Spouse vs Everyone Else

Couple of Scenarios I want to run by you all for feedback.

1. Your Spouse one day gives you an ultimatum, either you cut time with family and friends for them or they leave. Please discuss your thoughts on it as well as actions taken due to this.

2. You contract a rare illness and are slowly dying in the hospital. Spouse manages to do some things and pull some strings for you to get a rare experimental treatment that saves you. You find out that among the things your Spouse did to save you, a small nation of people got wiped out. Spouse knew it would happen, but choose your life over theirs. Your thoughts, reaction to the news(you found proof to confirm it) and actions you take afterward.

3. You and Spouse nearly die in an accident. You get out fine, but Spouse has brain damage and amnesia, not knowing who you are. What do you think and what do you do? Do you stay?

1. Yes I would stop talking to my friends and family for my spouse.
2. If my husband let people die to save my like I would tell him that he was wrong for doing that.
3. No, I would not leave my husband if he had brain damage I would nurse him back to health.

Posted by CluelessCancer
1. Your Spouse one day gives you an ultimatum, either you cut time with family and friends for them or they leave. Please discuss your thoughts on it as well as actions taken due to this.

See ya BYTCH!

2. You contract a rare illness and are slowly dying in the hospital. Spouse manages to do some things and pull some strings for you to get a rare experimental treatment that saves you. You find out that among the things your Spouse did to save you, a small nation of people got wiped out. Spouse knew it would happen, but choose your life over theirs. Your thoughts, reaction to the news(you found proof to confirm it) and actions you take afterward.

That's some soulmate ethereal love sheet. My actions afterwards is head for a year, everyday.

3. You and Spouse nearly die in an accident. You get out fine, but Spouse has brain damage and amnesia, not knowing who you are. What do you think and what do you do? Do you stay?

I stay and take care of spouse, till the wheels fall off. Ride or die.

+1

But I'm a guy so for #2 rewarding with head just isn't the same. I guess I'd be washing hella dishes...

Posted by CluelessCancer
I stay and take care of spouse...

Astounding in light of your answer to number one.

But still

Posted by CluelessCancer
... till the wheels fall off. Ride or die.

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Awwww. 😄

Unless the family is abusive or some bad kinda crazy you can't ask (certainly not tell) someone to cut them off. If it's a control freak demand you're far better off running anyway.


The killing a nation thing would be kinda hard to swallow but I'm insensitive...I'd get over it. I didn't know them anyway.

Brain damage and amnesia or brain damage caused amnesia? Is it like just sweeping her off her feet again or is she wearing a helmet now? I say stick it out, for better or worse, either way...just curious.

Posted by SirHorns
Couple of Scenarios I want to run by you all for feedback.

1. Your Spouse one day gives you an ultimatum, either you cut time with family and friends for them or they leave. Please discuss your thoughts on it as well as actions taken due to this.

Discuss my thoughts on this... 😕

My first thought is 'have I *really* been ignoring said spouse for family & friends?'

Not likely, irl, but if they feel slighted, it's worth consideration-- I know it would take a lot to push me to that point.

Posted by SirHorns
2. You contract a rare illness and are slowly dying in the hospital. Spouse manages to do some things and pull some strings for you to get a rare experimental treatment that saves you. You find out that among the things your Spouse did to save you, a small nation of people got wiped out. Spouse knew it would happen, but choose your life over theirs. Your thoughts, reaction to the news(you found proof to confirm it) and actions you take afterward.

Hmm

So I married into Power. o.O

I'm in awe-- and probably more than a little afraid! lol

Damn, idk. :/

Posted by SirHorns
3. You and Spouse nearly die in an accident. You get out fine, but Spouse has brain damage and amnesia, not knowing who you are. What do you think and what do you do? Do you stay?

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I stay.

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Posted by CluelessCancer
I stay and take care of spouse...

Astounding in light of your answer to number one.

But still

Posted by CluelessCancer
... till the wheels fall off. Ride or die.

Awwww. 😄

My family is my life! Spouses can come and go. lol. Family proven track record. Spouse Ehhh....shway shway

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lol 😛


Yeah, I hear you.

Dam, so I'm the only person who would stop talking to friends and family if my spouse asked me to.

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Posted by canerleo101
Dam, so I'm the only person who would stop talking to friends and family if my spouse asked me to.

Are you a troll? That's a sign of extreme insecurity.

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What's a sign of extreme insecurity?

Posted by canerleo101
Dam, so I'm the only person who would stop talking to friends and family if my spouse asked me to.

I didn't take it to mean 'stop, entirely.'

That's pathological.

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Posted by canerleo101
Dam, so I'm the only person who would stop talking to friends and family if my spouse asked me to.

Are you a troll? That's a sign of extreme insecurity.

What's a sign of extreme insecurity?

Stop talking to friends and family because your spouse asked you too. You know what nevermind, i don't have the patience.

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I guess just looking back at my marriage I didn't get along with my spouses family and he didn't get along with mines, so if we just would have both stopped dealing with our families things may have been way smoother.

1. I'll still talk to my family & friends. I don't care what the spouse says. He can leave.

3. I don't know what I'd do in a situation like that since some men are hardly loyal enough to stick by their women when tragedy like that strikes in real life. He'd have to be one hell of a person for me to be that loyal to him...I do keep a mental score book for times just like that.

1. Depends how much less. If he's reasonable and unselfish about it, sure. If he wants to completely isolate me, no.
2. Why is my life worth many others? It wouldn't be fair for me to do that.
3. Yes.

Posted by pastasauce

Posted by SirHorns
Couple of Scenarios I want to run by you all for feedback.

1. Your Spouse one day gives you an ultimatum, either you cut time with family and friends for them or they leave. Please discuss your thoughts on it as well as actions taken due to this.

2. You contract a rare illness and are slowly dying in the hospital. Spouse manages to do some things and pull some strings for you to get a rare experimental treatment that saves you. You find out that among the things your Spouse did to save you, a small nation of people got wiped out. Spouse knew it would happen, but choose your life over theirs. Your thoughts, reaction to the news(you found proof to confirm it) and actions you take afterward.

3. You and Spouse nearly die in an accident. You get out fine, but Spouse has brain damage and amnesia, not knowing who you are. What do you think and what do you do? Do you stay?

1. Cut time with family and friends.

2. Reaction--cry, a lot. Afterwards--move forward but dedicate some part of my life to those ppl. Lost but not forgotten.

3. Stay and be there with my baby, till the very end.

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Holy Moly - your answer #2 is hilarious. Are you being serious?

Lost but not forgotten? LMAO

A small NATION of peoples is wiped out ..... *wears black ribbon on lapel*

You can't make this stuff up ........

Posted by pastasauce
Omg captenn if my hubby was here he would be giving me all types of crazy looks! Whos making my girl laugh like that? Lol so funny!

Ok, Ok. I'll cut you some slack since you were sleepy.

I really was laughing aloud when I read your post, and while I was responding.

Funniest thing I've seen in a while, and you never know around here with some of these folks.

Lost but not forgotten...... *classic*

Posted by LilyTree
I'm an Aries. I don't do well with ultimatums.

Same here.