Need help to understand this pisces woman I am an aries woman?

have a hard time to get over her she is in my mind the whole time for an year now. Whenever something bad happen to me i just think about her or open her fb just to look at her and i feel better. I never get attached to soemone this much even though i dont have her number and never went on a date. I feel im crazy and I've been denying my feelings but i think im in love with her. And i just feel stupid.

we were attracted immediately from the moment we met and she flirted back. I came back to her many times until she opened up to me and started to try to talk with me i know that she is extremely shy especially with me. Anyway i saw her flirting with a guy and playfully touching him and I ran away. At first she seemed shocked then she started to try to get my attention but not talking to me. Then i felt guilty went to her gave her a gift a cup for her new office she was defensive then she started to act sweeter than before staring at my eyes smiling. She even tried to use my cup in front of me like she was happy. I told her i would be back and told her the day and time then i didn't then i went to her but i didn't see her like she avoided me and she went on vacation. Then we both started to avoide each other and she kept having this looks when she see me at the street like she doesn't know what to do.. Then i found out that she is dating a guy but she tried two times to get my attention so i ignored her. After few months she followed me one day walked close to me when i sat down she looked down like she wanted to talk then she left. Then she did the same before my vacation she came to where i work acted busy sat and gave me her back doing papers then she suddnely stood up and looked at me across the room i looked away and she did the same. I don't understand whats going on with me and her i never been this confused woth a woman before i used to know if they want me or not but with us there is this stupid push and pull and i feel like im going crazy?

Im not sure if she has troubles with her sexuality but i do know she liked me but i don't understand her..

She is leaving work soon and I thought to go to her and give her my number and ask her to be freinds...

What would she think—

Can u help me understand her... And would she accept my freindship....

wow that is confusing. If you want the "pisces" answer. Please don't play games. we're also good at them and we can end up spinning around incircles for years.

me being a pisces, yet aries venus lol, id rather someone who has interest in me to say it and come forth. games are only fun for so long.

SO take a leap and ask to speak to her.

I'm a Pisces.. And I haaaaaate hate haaaaaate games!! I like when someone is upfront and tells me how they feel and shows interest in me and tried to get to know me and makes the first move... Maybe try talking to her and having a real conversation about what's going on and tell her how you feel.. I personally love when people open up to and tell me their feelings cuz I can't open up unless the other person opens up first or else you won't get a single thing out of me

So, I just want to be real with you, so let's kind of leave the Pisces element for a while.

I'm a lesbian, and I'm in my 30's. So, what I've learned in all this time is 1) don't mess with inexperienced girls--there's too much confusion and too much hot and cold with them (a la this "push and pull" you're referencing) because they are often either still confused or they're not confused but they have issues accepting themselves (or care too much about others who would not accept them), 2) if you're a girl's first that relationship will not work out 99% of the time (usually because of #1) and 3) don't mess with girls who either can't call themselves what they are in terms of sexual orientation (i.e. they don't like labels or whatever) and/or who are still running around dating guys but flirting with/glancing over at you--a lot of the same issues as with #1. You're asking to get your heart kicked in with any of these. And I don't know that your girl is inexperienced with other girls, but that's how this comes off and she seems as if she'd match at least #1 and #3.

Long story short, if I were you I'd run and not look back. I don't understand the "ask her to be friends" thing when that's not quite what you're actually wanting. Either way, she's trouble, from my experience.

I don't know what to say about her being a Pisces, other than, as a Pisces, I've never been able to have any sort of good relationship with an Aries, whether it was friendship or otherwise. Usually, it's the Aries who hurts me, but I think this chick would hurt YOU, based on my experiences as a lesbian.

Sounds like she's straight and you've misinterpreted her overtures of friendlyness as flirting.

Posted by wolverineP
So, I just want to be real with you, so let's kind of leave the Pisces element for a while.

I'm a lesbian, and I'm in my 30's. So, what I've learned in all this time is 1) don't mess with inexperienced girls--there's too much confusion and too much hot and cold with them (a la this "push and pull" you're referencing) because they are often either still confused or they're not confused but they have issues accepting themselves (or care too much about others who would not accept them), 2) if you're a girl's first that relationship will not work out 99% of the time (usually because of #1) and 3) don't mess with girls who either can't call themselves what they are in terms of sexual orientation (i.e. they don't like labels or whatever) and/or who are still running around dating guys but flirting with/glancing over at you--a lot of the same issues as with #1. You're asking to get your heart kicked in with any of these. And I don't know that your girl is inexperienced with other girls, but that's how this comes off and she seems as if she'd match at least #1 and #3.

Long story short, if I were you I'd run and not look back. I don't understand the "ask her to be friends" thing when that's not quite what you're actually wanting. Either way, she's trouble, from my experience.

I don't know what to say about her being a Pisces, other than, as a Pisces, I've never been able to have any sort of good relationship with an Aries, whether it was friendship or otherwise. Usually, it's the Aries who hurts me, but I think this chick would hurt YOU, based on my experiences as a lesbian.

This is the best answer i got online......

Ive been freinds with pisces before and we got along great

I think she already kinda hurt my ego not feelings when she just act interested then flirt with guys she doesnt do it in front of me though but i felt played

The reason why i want to be her freind is she is the only person in my life who cam make me feel calm i just feel calm and happy around her and she is leaving soon so its like i can be her freind or not having her at all

Lately though i stopped being interested in being more than friends but cant her her out of my mind same timei feel my ego is stopping me.. I felt i looked like a fool running after her while she dated the first guy who came along like she didnt even put an effort or cared enough to try to be with me too....

Posted by LadyNeptune
Sounds like she's straight and you've misinterpreted her overtures of friendlyness as flirting.

I don't think is friendlyness when u keep touching the woman from the first time u meet her plz dont be narrow minded and think that gay stuff don't exist

She has broken no promises to you. While it may be unfair that she led you on with some small flirtation on her part this does not mean she owes you a relationship. She is not responsible for your happiness and yet you have forced your heart into her closed fists.

Your peace of mind should never be dependent on another. Learn to find your calm within instead of searching for it in someone else.

Posted by Loveher

Posted by LadyNeptune
Sounds like she's straight and you've misinterpreted her overtures of friendlyness as flirting.

I don't think is friendlyness when u keep touching the woman from the first time u meet her plz dont be narrow minded and think that gay stuff don't exist

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Touching how? Everything you've described so far seems nothing more than a female who is affectionate with her friends, nothing more.

Posted by LadyNeptune
She has broken no promises to you. While it may be unfair that she led you on with some small flirtation on her part this does not mean she owes you a relationship. She is not responsible for your happiness and yet you have forced your heart into her closed fists.

Your peace of mind should never be dependent on another. Learn to find your calm within instead of searching for it in someone else.

Much easier said than done. I take it you've never been genuinely in love.

Posted by wolverineP
So, I just want to be real with you, so let's kind of leave the Pisces element for a while.

I'm a lesbian, and I'm in my 30's. So, what I've learned in all this time is 1) don't mess with inexperienced girls--there's too much confusion and too much hot and cold with them (a la this "push and pull" you're referencing) because they are often either still confused or they're not confused but they have issues accepting themselves (or care too much about others who would not accept them), 2) if you're a girl's first that relationship will not work out 99% of the time (usually because of #1) and 3) don't mess with girls who either can't call themselves what they are in terms of sexual orientation (i.e. they don't like labels or whatever) and/or who are still running around dating guys but flirting with/glancing over at you--a lot of the same issues as with #1. You're asking to get your heart kicked in with any of these. And I don't know that your girl is inexperienced with other girls, but that's how this comes off and she seems as if she'd match at least #1 and #3.

Long story short, if I were you I'd run and not look back. I don't understand the "ask her to be friends" thing when that's not quite what you're actually wanting. Either way, she's trouble, from my experience.

I don't know what to say about her being a Pisces, other than, as a Pisces, I've never been able to have any sort of good relationship with an Aries, whether it was friendship or otherwise. Usually, it's the Aries who hurts me, but I think this chick would hurt YOU, based on my experiences as a lesbian.

OP listen to this - take her advice and find someone who will accept you without question.

Oh...this one is sticky. I think wolverine gave you the best advice and you should take that. If she does see you more than just a friend... it sounds like she is still confused and I don't know if you want to be played around with, while she figures things out. She could be curious...she could be fighting inner demons, or she could just have been flirty and that's all and don't know how to get out of the situation without hurting you.

If I was you, I would think really hard about if you can truly be her friend. I have to ask myself these questions when I disconnect with someone I had/have feelings for and that will give me my answer if I can be their friend.

1. Can I be there for her/him for relationship advice?

2. Can I tolerate seeing them being affectionate towards someone else?

3. Can I truly be happy for them while they are with someone else and not pine over them?

If the answer is no to any of these.... then bail. It is not worth it. I know it is very hard to leave someone you have feelings for and it does seem like a good idea to keep them in your life as opposed to not having them at all, but if you can't do the three things above, then you would be a horrible friend. And that is completely not fair to either of you.

Search your heart and thoughts. Take your time and be sure... Pisces are known for leaving and coming back, which will confuse the hell out of you.

I have a Pisces friend - we have been friends for almost a decade and whenever we meet we flirt freely with each other. But we both know it's not serious because she's straight. Those are boundaries I understand and respect and we have zero issues with each other. We go on ice cream dates, she hugs me often (I don't hug back) and it's all very casual. But I have never once thought she had any interest in me beyond platonic.

OP, it looks to me like you may have issues setting boundaries for yourself and her.

Posted by RemixGeneralFishy

Posted by LadyNeptune
She has broken no promises to you. While it may be unfair that she led you on with some small flirtation on her part this does not mean she owes you a relationship. She is not responsible for your happiness and yet you have forced your heart into her closed fists.

Your peace of mind should never be dependent on another. Learn to find your calm within instead of searching for it in someone else.

Much easier said than done. I take it you've never been genuinely in love.

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Nobody ever said being in love would be easy. Some people have to go through a trial by fire process.

Posted by Ram416
I have a Pisces friend - we have been friends for almost a decade and whenever we meet we flirt freely with each other. But we both know it's not serious because she's straight. Those are boundaries I understand and respect and we have zero issues with each other. We go on ice cream dates, she hugs me often (I don't hug back) and it's all very casual. But I have never once thought she had any interest in me beyond platonic.

OP, it looks to me like you may have issues setting boundaries for yourself and her.

Ice cream dates?!!! Oh my! That sounds like so much freaking fun.

I will admit, that a much younger scorpio friend of mine is bi and I'm straight. We have flirted and done somethings that could be seen as questionable, but we are just really good friends. Pisces can blur that line, like Ram said... you have to know your boundaries of the friendship and both have a clear cut understanding of what the friendship is.

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Posted by LadyNeptune
She has broken no promises to you. While it may be unfair that she led you on with some small flirtation on her part this does not mean she owes you a relationship. She is not responsible for your happiness and yet you have forced your heart into her closed fists.

Your peace of mind should never be dependent on another. Learn to find your calm within instead of searching for it in someone else.

Much easier said than done. I take it you've never been genuinely in love.

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I'm speaking from my own experiences here. I don't give my heart away so easily after a few flirtatious moments with a person and fantasizing about a future with them via their facebook profile.

This isn't love. This is infatuation.

Posted by LadyNeptune

Posted by RemixGeneralFishy

Posted by LadyNeptune
She has broken no promises to you. While it may be unfair that she led you on with some small flirtation on her part this does not mean she owes you a relationship. She is not responsible for your happiness and yet you have forced your heart into her closed fists.

Your peace of mind should never be dependent on another. Learn to find your calm within instead of searching for it in someone else.

Much easier said than done. I take it you've never been genuinely in love.

I'm speaking from my own experiences here. I don't give my heart away so easily after a few flirtatious moments with a person and fantasizing about a future with them via their facebook profile.

This isn't love. This is infatuation.

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Just because it doesn't happen to you doesn't mean it can't happen to anyone else.

Thanks guys u gave me a dose of reality that i needed... She is clearly a confused woman and she is not willing to put an effort like me...

I answered the questions regarding the freindship and honstly i cant see her being affectionate towards someone else...

And yes just because some ppl think it didnt happen to them doesn't mean it would never happen

Im usualy a logical person this is the first time i act this childish so im even shocked from myself but these stuff happen all the time....

Posted by Loveher
Thanks guys u gave me a dose of reality that i needed... She is clearly a confused woman and she is not willing to put an effort like me...

I answered the questions regarding the freindship and honstly i cant see her being affectionate towards someone else...

And yes just because some ppl think it didnt happen to them doesn't mean it would never happen

Im usualy a logical person this is the first time i act this childish so im even shocked from myself but these stuff happen all the time....

Right now I'm madly in love with the one guy I can't have. Today it's his birthday and I'm terrified to wish him a good one because I won't be able to control myself. physically. I've been in love before but never like this. I just wanna bash my skull open against the wall.

So I know how you feel.

Sorry to heat that.....

I know this push and pull in my head is driving me crazy like why i feel this way and got lead on like im an idiot.....

I guess in ur situation send him a text so u wont feel guilty about not saying anything to him but thats it dont talk much because i know when i talk much i start to have this hope in my head while reality is totally different..

Posted by Loveher
Sorry to heat that.....

I know this push and pull in my head is driving me crazy like why i feel this way and got lead on like im an idiot.....

I guess in ur situation send him a text so u wont feel guilty about not saying anything to him but thats it dont talk much because i know when i talk much i start to have this hope in my head while reality is totally different..

That will only cause more problems because he's used to me being talkative with him. It will set off alarm bells if I'm too brief or distant and he's gonna probe. That's actually my fault. I have a very soothing aura and people become very comfortable around me. Makes even the stoic Virgos take down their defense walls. He recently confessed he loves confiding in me. When was the last time you heard a Virgo say that to anyone?

And he's super-nice so I can't even hate him even if I wanted to. Would be much easier if he was a scumbag. So this is a "damned if I do, damned if I don't" deal.

I hate this feeling

Yeah pisces have this calming effect I like being around them

I guess u should have ur own time and space to think about what u really want

Ive been thinking today a lot and realized that I deserve someone who want me as bad as i want them

Maybe when u and me have a fime alone and away we would think more clearly

Posted by Loveher
I hate this feeling

Yeah pisces have this calming effect I like being around them

I guess u should have ur own time and space to think about what u really want

Ive been thinking today a lot and realized that I deserve someone who want me as bad as i want them

Maybe when u and me have a fime alone and away we would think more clearly

I know exactly what and who I want. Known since I first laid eyes on him almost 3 years ago and that feeling only got stronger over time as I got to know him better.

Sent him a text later in the evening wishing him a good birthday and left it at that.......didn't work. Within 60 seconds he actually calls me during his own birthday party and stays on the phone with me for several minutes asking if I feel alrite (had briefly contacted his bro earlier and told him I couldn't make it due to being sick - which isn't far from the truth at all).

How can you not love him? Although I have a stinking suspicion he needed a few minutes to compose himself lol, he hates being the center of attention. His face usually turns a bright shade of red when he's front center. It is hilariously adorable.

Doesn't help that he was in my last dream before I woke up this morning so it's still extremely vivid. He's in a band so we work with music (I collect original multitracks, instrumentals & acapellas) and we mess around with those. In the vivid dream I saw that I was introducing him to some new music I found. And we started mock-dancing tango to it.

Godamn, I can still feel his 8-pack pressing against my side and his hand on the small of my back. Been reading a long historical book outside for the past 3 hours and it's not working.

I know what I want, I just can't have it. And it's not the idea of him, where there have been instances you only imagine someone is really great only to remember what that person is actually like. I know he's the perfect guy for me because I've seen it.

How do you feel about her right now, and does the actual girl measure up to your idea of her?

Posted by Loveher

i just feel stupid.

You sound stupid, also.

for example .......

Posted by Loveher

Posted by LadyNeptune
Sounds like she's straight and you've misinterpreted her overtures of friendlyness as flirting.

I don't think is friendlyness when u keep touching the woman from the first time u meet her plz dont be narrow minded and think that gay stuff don't exist

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The response from LadyNeptune didn't address her pov on homosexuality ... but, your mind is so narrow that that is all you could comprehend.

You're easy to play, most stupid people are ... this Pisces friend of yours is playing you like a fiddle, but, you're incapable of recognizing it because your are closed minded.

Posted by Loveher

She is clearly a confused woman and she is not willing to put an effort like me...

You're the one who sounds confused.

You think that she has an obligation to put in effort to secure you, when in reality, she likes men. In your narrow mindset, since she isn't coming for you, like you would want of her .. you call her confused, when in reality, she isn't coming for you because she doesn't want to be with you.

That comment suggests that you think you're the prize to be had.

Posted by Loveher

honstly i cant see her being affectionate towards someone else...

Here is the perfect example of how ridiculous you are. You're so far up your own arse that you refuse to recognize anything other than what you want.

Posted by Loveher

And yes just because some ppl think it didnt happen to them doesn't mean it would never happen

Not only was this NOT said by anyone in here ... it wasn't even implied.

By your own testimony in here you have successfully proven to us why you feel stupid.

it's because you are stupid.

and the below sums it all up ........

Posted by Loveher

these stuff happen all the time....

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Obviously, you continue to make the same fool out of yourself over and again

Posted by P-Angel

Posted by Loveher

She is clearly a confused woman and she is not willing to put an effort like me...

You're the one who sounds confused.

You think that she has an obligation to put in effort to secure you, when in reality, she likes men. In your narrow mindset, since she isn't coming for you, like you would want of her .. you call her confused, when in reality, she isn't coming for you because she doesn't want to be with you.

That comment suggests that you think you're the prize to be had.

Posted by Loveher

honstly i cant see her being affectionate towards someone else...

Here is the perfect example of how ridiculous you are. You're so far up your own arse that you refuse to recognize anything other than what you want.

Posted by Loveher

And yes just because some ppl think it didnt happen to them doesn't mean it would never happen

Not only was this NOT said by anyone in here ... it wasn't even implied.

By your own testimony in here you have successfully proven to us why you feel stupid.

it's because you are stupid.

and the below sums it all up ........

Posted by Loveher

these stuff happen all the time....

Obviously, you continue to make the same fool out of yourself over and again

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^^^^^ leave it to the spinster to show up in the end assuming she knows the score. To make a long story short: get a hobby, sweetheart, and take off before you make an even bigger ass outta yourself.

"And yes just because some ppl think it didnt happen to them doesn't mean it would never happen"

I'm gonna highlight that with a bright yellow marker because you'd never see it otherwise. She was referring to my response to LadyNeptune about her never having had a "swept off your feet" experience.

Like I said, go back to knitting and stay out of young people's business, Grams.

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Posted by P-Angel

Posted by Loveher

She is clearly a confused woman and she is not willing to put an effort like me...

You're the one who sounds confused.

You think that she has an obligation to put in effort to secure you, when in reality, she likes men. In your narrow mindset, since she isn't coming for you, like you would want of her .. you call her confused, when in reality, she isn't coming for you because she doesn't want to be with you.

That comment suggests that you think you're the prize to be had.

Posted by Loveher

honstly i cant see her being affectionate towards someone else...

Here is the perfect example of how ridiculous you are. You're so far up your own arse that you refuse to recognize anything other than what you want.

Posted by Loveher

And yes just because some ppl think it didnt happen to them doesn't mean it would never happen

Not only was this NOT said by anyone in here ... it wasn't even implied.

By your own testimony in here you have successfully proven to us why you feel stupid.

it's because you are stupid.

and the below sums it all up ........

Posted by Loveher

these stuff happen all the time....

Obviously, you continue to make the same fool out of yourself over and again

^^^^^ leave it to the spinster to show up in the end assuming she knows the score. To make a long story short: get a hobby, sweetheart, and take off before you make an even bigger ass outta yourself.

"And yes just because some ppl think it didnt happen to them doesn't mean it would never happen"

I'm gonna highlight that with a bright yellow marker because you'd never see it otherwise. She was referring to my response to LadyNeptune about her never having had a "swept off your feet" experience.

Like I said, go back to knitting and stay out of young people's business, Grams.

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Oh the hilarity of this.

1. P-Angel isn't a spinster like you assume.

2. (and the most important part) you assumed that LadyNeptune never experienced what OP did, when if you read her response properly, she said she was speaking from experience and that she has learnt never to give her heart away so easily.

Just because someone has an opposing opinion does not necessarily mean she has never experienced something.

Because this is what old shallow ppl do who dont see the world and meet ppl and she seem like she is living in her living knitting and dont the world atound her because if she were she wouldnt come and talk about something she doesnt know....

And yes she never experinced because she said exactly that she never believe in love from first meeting and she was totally right when she said that she never experienced because she didnt she said she guard her feelings while both of us didnt

Dont make this thread a hating thread we all just talking until this old lady came without realizing whats going on..

Posted by LadyNeptune

Posted by Loveher

Posted by LadyNeptune
Sounds like she's straight and you've misinterpreted her overtures of friendlyness as flirting.

I don't think is friendlyness when u keep touching the woman from the first time u meet her plz dont be narrow minded and think that gay stuff don't exist

Touching how? Everything you've described so far seems nothing more than a female who is affectionate with her friends, nothing more.

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Still waiting on your answer Op. What kind of touching was involved?

How can we give you accurate input if we don't have the full story...

Posted by Loveher
Because this is what old shallow ppl do who dont see the world and meet ppl and she seem like she is living in her living knitting and dont the world atound her because if she were she wouldnt come and talk about something she doesnt know....

And yes she never experinced because she said exactly that she never believe in love from first meeting and she was totally right when she said that she never experienced because she didnt she said she guard her feelings while both of us didnt

Dont make this thread a hating thread we all just talking until this old lady came without realizing whats going on..

It's interesting to me that you feel people with conflicting opinions to yours 'hate' you.

I didn't say any of those things, exactly or otherwise. What other words do you want to put into my mouth?

According to the OP, there was no mention of touching .. however ... when testifying that the Fish was being affectionate with a male, the word "touching" was used to describe this action.

So, this indicates that the gauging of desire and affection is represented as the Fish touching her object of affection

Once the Ram was put against the wall, is when the story changes and now suddenly, the Fish was touching her.



In reality, when the Ram was free to speak of the events without fear of being held accountable for contridictions ..... there was no mention of touching.



Obviously, the Ram has come back with lies in an attempt to further embellish.



But, this isn't a Ram issue ... it's an immaturity issue.

Mouse woman how dare u call me a liar— U r crazy! Just get out my thread.. Or talk to the hand.

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Posted by Loveher
I hate this feeling

Yeah pisces have this calming effect I like being around them

I guess u should have ur own time and space to think about what u really want

Ive been thinking today a lot and realized that I deserve someone who want me as bad as i want them

Maybe when u and me have a fime alone and away we would think more clearly

I know exactly what and who I want. Known since I first laid eyes on him almost 3 years ago and that feeling only got stronger over time as I got to know him better.

Sent him a text later in the evening wishing him a good birthday and left it at that.......didn't work. Within 60 seconds he actually calls me during his own birthday party and stays on the phone with me for several minutes asking if I feel alrite (had briefly contacted his bro earlier and told him I couldn't make it due to being sick - which isn't far from the truth at all).

How can you not love him? Although I have a stinking suspicion he needed a few minutes to compose himself lol, he hates being the center of attention. His face usually turns a bright shade of red when he's front center. It is hilariously adorable.

Doesn't help that he was in my last dream before I woke up this morning so it's still extremely vivid. He's in a band so we work with music (I collect original multitracks, instrumentals & acapellas) and we mess around with those. In the vivid dream I saw that I was introducing him to some new music I found. And we started mock-dancing tango to it.

Godamn, I can still feel his 8-pack pressing against my side and his hand on the small of my back. Been reading a long historical book outside for the past 3 hours and it's not working.

I know what I want, I just can't have it. And it's not the idea of him, where there have been instances you only imagine someone is really great only to remember what that person is actually like. I know he's the perfect guy for me because I've seen it.

How do you feel about her right now, and does the actual girl measure up to your idea of her?

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I love music i like ur job...

Whats holding u back from being with him? Honstly he seems a nice guy not a player.. I think he only called u because u mean a lot to him... I think u should talk to him about ur feelings.

Lol I had dreams too i never had dreams about anyone like this before... The funny thing is every time i say im over her i always end uo having these kind of dreams... I bet you synastry chart would be like mine with her... She did mesure up to my standards when i first met her she was different kind caring we learned a lot from each other I don't really regret anything... And im happy that i changed her too...

Posted by Loveher


I love music i like ur job...

Whats holding u back from being with him? Honstly he seems a nice guy not a player.. I think he only called u because u mean a lot to him... I think u should talk to him about ur feelings.

Lol I had dreams too i never had dreams about anyone like this before... The funny thing is every time i say im over her i always end uo having these kind of dreams... I bet you synastry chart would be like mine with her... She did mesure up to my standards when i first met her she was different kind caring we learned a lot from each other I don't really regret anything... And im happy that i changed her too...

The problem is I'm gay, he's not.

Posted by Ram416


Oh the hilarity of this.

1. P-Angel isn't a spinster like you assume.

If it walks like a spinster, looks like a spinster, talks like a spinster......smells and farts like a spinster: you guessed it!!!

Posted by RemixGeneralFishy

Posted by Loveher


I love music i like ur job...

Whats holding u back from being with him? Honstly he seems a nice guy not a player.. I think he only called u because u mean a lot to him... I think u should talk to him about ur feelings.

Lol I had dreams too i never had dreams about anyone like this before... The funny thing is every time i say im over her i always end uo having these kind of dreams... I bet you synastry chart would be like mine with her... She did mesure up to my standards when i first met her she was different kind caring we learned a lot from each other I don't really regret anything... And im happy that i changed her too...

The problem is I'm gay, he's not.

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So you have the same exact issue as the op. You allowed yourself to fall in love with someone who isn't available.

The difference of course is your self aware enough to acknowledge this.

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I love music i like ur job...

Whats holding u back from being with him? Honstly he seems a nice guy not a player.. I think he only called u because u mean a lot to him... I think u should talk to him about ur feelings.

Lol I had dreams too i never had dreams about anyone like this before... The funny thing is every time i say im over her i always end uo having these kind of dreams... I bet you synastry chart would be like mine with her... She did mesure up to my standards when i first met her she was different kind caring we learned a lot from each other I don't really regret anything... And im happy that i changed her too...

The problem is I'm gay, he's not.

So you have the same exact issue as the op. You allowed yourself to fall in love with someone who isn't available.

The difference of course is your self aware enough to acknowledge this.

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The heart wants who it wants.

Don't listen to ppl who tells its impossible i think he might be interested if i were u and we rgood freinds i would hint at it

Posted by Loveher
Don't listen to ppl who tells its impossible i think he might be interested if i were u and we rgood freinds i would hint at it

A friend of mine found himself in a similar situation recently. A guy fell for him, it was all sexual attraction. This guy didn't care how my friend felt about it and kept making pervy comments towards him, REAL pervy. They were actually good enough friends beforehand, but now my friend completely loathes him. He was better off not knowing.

I'm nothing like that guy - for starters I'm genuinely in love with him, not just insanely attracted to him, but my point is telling my boy about it will change our relationship forever. I'd rather remember him the way we used to be, when my Sagittarius ascendant would have his Leo ascendant in stitches with my latest wisecrack (he: Virgo Sun, Capricorn moon, Leo rising - me: Pisces sun, Virgo moon, Sag rising) or when we'd spend hours just talking about anything and everything.

Once you reveal romantic feelings for a friend, it changes everything. Naturally I'm also too chicken to confess my love for him because I don't think I could survive rejection coming from him. For the past 3 days I've been experiencing body-wide pins & needles and that started on his birthday. But it's also more than that.

If I tell him how I feel, I'd just be imposing my personal agenda onto him. That pervy guy didn't give a shit about my friend's feelings and how he'd react to it. He just wanted my friend on his back and himself on top of him. He's a selfish piece of crap. And it doesn't have anything to do with homophobia, my friend is fine with my sexuality, because I don't bring all that to him.

I know he's not into it so I don't let the matter become part of the conversation. I guess I'm too considerate of other people's feelings. And with my boy that I love so dearly it's magnified. I don't want to make him uncomfortable. I'd rather keep him feeling safe and comfortable around me for as long as I can take it. He knows I'm gay but we don't talk much about it because he can't relate.

Sometimes he asks me a few questions about it and I answer them, but that's about it. He hasn't asked me if I find him attractive and I haven't mentioned anything of the sort. If he knows I'm madly in love with him and doesn't feel the same way (most likely scenario), our relationship is virtually over. He wouldn't be comfortable confiding in me anymore, it would be too awkward. I don't want to be a source of discomfort to him. I love him too much to affect him negatively.

In other words, you'd rather operate under false pretenses.

typical deceptive Fish

A friend of mine found himself in a similar situation recently. A guy fell for him, it was all sexual attraction. This guy didn't care how my friend felt about it and kept making pervy comments towards him, REAL pervy. They were actually good enough friends beforehand, but now my friend completely loathes him. He was better off not knowing.

I'm nothing like that guy - for starters I'm genuinely in love with him, not just insanely attracted to him, but my point is telling my boy about it will change our relationship forever. I'd rather remember him the way we used to be, when my Sagittarius ascendant would have his Leo ascendant in stitches with my latest wisecrack (he: Virgo Sun, Capricorn moon, Leo rising - me: Pisces sun, Virgo moon, Sag rising) or when we'd spend hours just talking about anything and everything.

Once you reveal romantic feelings for a friend, it changes everything. Naturally I'm also too chicken to confess my love for him because I don't think I could survive rejection coming from him. For the past 3 days I've been experiencing body-wide pins & needles and that started on his birthday. But it's also more than that.

If I tell him how I feel, I'd just be imposing my personal agenda onto him. That pervy guy didn't give a shit about my friend's feelings and how he'd react to it. He just wanted my friend on his back and himself on top of him. He's a selfish piece of crap. And it doesn't have anything to do with homophobia, my friend is fine with my sexuality, because I don't bring all that to him.

I know he's not into it so I don't let the matter become part of the conversation. I guess I'm too considerate of other people's feelings. And with my boy that I love so dearly it's magnified. I don't want to make him uncomfortable. I'd rather keep him feeling safe and comfortable around me for as long as I can take it. He knows I'm gay but we don't talk much about it because he can't relate.

Sometimes he asks me a few questions about it and I answer them, but that's about it. He hasn't asked me if I find him attractive and I haven't mentioned anything of the sort. If he knows I'm madly in love with him and doesn't feel the same way (most likely scenario), our relationship is virtually over. He wouldn't be comfortable confiding in me anymore, it would be too awkward. I don't want to be a source of discomfort to him. I love him too much to affect him negatively.



I think what u r doing to urslef is not fair u r totally into him and from the way u talk about it i can also see that u might put ur love life on hold waiting for him and it's totally normal i think u need a closure with him at least u would know for sure if u have a chance with him or not and move on and open up to new ppl....

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I think what u r doing to urslef is not fair u r totally into him and from the way u talk about it i can also see that u might put ur love life on hold waiting for him and it's totally normal i think u need a closure with him at least u would know for sure if u have a chance with him or not and move on and open up to new ppl....

I know for a fact he's THE perfect man for me. I've fallen in love before with some real hot stuff......but he goes way off the #/10 scale, on the outside and especially on the inside. How can I bring myself to settle for so much less now that I know who "the one" is?

Furthermore, I don't like arrogant tuck-up guys. There's just too many of them. Whereas my Virgo has every reason in the world to be arrogant & stuck-up. He's 100% perfect in every sense of the word, and he's told he's drop-dead often enough by the girls around him but he's neither stuck-up nor a snob about it.

But I can't just force him to be gay for me. He's just not wired that way. I also love a challenge, I like cracking a guy's defenses & make him comfortable around me. He was a challenge for sure, but when he opened up to me, it's like he became a different person. I just loved getting into his core and experiencing him with his guard down.

Too-easy guys are a turn-off for me.

Im on the same boat i feel the same about this woman i know for sure if she appercite me for who i am i know for sure that we will be happy i even for the first time i met someone and felt like home i even wouldnt mind spend the rest of my life with her ppl call me crazy but u seem to feel the same about this guy it's really difficult in our situation to get over them i tried to flirt with other women and try to date them but she is always in the back of my head she was a challenge too... I honstly dont know what should we do both of us r stuck just wondering if they ever felt the same.... In ur situation i would definitely hint to him that i like him that whag i did with her but she seem to prefer men at leats now i know that i might never have a chance u should try so u wont regret it later......

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Im on the same boat i feel the same about this woman i know for sure if she appercite me for who i am i know for sure that we will be happy i even for the first time i met someone and felt like home i even wouldnt mind spend the rest of my life with her ppl call me crazy but u seem to feel the same about this guy it's really difficult in our situation to get over them i tried to flirt with other women and try to date them but she is always in the back of my head she was a challenge too... I honstly dont know what should we do both of us r stuck just wondering if they ever felt the same.... In ur situation i would definitely hint to him that i like him that whag i did with her but she seem to prefer men at leats now i know that i might never have a chance u should try so u wont regret it later......

Heh if I were straight, I'd suggest we hook up. Misery luuuuuvs company.

Lol we r miserable i just wonder what would we think of all of this after few years