Tell me more about the Pisces man

I know...extremely subtle....

The Pisces doesn't have to be with the person they love to be complete. And sometimes, they don't have to actually love a person .. the "idea" of love is good enough.

Sometimes, this love doesn't even have to be real .. it can be in fantasy.

So, often times, when people have a hard time catching the fish, eventhough you know full well that s/he is attracted to you .. it's because s/he only has to have an indication that you love with without actually living it.

People come in here all the time, trying to figure out WHY they can't catch their fish, mainly, the males .. once you've shown them how much you care for him .. he'll swim away, keep you at a distance, but, not forgotten and will even contact you from time to time and you can't figure WHY .. the fulfillment is there, just by the KNOWING that you love him .. the rest he'll live inside fantasy.

"People come in here all the time, trying to figure out WHY they can't catch their fish, mainly, the males .. once you've shown them how much you care for him .. he'll swim away, keep you at a distance, but, not forgotten and will even contact you from time to time and you can't figure WHY ..."

Really? I can't seem to get rid of my friend and I kind of like his perserverance. He's a real guy on so many levels.

If you ask me how I attracted him? I'd say my confidence, my goofiness, my womanly looks, my idealism and the annoying habit of always smiling. (I do love wearing skirts and heels because it makes me feel powerful and i did this long before I ever met him.)

How did I lose him? My own insecurities. He wants and deserved a woman whose emotionally open to him.

How did we start speaking? He wanted to be friends. I agreed. Then I waited a long while, dwelled on it, and admitted that I was stupid.

I think that the Superbowl is this weekend so I won't correct the situation I'm in just yet. It's leave boys alone time when the superbowl is on. In two weeks he'll have money again so he won't be embarrassed if I ask him out for a burger then. (Grad student waiting for his check.) So I can chill out, keep talking up a storm, and make him laugh in the meantime. (And I have to ditch a guy as well and prepare myself to be alone. I'd rather be alone then unhappy though; my stubborn nature of not admitting that i was wrong earlier kept me longer than neccessary. Worst case scenerio is on Saturday nights I'm reading or going to the movies along, no biggie. I'll still have a guy who makes me laugh and grow emotionally as a friend.)

Now that I think of the quote... I guess it's the 'once you've shown them you care' bit. A gentleman wants to win a prize. Desperation on any level annoys him more than most and he might put something like female chasing him as desperation when another guy would be flattered. I KNOW that my independant nature annoys him on the other end of the spectrum, so who knows... perhaps there is a middle road that I don't know.

ladyvie .. the male Pisces isn't a typical guy .. he is unlike any other in the zodiac because his love is nurtured in a world of fantasy.

When a person loves somebody, the two spend time together and build a relationship together based off of mutual interests, attraction, tastes, desires .. this is normal for every other union to build trust, commitment and respect.

With the Pisces, the time shared with you .. it's like we are a battery and we run independently, we need time WITH you only to re-charge our feelings for you .. our love for you is nurtured within our "other" world .. in there, we build trust, commitment and respect .. then come share it with you.

We operate differently than all other people .. when you said, "If you ask me how I attracted him? I'd say my confidence, my goofiness, my womanly looks, my idealism and the annoying habit of always smiling. (I do love wearing skirts and heels because it makes me feel powerful and i did this long before I ever met him.)"

That is what YOU believe because you have confidence in your womanhood .. however, that isn't entirely true .. we are attracted to souls, the heart of a person .. not their fashion sense and certainly NOT their looks. You could be the ugliest person in the world physically .. but, if your soul talks to ours .. we're attracted.

People have an aura, and though not ALL of us can see this with our physical eyes, we ALL can see it with our third eye .. it's energy, not physic. It's hard to explain.

Often times, the Pisces will be attracted to the underdog, the unfortunate, the forgotten, the unwanted, the sufferer .. it's because we know we have this energy in abundance that's constantly being re-charged with loving people .. we feel within ourselves, that because we have the ability to transmit this energy, we want to do so with someone who needs it. A person, like yourself, who had confidence and determination, doesn't NEED us .. the underdog does ..

Have you ever noticed with your Piscean female friends that she is always surrounding herself with negative people, who appear to be losers? Our attractions to people often is built around "fixing" the other .. this a love to us, in many cases .. because we nurture love within ourselves, we can give it to these people, while knowing that we don't recieve it back .. if we can give it to somebody who is in need .. we feel fulfilled.

I'm not suggesting that he doesn't love you, ladyvie, for I don't know anythi

I'm not suggesting that he doesn't love you, ladyvie, for I don't know anything about you and your relationship, except what you've posted here .. I'm saying that the way you process your love for him, isn't the same way as he processes it back.

For instance .. normally, the Piscean ISN'T attracted to a person who displays such confidence as yourself .. if you listen to people in here, trying to understand us, they will say that the fish they like hangs out with bums and losers and feeds off negativity .. this is normal for us because they NEED us.

There is another side of a person who is in need and that is the person who is overflowing in confidence .. the word "overflowing" is key .. to us, we see this as a weakness, rather than a strength. As much as we don't like the self-centeredness of the Aries or Leo .. we will be attracted to trying to fix them because we see this as a weakness and they need to be mended.

In your testimony about the super-bowl time, you're talking about what you're going to do to keep him interested and the truth is .. this is just for YOU, so you think you are keeping him ..

.. we can't be kept .. we are the keepers.

You sound so much like him towards the end. I can't help but smile when I hear 'we are the keepers.' Just yesterday it was in my own life "I thought I trained you on this one already." It cracks me up as I can't be trained or kept; he just thinks so. On some level he has to know that I'm never going to remember to park the car where he tells me simply because I don't see the point. He's already told me that my independance is infuriating, but I can't stop being me simply because he doesn't like one part of me. However he must like me well enough to keep coming back, despite this character quirk.

Superbowl time... I know without a doubt that I'll see him and talk to him before I go to the spa for a facial.

FYI is the superbowl this weekend or next?

And as for 'For instance .. normally, the Piscean ISN'T attracted to a person who displays such confidence as yourself .. if you listen to people in here, trying to understand us, they will say that the fish they like hangs out with bums and losers and feeds off negativity .. this is normal for us because they NEED us.'

I can't say that this is true. He has the most attractive looking friends with one exception whose problem is his neediness. (Course the guy tried to ask me out before I met the pisces and I said no because of his desperatation.) He thinks that his friends need him more than they do. But they are all good people in his group. I even sit at Church with one of his friends on Sundays when he shows.

ladyvie .. there is something that you need to know. When you said, "I think that the Superbowl is this weekend so I won't correct the situation I'm in just yet. It's leave boys alone time when the superbowl is on. In two weeks he'll have money again so he won't be embarrassed if I ask him out for a burger then..So I can chill out, keep talking up a storm, and make him laugh in the meantime .." And the paragraph continues in same fashion.

This suggests that you have it in your mind that YOU are controlling the situation. You believe it's up to YOU to leave him be during game, keep him laughing .. you even said that you won't correct a situation for the time being .. lol,

Lady .. we can't be controlled by another .. we follow the heart, not a person. We keep other people, they don't keep us. I'm not trying to disuade you from him, only trying to let you know that you aren't in control of his movements, his feelings, his attitude .. we won't be caged in any form .. if he's bending and adhereing to this then it's because he sees a problem or weakness within you and he's fixing YOU. He's controlling YOU, for the sake of mending you.

You have it backwards .. the Pisces will not be put inside another persons box. They will come into yours, if you need it .. then leave, swim away .. until you fall again.

Anyway, like I said, I don't anything about the two of you, but, I know the Pisces and I only tell this to you so you will comprehend that he does what his intuition tells him to do .. we don't listen to other people concerning our actions in life .. we listen to ourselves.

lol, omg, ladyvie .. when I said loser, I wasn't talking about LOOKS.

You said, "He has the most attractive looking friends"

You don't understand what I'm trying to say.

No I do. I don't put attractive as outward appearance. Attractive is the soul.

Superficial people are often unhappy people who want to be accepted.

But attractive people know who they are and are happy enough in their own skin. If he wants to swim away, then his loss entirely. His friends are pretty happy people on the whole. (He picks wisely as I often surround myself with people who need me.)

If he wants to try to tame me, then I wish him all the luck in the world. I bend sometimes, but I need to understand the why and question it before accepting anything.

Anyway .. this is just some insight for those trying to understand the Pisces.

We're difficult, I know .. MysticFire, lv and whomever else is trying to figure this out, this is something that you NEED to understand .. our mission in life is to heal people, fix them in some way .. if you present yourself to us that you are NOT in need of some kind .. we'll swim away. So, perhaps, your best bet is to stay just on the outside of control .. remain unsure, rather than confident .. he'll then be drawn to you, so he can help you .. after a time, if he believes that you're in constant need of care .. he'll pull up a chair and set awhile.

However, keep in mind .. he can "sense" your emotions, so he can't be fooled. In order to get him to stay be you in this fasion, you have to really love him .. if it's superficial, he'll know.

Good Luck to all.

Ha, I cant seem to get rid of mine either.

"My Aqua friend runs like some one is trying to take his life sometimes,but his soul is saying I love you so much and I have not the slightest idea is to how to deal with it.."

Yes, its true...my pisces tells me I am totally off, he doesnt get me, and he wont try (but I know he does, if he didnt we wouldnt be where we are today) Granted he is young.

He keeps telling me that he's going to train me; it's a running joke. And I'm not upset or reading more into it than that. I simply wish him luck on that quest.

Wow, he must be joking, because they dont seem the type that needs to be controled..they are very passive aggressive and calm...never seem him mad.

ALthough he did complain about his last girlfriend trying to control the relationship...he defiunitely wont be able to handle me...Ive told him that too.

Yeah he does and even if he doesnt he's trying, very patient...i like that about him. Aquas dont go for the overbearing types, they usually drain me...

lol, it isn't a contest .. it's about the soul

For some reason, people think that love is about a conquest .. to change, or train, or control, or manipulate .. we just want to love your souls ..

Pisces guys are definately gentleman in the true sense of the word. It's really nice actually.

And yes Love is about companionship and a meeting of the souls... training, changing or manipulating isn't love.

He loves to tease me though that he's training me to be the perfect girlfriend. (His words not mine as he's not my boyfriend!)

"He loves to tease me though that he's training me to be the perfect girlfriend"

He certainly can't tell you the truth, for you have too much confidence in yourself. Not meaning that in a bad way .. just, well, it's the truth .. you have confidence and he can't tell you what it really is .. so he says in a very soft, non-offensive, naked to the eye, metaphysical, leading my example kinda (teasing) way ..

.. something is broken in you and he has to fix you.

That is our aim .. we heal, mend, fix .. because we know that underneath all that flashy and ego-based exterior of others .. there's a loving soul .. we have to tear down the barriers so we can love it with all our heart and soul.

I run from Aqua's .. want no part. As soon as I find this out .. there on their own.

There's been a few where I like their physical aspect, but, I have no interest in being with them, nor, Leo's. Anyone else is tolerable.

I think there is an inconsistency in what Ladyvie says. A Pisces man never will try to teach anyone who is not willing to learn or hasnt shown a willingless to change. From what I can see, Ladyvie isn't happy about how she's being treated in that sense, and says that she wont ever change with what her Pisces friend says.

Excuse me...

Are you fucking with us?

lmao

SF, not me .. I'll gladly step aside and let your mission be them.

I'd rather tackle the Aries.

🙂

You go then .. Aries are hard-headed, to be sure .. but, only for a moment .. they are actually very sensitive, warm and approachable people .. Aqua's however, never listen to any kind of reason, or voice, except their own .. just like the Leo.

They can only hear themselves .. if you know a way to get throught to them, you have the floor ..

I'm out.

" A Pisces man never will try to teach anyone who is not willing to learn or hasnt shown a willingless to change. From what I can see, Ladyvie isn't happy about how she's being treated in that sense, and says that she wont ever change with what her Pisces friend says."

Or perhaps I am happy and doesn't know what to do about it. I ran when I thought that I couldn't measure up and I was unhappy. But now it's a wonderful day all around!!!

You can't be happy and dont know what to do about it. You are either lieing to yourself or mentally unballanced.

But I probably know why you say this like that. You are typical Aqua. You pretty much afraid of your emotions. You fear that they will take over you. And you simply try to ignore them, because it's the easier way to deal with it.

Don't worry. We Pisces are also there. But we know that there is no way to RUN from it. You either live in fear (just like you continue to do while trying to ignore them) or you learn to deal with them by beliving.

Heh...Typical Aqua.

I was in a state of happy shock silly which means that you are happy and unsure what to do about it. I've had quite a few happy shocks today. Three people and events actually, and it's been super great. I can't wait for 5 PM so I'm out of here.

But hey if happiness is a state only for the mentally unbalanced, then sign me up please. I'd rather be happy (and crazy) then miserable (and the only sane person in a world full of crazy people.)

As for Mr. Pisces in my life he's cool. We are still smiling and acting like children. I like the stress free time that we spend together.

So you spend whole your day for happy shock? I thought it takes only 5 minutes to get over with shock. Then..reality check...

But if you cannot leave happy shock for a whole day, then you are either lying (which seems quite habital behaviour for you) or mentally unballanced.

Happiness is state of beliving without doubt (wether it's for true reason or not). Happy and crazy as you have said is based on self deception is the biggest misery a person can have. Rock on. I don't care.

"Rock on. I don't care."

Ditto

People who name call are often just reflecting what they do on other people. No skin on my nose what an arm chair critic thinks who has nothing to do but criticize people as they discuss their state of being. Rock on sweetie!

Name calling is the way of expression to tell you that you pissing them off. Criticise can be used for good as well to help you realise your weaknessess. Only a person who cannot deal with reality checks can think of it as an offencive thing. People who can deal, simply dont try to read between the lines. They get the point. And name calling could be a way to divide such people from others.

You should really think of being direct and more importantly honest with people. Running and hiding wont bring you to anything but self deception and misery.

Tell me haffo are you a happily married man or woman who is qualified to give advice or are you just looking for something to say because you don't like what I say? I obviously didn't explain myself and with comments like yours, there is no reason. But when someone throws the first stone with childish namecalling and doesn't like the retort, then really whose fault was it?

I actually feel sorry for you in trying to find fault with people so I won't hold it against you. Have a great rest of the day.

I dont take it as a fault. I take it as a part of communication.

If finding faults in people is a sorry behaviour, then why the fuck are you here? LOL!

You could simply leave this guy and dont take the necessary crap. But you cant aye?

Who the hell you are fucking with again? Stop acting like an idiot.

The thing is .. we don't care if you don't.

To unselflessly give .. we do whole heartedly, without asking anything in return .. that is, if you care that what we have to offer comes from our love for your soul .. and with this love, we will tend to your every need and desire. If you embrace the awareness that when we speak, or do .. it's with the intentions of nurturing your tender feelings and protecting your soul .. we give until our dying breath .. we care more and deeper than any other.

However .. if the person on the recieving end ONLY cares about themselves, their own point-of-view, only hears thier own voice .. we don't care. And there's no way to make us care or have the slightest concern .. simply ignore .. because if a person can only hear their own voice, can only feel their own heart, only their soul moves them .. we don't care.

We care .. we care not .. two fish swimming in opposite directions .. it's up to you.

That's true P-Angel. If it goes, then it goes to the fullest. Any crap that creates irritation will be met with forcefull torrent that would piss the person alot. For not creating any irritating torrent, a person has to surrender to the utmost honesty. It's that way or the other way.

And no inbetween .. we don't play games, nor have an interest.

Very simple .. we care to the fullest .. or no care in the least .. it's up to the other person .. there's no manipulating the situation .. one or the other.

@MysticFire

19 YearsAries

Huh.

Cuz I feel like I'm banging my head against a wall with him, at times. Yes, he can be even more stubborn than myself!

So how is it that:
"Maybe we shouldn't be friends, anymore"