What do you think about this?

A man is involved with a woman. He talks about marriage and having kids. The woman was hesitant about marriage and was always heavily adamant from the beginning about not having children. She goes through a terrible life threatening experience which causes post traumatic stress disorder. They get married in her most vulnerable time of life. Still she is adamant about no children. He gets her pregnant anyway. She gets an abortion, but he is right by her side for support when she does it. Later he blows up at her, calling her selfish and accuses her of killing their baby.

Is the woman selfish or is the man stupid for not leaving to find a woman who wanted the life he did? What do you think of this scenario? All opinions welcomed.

care to elaborate why?

Both are stupid. But my view is, if one person in the couple does not want kids, that decision should be respected. Forcing a kid on someone who does not want one is a lot of stress and often leads to the kid being less loved than if they were wanted by both parents. So, in this case, the man has no right to blow up at her. It sounds like he knew her views about it, so no excuses. But, really, both should have realized that things were going to go bad when there's major differences in what they wanted in a relationship and marriage. The woman should have been stronger in this situation and tried to get professional help rather than leaning on this man, but what happened, happened, and I do think she was right in getting an abortion. Her life would have become a living nightmare since it's not the sort of life she wanted for herself.

i personally dont feel the woman is selfish. you cant make someone have kids if they never wanted kids. she's not being selfish. she's being honest. if he wanted kids that bad, he could have found a woman to share that reality with. i could see if she lied, pretending to want babies, but then got an abortion behind his back. looks like he was sending mixed signals.

Posted by Scenic
Both are stupid. But my view is, if one person in the couple does not want kids, that decision should be respected. Forcing a kid on someone who does not want one is a lot of stress and often leads to the kid being less loved than if they were wanted by both parents. So, in this case, the man has no right to blow up at her. It sounds like he knew her views about it, so no excuses. But, really, both should have realized that things were going to go bad when there's major differences in what they wanted in a relationship and marriage. The woman should have been stronger in this situation and tried to get professional help rather than leaning on this man, but what happened, happened, and I do think she was right in getting an abortion. Her life would have become a living nightmare since it's not the sort of life she wanted for herself.

interesting points here. i can see where you're coming from.

Both are fools.

But he did not get her pregnant.

She allowed that to happen.

Posted by annoyedfish
Depends. Which one is the Scorp?

no one is a scorp. this simply a man and woman we are talking about. now get your ass hurt self off my thread if you have nothing intelligent to contribute.
go lash out and lick your wounds elsewhere, gup.

Posted by CapTenn
Both are fools.

But he did not get her pregnant.

She allowed that to happen.

seeing how she was stuck on not wanting to have kids, how so?

Posted by LadyYin

Posted by CapTenn
Both are fools.

But he did not get her pregnant.

She allowed that to happen.

seeing how she was stuck on not wanting to have kids, how so?

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Birth control.

Is she retarded?

very good insights.

The world has enough people.

Save a tree, watch porn.