Future Fiancée

Background: July 2013 met this great Pisces guy. We just couldn't get on the same page. I was SO in love with him. He's like a fantasy to me, but extremely indecisive. We went back and forth til I lost all patience with him November 2016. I completely cut him off, no contact. He started reaching out to me in March, in May when I was completely through with the Capricorn I stopped being so cold to the Pisces. Since the end of May we've been talking and hanging out. He expressed his regret at not giving us a true chance yet asserting he was now all in. And he has been. Amazing dates, wonderful conversation, affection, appreciation. It's amazing. I've been in shock because back in November I thought it was truly a lost cause. He introduced me to a close cousin(considers him like a brother) as his "future fiancée". Pisces men or those with experience with them, should I take him serious? (Not expecting a proposal soon serious, but clear intentions serious)

When was the last time you were single? Like truly single.

Posted by LadyNeptune
When was the last time you were single? Like truly single.

Better question is when was I last in a relationship, a mutually beneficial progressive relationship....

But it kind of annoys me when folks answer my question with a question so...

Posted by tiziani
Damn, that's cold to the Cap. But life goes on I guess. Enjoy.

Its not cold at all. It's the tide washing over a sandcastle on the shore. He may be a great guy, but we didn't share the same principles.

I have way more history with the Pisces and he was always very friendly and kind to me. We were friends, I showed him my uglies, he didnt judge. I took his hesitation as disinterest in me or interest in someone else.

Posted by SweetestFatale

Posted by LadyNeptune
When was the last time you were single? Like truly single.

Better question is when was I last in a relationship, a mutually beneficial progressive relationship....

But it kind of annoys me when folks answer my question with a question so...

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Has it really been that long?

Wait until he presents you to his parents. Until then, you may be only a fantasy.. What kind of ultimatum did you give to him before him showing some more?

Yep. And the answer is 2007 lol. Im not good in relationships but I'm getting better. I know when its time to move on...still not quite sure when another chance is warranted but this time it seems to be working in my favor.

Posted by compy
Wait until he presents you to his parents. Until then, you may be only a fantasy.. What kind of ultimatum did you give to him before him showing some more?

Interesting his cousin asked if I had been out to "the house", his Mom's house in the country.

No ultimatum. He knows how things were before with his indecision and half assed effort. He said he's changed and he would show me. He knows what I expect. I'm not unreasonable. He asked if I would consider a relationship with him and I said Im open to him showing me why I should.

Posted by SweetestFatale

Posted by compy
Wait until he presents you to his parents. Until then, you may be only a fantasy.. What kind of ultimatum did you give to him before him showing some more?

Interesting his cousin asked if I had been out to "the house", his Mom's house in the country.

No ultimatum. He knows how things were before with his indecision and half assed effort. He said he's changed and he would show me. He knows what I expect. I'm not unreasonable. He asked if I would consider a relationship with him and I said Im open to him showing me why I should.

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You sound just like my friend! Is your Venus in Aries??

Posted by jane84

Posted by SweetestFatale

Posted by compy
Wait until he presents you to his parents. Until then, you may be only a fantasy.. What kind of ultimatum did you give to him before him showing some more?

Interesting his cousin asked if I had been out to "the house", his Mom's house in the country.

No ultimatum. He knows how things were before with his indecision and half assed effort. He said he's changed and he would show me. He knows what I expect. I'm not unreasonable. He asked if I would consider a relationship with him and I said Im open to him showing me why I should.

You sound just like my friend! Is your Venus in Aries??

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Haha it is! I'm on the Aries/Taurus cusp with Venus in Aries

good luck wishes from me -

I'm a Pisces male. I wouldn't take it 100% serious being that it's more of a gesture expression. I've done that intro with many women meeting my family or friends. But it doesn't hurt to be optimistic. I'm very indecisive my damn self, and weigh every thing on a scale of pro and con.

Posted by tino
Reading this story kinda warm my heart to know there're still possible things in love. Let me cut this simple for you as a Piscean okay?

Pisces is indecisive, but when they say something it means they've thought about it once or twice. And some may say cause we're often time 'goldfish brain' so we won't hold on to that idea for a long time. That is partly true, but how can you emphasize the love he has for you? You can do it buy adding more emotions in the relationship. This is somehow hard for you since Taurus is not one who can easily show off their emotions, and if I'm right, you've already offer him safety and comfort. Just try adding more emotions like having more fun, initiating deeply-connected conversation or having quality time where you two can just lie there and look in each other faces while sun beams splash down. Omg this gets a little bit nostalgic haha, but you know what I'm talking 'bout right. Try to emotionally expand everything, and let him come to ask you one day. Just be patient. Pisces is not a patient sign cause their minds run in 100km/h but they need a patient companion. Best wishes from me too.

I know exactly what you mean! Before it was much harder to emotionally expand but I am really enjoying embracing and showing the feelings I have had for him for so long lol. Talked to a friend today and I said "I love him!" Lol and my friend just said "You've BEEN in love with him..." and yes, I have. And I embarrassingly asked Pisces man one night if he knew how long I had been in love with him (this was prior to me losing patience with him) he responded "yes" but I didn't believe him and said "no, you don't." We were both pretty inebriated that night, the next day he said he didn't remember anything and I was absolutely mortified because I remembered everything.

My favorite thing is just sitting or laying with him. At times we'll just sit on the couch and hold hands, stand together and hug, or lay together limbs entwined. But he always pulled way back from his feelings the next day and I followed his lead. Finally we dont do that anymore. Being in this place with him after 3 years has taught me that I should be patient because the right things happen when they're meant to, not when we want them. I will be patient with him.

Posted by psychosis_with_scales
I'm a Pisces male. I wouldn't take it 100% serious being that it's more of a gesture expression. I've done that intro with many women meeting my family or friends. But it doesn't hurt to be optimistic. I'm very indecisive my damn self, and weigh every thing on a scale of pro and con.

Well that sucks (it being a gesture expression). It really annoys me when folks make it more than it is. I wouldn't have cared if he kept it level introducing me as "his lady friend". And men swear they don't know how women blow things out of proportion. I would rather be realistic than optimistic. I hadn't said anything to him about it and wasn't sure that I would. I think now for sure I won't. I'll just leave it as whatever it was between him and his cousin.