My Leo aunt

I hold resentment against my aunt because she's a control freak.

But she's also my aunt.




If this is were you, what would you do?

1) Forgive her?

2) She's a control freak. Even tought she's your aunt, she's not acceptable?

1) Forgive her because no matter how she's, she's your aunt?

My brother's wife is a Leo, and he isn't allowed to do anything unless she tells him he's allowed to. Why my brother puts up with it, I've no clue. She's rich, where he was poor . . . perhaps, he's just seduced by her wealth. I don't know.

But, in your case, I guess you have to respect her so long as you are in her house. Outside of her territory, she's not the boss of you and if you let her be so, then she will probably continue to try and rule you. Pisces seem weak to everybody except us. Every other sign seems to think that they can push us around and then when it's a Leo, well . . . look out, because they think they are the Kings. Which in reality, they are . . . of their domain. The problem is - they think every where is their domain. If I were you, I would just remain silent in her home and let her rule. But, once you leave her house, you are your own boss once again.

This is the continuation of situation that I wrote in Aqua board:





I was living at her house as a quest for a month. One night I was watching TV and she "commanded" me to close it.lol. I ignored her commanding tone since she's my aunt and asked her whats wrong. She said: "You do not let your cousin to sleep". I say: "Look at him yourself, he's already sleeping". She says: "You will need to wake up at morning early". I say: "Don't worry about me, 3-4 hours of sleep is enough for me". She went out from the room without saying anything and cursing some little words. I continued to watch my TV since she said nothing more. Then she out of the blue came and pulled the general switch of the house, so no electricity were left in house. Surely TV has been clsoed automatically as well. I asked her whats wrong. Why she did that. She said: "This is my house, I do what I want".

In the morning, I left the house and told her to forget me as a relative.



Now I think, she's my aunt, holding resentment against her might be wrong.

From the other side, I hate her for being such a control freak.


Which way?

Actually the only reason why I try to put up with her is my cousin. He's an Aqua and she's his mother. I know he has very strong bond with her. I don't want to brake with him because he's a great person for me. However he's extremly emotional and his mother simply controls him. At least this is how I see it. He does not understand where his mother is wrong yet, but he learns slowly. There are things that he agrees that his mother is wrong. And there are things that he agrees that his mother is right. I don't know maybe he's a sneaky type who wants first use me and then move on. Could be. Could be not. I'm not sure yet. But I have to try to my chances. Though I don't exactly know how this thing will turn out. He has changed alot from the last time I've seen him.

While I write this, my mind has filled with lots of distrust to my cousin as well. But I don't want to lose my hope towards him. Yet one side of me thinks that I try for nothing. He does not get along with any relatives either. He's a liar to them. So I really don't know how to trust him. Probably I wont. Damn.

And I don't trust to my aunt either. They have used the relatives money and stuffs for their own benefit which makes me think once again wether to have any kind of relation with them. Probably I wont again. Damn.


Well anyway, I think they are not good people after all.

It must be one of her rules,shes not the only person in the world who sets the no TV's after bedtime rule on the count of light sleeping.Which was probably really her being the light sleeper since she was the one awake.Shes right actaully its her house,her rules so its up to her if she inforces them,your the guest who shes doing you a favor by letting you stay there.No tv afterdark is a fair enough trade.Im sure you have something thats "off limits" in your house too so seems kinda trivial to be worried about this.

You're not alone Haffo. I resentment my aunt too, as she is also a manipulative control freak. I had to break with her and didn't speak to her for 3 years. I tried reconnecting back in Feb. My brother and a friend keep telling me to reconnect, to respect her as she is older than me. I don't see what age or blood had to do with. She's been cruel, intolerant, untrustworthy etc. She can be generous but there is always an emotional cost. One can only take so much public humiliation and abuse.

You must respect her house rules but you are entitled to your feelings and should trust them. I don't think relatives always have your best interest at heart.

I don't think relatives always have your best interest at heart


Sad but true...sometimes strangers are better than your very OWN.....




Probably I wont again. Damn.

awww haffo *hug*... im sorry to hear that... i know its heart bleeding to see your relatives sooo selfish and mean.... if i were you i would just stay away from them... yes if they need your help you still have to help them coz they are your 'Family' but dont let them control your life....

well your wise and you'll make the right decision.... just trust your feelings cutie 🙂

Tiamat

Just because this is her house, it doesn't mean she can do to you whatever she want. If she want me to close TV and doesn't explain why, it makes her a control freak.

If she says "this is her house and she can do whatever she want" nobody would stay in her house. Nobody. Only these words are enough to leave her house. I don't care if this is her house, she cant say this to me. I would better stay at hotel rather than endure this.

And instead of explaining why she did that behaviour with TV, she simply says "this is my house" then it makes her a control freak. Because this is how she handles the situation. She doesn't actually care what people are thinking. The only thing she cares is wether what she wanted to do is happened or not. This is a sign of lack of respect. She simply does not respect me as a person. Simply that.

Haffo, it is HER house and she can do whatever she wants.

If it were YOUR house, you would feel the same way. We all would. Right now, you are just feeling resentful because she attempted to push you around and you were defenseless because deep down inside, you know she's right, but, your conscious mind doesn't want to take what it considers "Abuse".

Just because a person feels abused, or feels like they've been attacked - doesn't make it so . . . sometimes, this is in our heads because everybody has a certain amount of self-righteousness and doesn't like being told what to do, or having things pointed out to them.

This feeling of she has no right to tell you what to do in HER house, is in your own head, mate. She does have a right, it's her house. You know this and that's why you're defensive about it.

We only defend ourselves when we are feeling guilty.