ScorpioFemale79
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I tried I tried I tried........ I just can't deal
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Oh and I wanna add the past few months I have been keeping to myself not really acknowledging her she has left me alone but ever since I followed advice and tried to "tolerate" her she's been SMOTHERING me again.
UGH.
UGH.
Who said to make nice—
That's not what I recall at all.
That's not what I recall at all.
well i misunderstood. My bad.
Can I throw her out the window then?
Can I throw her out the window then?
Haha, went in for round two with her, huh? I'd say, just stay away from her. Your views/values, etc are too different from the way she seems to be, so being around her will just negatively affect your mood. Go back to 'being busy' and distance yourself. She might not see anything wrong in the way she does things, so confronting her isn't necessary, imo. Just, fade away. After that, though, don't let her control your mood. If you see her around, don't automatically get annoyed. Condition yourself to not do that. No one needs unnecessary stress among coworkers added to the stress a job already brings.
Posted by Scenic
Haha, went in for round two with her, huh? I'd say, just stay away from her. Your views/values, etc are too different from the way she seems to be, so being around her will just negatively affect your mood. Go back to 'being busy' and distance yourself. She might not see anything wrong in the way she does things, so confronting her isn't necessary, imo. Just, fade away. After that, though, don't let her control your mood. If you see her around, don't automatically get annoyed. Condition yourself to not do that. No one needs unnecessary stress among coworkers added to the stress a job already brings.
I can't always not be around her. I have to work with her on some upcoming projects but she's always so bossy and domineering and most of the time she doesn't know jack shit. I'm soooooooooooooooooooooooooooo annoyed I will just flip out on her ass at any moment 😢
Posted by DeeGee
Sorry to say it but theres nothing you can really do to change her...it's not your job, so don't make it your job. Either quit or eat it....end of story.
The only thing you can do is try to avoid her as much as you can. Only deal with her when you really have to.
She's smothering you cus she feels the tension. It's making her nervous that you're not falling for the BS and that's a threat to her, she's been getting away with it for so long, she wants to make sure her fate is sealed, all across the board.
She wants to be near you, in order to get inside your head and see what's up, if she's got something to worry about. Use that insecurity of hers to your advantage.
You are right, I have no choice but to deal with her but that's the thing. She's only respectful to management. She gets all in your face if you are not. Once her old boss and her became friends, she stopped being respectful to him and treated him like she'd treat anyone on her level.
So what I tried to do was to perform with more authority and show my experience and knowledge whenever we were in a group setting, meetings, in front of our boss, top management, and events but that doesn't seem to be working.
I limit contact as much as I can but she always seems to think its cause I'm busy but I'm not. I don't know why she'd think that when I'm always talking to everyone and she can hear me talking unless she's stuck in her own little world she doesn't care about anyone else LOL.
You should pity her, not scorn her. She's probably an utter mess on the inside. Being materialistic, looking down on the poor, wanting help but being selfish....she could be on the verge of cracking. Flip your distaste for her and find sympathy and mercy and patience. Ask her out to lunch or an after work cocktail-if you can stomach it. I think you will be very surprised when you discover who she really is.
Posted by PiscesFebFish
You should pity her, not scorn her. She's probably an utter mess on the inside. Being materialistic, looking down on the poor, wanting help but being selfish....she could be on the verge of cracking. Flip your distaste for her and find sympathy and mercy and patience. Ask her out to lunch or an after work cocktail-if you can stomach it. I think you will be very surprised when you discover who she really is.
I don't want to spend time with her. I don't care if she's going to crack in side. Once she made that biased comment about the ghetto or the poor, that set me off. She doesn't know pain or what its like to struggle.
Screw that. She's on my no no list.
Posted by DeeGeePosted by ScorpioFemale79Posted by DeeGee
Sorry to say it but theres nothing you can really do to change her...it's not your job, so don't make it your job. Either quit or eat it....end of story.
The only thing you can do is try to avoid her as much as you can. Only deal with her when you really have to.
She's smothering you cus she feels the tension. It's making her nervous that you're not falling for the BS and that's a threat to her, she's been getting away with it for so long, she wants to make sure her fate is sealed, all across the board.
She wants to be near you, in order to get inside your head and see what's up, if she's got something to worry about. Use that insecurity of hers to your advantage.
You are right, I have no choice but to deal with her but that's the thing. She's only respectful to management. She gets all in your face if you are not. Once her old boss and her became friends, she stopped being respectful to him and treated him like she'd treat anyone on her level.
So what I tried to do was to perform with more authority and show my experience and knowledge whenever we were in a group setting, meetings, in front of our boss, top management, and events but that doesn't seem to be working.
I limit contact as much as I can but she always seems to think its cause I'm busy but I'm not. I don't know why she'd think that when I'm always talking to everyone and she can hear me talking unless she's stuck in her own little world she doesn't care about anyone else LOL.
If it bothers you that much and you can't function, maybe think about moving to another department.click to expand
SHE should move to another department.
I am happy where i am.
Posted by ScorpioFemale79
.... and is nice enough that mostly everyone except a few see right through her.
I find it interesting that MOST people don't have a problem with her. It only seems to be a few, like you ... and usually when a person is as you've described, then it's the majority of people who have the problem with the person.
Posted by ScorpioFemale79
Though she thinks I'm just busy all the time and that I don't dislike her. I really DONT like her and I have to work with her
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Several times in here you've used the word "fake" ... yet, by your own admission, you pretend around her, and allow her see the fake side of you.
Interesting .......
Posted by ScorpioFemale79
She's only respectful to management.
I have an issue with this statement, as it coincides with another statement you made, which proclaims that MOST of the people don't have a problem with her.
You only know how she acts when she's around you. so you have no basis to claim who she is only respectful to ... when as we realize that most people don't have a problem with her, it can also be concluded that those people likely don't feel disrespected by her.
Posted by ScorpioFemale79
Once her old boss and her became friends, she stopped being respectful to him and treated him like she'd treat anyone on her level.
At your job, people are supposed to be treated different according to their position. If this old boss and her are friends, then it would be logical to assume that this old boss and her don't have this disrespect issue that you speak of .. by virtue of his desire to be in a friendship with her.
Posted by ScorpioFemale79
So what I tried to do was to perform with more authority and show my experience and knowledge whenever we were in a group setting, meetings, in front of our boss, top management, and events but that doesn't seem to be working.
If your manuever to manipulate the situation isn't working, then perhaps you should re-evaluate your integrity in hopes of finding a way to show your attributes based around your abilities, rather than with intentions of outdoing another.
Posted by ScorpioFemale79
.... but she always seems to think its cause I'm busy but I'm not. I don't know why she'd think that when I'm always talking to everyone and she can hear me talking unless she's stuck in her own little world she doesn't care about anyone else
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here we find you being fake with her again, and causing her to believe you feel differently than you do
And is that last sentence suppose to translate to: you are always talking at work?
Sounds to me like what we have here is two different people:
Her, who is a career person, has a working relationship with her superiors and attempts to flex her management arms with her subordinates, likely in hopes of being recog
nized for her management skills in getting promoted.
You, who is talking to everyone all the time, and is jealous because management isn't looking at you for better positioning, and so you have yourself believing it's her fault that you aren't being recognized for your work, when actually it's your own fault because you aren't asserting yourself, rather attempting to show blame on another for not allowing you to do your job.
What a bunch of bullshit.
You're being an idiot ... obviously.
Instead of using any part of your rational mind, you have chosen to be a douchebag and proclaim it's someone elses fault, in that she doesn't care about you, as being the reason why you aren't asserting yourself at work.
Why should it be so important to you whether or not she cares about your feelings at work? Are you there to have your feelings pampered? Or are you there to work?
And just because a person doesn't want to live in the ghetto doesn't make them out to be the bitch you've described in here because MOST people don't want to live ghetto ... and furthermore, you base your accusations of her on your upbringing in conditions that you didn't like, and so are projecting that onto her ... again, so she is at fault.
You, who is talking to everyone all the time, and is jealous because management isn't looking at you for better positioning, and so you have yourself believing it's her fault that you aren't being recognized for your work, when actually it's your own fault because you aren't asserting yourself, rather attempting to show blame on another for not allowing you to do your job.
What a bunch of bullshit.
You're being an idiot ... obviously.
Instead of using any part of your rational mind, you have chosen to be a douchebag and proclaim it's someone elses fault, in that she doesn't care about you, as being the reason why you aren't asserting yourself at work.
Why should it be so important to you whether or not she cares about your feelings at work? Are you there to have your feelings pampered? Or are you there to work?
And just because a person doesn't want to live in the ghetto doesn't make them out to be the bitch you've described in here because MOST people don't want to live ghetto ... and furthermore, you base your accusations of her on your upbringing in conditions that you didn't like, and so are projecting that onto her ... again, so she is at fault.
Sounds to me like you are just one of the ignorant ones who go about life blaming everything/everybody else .... so you don't have to have responsibility for yourself .... likely due to being a coward.
Posted by P-AngelPosted by ScorpioFemale79
.... and is nice enough that mostly everyone except a few see right through her.
I find it interesting that MOST people don't have a problem with her. It only seems to be a few, like you ... and usually when a person is as you've described, then it's the majority of people who have the problem with the person.
Posted by ScorpioFemale79
Though she thinks I'm just busy all the time and that I don't dislike her. I really DONT like her and I have to work with her
They don't have a problem with her because they don't work with her directly. All they experience is her say hi, how are you.
Everyone else that has had to deal with her finds her annoying.
Several times in here you've used the word "fake" ... yet, by your own admission, you pretend around her, and allow her see the fake side of you.
Interesting .......click to expand
Posted by everevolvingepithetPosted by ScorpioFemale79Posted by PiscesFebFish
You should pity her, not scorn her. She's probably an utter mess on the inside. Being materialistic, looking down on the poor, wanting help but being selfish....she could be on the verge of cracking. Flip your distaste for her and find sympathy and mercy and patience. Ask her out to lunch or an after work cocktail-if you can stomach it. I think you will be very surprised when you discover who she really is.
I don't want to spend time with her. I don't care if she's going to crack in side. Once she made that biased comment about the ghetto or the poor, that set me off. She doesn't know pain or what its like to struggle.
Screw that. She's on my no no list.
Was she brought up this way and is the kindness and benevolence of others seen as a an entitlement that is meant for her rather than people being what they are?click to expand
From what she's said in the past her parents are well off and from what I know anything she has i.e. her car, her apartment etc. her parents paid for it.
I don't think i've ever seen her here do anything out of her own sheer skillset. I always see her bugging the few that she does talk to, for help on basic common sense things.
So I don't know what her deal is.
Posted by P-Angel
Sounds to me like you are just one of the ignorant ones who go about life blaming everything/everybody else .... so you don't have to have responsibility for yourself .... likely due to being a coward.
How is keeping to myself being a coward. The only reason I do acknowledge her is cause the company believes in "Social Nicety" even if people are being dicks to you.
If i could get angry at her and not get in trouble I would have by now. So instead of biting my tongue I choose to just do my work so she can leave me alone.
Posted by ScorpioFemale79
So what I tried to do was to perform with more authority and show my experience and knowledge whenever we were in a group setting, meetings, in front of our boss, top management, and events but that doesn't seem to be working.
Posted by ScorpioFemale79
SHE should move to another department.
I am happy where i am.
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Those two are in contrast of each other. If you are failing at proving to your superiors your worth to them .. then how are you measuring "happy" where you are?
And secondly ... again, instead of considering moving to better yourself, you'd rather proclaim she is at at fault for your lousy life, and she should do something to make your life better for you.
In reality ... you're probably the problem
Posted by DeeGeePosted by ScorpioFemale79Posted by DeeGeePosted by ScorpioFemale79Posted by DeeGee
Sorry to say it but theres nothing you can really do to change her...it's not your job, so don't make it your job. Either quit or eat it....end of story.
The only thing you can do is try to avoid her as much as you can. Only deal with her when you really have to.
She's smothering you cus she feels the tension. It's making her nervous that you're not falling for the BS and that's a threat to her, she's been getting away with it for so long, she wants to make sure her fate is sealed, all across the board.
She wants to be near you, in order to get inside your head and see what's up, if she's got something to worry about. Use that insecurity of hers to your advantage.
You are right, I have no choice but to deal with her but that's the thing. She's only respectful to management. She gets all in your face if you are not. Once her old boss and her became friends, she stopped being respectful to him and treated him like she'd treat anyone on her level.
So what I tried to do was to perform with more authority and show my experience and knowledge whenever we were in a group setting, meetings, in front of our boss, top management, and events but that doesn't seem to be working.
I limit contact as much as I can but she always seems to think its cause I'm busy but I'm not. I don't know why she'd think that when I'm always talking to everyone and she can hear me talking unless she's stuck in her own little world she doesn't care about anyone else LOL.
If it bothers you that much and you can't function, maybe think about moving to another department.
SHE should move to another department.
I am happy where i am.
Then just hang in there....things will get better. You to will get used to one another and settle in.click to expand
Yeah I'm trying. I mean its like today this is what happened.
I guess someone forwarded her a voicemail by a spanish speaker (she speaks spanish). What does she do she emails me and bugs me to see if he's already in
ack it erased it. This is what i meant to say:
Yeah I'm trying. I mean its like today this is what happened.
I guess someone forwarded her a voicemail by a spanish speaker (she speaks spanish). What does she do she emails me and bugs me to see if he's already in the database.
a. why is she asking me of all people
b. why doesn't she just look in the database herself
This is the kind of annoying behavior im talking about.
Yeah I'm trying. I mean its like today this is what happened.
I guess someone forwarded her a voicemail by a spanish speaker (she speaks spanish). What does she do she emails me and bugs me to see if he's already in the database.
a. why is she asking me of all people
b. why doesn't she just look in the database herself
This is the kind of annoying behavior im talking about.
I thought you had a post on another board talking about a few other girls you dubbed the "mean girls"....
Do you get along with anyone at work? And are any of them female?
Not trying to be sly here... just curious.... there's a bit of a pattern going on though...
Do you get along with anyone at work? And are any of them female?
Not trying to be sly here... just curious.... there's a bit of a pattern going on though...
Posted by ScorpioFemale79
I don't want to spend time with her. I don't care if she's going to crack in side. Once she made that biased comment about the ghetto or the poor, that set me off. She doesn't know pain or what its like to struggle.
Sounds to me like you're just ready to go off .. and so therefore you are looking for a reason because the reality of your above statement is that you really don't know what she has struggled with in her life.
For a person to make a comment about not wanting to live in the ghetto and want to live on a beach isn't offensive at all, considering that every person actually has a right to live where they want, and not live where they want.
Posted by ScorpioFemale79
From what she's said in the past her parents are well off and from what I know anything she has i.e. her car, her apartment etc. her parents paid for it.
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First of all, you don't know how/where she obtains her personal possessions.
And secondly ... what does it matter to you if someone else obtained them for her?
Are you sure you're a upset at her? Because it sounds to me like you the problem is envy.
Your envy .. you proclaim she can't do her job, you proclaim that she lacks common sense, you don't like her because she doesn't want to live in poverty and would rather live on the beach, you don't like that her parents have money to help her out .... again ... you're jealous of her.
Posted by ScorpioFemale79
I don't think i've ever seen her here do anything out of her own sheer skillset. I always see her bugging the few that she does talk to, for help on basic common sense things.
So I don't know what her deal is.
So, if you've never seen her do anything other than what you have seen .. are you then making the insinuation that you know all that she does?
Didn't you say earlier (I will go back and look and quote), that the bosses like her, or something like that? And that they value her work over yours? So, how is it that you know the value of her job to think you have the authority to make an assessement about her accomplishments at work and that this value is bad ... yet, the actual management team does she value in her, and her abilities - their judgement of her abilities doesn't supercede yours when we are to conclude her worth?
I don't know what your deal is.
Are you a person of standards?
Or a person prey to falling upon your own errors, rather than overcoming yourself?
Seriously, that ^^^^ is a huge problem I deal with everyday with most people, uncanily strong in Virgos, but, present somewhat in nearly all ....... that they can't get over themselves long enough to realize that they are groveling on the ground, pawing at their own selves to get the fuck up and be somebody.
*shudders*
I would hate to have someone obsess over me... the way you obsess over this woman. watching, analyzing every move, action and interaction... (unless I'm sexing them of course 😉
supa creepy
I would hate to have someone obsess over me... the way you obsess over this woman. watching, analyzing every move, action and interaction... (unless I'm sexing them of course 😉
supa creepy
Posted by deezie
I thought you had a post on another board talking about a few other girls you dubbed the "mean girls"....
Do you get along with anyone at work? And are any of them female?
Not trying to be sly here... just curious.... there's a bit of a pattern going on though...
Oh I get along with alot of people but there's alot of drama at the company I work for. The problem people though are:
1. The 2 mean girls that work in HQ
2. This lazy girl I mention in this thread that works in my department/office/location
Everyone else is okay, I mean we all have our "work issues" both those 3 people (2 situations) are the worst.
Also to add, the 2 mean girls...they don't bug me as much becuase they work in another deparmtent and I rarely see them. Plus they are mean to people in their own deparment, not to me so much though they did try before but I took care of that!
Posted by DeeGee
How old is the woman?
She'll be 25 in march 16.
I guess what really bugs me is that she lacks basic common sense and is lazy as hell. But whenever she's around the general public (networking wise) or in front of management or in meetings she always acts like she knows what they are talking about or that she's brillant and etc when I definitely know that's not the case.
Plus I was offended by her poverty bias and that she acted she was too good for that.
Integrity is important to me and she won't help anyone and gets offended if you don't do what you wants.
I'm sorry but I just don't like someone who's like that.
Posted by shellshocker
*shudders*
I would hate to have someone obsess over me... the way you obsess over this woman. watching, analyzing every move, action and interaction... (unless I'm sexing them of course 😉
supa creepy
LOL im not lesbo so that definitely won't happen. As far as watching, I only know what i know becuase she's always "around" me.
If she wasn't around me so much she'd actually get some work done.
Yeah I should just tell her what I think but she's a pot stirrer. I don't need gossip going around but its not that I don't HATE her cause hate is a strong word, she's just annoying. The thing is, I hate it when people (whoever they may be) are lazy asses, depend on others so much they become a burden, or don't own up to who they actually are.
I mean I know that I can be an ass (with good reason), and I don't deny it. What she's doing is pretending to be something she's not.
The other thing is I hate when people are so dependent on others they become a burden. The way I see it if you end up becoming a burden to society, you aren't obviously creating positive change.
And if you aren't creating change in the world, then your just wasting space.
I hope that doesn't come across as mean but I'm a realist 😢
Posted by pnutbutta
Long story short, you might think that she's being fake with you, while she might actually know that you aren't being real with her.
I don't know if its actually that but that is a good touche'. I think she thinks I'm "busy" or something is up (that doesn't involve her) when I don't say anything.
I really hate tension so I think I'll just live and let live and just do what I did with my aqua situation and clean slate it all.
Then secretly world domination >🙂
Posted by pnutbutta
I really think you should just be honest with her, tactfully of course. Tell her with a smile on your face, that's what I would do. Three sentences or less...let her know that you would rather eat dog food than converse with her, be sure to use tact. You are there to do your job, not to make friends (or enemies). If someone doesn't mesh well with you, oh well, their loss. Your boss 'should' understand. You prove that you can work together, do your best. Dismiss her on a personal level, be impeccable with your job performance and you should be fine.
Granted, I don't know your job, but I know with all my former employment this has always worked for me.
Yep Yep that's my goal. Thank you. Although to be clear yes I dislike her, but I don't hate her. The throwing her out the window thing is just snarky jokes on my part. I'm too caring to even really wanna do that to someone.
I guess the day will come when we do talk about it if ever, but I think what will work in this case is to just let bygones be bygones and focus on me and my status within the organization. Focus on my work.
I do believe in Karma so if she's really a "bleh" person then it'll get her. It always does.
It happened to her old boss.
THank you for the advice all.
Posted by DeeGee
Your thought process and your emotions are getting convoluted....You've got to separate the two. If not, everything she does will drive you bat shit crazy. You're letting her effect you and she really hasn't technically done anything to you but be herself.
Don't let your personal opinions of her get in the way of what you need to do to succeed.
You better shake it off or you're gonna end up loosing your job.
Yep. I'm trying to. When we were cool in the beginning she kept wanting to talk all the time or take a long time it started to affect my work performance
When I was annoyed at her it affected my work performance
But if I keep focus on the long term goals and strategic planning then my reputation as one of the few powerhouses / most skilled in the company gets better and my chances at another promotion is better
Thanks!
Posted by DeeGee
Yes and once you get promoted, you can get away from her. 🙂
She supposedly keeps talking about taking or applying for this position in hq. if corporate hires her u won't even have to deal with her much
Posted by ScorpioFemale79
Yep. I'm trying to. When we were cool in the beginning she kept wanting to talk all the time or take a long time it started to affect my work performance
When I was annoyed at her it affected my work performance
But if I keep focus on the long term goals and strategic planning then my reputation as one of the few powerhouses / most skilled in the company gets better and my chances at another promotion is better
You are going to insist on it being her fault if you fuck up at work .... your work performance is your responsibility, and has nothing to do with her. Everytime you come back to this, you continue to say it's her fault.
In reality, you're the problem with yourself in that you won't take responsibility for yourself.
I'd like to know how you are valuing yourself as one of the few powerhouses at work, when in reality, if that were true, you wouldn't be groveling at the bottom, pissed off because other people have more than you.
It seems, according to what you write in here, that you have no clue who you are .. because if you were one out of a very people at work who was as good as you say you are, then management wouldn't have recognized this .. they haven't recognized it, in fact you said that when you have tried to show them what you got, you fail. S
So, it's a fair assessment to conclude that you aren't all that you think you are .. and I would counsel that if you plan on being somebody, then you first need to get your head out of your ass and take a look at who you really are.
*bites tongue*
Posted by DeeGeePosted by ScorpioFemale79Posted by DeeGee
Yes and once you get promoted, you can get away from her. 🙂
She supposedly keeps talking about taking or applying for this position in hq. if corporate hires her u won't even have to deal with her much
OK, light at the end of tunnel....go towards the light...lolclick to expand
HEHE.
Its okay I've been trying to practice "tolerance" since yesterday afternoon. So far so good. No hair pulling yet.
I just went into history and read a lot from you (not all) ... and come to realize that you don't get along with anyone at work, have a delusion about an Aqua in thinking that he owes you personal attention and you get jealous/envious of everyone ... EVERY PERSON you work with!!!
I didn't make it as far as the 2 mean girls that have been mentioned in this thread. And with all of these people ... your difficulty is in letting them be bygones, and so you bitch about all of them in a manner in which insinuates that
it's thier responsibility to find a ground for you, so you can continue.
Posted by ScorpioFemale79
So what I tried to do was to perform with more authority and show my experience and knowledge whenever we were in a group setting, meetings, in front of our boss, top management, and events but that doesn't seem to be working.
In what I did read in your historical postings here ... at least 3 times you made reference that you were an expert at your field, that you run a whole department by yourself, and that without you the department would fall apart ...... while here we see that when you are having an emotional melt-done the words that come out of your mouth is that when you attempt to present yourself to your superiors, they don't seem to notice all these qualities you boast about having.
In typical Scorpion fashion, you are experiencing the downfall of the Scorpion = not only are you Stinging your own self, you don't know it, and think you are succeeding at Stinging some/thing else.
Posted by aquasnozPosted by yellow01gt
*bites tongue*
Come on Jack 😛 I always like reading your posts!
lol..i'm flattered, but i think i better keep this one in 🙂
Posted by ScorpioFemale79Posted by yellow01gt
*bites tongue*
hehe. Just say what you gotta say.
I can take it x)click to expand
you can provoke me all you want, scorpio girl...having mars in pisces (while, crippling in many situations lol), is actually a blessing in instances like this one...so is my cancer ascendant 🙂
i will say this, however...despite how poorly you speak of this pisces girl, i find her to be quite interesting and likable...
--Jack
Posted by yellow01gtPosted by aquasnozPosted by yellow01gt
*bites tongue*
Come on Jack 😛 I always like reading your posts!
lol..i'm flattered, but i think i better keep this one in 🙂
Posted by ScorpioFemale79Posted by yellow01gt
*bites tongue*
hehe. Just say what you gotta say.
I can take it x)
you can provoke me all you want, scorpio girl...having mars in pisces (while, crippling in many situations lol), is actually a blessing in instances like this one...so is my cancer ascendant 🙂
i will say this, however...despite how poorly you speak of this pisces girl, i find her to be quite interesting and likable...
--Jackclick to expand
Don't get me wrong she can be likeable. Hell I liked her at first but I think its her inability to understand that we get paid to do our jobs, her feeling like she can utilize her time to just "sit there", I dont' agree with.
Posted by DeeGee
BTW, do you know what your Moon, Venus, Rising and Mercury is in?
I think its this only because I think i was born around 8am...so this is as accurate as I can get. This is from Cafe Astrology:
Sun Scorpio 23.42 Ascendant Sagittarius 6.56
Moon Libra 17.57 II Capricorn 9.19
Mercury Sagittarius 1.46 R III Aquarius 16.10
Venus Sagittarius 15.10 IV Pisces 22.14
Mars Leo 28.32 V Aries 22.18
Jupiter Virgo 7.49 VI Taurus 16.26
Saturn Virgo 24.45 VII Gemini 6.56
Uranus Scorpio 21.27 VIII Cancer 9.19
Neptune Sagittarius 19.16 IX Leo 16.10
Pluto Libra 20.29 Midheaven Virgo 22.14
Lilith Virgo 14.27 XI Libra 22.18
Asc node Virgo 4.47 XII Scorpio 16.26
Posted by ScorpioFemale79
Don't get me wrong she can be likeable. Hell I liked her at first but I think its her inability to understand that we get paid to do our jobs, her feeling like she can utilize her time to just "sit there", I dont' agree with.
get you wrong? you're implying that this is a complex situation and there is some underlying theme that i'm unable to recognize or something. when, honestly i thought initially that it actually might be something serious, based on the intensity behind the words being used...it's quite the opposite, in fact...it's funny as fuck to me now that i know it's about a work related situation...
lol a pisces is never going to work harder than they have to, and will always come up with a clever way to get away with way more than they should 😛
and it sounds like she DOES understand, because she IS getting paid...it probably just doesnt matter to her as much as it does you...
--Jack
Posted by ScorpioFemale79Posted by DeeGee
BTW, do you know what your Moon, Venus, Rising and Mercury is in?
I think its this only because I think i was born around 8am...so this is as accurate as I can get. This is from Cafe Astrology:
Sun Scorpio 23.42 Ascendant Sagittarius 6.56
Moon Libra 17.57 II Capricorn 9.19
Mercury Sagittarius 1.46 R III Aquarius 16.10
Venus Sagittarius 15.10 IV Pisces 22.14
Mars Leo 28.32 V Aries 22.18
Jupiter Virgo 7.49 VI Taurus 16.26
Saturn Virgo 24.45 VII Gemini 6.56
Uranus Scorpio 21.27 VIII Cancer 9.19
Neptune Sagittarius 19.16 IX Leo 16.10
Pluto Libra 20.29 Midheaven Virgo 22.14
Lilith Virgo 14.27 XI Libra 22.18
Asc node Virgo 4.47 XII Scorpio 16.26click to expand
and no, if you do not know your EXACT time of birth...this is inaccurate....some of the fishys lurking about on this board actually "do" astrology, on a level above 'casual hobby' and have been doing so for many years...while i'm no expert, i can tell you with certainty that you really should look into finding your real birth time...
as i'm sure you already know, the ascendant (which is the 3rd most important part of your chart) is determined by your birth time...and just a couple of minutes can make a huge difference in your chart interpretation...and the aspects between the planets are kind of important too...so, exact placement is important...
just thought i'd share that with you. i'll do your chart for you to prove i'm not being a smartass if you can find out when you were born...
--Jack
lol @ jack
Posted by yellow01gtPosted by ScorpioFemale79
Don't get me wrong she can be likeable. Hell I liked her at first but I think its her inability to understand that we get paid to do our jobs, her feeling like she can utilize her time to just "sit there", I dont' agree with.
get you wrong? you're implying that this is a complex situation and there is some underlying theme that i'm unable to recognize or something. when, honestly i thought initially that it actually might be something serious, based on the intensity behind the words being used...it's quite the opposite, in fact...it's funny as fuck to me now that i know it's about a work related situation...
lol a pisces is never going to work harder than they have to, and will always come up with a clever way to get away with way more than they should 😛
and it sounds like she DOES understand, because she IS getting paid...it probably just doesnt matter to her as much as it does you...
--Jack
click to expand
Of course her and I are going to view the same situation differently. We're two different signs. I value hard work is all more than she probably does. My "judgement" on her is on a combination of things that i've brought up in this thread:
- I value hard work more and she doesn't
- She's copped an attitude when she asked me if I wanted to go to lunch, I politely declined
- She's made an ignorant bias against the "poor"
- She cops an attitude when she calls my office and I don't pick up the phone. If I don't pick up its because I wasn't in my office but yet she never "believes" me.
- She sometimes volunteers to do stuff for our boss, but then bitches to me 2 hours later about how she has so much work (4 projects) so I used to jokingly say in the beginning "try my 30 projects and managing a department" to get her to realize 4 projects is nothing. I wish I had only 4 projects. But she keeps making comments.
Anyway... its not a pisces thing so much its a her thing. No one has to like anyone, and if I just morally am offended by her actions then Im entitled to be.
Posted by yellow01gtPosted by ScorpioFemale79Posted by DeeGee
BTW, do you know what your Moon, Venus, Rising and Mercury is in?
I think its this only because I think i was born around 8am...so this is as accurate as I can get. This is from Cafe Astrology:
Sun Scorpio 23.42 Ascendant Sagittarius 6.56
Moon Libra 17.57 II Capricorn 9.19
Mercury Sagittarius 1.46 R III Aquarius 16.10
Venus Sagittarius 15.10 IV Pisces 22.14
Mars Leo 28.32 V Aries 22.18
Jupiter Virgo 7.49 VI Taurus 16.26
Saturn Virgo 24.45 VII Gemini 6.56
Uranus Scorpio 21.27 VIII Cancer 9.19
Neptune Sagittarius 19.16 IX Leo 16.10
Pluto Libra 20.29 Midheaven Virgo 22.14
Lilith Virgo 14.27 XI Libra 22.18
Asc node Virgo 4.47 XII Scorpio 16.26
and no, if you do not know your EXACT time of birth...this is inaccurate....some of the fishys lurking about on this board actually "do" astrology, on a level above 'casual hobby' and have been doing so for many years...while i'm no expert, i can tell you with certainty that you really should look into finding your real birth time...
as i'm sure you already know, the ascendant (which is the 3rd most important part of your chart) is determined by your birth time...and just a couple of minutes can make a huge difference in your chart interpretation...and the aspects between the planets are kind of important too...so, exact placement is important...
just thought i'd share that with you. i'll do your chart for you to prove i'm not being a smartass if you can find out when you were born...
--Jackclick to expand
I've asked my parents before and my mom said she didn't remember. She said she thinks it was around 8am. But yeah I agree with you, I've done that before.
Posted by QUlETstorm
It's a respect thing. It's hard to respect anyone who doesn't pull their weight. I get that, an have lost respect for people for that same reason. But it should never reach this point to where it's consuming you like it is. It really does appear that you are jealous/resentful of her, especially when you mention that her parents basically spoiled her and she hasn't had to work hard to obtain the nicer things in life, while you have.
It wasn't the fact she was spoiled, I just didn't like her bias against "poverty". I dont know if I put it in here, I probably have but she kept making comments that just gave me the impression she thought she was too good for that. Anyway, yeah it has consumed me because I can't say to her what I really want to say because management is all about "social nicety".
But yeah if we met through another way in another life yes I would have said something by now or I would have cut contact or BOTH.
But I'm stuck tolerating which I am trying so hard to do these past few days.
Posted by IntriguedScorp
Jesus Christ Scorpio stop over analyzing. Why do I keep thinking this has something to do with the aqua you have a crush on? I get huge jealousy/possession vibes. So wha gives?
When sifting through all of her threads, it appears as though she is obssessing with every part of her job.
In fact, I wonder if she even knows that she is the outcast ... since she admitted that all these people (the Fish, the Aqua, the 2 mean girls) not only are all liked by everyone else, these people successfully interact with everyone else.
If these posts are sifted through, there are mentions all over that state these people all get along with everyone else at work, even go to lunches together ... it's her who is left aside, and truly believe that her illusion of her life is so thick that she hasn't yet realized that she's the one who isn't liked at work.
There are a couple Scorpios in here who have shown themselves in here to be like this ... such as the DeludedLadyScorpio who proclaimed that she had to go rescue her entire family due to her father in dire need of her, when in reality the father was only her sperm donor and had a wife and children to whom he honored, and Skysomich, who mentions in here all the time that nobody in her family loves her and wants to be around her, and her illusion is that she is unable to comprehend that she is the one she talks about.
But, I much as I feel sorry for you Scorpios who are so fucked in the head with these delusions of grandeur .... I know and appreciate that it's not all of you, and there are some Eagles in dxp
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