Wisdom for the young.....

Since there are so many young DXP peeps I thought it would be fun to do a post to offer wisdom or advice.......now it is not for you to believe as the gospel of correct advice .....but statements are things we discovered along the way.

1 - Don't be in a hurry to get married. There will be plenty of time to do that. Discover and explore who you are. I feel I got married too young. At the age of 23 me and my ex-husband really did not know who were and found out later that our ideals and goals never matched.

2 - Travel lots when you have no attachments .......regardless of money, just do it and explore. It is alot easier when you have no attachments.

3 - Never settle because you are too afraid to do it on your own. Alway always always go get what you want whether it be in relationship or career.

4 - Don't ever let anyone tell you that your dreams are foolish....follow them. There is a reason they have to come to you.

5 - NEVER compromise who you are because you want to be accepted or don't want to cause waves.

This is probably one of the most inspirational speeches I have ever heard. Steve Jobs commencement speech. Love it ....Stay Hungry and Foolish!! 🙂

Always loved this quote!!! 🙂

"When you lose, don't lose the lesson. And remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." ~ Dali Lama

I needed this. Thank you

🙂 thanks PD

Your welcome!!! 🙂

Posted by cookoocappy
Honestly, I don't think the young want any advice from the older. Most of them don't want to turn out like the adults around them anyway.

I think it is kind of arrogant to think this ....that is my opinion. This post was never meant as a shove down your throat approach but rather a sharing post of experiences and wisdom that has crossed my path. The view / poster can take or leave what they want from it. They will have their own experiences but if words of wisdom help guide them along the way than that is just great. Not every adult is effd up. You are more than welcome to share any of your experiences.

PD

Good answer P.D.

I thought it was well-intentioned and very sweet. 🙂

There are several women on here more mature than me. I'd love for them all to put in their two cents.
I didn't take it as preaching at all.

Well I'm 38 and I??ve known this to be true for a long time. Much more than advice it has been useful knowledge to me throughout my life.
I certainly needed a reminder and will probably need it now and then so it's always welcomed.

My favorite advice 🙂 Always makes me tear up

All of it already seems familiar to me. :/

Good stuff Pisces Dream and I agree with the people who said we can use reminders no matter what age! I am not arrogant to think that I have all the answers and that I still don't screw up but I try and learn from others mistakes and from their learned wisdon if I possibly can! 🙂

My advice:
1. Don't have children too young!^^ I was a young, single mother and it was a very hard road and I missed out on a lot of fun and freedom. (I love them to death of course but I should've waited a lot longer to have them)

2. Don't build up debt if you can afford to at all costs! If you can't pay cash for something then ask yourself, "Do I really need this right now?"

3. Don't rush into a relationship just because you are lonely especially if you know that they aren't a good match for you b/c one week leads to one month to one year and so on....(believe me when I say I have wasted years of my life doing this)

Posted by Kisses

Posted by Stpatrickspisces
2. Don't build up debt if you can afford to at all costs! If you can't pay cash for something then ask yourself, "Do I really need this right now?"

3. Don't rush into a relationship just because you are lonely especially if you know that they aren't a good match for you b/c one week leads to one month to one year and so on....(believe me when I say I have wasted years of my life doing this)

love love love this!!! especially the debt thing! i know so many people that, instead of *waiting* until they can afford something, they splurge and have accumulated massive debts because of it. wise wise words there

also the relationship. hell yes! better to be alone than be miserable

thank u ✨

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You are welcome Kisses! I am in the better to be alone than miserable category now and I think I finally learned my lesson...lol. I am happier being single than I ever was in my bad relationships. If the 'right' man comes along for me that will be good but I am certainly not sitting around pining aways for him. I am dating, going out with friends, sketching, dancing and doing things 'I' want to do! Woohoo!
The debt thing is a killer though and I hate to see young people get caught up in it so early and they get all bogged down. 😢

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Posted by Stpatrickspisces

My advice:
1. Don't have children too young!^^ I was a young, single mother and it was a very hard road and I missed out on a lot of fun and freedom. (I love them to death of course but I should've waited a lot longer to have them)

See, that's funny because I was told by some co-workers who have kids (and are in their mid-40s-to early 50s) and they were saying they loved that they had kids at a young age and wouldn't do it any differently. I'm undecided but I know I want to spend some time with my fiance as just me and him after we get married and maybe finish college and do some traveling and all that fun stuff. THEN have kids, as long as it's not too long from now!

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I can actually see both sides of the coin because it is nice to be a young mother and me and my 20 yr old daughter (21 on 8/1!) are so ultra close and hang out together. I get along with my 18 yr old son very well also and he's not ashamed to hang with me either as well as their friends. I was also not so tired when they were growing up and I have heard when people wait until late thirties or forties that this can be difficult but I also think that depends a lot on the person and their personal habits. I know that I did miss out on a lot and didn't go to college and do other young people stuff b/c I was a mother and I would have to get a sitter or ask my mom to watch them. I don't like to burden others too much with my responsibilities so I didn't do that often. There is good and bad to both but in my opinion you should enjoy life and get to do things unburdened for awhile and pursue your dreams! I also think it is a very good thing that you are going to spend time with your fiance before you bring kids into the mix b/c it forges a stronger bond between the two of you and gives time to discover the world together for awhile. 🙂

Posted by Stpatrickspisces
Good stuff Pisces Dream and I agree with the people who said we can use reminders no matter what age! I am not arrogant to think that I have all the answers and that I still don't screw up but I try and learn from others mistakes and from their learned wisdon if I possibly can! 🙂

My advice:
1. Don't have children too young!^^ I was a young, single mother and it was a very hard road and I missed out on a lot of fun and freedom. (I love them to death of course but I should've waited a lot longer to have them)

2. Don't build up debt if you can afford to at all costs! If you can't pay cash for something then ask yourself, "Do I really need this right now?"

3. Don't rush into a relationship just because you are lonely especially if you know that they aren't a good match for you b/c one week leads to one month to one year and so on....(believe me when I say I have wasted years of my life doing this)

I realllllly like number two .....excellent advice!!! Just like attachments at a young age, debt can do the same thing to you. I agree 100% on this. Great list St.Patrick Pisces.

Posted by ScorpioDreamer
Thank you, Thank you, Thank you! I always welcome good advice. 🙂

Speaking of which, do you have any good advice for strep throat? Think I've got it. ugh! 😢 Any home remedies etc.?

Sorry, don't mean to get off topic!

ooooo SD ......so sorry to hear you are sick SD. 😢 I have to admit this is one illness I do go to doctor for anti-biotics because this could be dangerous and lead to rheumatic fever. So if you suspect Strep ....go see your doctor darling. 😢

Some things you do to ease the discomfort are the following, but are no means of curing the illness:

Gargle with warm salt water
Gargle with cayan pepper
Honey and lemon tea
Honey and Cinnamon - This one is more for cough though
Vapors with eucalyptus (take boiling water and a few drops of eucalyptus and put a towel over head to create a steam vapor for you and inhale)
Drinking apple cider vinegar

Posted by brianafay
I thought it was well-intentioned and very sweet. 🙂

There are several women on here more mature than me. I'd love for them all to put in their two cents.
I didn't take it as preaching at all.

mhm, same here.