Girls.. This Pisces man is going to drive me crazy

How do you get one back into your life? Long story, I need to put into practice now all the things I HAVE LEARNED about him as a pisces. But not sure if we will speak, make up etc.. Would love to chat in person withldybg377, p-angel and tauruslady000, I learned even more from your 2006 discussion. Oh, I'm a sag. One things for sure, some things are dead on with sign, and others are off. Bottom line, can he love me back if we grew up as good friends, andhes my brothers pal since 1st grade.. I really need advice, love is not the word here. I must have him, other factor he has a controlling obssessed, possessive girlfriend. She knows me & him go way back, but theres so much drama, as she goes far back with him to but as a girlfriend.. I just want to know, its been 2.5 weeks I stopped chasing after him ,no callsa, he wont call me. So I dont know who is going to make the first move to clear the air, def. not me.. Will he come back, and make peace or is this it for good.
Hes sold cold, distant but I swear he feels for me too.. HELP—??

Girls, oh goodness.. I mean I want him in my life that much.. Im not possesive like his girl. I just really, really love, want & MISS him so..

Well Im not stupid, Im learning alot about his sign and traits. P men wander. This boy is fine, and hes def. a wanderer. But if I choose to accept that, then its cool.. Im no fool.. I will lovehim and be with him, but there will be a plan b,c.. etc..
Im not gonna leave my self that open, esp. knowing his traits. At the end of the day, all these men cheat.. Its like a cancer to them.. So if its not him, I'll be dating someother guy, who again will prob. cheat. Its just these men, some more than others. BUT Yes I will be with him, and work through it..

At the end of the day, all these men cheat.. Its like a cancer to them.. So if its not him, I'll be dating someother guy, who again will prob. cheat. Its just these men, some more than others. BUT Yes I will be with him, and work through it..




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"other factor he has a controlling obssessed, possessive girlfriend."

"I just want to know, its been 2.5 weeks I stopped chasing after him ,no callsa, he wont call me. So I dont know who is going to make the first move to clear the air, def. not me"

"Will he come back, and make peace or is this it for good."

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I have a couple questions:


1) Why exactly are (were) you chasing a guy who has a girlfriend?

2) Do you think it's normal behaviour for a girlfriend to be controlling, obssessed and possessive of her man when she knows that there's another woman chasing him?

"At the end of the day, all these men cheat.. Its like a cancer to them.. So if its not him, I'll be dating someother guy, who again will prob. cheat. Its just these men, some more than others. BUT Yes I will be with him, and work through it.."


Another question: Do you think that the woman in which a man cheats with has any responsibility in making the guy a cheater?

Hi, p- angel.. 1- Me & him are so close fromway back, like bro & sis, and yes we all know about her. But again she holds the p- key, aso he is more than obligated to her than the norm, This is a stormy relationship, rekindled again since he came home. Its a disaster in the works yet again. I know he cares for her, i mean they have been on , off for years.. oh wait then there is the other best friend the baby mama drama.. He has cheated on her, vice versa thus the obssession.

2 - I have had a connection with him, I was always drawn to him never understood why.. I have tons of male friends, listen I even tried to hook him up with my girls back in the day, again I was denying mine own feelings, plus I was with other guys..
I feel this can be our time now, and how many times is he gonna try to make it right with miss wrong.

sagigoat 6/29/2007 4:08:32 PM | ip: xxx.xxx.xxx.183

"Do you think that the woman in which a man cheats with has any responsibility in making the guy a cheater?"

NO. They always have an option to break up before they go engage someone else.
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But, what if you KNOW he has a woman and seduce him anyway?

Still no responsibility?

p - ur on point girl.. No cheating isnt right. I didnt make him a cheater, he did that years ago with who ever he was with.. And I dont think is right to hold unto a man by his balls, because u were there for him when he was away. I lost touch with him, or else I would of been there as his friend.. I just want his luv & respect, she wants to own & control him.. He cant have friends etc.. His own son cant stay there with him, she makes him so miserable.
Ive been the scorned wife. Its no fun..

"I just want his luv & respect, she wants to own & control him.. He cant have friends etc.. His own son cant stay there with him, she makes him so miserable."


Unless he is in a cage in the basement, he has free will to walk away.

She doesn't make him miserable if he is unhappy .. he makes him miserable by staying if he's unhappy.


It's likely I can be of no help to you on this one, because from my perspective .. you are in err, and I won't stand down from my principals, even for the sake of someone's feelings.

Hopefully, somebody will be able to give you some insight that will lead you in the right direction.

"I will hang out with him but I won't get too close until the picture is clear."

I don't know if I'd even do that, SG .. but, of course we really don't know what we do until faced with the situation. If he was "The One" and I knew it in all my heart .. there's no telling what a person would do .. a crime of passion is a possibility for anyone, I suppose.

Hopefully, I would have Starfish's strength and he could watch my back fin swishing away.

That would just suck though, wouldn't it? You wait all this time for Mr. Right to enter your life and he's married.

there you go, archer, i just hit it 3 times for you

By crime of passion, SG, I meant by finding Mr. Right and him being married and taking him anyway .. that would be a crime. Well, not legal one, but, you know 🙂

But, if you think about it logically .. if you met your ultimate soulmate, wouldn't he know this too? So, it wouldn't just be us sitting here waiting .. he would be just as bound to us, as we are to him, so, he would leave his wife and come to his soulmate.

That's how it works in my head .. if that's being a hopeful romantic, living in fantasy, then oh well .. it feels good to believe 🙂🙂

Oh, I didn't read it .. I just hit her profile. I'll go read it, there's nothing more beautiful than moving poetry.

You will probably grow to resent and hate him over time... and want him dead 😄, isn't that sweet?

You're welcome, SG, archer, LadyBug, pp .. I don't know what for.

I'm just late and thinking it's time for a great big ....


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Thanks for sharing Scorpio702 .. let's hope we wish life, instead, ok?

yay .. I'm happy and don't know why, lol 🙂🙂

I don't mean to put a damper on anything... but I see that happening.. my Aunt is a Sag and has grown to resent all of her exs.... I think most people do, especially if the ex broke up with them in a messed up way...

I agree with you on that, pp

At first, it's just so painful .. we all think about hatred.

After time, once you heal .. and you realize that the only people who can effect your life are the ones who are in it .. since there aren't in it, they can't effect you.

There are several ex's in my life and I don't hate any of them. Don't have any contact on a regular basis, but, when I do, it's usually very cordial and happy moments because once we both got over the 'pain', we could then start to laugh, rejoicing in silly and memoriable moments.

Scorpio702, when you sit back and think about times that have stuck in your mind about childhood and teenage memories with friends and family, you remember the goofy things you did together, stuff that makes you pick up and the phone and call an old friend so you two can giggle about it .. anger and hatred are very intense feelings, but, they don't leave a lasting enough impression to store it in your mind, for the purpose of recall.

We remember beautiful sceneries, fun family vacations, watching puppies being born .. you don't remember an arguement you had with a sibling ten years ago, even if it was huge at the time. Our mind is programmed to remember what is beautiful.

What you are remembering now is because you are angry .. five years from now, what you are going to remember are times that he brought you joy and happiness.

wow u gals were busy bees while i was away. ldybug thanks.. I was married to a taurus, and he was my first love but as hot as that was it ended very badly, and thus for me to be in luv with this pisces or any man, is a difficult thing.
But I must say my taurus loved me like no other, and was very giving and a great lover, friend etc.. All a gal could ask for, we just grew apart, kids, inlaws, him listening to his jealous friends and family.. Today his life still aint right and he's remarried. We were a true power couple, and we complimented each other. I will NEVER fing that type of love again. So I MAY SETTLE, as it appears like I am with Mr. No affection, pisces.. only because next to my X, he is the only other man I have such profound feelings for. Why wastemy time chasing and dating other men, if I KNOW im just doing it to be doing it. Yeah Im miserable, and my situation sucks.. None of us know how we will handle a situation, until we are in it. Of course we all want the white picket fence, the handsome well endowed, SINGLE rich hubby.. Its not my desire to go with a taken man. This situation is different, no excuses and i make no apologies.. I cannot go into depth the entire story.. But he is weak I agree, he needs more of a back bone.But agin I know his legal situation, and it doesnt leave him much room to have one. So yes,the other reason I stand by him or try to support him, is because we started out as mad good friends, and I hate to lose that over this crush stuff. I am losing my patience with his lack of MATURITY, and his unwilligness to commuinicate. WHEN I LUV, I LUV HARD, BUT WHEN IVE HAD IT WITH A PERSON I DESPISE WITH EVEN GREATER PASSION. So I hold on to save whats left of the friendship over 30 years strong.. and also on the hope we will be togethersome day. If I give in now to my frustration, as it usually happens, he will show up later wanting & needing me, and I will want NO PART OF HIM.. Thats what hurts the most, I see it happening like that..

Are you sure you have to have him right now, since you've known him for so long, because when you had the chance to have him, you didn't?

Or, are you just having an intense desire to be needed?


The definition of those two realites can be very decieving, especially to women, and especially when women can't find the right person to whom needs her the way she desires to be needed.

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"him listening to his jealous friends and family.. Today his life still aint right and he's remarried."

This is what you said about your ex Taurus, and you also said something similiar about your Pisces, with his controlling and possessive woman .. I find it quite odd that your Taurus and Pisces are both in a commited relationship, yet, choosing to live unhappily .. that is, except when you are there to save them from it.

You know, when a person comes to you, such as our Pisces, and cries on your shoulder .. the only thing you are going to hear are the bad qualities of this woman, since at that moment, he was angry or upset. It's doubtful that the only qualities she has to offer are these bad ones, since he chooses to remain married to her.

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About your Pisces, you said, "he will show up later wanting & needing me".

Will he really be needing you, for YOU? Or, will he just have been in a fight with his woman and needs SOMEONE to tell him it's ok, and be there for him so he won't feel distraught .. then go back home to his woman?

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Seriously, it sounds to me as though he's using you to console him, using your sympathy to assure him that he's valuable, and not really interested in a relationship with you. For, if he was, he would be.

There's something you must learn about Pisces .. if we don't want to be in a relationship with a person, then .. we won't. If we do want to be in a relationship with them, then .. we will.
Rarely is there a "chase" and "conquer" ..

At any rate, I hope you got what insight you needed from the ladies in here, and my words to you are just how I see it from my perspective and not intended to be opinions, rather, analyzed objectively .. meaning, take feelings away from the scenerio and viewing it for what it means, instead of how it feels.

Good Luck and I hope you find what you're looking for. 🙂

Again p - ur so wise and observant. Of course these ladies have good sides to. My pisces friend has complimented her on many occassions as well. Yes they will say bad things during bad times. Use me yes, funny I told him the same thing and what a big hole I dug with him on that note. Yes ur also right, he did say to me he doesnt like to be chased nor chase anyone. That he can be feelin a gal and not get his feelings involved. Which i thought was a bunch of bull..
Thats the thing i did feel used at times, then I said ok Im his friend Im providing him love & support which I would do regardless. Me liking him now beyond that is what is making this crazy.. He cant handle it, doesnt know how, weve been like bro & sis for so long, he just cant shake it. Me im like shake it weve alraedy been intimate a few times...Its all crazy, at the end of the day I will always love him yes I did like him back then, but I was busy being older than him living my life and having fun, them marriage kids, we grew aoart lost contact etc.. Like i said i was always drawn to him, but really never paid it any mind or acted on it. No i dont need to be needed, i have children who take care of that dept.. I am willing to hel those i luv, and remember despite the romantic interest, he's like a baby bro to me, so I would never deny him aid.
Bottom line we may never be a true couple, but i desire not demand that we always have the intimate connection we were developing, til we had these set backs.
I know itshard 4 u to understand, it may not make sense but Im in heavan when I see him or when Im with him.. I derserve some heavan, Im a great gal and there are far more cruel people out there who get what they desire..

oh p-angel you didnt comment on my prior last sentence, about him turning up when I wont want him, whats ur pisces take on that. So Ive imagined this whole thing, he has no feelings for me and thats it right——?
I treasure your insight on the p matter, thank god I will never see myself attempting to bark down a p tree again. Too much head work for my heart. I feel like a couple of pints of blood back, this p man has drained my heart, hard to believe its still beating. Pray that by Oct, I will contact u that I have woken up out of this nightmare, and finally got him out of my system. HE'S WORSE THAN A CRACK ADDICTION, AND I'VE NEVER TRIED THAT. SO DAMN, I COULD ONLY IMAGINE..🙂 🙂
Blessings & Tx