you can't find that in your partner - then you're suppose to leave him before looking for that in other places. Same principal applies to physical intimacy (looking for sex in other places - while still in a relationship).
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and maybe some of those folks fall in love but the other person doesn't feel anything.
Posted by nikkistarPosted by SsupermanI blew her off, so to speak, because I was incapable of giving her the empathy I think she needed. I am not going to sit there and coddle her with false words. I could not relate to her on any level of her thinking that. Does that mean when she asks me if I think she is pretty, I sit there and say "FUCK NO". No, I find her beautiful and state so. But I am not going to sit there and give her advice on something I will never see eye to eye with her with.Posted by nikkistarOk, in a way she isn't good enough. He's getting off to someone else. She might not be physically touching him but, he's "imagining" her being there. It's realistic fantasy. To her its emotional cheating. To you it might be perfectly acceptable because you enjoy it. She doesn't enjoy it so.........Posted by HareSee, this is my logical stand point on it.
Porn isn't cheating.
It might be distasteful to you, and you might not want to be with a person who watches porn, and that certainly is your right.
But to call it cheating is going too far. You may indeed want to examine yourself and why it puts you in an emotional state where someone watching a video is equivalent to actual sexual intercourse.
I created this thread, really trying to figure out the reasoning for the thought process of porn equates to cheating. Because cheating to me, would be physical or emotional with anotherperson. Porn isn't personal, so I can't understand it.
I am really trying to wrap my mind around how people think otherwise. I still can't really grasp it though. I want someone to post and give me a detailed rationale on why they feel this way.
Cause when I talked to my friend, it was just "I should be good enough".
I just am curious as to why people feel this way.
I really think it's funny that you are bashing her just for this. The chick is young, naive and reached out to you. What did you do? You blew her off when she's trying to learn and was looking for advice. No wonder this world is fucked up
I am not her mother, to coddle her. And I refuse to lie to make her feel better.
Bashing? Did you see me call her stupid? No, I said it was fucking weird. Not her.click to expand
i notice you have to look at porn with a DETACHED view. I don't like porn at all to be honest,
i even joked around the other day with my man POOP and BUTT PLUGS lolling around joking and being dumb.
he LOL'ed and said, omg, if you KNEW what that meant you wouldn't be joking around.
i was like, what?
you see....there's some weird ass shit in those porn thingys i have NEVER experienced and seen, and i honestly i don't really care!!!
my kind of romance is Jane Austen type or erotica porn when the hot Duke of the manor who is brooding needs love and finds a beautiful desolate girl who is in need of saving. they save eachother!!!!
this is my kind of romance!!! squeee...
Posted by HarukkaYes, as long as she isn't showing affection in the proximity of his bed.Posted by PalerioWill you be ok with your future wife if she in love with someone else?
Believing watching porn is cheating is the same crap as believing emotional cheating is a thing.
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Posted by SleeplessFucking Ands. lol
It is. Your gf should be 100% the only cum receptacle in your life.
Posted by HareI thought it happened in a scene before that when he didn't look like the inside of other people's assholes.Posted by GuardianAnuYou mean the burning scar tissue penis?Posted by HareI think that is more of a curiosity thing since it's not even half a second of penis, we don't see mens peens in movies so much but we always see women's asses and tits in the style of the male gaze, women being hyper sexualized becomes exhausting to a lot of us.
Is it cheating if my wife kept rewinding Gone Girl to try and see Ben Affleck's dong?
Everyone made such a huge deal over Ryan Reynold's penis in Deadpool, but when that scene came on I was like... penis? there was a penis?
Also...stop being serious -_-
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I can't help it maaaaan. The internet is srs bznz.
my feeling on porn is, particularly for younger men, a little is normal. i will occasionally watch some in the heat of passion maybe once or twice with my lover but i prefer to MAKE the porn for only our eyes and enjoyment ? so impersonal otherwise... like masturbation for me... but i digress...
my first love grossed me out to porn almost entirely very early in life lol i found that, on MY home computer, he had downloaded and buried COUNTLESS pictures, all categorized of course lol so many i wondered how on earth he had the time to get it all!! i really was baffled. i knew he had issues regarding sex but i didn't realize he was an addict in the making. he admitted to me in our adulthood of his problem. most of my exs however rarely if ever watched porn or jacked off... which i found weird yet reassuring in a way.
my first love grossed me out to porn almost entirely very early in life lol i found that, on MY home computer, he had downloaded and buried COUNTLESS pictures, all categorized of course lol so many i wondered how on earth he had the time to get it all!! i really was baffled. i knew he had issues regarding sex but i didn't realize he was an addict in the making. he admitted to me in our adulthood of his problem. most of my exs however rarely if ever watched porn or jacked off... which i found weird yet reassuring in a way.
Posted by PalerioSorry I don't know what you mean lol.Posted by GuardianAnuMen don't really feel much transportation while they watch porn. Most won't even notice who the chick in the video is.
There ARE men who don't care for porn, too, but they appear to be in the minority. So I think those chicks are like "well why can't you be like them?"
But it is hard to believe a guy when he says he isn't into it because everyone else thinks that is a lie. So it just never stops digging into their self esteem, and that sucks.click to expand
You mean most guys don't self insert while watching and it's just about the act? I hear a lot of them do self insert so it is hard to know when they get so worked up when their girlfriend brings it up.
Posted by Sleeplesslol
It is. Your gf should be 100% the only cum receptacle in your life.
but it doesn't sound romantic when it's said like that.
it should be something sweet. lol
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"youre the only woman i want to deflower the rest of my life"
i told that to my man and he just shakes his head at the corniness.
Posted by HareMe. LolPosted by Ram416Who DOESN'T have a thing for Japanese porn?
Yeah a friend of mine feels the same way about porn. Her boyfriend has a thing for Japanese porn, and she felt like she should have been enough for him.
*shrugs*
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Posted by TerramineLightvoidIt depends on your boundaries, where they are.Posted by Palerio
Believing watching porn is cheating is the same crap as believing emotional cheating is a thing.
Lmao, it is. Emotional cheating is a thing. You're not supposed to experience romantic love with anyone besides your love.
P.S: You have both a face and an attitude that makes me want to punch you.
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I don't think you're supposed to experience romance with others, but I do believe you're supposed to experience a profound level of intimacy with everyone.
Difference is slim but still there if end of the day no one's making a move.
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this is my kind of romance!!! squeee...
I am trapped between Jane Austen and soft porn lol.This is one of my favourite films....erotic and sensual, especially when they did it in the garden shed.....that game keeper bloke is well earthy...😛. The commentary totally trashes it, but the visuals make me groan .... I get a Taurus energy from him
Posted by HareI'm telling the enchiladas.
I'm having an emotional affair with this IPA.
Posted by MyStarsShineewww.. no offense...Posted by lisabethur8
this is my kind of romance!!! squeee...
I am trapped between Jane Austen and soft porn lol.This is one of my favourite films....erotic and sensual, especially when they did it in the garden shed.....that game keeper bloke is well earthy...😛. The commentary totally trashes it, but the visuals make me groan .... I get a Taurus energy from him
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but those are not my type of romances.
i like boy meets girl, and falls in love, but have obstacles to get there and then fall happily together,
or romeo and Juliet.
i didn't know you like those naughty ladies type, but then i can see you doing that. lol
edit you look like a lady chatterly 😛
sensual and hot and has EVERY man at her beck and call. 😆 😄
Posted by nikkistarI don't have an issue with my woman calling another dude hot. she done said millions of times how attractive wwe wrestler the undertaker is and her mouth drools every time she sees him and I just laugh. it doesn't bother me none at all. but then again I'm a Gemini. so my opinions doesn't matter to you. obviously.
Ok. I am going to play devil's advocate here.
I see some of the rationale for why some women believe porn equates to cheating. I do not agree with the rationale of it, but I understand it.
Now for the men, I can list a few guys I know do this to their partners. It is not regarding porn, but somewhat similar. There are some that have issues with their girlfriends reading romance novels, and even get upset when the girlfriends call a actor hot.
Why would that be an issue for some guys?
Posted by lisabethur8Lol LisaPosted by MyStarsShineewww.. no offense...Posted by lisabethur8
this is my kind of romance!!! squeee...
I am trapped between Jane Austen and soft porn lol.This is one of my favourite films....erotic and sensual, especially when they did it in the garden shed.....that game keeper bloke is well earthy...😛. The commentary totally trashes it, but the visuals make me groan .... I get a Taurus energy from him
but those are not my type of romances.
i like boy meets girl, and falls in love, but have obstacles to get there and then fall happily together,
or romeo and Juliet.
i didn't know you like those naughty ladies type, but then i can see you doing that. lolclick to expand
I am an outrageous lover...haha
Romeo and Juliet.....tragic lovers....they die .. No happy ending there ?
What are your placements....I always forget?
Posted by PootyButti can't imagine you two peeps getting together. 😛Posted by PalerioThis made me feel invaded just to read it. 😆 Clearly, we are not all built the same.Posted by TerramineLightvoidbut I do believe you're supposed to experience a profound level of intimacy with everyone.Posted by Palerio
Believing watching porn is cheating is the same crap as believing emotional cheating is a thing.
Lmao, it is. Emotional cheating is a thing. You're not supposed to experience romantic love with anyone besides your love.
P.S: You have both a face and an attitude that makes me want to punch you.
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you : this i how i want it,
palerio: im in love with that woman and that one too and that as well, i love her too, and you too,
*puts on hippy music* lmao
Posted by MyStarsShineit's secret tragic placements. lol 😛 😆Posted by lisabethur8Lol LisaPosted by MyStarsShineewww.. no offense...Posted by lisabethur8
this is my kind of romance!!! squeee...
I am trapped between Jane Austen and soft porn lol.This is one of my favourite films....erotic and sensual, especially when they did it in the garden shed.....that game keeper bloke is well earthy...😛. The commentary totally trashes it, but the visuals make me groan .... I get a Taurus energy from him
but those are not my type of romances.
i like boy meets girl, and falls in love, but have obstacles to get there and then fall happily together,
or romeo and Juliet.
i didn't know you like those naughty ladies type, but then i can see you doing that. lol
I am an outrageous lover...haha
Romeo and Juliet.....tragic lovers....they die .. No happy ending there ?
What are your placements....I always forget?
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Posted by GetMistedDidn't know where else to put it?Posted by nikkistarWhy on the Misc board thoPosted by HareSee, this is my logical stand point on it.
Porn isn't cheating.
It might be distasteful to you, and you might not want to be with a person who watches porn, and that certainly is your right.
But to call it cheating is going too far. You may indeed want to examine yourself and why it puts you in an emotional state where someone watching a video is equivalent to actual sexual intercourse.
I created this thread, really trying to figure out the reasoning for the thought process of porn equates to cheating. Because cheating to me, would be physical or emotional with anotherperson. Porn isn't personal, so I can't understand it.
I am really trying to wrap my mind around how people think otherwise. I still can't really grasp it though. I want someone to post and give me a detailed rationale on why they feel this way.
Cause when I talked to my friend, it was just "I should be good enough".
I just am curious as to why people feel this way.click to expand
Posted by HareSo, can I slide into the dm's with em?Posted by nikkistarThe enchiladas and I have an open relationship.Posted by HareI'm telling the enchiladas.
I'm having an emotional affair with this IPA.
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Posted by lisabethur8Why secret?Posted by MyStarsShineit's secret tragic placements. lol 😛 😆Posted by lisabethur8Lol LisaPosted by MyStarsShineewww.. no offense...Posted by lisabethur8
this is my kind of romance!!! squeee...
I am trapped between Jane Austen and soft porn lol.This is one of my favourite films....erotic and sensual, especially when they did it in the garden shed.....that game keeper bloke is well earthy...😛. The commentary totally trashes it, but the visuals make me groan .... I get a Taurus energy from him
but those are not my type of romances.
i like boy meets girl, and falls in love, but have obstacles to get there and then fall happily together,
or romeo and Juliet.
i didn't know you like those naughty ladies type, but then i can see you doing that. lol
I am an outrageous lover...haha
Romeo and Juliet.....tragic lovers....they die .. No happy ending there ?
What are your placements....I always forget?
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Posted by PootyButtI blame my lack of Taurus and Leo placements for not having one possessive/jealous bones in my body 😄Posted by PalerioThis made me feel invaded just to read it. 😆 Clearly, we are not all built the same.Posted by TerramineLightvoidbut I do believe you're supposed to experience a profound level of intimacy with everyone.Posted by Palerio
Believing watching porn is cheating is the same crap as believing emotional cheating is a thing.
Lmao, it is. Emotional cheating is a thing. You're not supposed to experience romantic love with anyone besides your love.
P.S: You have both a face and an attitude that makes me want to punch you.
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Posted by Hare😐Posted by nikkistarLemme set up my GoPro first.Posted by HareSo, can I slide into the dm's with em?Posted by nikkistarThe enchiladas and I have an open relationship.Posted by HareI'm telling the enchiladas.
I'm having an emotional affair with this IPA.
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Posted by HareAsian porn in general does nothing for me. Even if there are token white girls in it.Posted by Ram416What about Sumos banging white girls?Posted by HareMe. LolPosted by Ram416Who DOESN'T have a thing for Japanese porn?
Yeah a friend of mine feels the same way about porn. Her boyfriend has a thing for Japanese porn, and she felt like she should have been enough for him.
*shrugs*
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Posted by Arielle83I don't think it's betrayal they feel. I think it's rejection and undesirable
I've been watching porn since I was 12. Some might say I'm addicted.
It's made some men insecure for the same reasons as your frievd.
It's because in that instance somone else's actions are your fantasy and your bf/gf/partner is obsolete in that moment.
They want to be on your mind only.
So to them it's betrayal
Posted by GetMistedBut, it's not about a relationship. I don't think? It's about if someone thinks porn = cheating?Posted by nikkistarRelationship forum?Posted by GetMistedDidn't know where else to put it?Posted by nikkistarWhy on the Misc board thoPosted by HareSee, this is my logical stand point on it.
Porn isn't cheating.
It might be distasteful to you, and you might not want to be with a person who watches porn, and that certainly is your right.
But to call it cheating is going too far. You may indeed want to examine yourself and why it puts you in an emotional state where someone watching a video is equivalent to actual sexual intercourse.
I created this thread, really trying to figure out the reasoning for the thought process of porn equates to cheating. Because cheating to me, would be physical or emotional with anotherperson. Porn isn't personal, so I can't understand it.
I am really trying to wrap my mind around how people think otherwise. I still can't really grasp it though. I want someone to post and give me a detailed rationale on why they feel this way.
Cause when I talked to my friend, it was just "I should be good enough".
I just am curious as to why people feel this way.click to expand
Posted by HareDude, then you can see all the pimples on asscheeks. And that's gross.Posted by nikkistar1080p HD wide angle?Posted by Hare😐Posted by nikkistarLemme set up my GoPro first.Posted by HareSo, can I slide into the dm's with em?Posted by nikkistarThe enchiladas and I have an open relationship.Posted by HareI'm telling the enchiladas.
I'm having an emotional affair with this IPA.
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Posted by SleeplessSo jacking off to porn is still on the table as long as you finish on your girls tits. Gotcha.
It is. Your gf should be 100% the only cum receptacle in your life.
Posted by GuardianAnuThey self insert for sure, but they don't actually care about what's going on in the scene - sometimes they just like the idea of their penis being virtually handled by someone. I asked friends too and the pornostar they pick it's only important to get them in the *right mood* - usually a combination of sass and body type will do it; after that, no one / nothing matters anymore to them, they just use their imagination and visuals to get off faster.Posted by PalerioSorry I don't know what you mean lol.Posted by GuardianAnuMen don't really feel much transportation while they watch porn. Most won't even notice who the chick in the video is.
There ARE men who don't care for porn, too, but they appear to be in the minority. So I think those chicks are like "well why can't you be like them?"
But it is hard to believe a guy when he says he isn't into it because everyone else thinks that is a lie. So it just never stops digging into their self esteem, and that sucks.
You mean most guys don't self insert while watching and it's just about the act? I hear a lot of them do self insert so it is hard to know when they get so worked up when their girlfriend brings it up.click to expand
In fact, I shall add if the one who watches just consider it porn, it really won't do any harm to the couple. Then of course if you asked me whether I'd be indifferent at the sight of my partner watching it I can't say I would (it's a meh feeling); still, in no way I would react (to finding out) as if she had cheated on me: I don't get people who are addicted myself, but when occasional, porn is just very trivial in the grand scheme of things - sometimes you just make use of it because you don't have much time.
Moreover, there's lots of people who prefer to masturbate at the thought of others: to fantasize about someone with whom you can have real sex it's in many ways a restrictive thought; they aren't there, hence it'll be ultimately a "turn off".
Posted by TerramineLightvoidNot every person functions the way you describe here; for some it's about quality time and not quantity, there is no more (nor giving away too much) there's just "in your presence I feel good or I don't". I'm an INFJ and the things you would deem less valuable are the ones I value the most, thus what I'm doing in a specific circumstance doesn't generally have more significance compared to the way I'm doing it.Posted by PalerioPosted by TerramineLightvoidIt depends on your boundaries, where they are.Posted by Palerio
Believing watching porn is cheating is the same crap as believing emotional cheating is a thing.
Lmao, it is. Emotional cheating is a thing. You're not supposed to experience romantic love with anyone besides your love.
P.S: You have both a face and an attitude that makes me want to punch you.
I don't think you're supposed to experience romance with others, but I do believe you're supposed to experience a profound level of intimacy with everyone.
Difference is slim but still there if end of the day no one's making a move.
That's impossible. The more you give something away, the less valuable and profound it is. So whatever your idea of what "profound" is, is vastly superficial for sure.
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To be seated in front of a cup of coffee can be an experience just as intimate in my head as sharing the same sofa with someone; if you're "in the moment" and the whole atmosphere you recreate makes you feel good, it won't really matter whether the person you're talking to it's just a friend or your romantic lover. Basically I'm not particularly interested in establishing whether I feel better next to someone or slightly less next to someone else. Is it really that relevant? What difference does it make if we determine it? Why can't I just feel good around both without comparing the two situations?
I don't see the need for accesory rules that go beyond physical boundaries ("you're not supposed to do this or that"), when you're maintaining that part of the deal in which you promised your body won't be given away to others.
Posted by lisabethur8Open relationships or Polyamory is not cheating. Not if all the people involved are aware about each-other and they signed-up for that (something they agreed with - something that works for them). We're all different in our own way, and that's just one way which differentiates some people from others (kinda similar to having gay inclinations vs heterosexual). It's not our place to judge.Posted by nevesi agree with you. but there are still people who have marital affairs or open relationships out there. or polymary. that's still cheating.Posted by lisabethur8Yes, unrequited love is when you fall in love with someone - who doesn't feel the same way.Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by lisabethur8That is very true Lisa. In some ways, it can be worse than being sexually unfaithful as it can run deeper. I have heard some men say *it meant nothing* but then others that have met another woman, connected with her on a deeper emotional level and fell in love with her. That is worse in a way for the other personPosted by Palerioit is cheating if you feel more emotions for someone else. and the person you are with feels betrayed because they thought you felt more for them than anyone else in the world.
Believing watching porn is cheating is the same crap as believing emotional cheating is a thing.
if there is no emotion, you can throw them away like they are yesterday's newspapers.
which is pretty crappy for the other person who feels more.
it's called unrequited love which happens a lot.
one feels more and the other wouldn't care. it's sad but it's true. it happens a lot.
i'm sure it happens a lot in high school, with high school crushes, but also in adulthood, it's worse cause you are getting old and you want children and family and these people don't want to be with you. it's horrible. So you have to move on somehow.
Emotional cheating on the other hand is - when you meet someone while you're already in a relationship - and you relay on that someone to fulfill your emotional needs (for affection and intimacy) - which, should be the role of your partner. If you can't find that in your partner - then you're suppose to leave him before looking for that in other places. Same principal applies to physical intimacy (looking for sex in other places - while still in a relationship).
and maybe some of those folks fall in love but the other person doesn't feel anything.
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Cheating implies stuff that happens behind your partner's back (the stuff people lie about - the ways in which they cheat their partner). It can be related to sex (same goes for pornography - there's even cases where one of the parties uses porn to fulfill ones sexual needs - while depraving the other party of physical intimacy - cause latter on he's/she's not in the mood anymore), emotional cheating (to my shame... this is probably the last thing i learned and i thought i knew so much or at least enough - while something so basic slipped by me), or financial cheating (for example - having a secret account while being married). Which, reminds me of a drama - involving a Libra that was working her ass off to cover the bills for two people (at one point, she was struggling with two jobs to put some money aside) - while her Aquarius partner kept deceiving her for years about his intents to get a job or pretending to go to interviews, instead - he spent most of his time on his computer playing games ( or maybe he was watching porn : ). I met the two in a MMO - they used to play as a couple. That too - is cheating (financial - even tho, they weren't married). There's even the funny type of cheating (not for those involved : ), like... convincing your partner that you're trying to loose weight - and asking for help whit that, while you have a secret stash of cookies - and binge on those while he's away (same can be said about some type of addiction - like smoking or alcohol : ).
Posted by TerramineLightvoidSo with that mentality the love a mother has for her child grows dimmer each passing day. Ok genius.Posted by PalerioPosted by TerramineLightvoidIt depends on your boundaries, where they are.Posted by Palerio
Believing watching porn is cheating is the same crap as believing emotional cheating is a thing.
Lmao, it is. Emotional cheating is a thing. You're not supposed to experience romantic love with anyone besides your love.
P.S: You have both a face and an attitude that makes me want to punch you.
I don't think you're supposed to experience romance with others, but I do believe you're supposed to experience a profound level of intimacy with everyone.
Difference is slim but still there if end of the day no one's making a move.
That's impossible. The more you give something away, the less valuable and profound it is. So whatever your idea of what "profound" is, is vastly superficial for sure.
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Posted by P6X58DEDid we lose this great book when the Ancient Library of Alexandria got destroyed?
You should take a leaf out of an emotionally stable water signs book...
Because no such thing exists.
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Anyone else come to mind? Or hell, who wants to be his Valentine?
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They all have enveloped me. Is this a common male trait?
She sure does sound like someone we all know.
People be cray cray.
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People need to pay the hell attention to who's founding/backing these so
CAN YOU IMITATE THEM?
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Me:
Sun sign: Aries
Moon sign: Capricorn
Mercury: Aries
Venus: Pisces
Mars sign: Aquarius
Jupiter: Virgo
Saturn: Aquarius
Uranus: Capricorn
Neptune:Capricorn
Pluto:Scorpio
Him:
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Moon: Pisces
Mercury: Aquarius
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Dear Users,
I'm not Duncan nor a Moderator.
I didn't do anything to UVD and Dastardly.
I have no powers whatsoever. What you see is optical illusion, which makes you believe i have powers, but i don't. It's not real. It's a parallel reality creat
Buffalo chicken dip with a side of veggies and fruit.
Because the majority of my income is on a 1099 my accountant is encouraging me to get a buisness lisense in order to be able to claim more deductibles on my taxes.
Does anyone have experience with this?
Ands said so.
I agree.
Ooops, another thread. @_@
What martial arts do you like?
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I always considered myself pretty good under stress but lately I'm experiencing new physical reactions.
I don't know what to think.
Example: last year, I gave a client
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