Porn is cheating? WTF?

This topic was created in the Miscellaneous forum by nikkistar on Wednesday, February 15, 2017 and has 187 replies.

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@nikkistar
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So this girl I know is talking to me on facebook asking me for advice. She's all boohooing cause she said her boyfriend was cheating on her. I asked with who, she tells me he's been watching porn! So I get confused by this. So I ask her, wait you think watching porn is cheating? YES, she says. I ask hey why. "I should be enough for him! He shouldn't need anything or anyone else" I told her I couldn't relate to her cause I didn't think the same and to ask someone else for sympathy.

This shit is nuts to me, but it got me thinking, maybe there are more girls like this out there. Do some of you girls think this way too?

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@Ram416
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Yeah a friend of mine feels the same way about porn. Her boyfriend has a thing for Japanese porn, and she felt like she should have been enough for him.

*shrugs*

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@rockyroadicecream
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There are too many girls like this out there and they're batshit crazy for it too. It screams how stupidly insecure they are about that stuff.

As long as porn does not interfere with the sex life, bfd. Guys are highly visual creatures and that's just how they roll. Women need to start understanding how guys function and what is/isn't behavior to accept.

Porn is not a deal killer. If it is, she needs to seek some therapy because her self esteem is total garbage and it's insane to expect everyone to cater to it.

"I SHOULD BE ENOUGH!" Okay you egotistical cunt. Get over yourself.

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@RumiL
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No. Not at all.

If he is going to watch it, it means he has a desire inside to watch it, if he doesn't watch it despite the desire to watch it - out of fear of me or embarrassment or any other reason, it will keep going on in his head - so it doesn't matter. He can watch all he wants. I wouldn't care.

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@MyStarsShine
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How can it be cheating?.....those women are silicone dollies who are paid to utter fake *ooooohs and aaaaahs* whilst pretending they love being treated like a lump of meat lol....

If she thinks she isn't enough for the guy, she may have some nasty shocks coming....what is she going to do when and if he does actually fancy a bit of fresh....

....it is actually very common for men and women to want to dabble with more than one

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Posted by Ram416
Yeah a friend of mine feels the same way about porn. Her boyfriend has a thing for Japanese porn, and she felt like she should have been enough for him.

*shrugs*

If my dude is only watching one type of porn, like granny porn for example, that would certainly raise some red flags. Why can he only get off to old vajajay? And then I'd start to question why he's with me.

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Posted by Ram416
Yeah a friend of mine feels the same way about porn. Her boyfriend has a thing for Japanese porn, and she felt like she should have been enough for him.

*shrugs*

I like how you shrug at the end. Even though you might not agree, you're not taking her opinions about things personally and judging her and getting worked up. That is really cool ?? It takes all kinds to make a world.

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I don't see a point in going into detail about: this is a friend, and this friend thinks (this), and asks me (that), and believes blah, blah ....... since this is a general question across the board, a general question wouldn't have been posted with details attached making sure we comprehend that it's about someone else.

which indicates that it's about you

The truth is always what makes sense ..... and detailed information on a general question doesn't make sense. But, it does make sense if you're trying to put people off the trail.

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@nikkistar
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Posted by cvurko
She has insecurities, she doesn't think she is enough for him imho. Which mean insecurities with her self-esteem and confidence.

Btw, i don't like watching porn and rarely do if you are interested once you beg me to join the harem.

I know this much, while she was talking to me and I asked her why she felt this way. I guess she was "playing" with an ex-bf on skype and found out that he was watching porn on the other monitor. Which is where the catalyst of her thinking porn = cheating started.

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Posted by LadyNeptune
Posted by Ram416
Yeah a friend of mine feels the same way about porn. Her boyfriend has a thing for Japanese porn, and she felt like she should have been enough for him.

*shrugs*

If my dude is only watching one type of porn, like granny porn for example, that would certainly raise some red flags. Why can he only get off to old vajajay? And then I'd start to question why he's with me.

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Yeeeah, this is probably the main issue that would arise from finding out they watch it, aside from it possibly replacing your sex life.

But the TYPE of porn? If it's some seriously creeper stuff, run. RUN.

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@nikkistar
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Posted by P-Angel
I don't see a point in going into detail about: this is a friend, and this friend thinks (this), and asks me (that), and believes blah, blah ....... since this is a general question across the board, a general question wouldn't have been posted with details attached making sure we comprehend that it's about someone else.

which indicates that it's about you

The truth is always what makes sense ..... and detailed information on a general question doesn't make sense. But, it does make sense if you're trying to put people off the trail.

Totally about me. Yup.

Where is that eyeroll thingymajigger again?

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Posted by P6X58DE
Posted by P-Angel
I don't see a point in going into detail about: this is a friend, and this friend thinks (this), and asks me (that), and believes blah, blah ....... since this is a general question across the board, a general question wouldn't have been posted with details attached making sure we comprehend that it's about someone else.

which indicates that it's about you

The truth is always what makes sense ..... and detailed information on a general question doesn't make sense. But, it does make sense if you're trying to put people off the trail.

I can assure you it's about her friend lol.

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You are incapable of making this assurance, unless you are either 1. another identity of the OP, or 2. this alleged friend

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Well according to me it is wrong to watch once you are in a relationship. There are ethical issues also but that is a different thing. The time you could have spent with your lover you are spending on something which gives you instant gratification and is bad for your mental health like drugs. The girl's reasoning is wrong but she is right to feel bad as trust is broken. But that is for the couples to decide. Some are open and some are not.

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Lol I been here with a few girls around 18-early 20s. I've been with girls that got mad if you masterbate so woman be crazy.

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@nikkistar
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Posted by P-Angel
Posted by P6X58DE
Posted by P-Angel
I don't see a point in going into detail about: this is a friend, and this friend thinks (this), and asks me (that), and believes blah, blah ....... since this is a general question across the board, a general question wouldn't have been posted with details attached making sure we comprehend that it's about someone else.

which indicates that it's about you

The truth is always what makes sense ..... and detailed information on a general question doesn't make sense. But, it does make sense if you're trying to put people off the trail.

I can assure you it's about her friend lol.

You are incapable of making this assurance, unless you are either 1. another identity of the OP, or 2. this alleged friend

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No, he's just the pool boy

Right @Teena @Sleepless @Hare ?

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@LadyNeptune
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It just depends on how the porn is being used imo.

If you prefer to lock yourself away and stare at other women instead of fucking me I will for sure have a problem. As long as your not prioritizing porn over your relationship, work, responsibilities in general...then were good. I may even want to watch it with you.

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Posted by nikkistar
So this girl I know is talking to me on facebook asking me for advice. She's all boohooing cause she said her boyfriend was cheating on her. I asked with who, she tells me he's been watching porn! So I get confused by this. So I ask her, wait you think watching porn is cheating? YES, she says. I ask hey why. "I should be enough for him! He shouldn't need anything or anyone else" I told her I couldn't relate to her cause I didn't think the same and to ask someone else for sympathy.

This shit is nuts to me, but it got me thinking, maybe there are more girls like this out there. Do some of you girls think this way too?

I felt that way when my ex liked pics of thots or hoes, not that he was cheating but that I wasn't enough. I'd rather he watch porn if nothing else. I think a little porn is ok in moderation and of course the kind of porn he's watching.

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Posted by Capricorn91
Well according to me it is wrong to watch once you are in a relationship. There are ethical issues also but that is a different thing. The time you could have spent with your lover you are spending on something which gives you instant gratification and is bad for your mental health like drugs. The girl's reasoning is wrong but she is right to feel bad as trust is broken. But that is for the couples to decide. Some are open and some are not.

According to you.

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@earlorg16
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I had an ex who thought watching porn was cheating on her too. I actually stopped watching porn because of her, and honestly, I haven't gone back since! Butttt, I think she was way out of line with it though.

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@nikkistar
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@Aliensusedourbogroll - I haven't gotten my daily dosage of bewbz today. Just sayn'

And to everyone that thinks porn is cheating, what is your actual logical reasoning behind it? If given your significant other is not addicted to porn, but maybe watches it a few times a week, to a couple minutes per day.

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Posted by Hare
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The biggest issue with porn is dudes watching it then trying to repeat what they saw, thinking they are porn stars.

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I told you, you couldn't even do a cartwheel man.

It doesn't matter...I'm like the Peter North of enchiladas.

You summabitch

I almost said John Holmes but that implies my enchiladas are full of cocaine and AIDS.

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Gonaherpasphylliaids is a hellva thing.

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@The_eleventh_sign_11
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I don't think your friend isn't figuring out her boundaries, it's clear that she knows her boundaries and her standards. She has every right to be upset that he's watching porn. Knowing that someone you love is having a wack over someone else fucking hurts and if it doesn't hurt well then that means you're just desensitised, you lowered your standards to deal with the pain....don't expect other people have to lower theirs to understand your wavelength when you know all too well where they're at.

My first boyfriend never watched porn when he was with me there are people out there who are decent and not stupid enough to get caught.

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Posted by tiziani
Everything is cheating nowadays.

Is this really any worse than people who feel hurt over facebook likes?

Either way they legitimately feel hurt and deceived. They might find someone who shares their standards, they might not.

I think there are a lot of guys who don't watch porn so she might not have to change her outlook if she finds the right dude.

I think this is where my shortcomings are. I don't really empathize with how a like or watching porn would hurt a person's feelings. It's so foreign to me, that because I can't comprehend it, it seems really warped to me. But that is my own shortcoming.

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Posted by nikkistar
I should also include that she has issues if her bf has girl friends as well.

It's fucking weird to me.

She has insecurities obviously...

She needs to be by herself..

I love watching porn, with or without my man... and I don't mind him having female friends..

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Posted by Hare
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What if you're watching a video you secretly took with a hidden camera of you and your partner having sex?

It's posts like these when I remember you have an 8th house Venus on top of your Sun/Moon lmao.

IDK what you're talking about.

I'm just throwing out some hypotheticals here.

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Lmao.

It's not even only sex, I have so many recordings of the other person cuz I find it endearing. I would freak out if they found it/saw it. Worse, caught me watching it.

I remember coming home one day and the Cap was watching a video I didn't know existed so I was just caught off guard and it was awkward. I went "Ohhhh...welp I'm going to go fix dinner now".

But that sense of calm composure helped me the night after we broke up when I was sweet as fuck til he fell asleep so I could get in his laptop and delete everything he had with me lmao.

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