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bad dating habits-Pisces
All three of those are true for me, also ... however, not just dating.
Can give 5 million percent or nothing, or anywhere in between .... and it any of them can matter or not, and I don't really care either way
Can give 5 million percent or nothing, or anywhere in between .... and it any of them can matter or not, and I don't really care either way
Venus in Aries puts a different kind of spin on things for me I guess..
..getting excited hours before the date arrives,turning up at the meeting-venue way too early and being bored or wasted from too much coffee by the time the date arrives..
But anyway Im living and learning..
..getting excited hours before the date arrives,turning up at the meeting-venue way too early and being bored or wasted from too much coffee by the time the date arrives..
But anyway Im living and learning..
Worst: When i seem to be getting on with someone, i start getting paranoid.
Like it's a bit too easy and there must be something up...i start looking for inconsistencies, insincerity...the overwhelming instinct is defense.
In fact, it's probably bitten me in the ass in the last day or two.
Like it's a bit too easy and there must be something up...i start looking for inconsistencies, insincerity...the overwhelming instinct is defense.
In fact, it's probably bitten me in the ass in the last day or two.
Posted by Lena282
Where do I begin?😭
3. Secrets. I keep lots of them...probably when I don't need to.
5. Moody. Usually I'm cheerful but when my mood drops I turn into an ogre...best to let me be so I can recharge.
8. I want what I can't have. If it comes too easy I don't trust it.
me too, with these three, over and over i act like this. and what's this thing about wanting what we can't have! this is why i had so much trouble with this virgo guy i liked. the more he resisted, the more obssesed i became. not a pretty sight 😢
Posted by michaelfish
Worst: When i seem to be getting on with someone, i start getting paranoid.
Like it's a bit too easy and there must be something up...i start looking for inconsistencies, insincerity...the overwhelming instinct is defense.
In fact, it's probably bitten me in the ass in the last day or two.
hmm, this seems to be a recurring theme...
hmm, this seems to be a recurring theme...
Rising sign might not help either.
So, it all boils down to selfishness.
Pisces may think they are selfless, but, that isn't true, is it? Because we give half-ass, and then expect others to pick up the slack.
Pisces may think they are selfless, but, that isn't true, is it? Because we give half-ass, and then expect others to pick up the slack.
Posted by Reason
yeah, you guys seem to be dead in the water
in every sense
full of rubbish and proud of it,
most people are this way. welcome to the world.
I love to "do things" for guys, but I don't mean sexually. Favours. Go out of my way for them. Do nice things.
I've read that pisces have this tendency to want people to be dependent on them.
Also I've analyzed my own actions in the past, when I think I'm doing something nice for a guy (to be nice), my actual motive was to want them to like me more for doing those things for them. How manipulative! haha and from the sub-conscious no less! Not with mean intentions, but still manipulative.
I've read that pisces have this tendency to want people to be dependent on them.
Also I've analyzed my own actions in the past, when I think I'm doing something nice for a guy (to be nice), my actual motive was to want them to like me more for doing those things for them. How manipulative! haha and from the sub-conscious no less! Not with mean intentions, but still manipulative.
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One of my worst dating habits would be misleading others.
On the surface, when you meet me, I'm this snappy, sassy, catty and indifferent girl who could slice you with her tongue. I seem so tough as nails and so independently fierce that a lot of guys tend to find attractive. So you can imagine how shocked, confused and even appalled they are when I start to finally show my true colours the moment I let the guard down.
I can't blame them. They thought they were signing up for something fierce and fun. Instead, they have a girl who comes apart to pieces very easily. It's pisses me off, pardon my Klatchian.
Another horrible dating habit of mine is how forgetful I tend to be. It's not intentional or anything but I just get too wrapped up in my own world that I forget about everything else. I hate this about me!
I'm also indecisive and timid. I'm too scared at times to let a guy know when he's hurt me and when he's been horrible, so I resort to subliminal means.
One of my worst dating habits would be misleading others.
On the surface, when you meet me, I'm this snappy, sassy, catty and indifferent girl who could slice you with her tongue. I seem so tough as nails and so independently fierce that a lot of guys tend to find attractive. So you can imagine how shocked, confused and even appalled they are when I start to finally show my true colours the moment I let the guard down.
I can't blame them. They thought they were signing up for something fierce and fun. Instead, they have a girl who comes apart to pieces very easily. It's pisses me off, pardon my Klatchian.
Another horrible dating habit of mine is how forgetful I tend to be. It's not intentional or anything but I just get too wrapped up in my own world that I forget about everything else. I hate this about me!
I'm also indecisive and timid. I'm too scared at times to let a guy know when he's hurt me and when he's been horrible, so I resort to subliminal means.
Posted by P-Angel
So, it all boils down to selfishness.
Pisces may think they are selfless, but, that isn't true, is it? Because we give half-ass, and then expect others to pick up the slack.
Wow.
Thanks for posting this..very informative 🙂
Im dating a Pisces guy now
Im dating a Pisces guy now
Posted by kristalaries
Thanks for posting this..very informative 🙂
Im dating a Pisces guy now
Yea, I saw you're lengthly post about your pisces guy. I didn't really have a response at the time but I do hope that things go well. You have to be patient and understanding with pisces men.
Posted by piranhaparadiise
I'm also unorganised which makes me late to planned things...I wait until the last minute to get ready [this factors in with my mood to get ready ...push myself to get out there]...my timing is way off...I at least let the person know I'm running late though...
Are you sure this is not a way of letting people know they can't own/control you completely?
Or that you RESENT that you are not totally in control and shot it in this subtle way?
Are you a chronically tardy employee who would only ever be fired for being late?
Hmmmm ?
( serious questions - I'm not assuming - I'm asking. )
Posted by scorpiopicsPosted by piranhaparadiise
I'm also unorganised which makes me late to planned things...I wait until the last minute to get ready [this factors in with my mood to get ready ...push myself to get out there]...my timing is way off...I at least let the person know I'm running late though...
Are you sure this is not a way of letting people know they can't own/control you completely?
Or that you RESENT that you are not totally in control and shot it in this subtle way?
Are you a chronically tardy employee who would only ever be fired for being late?
Hmmmm ?
( serious questions - I'm not assuming - I'm asking. )click to expand
I think that was a very typical scorpio way to view things - the control factor and what not (no offence). I can agree that running late is a problem of mine as well, and it doesn't go deeper than over/under estimating my time, and mis-planning my use. Control of me isn't a concern of mine.
Thank-you deezie and piranhaparadiise
Posted by Lena282Posted by pasdedeux
I never understood why of all signs Pisces always seemed to proud of the downside to their sign.
Actually being honest with our faults is completely out of the norm for most fish. Personally, I don't think it's an easy thing to do. The nice thing about this thread is we get to acknowledge it...admitting you have a problem is the first step as they say lol.
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It's not really about being proud. funny how the Scorpio looked at what someone said in terms of control, and now the Leo sees in terms of pride. lol
It's to do with having an awareness that there is a part of ourselves that we are helpless to overcome, due to other parts of ourselves .. and so, there's nothing else to do except wave a white flag to it and say ... ok, I'm like this.
Most other signs are terrified of thier faults, and their ego will do just about anything to cover it up, so that they dont' have to be consciously aware of it's existence (especially the Mercurians).
We are like .. ok here it is, I'm fucked up like that ... no reason to fear it, so find a place to live with it, talk about it, love it even.
To others, like you for example, it looks like we are proud of it ... and this is due to you not understanding that we accept every single one of our flaws. Maybe it is a kind of pride.
And that's ok ..... if it is a part of us, and we love us, then it's ok if we are proud of our bad traits.
Posted by jgonzo
#1 I'm so curious about the other person that I don't share anything about myself, which afterwards leads me to think he is self-absorbed.
#2 I hide my goofy, neurotic side. Not wise because most men initially think I'm stable!
#3 If I find him attractive, smart, intelligent (different from smart), funny, and interesting I am IN love. Foolish, foolish pisces.
I think that's pretty real, and a prime example of what I was just saying above. We aren't afraid that we fuck up, at all ... and will talk about it like we are discussing our faviouraite salad dressing.
These are very spot on observations for the typical Piscean ... perhaps, we all have fallen into these traps we set for ourselves at some point.
I agree with you P-Angel in that Pisces are very matter of fact of our flaws. I know I am one that will admit in most cases when I have made a mistake or laugh with people about my shortcomings. We ALL have flaws no matter what sign we are and the most important thing to me is to recognize them and try to improve. I used to be the 'always late' person but through the years I have changed this significantly about myself as I recognized that it is rude to keep people waiting on me. Now I may only run like 5-10 minutes late but not at all for my job. I have also been very indecisive in the past and I have dramatically improved on this as well.
I still have my flaws but I won't bullshit that I don't have them and the only thing I can do about them is try and improve on them. Isn't that all that any of us can do?
Now for my dating flaws:
1. I definitely tend to go along with some things that I really may not be interested in...at least for a time.
2. I so agree with the people who voiced about thinking things are too good to be true and tend to be suspicious even before anything is proven.
3. I may be addicted to the 'newness' of a relationship and therefore can make me flaky in getting into the meat of the relationship and taking it further. (I also am Venus in Aquarius which probably doesn't help with this)
4. I have to have my freedom and independence so I don't tend to do well with someone that wants to spend too much time together and gets jealous if I do things with friends without him.
5. I always dress up and my hair and makeup are always done so if a man isn't into that then he won't like to date me. I am not into the au natural look and it's funny how some men want to date me but then they later don't want me to be made up and that's just who I am.
6. I have worked on my sensitivity but if a man says something to hurt my feelings unwittingly then I will sometimes totally close off with him and never give him a second chance without really addressing the reason. I know that's kind of harsh and I can only work on it.
7. I need to be his focus on a date and if I am not feeling that then I will become very aloof. I will also do this in communications with him. I do not like to feel as if I am 'bothering' him so if he doesn't stay in communication and it's not a give and take then I will just drop off.
I still have my flaws but I won't bullshit that I don't have them and the only thing I can do about them is try and improve on them. Isn't that all that any of us can do?
Now for my dating flaws:
1. I definitely tend to go along with some things that I really may not be interested in...at least for a time.
2. I so agree with the people who voiced about thinking things are too good to be true and tend to be suspicious even before anything is proven.
3. I may be addicted to the 'newness' of a relationship and therefore can make me flaky in getting into the meat of the relationship and taking it further. (I also am Venus in Aquarius which probably doesn't help with this)
4. I have to have my freedom and independence so I don't tend to do well with someone that wants to spend too much time together and gets jealous if I do things with friends without him.
5. I always dress up and my hair and makeup are always done so if a man isn't into that then he won't like to date me. I am not into the au natural look and it's funny how some men want to date me but then they later don't want me to be made up and that's just who I am.
6. I have worked on my sensitivity but if a man says something to hurt my feelings unwittingly then I will sometimes totally close off with him and never give him a second chance without really addressing the reason. I know that's kind of harsh and I can only work on it.
7. I need to be his focus on a date and if I am not feeling that then I will become very aloof. I will also do this in communications with him. I do not like to feel as if I am 'bothering' him so if he doesn't stay in communication and it's not a give and take then I will just drop off.
Posted by aPiscesPrincess
Pisces usually have a very secretive side though, not that we're sneaky, at least not trying to be.. we're just very guarded, and don't trust people enough with our deep down thoughts and feelings. Or it can take a while to be able to trust anyway.
That is why I created that secrets thread in the pisces forum.
my main dating bad habit is that i come on to women way too fast... venus in aries so cant really help it. also, im too honest and very nice to them right from the start. like michaelfish i tend to over think things and become paranoid when its a new date. i usually have a lot to talk about but during dates the girl has to be a certain type to have nice conversations with because i cant tolerate mundane stuff.... which is usually the kinda stuff u talk about on first dates.
see, i think deep down pisces girls are simply damsels in distress...mostly self-imposed...:p and we need our men to be men!
1. I give too much to fast, emotionally- then I'm upset when I don't get that in return.
2. I always give the benefit of the doubt..sometimes to a fault.
3. I'm the most loving person in world, but when you piss me off, FORGET IT! I will close you off and forget your name.
4. I tend to hold grudges.
5. I am jealous and can be insecure.
6. I'm very sentimental about those I care about.
7. I get hurt easily and then totally tune you out.
2. I always give the benefit of the doubt..sometimes to a fault.
3. I'm the most loving person in world, but when you piss me off, FORGET IT! I will close you off and forget your name.
4. I tend to hold grudges.
5. I am jealous and can be insecure.
6. I'm very sentimental about those I care about.
7. I get hurt easily and then totally tune you out.
I love this thread. It's full of insights on Pisces' dating habits.
And after so long, I still don't quite understand a Pisces, but contrary to last time, I'm at peace with it. lol
I am still sometimes annoyed by the bad dating habits, but it's ok. I soon come to terms with them.
And after so long, I still don't quite understand a Pisces, but contrary to last time, I'm at peace with it. lol
I am still sometimes annoyed by the bad dating habits, but it's ok. I soon come to terms with them.
I'm indecisive, so you better know what you want us to do all the time.
My moods/feelings change often
I take people for granted
I don't know how to comfort
I snap when people/bfs complain or are whiney all the time
Once I open up to you, I may be different than I seem
I decide things in my head and then act them out, so you may think my decisions are out of nowhere
I can't sit still all the time. If all you want to do is cuddle and watch movies, I can't do it.
I will let you hang out with friends instead of me, however, I can't help it if I act jealous or upset.
I do not like PDA. Do not kiss me at my friend's birthday party or expect to hold hands all throughout the mall.
...etc.
My moods/feelings change often
I take people for granted
I don't know how to comfort
I snap when people/bfs complain or are whiney all the time
Once I open up to you, I may be different than I seem
I decide things in my head and then act them out, so you may think my decisions are out of nowhere
I can't sit still all the time. If all you want to do is cuddle and watch movies, I can't do it.
I will let you hang out with friends instead of me, however, I can't help it if I act jealous or upset.
I do not like PDA. Do not kiss me at my friend's birthday party or expect to hold hands all throughout the mall.
...etc.
^^^This IS about bad dating habits. Nothing here is going to make anyone look like a good catch.
Besides, everyone has faults, yet we're not all single. I hope. I'm pretty sure some pisces has to be in a successful relationship right now, right? : (
Also, as far as the previous comments about accepting our faults, I honestly thing I can accept mine because of low self esteem. I'm more likely to say something negative about myself, than positive. While I know all my faults, that's only because I pick them apart and each one makes me hate myself. I don't even think that really counts as accepting. I hope for everyone else it's a different reason, though.
Besides, everyone has faults, yet we're not all single. I hope. I'm pretty sure some pisces has to be in a successful relationship right now, right? : (
Also, as far as the previous comments about accepting our faults, I honestly thing I can accept mine because of low self esteem. I'm more likely to say something negative about myself, than positive. While I know all my faults, that's only because I pick them apart and each one makes me hate myself. I don't even think that really counts as accepting. I hope for everyone else it's a different reason, though.
Posted by nimbue
ok, so i'm deathly curious...what are your worst dating habits as a Pisces? i have three i can think of off the top of my head:
1) being deceptive. not so much now, but when i was younger i would just go along with things, even if i wasn't that interested in somebody, just for the sake of it and give the impression i gave a shit when i really didn't. this happened alot with fire signs. i think its a weird form of punishment/revenge type thing. any guy who wouldn't quit, cajoled and pressured me into a relationship won the grand prize of a half-assed gf. and then i would go silent on them when i had been smothered enough.
2) being a complete flake. again, this happens with guys who are too intense and basically, annoying. i would think its pretty obvious when i like someone, i.e i'll make time for them, suggest things to do together, or subtly flirt. some men clearly have a fetish for disinterested women, so after politely declining invites from certain people, my curtain call would be to accept, then just not show up. ^_^
3) thinking something is too good to be true/being a committmentphobe. i think this is the most confusing of the three! i've been known to get along with a guy really well, you know when it's all effortless and just really nice knowing them...then i freefall. i get cold and distant and i've never really worked out why! actually, maybe thats a big fat lie. i'll just be honest. i prefer a challenge. not necessarily playing games, but anything i want and get easily, i never value. its much better for me and the other person involved if i have to work towards something...
so, fellow pisces...reveal! 🙂
OMG! I'm speechless. The above answers picture me correctly!
but for now, I'm more cautious and I promised to myself I wont do such things again.
Oh, no, I wasn't offended or anything. You'd know if I were. Hah.
Well, even if you choose the same things, we learn something new from each of them. I believe even if I make the same mistakes over again, I walk away with something new each time. That's just my view, anyway.
Well, even if you choose the same things, we learn something new from each of them. I believe even if I make the same mistakes over again, I walk away with something new each time. That's just my view, anyway.
Posted by shortii
1. I give too much to fast, emotionally- then I'm upset when I don't get that in return.
2. I always give the benefit of the doubt..sometimes to a fault.
3. I'm the most loving person in world, but when you piss me off, FORGET IT! I will close you off and forget your name.
4. I tend to hold grudges.
5. I am jealous and can be insecure.
6. I'm very sentimental about those I care about.
7. I get hurt easily and then totally tune you out.
This is me too.. and when I'm not sure that I am into you.. I am all mystery, but if I can fall for you fast.. I am an open book about my feelings.
Epic thread.
-Walks in with skittles and a trophy for P-Angel-
-Walks in with skittles and a trophy for P-Angel-
saggy sneaking in on here... but very good and interesting thread! The list that Shorti gave and what ElusiveSoul is saying does in part apply to me as well. Espec about giving way too much too fast on an emotional level and disappointed when not getting it in return. That is a tremendous problem for me as well. Think I'll start a new thread about me, because it kills me everytime, literally can make me sick to the stomach and giving me a hard time.
ugh, just re-read my own post, I'm full of spelling mistakes this morning.. my bad!
Posted by ninjutsuPosted by aPiscesPrincessPosted by P-Angel
So, it all boils down to selfishness.
Pisces may think they are selfless, but, that isn't true, is it? Because we give half-ass, and then expect others to pick up the slack.
That's probably true 😢 I was just telling a guy a few days ago (who was saying how sweet I was, and how I seem perfect, etc. lol) that it always starts out where guys tell me I'm so sweet and the 'perfect' girl.. but usually ends up where they say I'm selfish and childish, etc. =/ I know I have a lot of things to work on, and that's one reason I don't want to get into a relationship again for awhile until I'm ready and have been able to work on my issues.
Jesus I know this post is old but it's absolutely what I've experienced a bazillion times! LOLclick to expand
It can happen but I wouldn't generalize all Pisces as selfish. Every person has self interests but I do believe Pisces can be selfless in certain fields of charity,ECT.
awww nimbue... miss that girl
If I feel a lot of emotion, I will leave abruptly to avoid any kind of awkward ending.
I like people more in hindsight than I do when I am with them.
I like people more in hindsight than I do when I am with them.
Getting so emotional, can't help it.N this happens mostly if am dating a water sign, coz I guess I fall so hard for them.Have a bad habit of being very picky too
Posted by nimbue
ok, so i'm deathly curious...what are your worst dating habits as a Pisces? i have three i can think of off the top of my head:
1) being deceptive. not so much now, but when i was younger i would just go along with things, even if i wasn't that interested in somebody, just for the sake of it and give the impression i gave a shit when i really didn't. this happened alot with fire signs. i think its a weird form of punishment/revenge type thing. any guy who wouldn't quit, cajoled and pressured me into a relationship won the grand prize of a half-assed gf. and then i would go silent on them when i had been smothered enough.
2) being a complete flake. again, this happens with guys who are too intense and basically, annoying. i would think its pretty obvious when i like someone, i.e i'll make time for them, suggest things to do together, or subtly flirt. some men clearly have a fetish for disinterested women, so after politely declining invites from certain people, my curtain call would be to accept, then just not show up. ^_^
3) thinking something is too good to be true/being a committmentphobe. i think this is the most confusing of the three! i've been known to get along with a guy really well, you know when it's all effortless and just really nice knowing them...then i freefall. i get cold and distant and i've never really worked out why! actually, maybe thats a big fat lie. i'll just be honest. i prefer a challenge. not necessarily playing games, but anything i want and get easily, i never value. its much better for me and the other person involved if i have to work towards something...
so, fellow pisces...reveal! 🙂
@nimbue: we're pretty much the same..
Posted by Nemesis
looks like a lot of people are going to be single for a long time lol!
It does yes.
Posted by ElusiveSoul
Lord help me find the happy mediumclick to expand
Somewhere between clinginess and coldness. My last two attempts mirrored these behaviours respectively. And I've seen how damaging they both can be. One wanted distance, and one wanted (some form of) affection. And dumbass me gave them the opposite. Maybe I'll comprehend a sense of balance one day... or maybe never. IDK.
Posted by SirenSting
This is how it works:
Monday: I like you.
Tuesday: I think I like you.
Wednesday: You're a good friend.
Thursday: Seriously, just leave me alone, I need my "alone" time.
Friday: I kind of miss you now, we can be friends again.
Saturday: I LOVE YOU!
Sunday: I still love you...
Hahaha. I'm mostly kidding but I have had weeks like that! 😛
lmao
Posted by SirenSting
This is how it works:
Monday: I like you.
Tuesday: I think I like you.
Wednesday: You're a good friend.
Thursday: Seriously, just leave me alone, I need my "alone" time.
Friday: I kind of miss you now, we can be friends again.
Saturday: I LOVE YOU!
Sunday: I still love you...
Hahaha. I'm mostly kidding but I have had weeks like that! 😛
Weeks and weeks of Thursdays for me. With an odd "something" day here and there.
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1) being deceptive. not so much now, but when i was younger i would just go along with things, even if i wasn't that interested in somebody, just for the sake of it and give the impression i gave a shit when i really didn't. this happened alot with fire signs. i think its a weird form of punishment/revenge type thing. any guy who wouldn't quit, cajoled and pressured me into a relationship won the grand prize of a half-assed gf. and then i would go silent on them when i had been smothered enough.
2) being a complete flake. again, this happens with guys who are too intense and basically, annoying. i would think its pretty obvious when i like someone, i.e i'll make time for them, suggest things to do together, or subtly flirt. some men clearly have a fetish for disinterested women, so after politely declining invites from certain people, my curtain call would be to accept, then just not show up. ^_^
3) thinking something is too good to be true/being a committmentphobe. i think this is the most confusing of the three! i've been known to get along with a guy really well, you know when it's all effortless and just really nice knowing them...then i freefall. i get cold and distant and i've never really worked out why! actually, maybe thats a big fat lie. i'll just be honest. i prefer a challenge. not necessarily playing games, but anything i want and get easily, i never value. its much better for me and the other person involved if i have to work towards something...
so, fellow pisces...reveal! 🙂