Vow of Celibacy

Could you do it?

Would you?

What would your reasons be?

For the purpose of the question: voluntarily abstaining from any form of sexual contact that involves another person for a minimal time period of at least one year.

Posted by CluelessCancer
ya i didn't sleep with anyone for a good decade, it's not that hard.

Why so long, CC?

Could you do it?
Yep, done it before!

Would you?
If I had to again, really depends I think.

What would your reasons be?
For me it was wanting to get over a relationship, centering myself before I get involved with anyone and generally getting life things back on track. Bad relationships tend to end up being destructive for me that that taint seems to stick so I choose to remove myself from all that.

As for just sex? I really tried but can't, sex, relationship, love they pretty much come as a complete package for me, not one or the other.

Posted by TMV
Could you do it?

Would you?

What would your reasons be?

Seriously:

1. Yes
2. Yes
3. Sole survivor in a zombie apocalypse. So frustrated with the games that too often get played that its not worth it. If a case could be made that for health reasons it was necessary. Too busy (As has happened)to bother--this might not be a voluntary vow, but I do have a great ability to focus when life events dictate priorities other than those surrounding dipping the wick.

Posted by tiziani
Oh, well then yeah I have done it. Reasons? Just didn't want to have sex.

I think it brings perspective and you can become a lot more direct about real issues in relatioships. Just my experience.

Posted by aquasnoz

What would your reasons be?
For me it was wanting to get over a relationship, centering myself before I get involved with anyone and generally getting life things back on track. Bad relationships tend to end up being destructive for me that that taint seems to stick so I choose to remove myself from all that.

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Interesting. Thank you for your responses.

I had originally intended celibacy only to extend towards touching other people--no oral, petting, kissing, nothing. Removal of possibility for self stimulation would be a little too much I would think.

And I had also meant the question to relate to stints of time where the individual had specifically made a conscious choice to abstain from sexual contact rather than there being a lack of opportunity for *insert reason here*.

But alternate interpretations are, of course, more than welcome.

Not anymore. 😛

LOL.

Oh no, not me. It was another Virgo that stole that. LOL

Posted by May31Baby

So what prompts this question, if i may ask? You want to or are being celibate?

Mild curiosity mostly. We always talk about sex here on DXP so I wondered what would happen if we went the other direction.

But I would be lying if I tried to say that the question itself wasn't relative to my life at the moment also. *shrug*

Posted by scorchedearth

i'm judgey with people that will bang whoever just because they haven't had sex in a while. it's disgusting.

I'll be sure to keep my exploits to myself then. 😛

Posted by TMV
Could you do it?

Would you?

What would your reasons be?

Yes, I could do it. I have done it for over one year.

The reason I did it :: I wanted a break from dating. I was tired of looking for the one. So I put a complete stop to it. It was the best thing I ever did in my life. With this new found relief, my focus changed and good things started to happen in many ways.

Your body is the temple to your soul. Choose wisely who you share this with.

Posted by tiziani
/popcorn

No butter.

Posted by aquapiscescusp

The reason I did it :: I wanted a break from dating. I was tired of looking for the one. So I put a complete stop to it. It was the best thing I ever did in my life. With this new found relief, my focus changed and good things started to happen in many ways.

Gaining perspective on life is turning out to be a popular answer. Thank you for your response.

Posted by May31Baby

To me, sex and love dont have to coexist. Its better, but not nesisary .

*nods*

I can understand that.

Posted by aquapiscescusp
Your body is the temple to your soul. Choose wisely who you share this with.

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Indeed. My body is a temple. But sometimes it goes on fieldtrips to the amusement park.

Posted by May31Baby
Tmv do you think celibacy is like cleansing yourself in a way? To rebuild and renew yourself. I guess it is. I just give into temptation. I have no resistance haha

Ive honestly never wanted to though. Not for any great length of time

I suppose it could be if a person had the mindset to make it so. I can also see where extensive periods of time without contact could also be damaging though if it were done in a negative manner or out of fear or rejection.

We also have to recognize that everyone is different from one another. Where one person can flourish on their own in a celibate life style , another might flounder because they require some level of human tactile contact. I don't see either choice as being right or wrong as only the individual may assess what is the correct way of doing things for themselves, and sometimes that can only come after much experience with trial and error.

Posted by GandalftheGrey
TMV i talk a good game but i am not able to do it fully. I have very powerful mars energy ruling me and it is very hard to control my sex energy. I would like to take that vow for a little while because the benefits are enormous. A lot of successful people have done sex transmuatation but they never tell anyone about it. A guy who can hold his sperm for long periods of time will have a crazy drive to accomplish everything and he will have magnetic charisma around him. Men who can control the sex energy will literally make women salivate at the mouth. It takes quite a bit of willpower.

Don't listen to the media or any trendy people. There are actual tangible benefits to celibacy that will astound you. I am talking razor sharp intelligence and super powerful immune system. You have this awesome glow around you when you can retain your sex energy.

I am trying but my mars in leo is very diffcult to subdue.

Interesting points. Thank you for your response.

Posted by tiziani

Haha I'm just saying, gross sex can be hot.

"Are we really going there? Yeah, we just took it there. Now let's find our way back together."


Sorry, my Virgo placements creeping up from around the edges.

Posted by TMV
Could you do it?

Would you?

What would your reasons be?

Yes, if my focus was 100 percent on something else. Like work

I've done it before & I think I'm heading there again. I'm a couple of months in already. The thing for me is, I don't have sex with people for the sake of having orgasms, there needs to be more. I don't fuck people whom I think are not worth it, I don't care even if he looks like Mr Universe & has the dick the size of my forearm..I wont do it.

My reasons in the past were after I've been cheated on by my 1st boyfriend, I needed time to figure it all out. I wanted to get myself to a point where I could trust again, etc. It took me a little more than two years then. Right now though, I feel very asexual & nobody excites me that way anymore, so they won't be sleeping between my legs. No favours lol.

Posted by scorchedearth
i do it all the time. i'm a water mars. if i am not getting exactly what i'm needing emotionally from someone we don't have sex. and i also take a long time between partners because i want to be healthy emotionally before i bring anyone else into my life.

i'm judgey with people that will bang whoever just because they haven't had sex in a while. it's disgusting.

This!

MY THOUGHT
IT PROVES NOTHING
WOULD I
WHY WOULD I?

Posted by djbuck1
Back in college, the Jesuits tried a few times to recruit me. Of course, celibacy is part of "the deal." Being worldly in their worship (for the most part), the good Fathers were pretty easy to talk to, so I could be candid.

"Father. This isn't going to work, and let me explain why." 😉

Haha honesty is good.

I think being single and practicing celibacy help to make you appreciate the two more. I think it can help you not to take things for granted and be a better companion.

And time to think on your own helps you to gain perspective on what it is you really want... Rather than just knowing you want companionship.

Posted by NotYourAverageAquarius
I think being single and practicing celibacy help to make you appreciate the two more. I think it can help you not to take things for granted and be a better companion.

And time to think on your own helps you to gain perspective on what it is you really want... Rather than just knowing you want companionship.

YAAAA 🙂

I go through periods of celibacy all the time. I'm currently on one... Lol... 2 months and counting. The last one was 8 months. Lmaoooo

It's never by choice, I mean I'm human... I have WANTS. But I've never been a "hooking up" type person or just sex for the sake of sex.. Not me.

I was actually didn't come into the sexual world until I was 19... Lol, so waiting is just something I do. I like sex but only with the right person, feelings, and the right connection. Right now I am single and even if I had sex with someone right now (which I could) it would suck because I'm not invested in that person.

I need a connection. And I will go without if I don't have one. And it is terrible at times but hey, I guess that's how the cookie crumbles.

Posted by TMV
Could you do it?

Would you?

What would your reasons be?

Oh I absolutely could pull it off

Would it be hard? Yep.
Would it go against the natural grain of a woman getting horny & desiring to be touched? Absolutely
Can it be done though? Yep! We did it before we lost our virginity, now didn't we?!

It'd take a lot of mental work 1st though. Some people are only able to be celibate for long periods of time b/c they associate sex with extremely bad things! This is why those who have been sexually abused can either be overly sexually active afterwards or completely celibate until they work out the mental kinks of the trauma they experienced

Or the kind of girl that fears most being raped, getting pregnant by the wrong guy (or getting pregnant at all), getting an std or being taken advantage of after giving up the cookie, might be very pessimistic about sex, BUT sometimes those fears can give a woman an extra incentive to not have sex & to keep her cookie locked up in a cage that only she can unlock.

Convincing yourself that you can still achieve intimacy, love, affection & a fulfilling life without it would also help too lol

It def. is possible though

Posted by TMV
For the purpose of the question: voluntarily abstaining from any form of sexual contact that involves another person for a minimal time period of at least one year.

Well, that sounds easy and cheap af unless you take playing solo out of the equation.

I've done it. And I'm going back to it. So yes, why not?

Could you do it? Yes

Would you? See above. I didn't take a "vow", I just stopped having sex after my last relationship.

What would your reasons be? I'm not interested in sharing my body with just any ol' body. I can wait for the right person.

Posted by starlover
Phoenix 🙂 ~~ seems to be a Scorp trait to honour our bodies

Perhaps. I don't know if that is entirely true.

Posted by PhoenixRising
Could you do it? Yes

Would you? See above. I didn't take a "vow", I just stopped having sex after my last relationship.

What would your reasons be? I'm not interested in sharing my body with just any ol' body. I can wait for the right person.

Lawd have mercy on the person I do get involved with though....*wicked smile*

Just imagine that every man/woman walking is a walking STD. That oughta help ya keep your legs closed =)

The sad part though is that every day we walk past someone with an std & don't even know it. Hell, they may not even know it! smh