Need help understanding Pisces girl.

So I've been talking with this pisces girl. I even expressed my feelings but she doesn't feel the same way like I feel. She says her career is important now.

Ive been reading about Cancer and pisces compatibility and was really happy that we are so much compatible with each other but now I'm beginning to think otherwise.

She never initiates talk. And sometimes take ages to reply me.

Whenever she feels I'm probing, or she feels that I'm going to ask about her ignorance she goes offline saying she has to go.

Really confused what to do.

Im cancer BTW.

Maybe show some interest in her career. Ask her questions about her future. Pisces love to dream an imagine what our future will look like.

A few questions for you Neo...

How old are you both?

Have you met in person or has it only been online so far?

Do you work? And does she? Or in school?

Posted by LadyNeptune
A few questions for you Neo...

How old are you both?

Have you met in person or has it only been online so far?

Do you work? And does she? Or in school?

Well for starters she's my junior. I graduated a year ago and she's still studying.

We both are in same higher professional education.

I've talked to her in person. It's not exclusively online.

I'm studying again for next level.

I'm 25 and she's 22.

Posted by shakedown
Sorry Neo that sucks. Sounds like there could be more to the situation than the "Cancer / Pisces" compatibility. Maybe she truly is focused on her career. Most Pisces I know do not initiate conversations, but I am generalizing. Maybe she has things happening in her family or a rough past love life. The possibilities are endless. I wish you luck.

Thanks..

She's kinda of escapist. She doesn't want to be confronted. If she instinctively knows when I'm about to ask her out and she suddenly goes offline saying she has to go.

Posted by Neo_N
So I've been talking with this pisces girl. I even expressed my feelings but she doesn't feel the same way like I feel. She says her career is important now.

Ive been reading about Cancer and pisces compatibility and was really happy that we are so much compatible with each other but now I'm beginning to think otherwise.

She never initiates talk. And sometimes take ages to reply me.

Whenever she feels I'm probing, or she feels that I'm going to ask about her ignorance she goes offline saying she has to go.

Really confused what to do.

Im cancer BTW.

Sorry but it sounds to me like she's just not into you. The career is probably an excuse to let you down without hurting your feelings.

Posted by LadyNeptune
A few questions for you Neo...

How old are you both?

Have you met in person or has it only been online so far?

Do you work? And does she? Or in school?

This is easy then. Your way in is her love and focus on school and career.

Invite her out to coffee for a study sesh. Invite her to catch a time management seminar. The focus on your outing together, whatever it is, should be education/career as that is where her interests lie.

Ask her about her future goals, get her talking about herself. It's scientifically proven that a positive hormone is released in our brain when we talk about ourselves...like a reward. Spend time together without bombarding her with your feels, she's not ready to hear that and feel the pressure to respond in kind. Come on too hard and the Fish will swim away.

You'll know when she's warming up to you. Proximity breeds affection.

Yep this is exactly what I do.

If I like someone I'd be staying online not going offline and avoiding you.

Posted by LadyNeptune

Posted by LadyNeptune
A few questions for you Neo...

How old are you both?

Have you met in person or has it only been online so far?

Do you work? And does she? Or in school?

This is easy then. Your way in is her love and focus on school and career.

Invite her out to coffee for a study sesh. Invite her to catch a time management seminar. The focus on your outing together, whatever it is, should be education/career as that is where her interests lie.

Ask her about her future goals, get her talking about herself. It's scientifically proven that a positive hormone is released in our brain when we talk about ourselves...like a reward. Spend time together without bombarding her with your feels, she's not ready to hear that and feel the pressure to respond in kind. Come on too hard and the Fish will swim away.

You'll know when she's warming up to you. Proximity breeds affection.

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Thanks for your time buddy..

Guess I'll give her some time.

Right now even I have to study for exams.

Will complete my post graduation and then ask her hand in marriage.

I know she's still young to think about marriage and family.

Be her friend first, chat about her career, likes dislikes, animals, how much you love dogs/cats, send her pics of beautiful things you've noticed like sunrises, sunsets ect be gently persistent she will eventually see you as someone she wants to keep in her life, then you can build on that.

She is distracted at the moment with what she wants to do with her life so she probably isn't worrying about a relationship at the moment, but she will want to keep you around if she sees you as a sweet person.

Don't pressure for dates and things at the moment.

Posted by d0s3r
omg.. don't give him advice to be more annoying! she goes offline lol that's a big sign to me of: i don't wanna be rude but i don't like you so I'll avoid potential of offending you.

stop trying to force attraction based on signs. you could be physically unattractive, sorry that won't save your supposed compatibility.

Dear,

I'm not one of those creeps who relentlessly hit on a girl, spy on her friends and stalk every place she is presumably goes. I don't text or talk simultaneously with 10 other girls. I'm not playing with her life. I'm not trying to get into her pants. I genuinely like her and intend to marry her. Hell, I neither demand her to text me every minute of day, nor I text her asking tons of questions as to where she was or with whom she went or talked.

Our one conversation for few hours keeps me going for a week. Sometimes just a "good morning" text does the trick. And she knows it too. But recently her texts are becoming infrequent. And I'm scared that this long distant relationship is affecting us.

And I have significant no of girl friends(read 'friends who are girls,' because so many confuse between girlfriends and girl friends) and they said some of their friends had crush on me, I'm not bragging but it indicates I'm not bad looking. Plus I paint, I write Calligraphy, do pencil sketching, graffiti and sometimes writes literature. She does these too. So I'm not some creepy nobody with no real accomplishments.

So why don't you stop judging if you are unable to give insight.

She do like me. She's just shy. She doesn't speak to boys in general. In fact I'm the first guy to take her out. And assuming my friends weren't lying, she has mentioned me more than any guy she knows. She even mentioned to her big brother who's in our cricket team.

May be forcing feelings is bad. They say "love is like fart. If I had to force it, it's probably shit."

I'm not forcing or blackmailing her in any way.

Don't misunderstand my trying as imposing or forcing or creepy.

Thanks.

Posted by piscespoppy
Be her friend first, chat about her career, likes dislikes, animals, how much you love dogs/cats, send her pics of beautiful things you've noticed like sunrises, sunsets ect be gently persistent she will eventually see you as someone she wants to keep in her life, then you can build on that.

She is distracted at the moment with what she wants to do with her life so she probably isn't worrying about a relationship at the moment, but she will want to keep you around if she sees you as a sweet person.

Don't pressure for dates and things at the moment.

What you said is true. She has exams in an year and she's studying hard. She's one of the top performers in her class so have to maintain the same.

I was concerned that this long distance relationship is affecting us and if we didn't do something then it might affect very badly.

Posted by d0s3r
lol buddy... as a pisces girl... when it comes to a pisces girl... it doesn't matter what *you* want.

if you said she said she doesn't feel the same... what is this long distance relationship you speak of? it's not only wanting sex that makes you a creep. you're stifling the girl's sense of freedom. if anything she's indecisive af and you forcing her will either piss her off, or she will put on an act for you.

you must understand.. as much as sun sign-based astrology can possibly help: pisces is not a sign of explicit communication. it's not 'shyness' if she's not responding to you making the first move.

I agree with what you said about communication. May be she's trying to politely decline me. She doesn't speak ill of anyone. I've never seen her swearing, even yelling. So she's trying to stop things midway before they get nasty and someone gets hurt. But she doesn't want to lose me.

And I'm saying this again, I'm not forcing anything. I'm not running behind her or asking a thousand times whether she's going out with me or not. I'm not hell bent on making her say YES to me. It was just one attempt to meet her after long time.

Till now, I've never asked if she has met someone when I'm here. I even encouraged her to go to her friends' college fest(in spite of knowing lot of guys will approach her there) I'm not saying that I'm a great guy, with all good virtues and heart of gold.

Just know that I'm not forcing anything. Or pressuring her to make some decision about us. I suggested we meet up for a lunch. I know she has a lot to study, and will be very busy. I was in her shoes a year back. I also know that this period of time is not as demanding as it will be in near future (like 3 months from now)I thought this was ideal to meet.

If I go by your words, assume I gave her ample time to figure out where's this going, what if she thinks I'm the one ignoring her because I never attempted to meet her after I moved out of her city?

You know, a lot if girls say 'no' but actually want guys to keep trying. If guys doesn't try then they blame saying guys never tried second time. I've seen these in my friends circle.

The 'No' of these girls meant:

'try again',

'keep trying until we say yes',

'we want to be with a guy who try to keep his girl and not giving up on first time' etc.

And there were incidents when girls said NO firmly. They didn't want to look at the guy again. Their 'No' meant 'NO'

Isn't this confusing? I want to know what she actually means and what I should do.

My confusion is whether she's telling no firmly or just wants me to try harder. That's the insight I need. If this too seems like forcing then I don't know what independence is. like most of the guys, I have to go brood, swear on her and have prejudice, that "women are just players".

Hope you understand what I'm seeking.

Posted by piscespoppy
Be her friend first, chat about her career, likes dislikes, animals, how much you love dogs/cats, send her pics of beautiful things you've noticed like sunrises, sunsets ect be gently persistent she will eventually see you as someone she wants to keep in her life, then you can build on that.

She is distracted at the moment with what she wants to do with her life so she probably isn't worrying about a relationship at the moment, but she will want to keep you around if she sees you as a sweet person.

Don't pressure for dates and things at the moment.

Thanks for your time dear. I appreciate it.

In fact I've planned things for us. But I haven't told her yet.

Her father is a good man and I know what he's seeking in Grooms for his daughter. Except the caste and money(I don't think money's a matter here, because even if it is, I'll be making more money than his oldest son when he got job).

So I'm waiting for us to get settled first which roughly takes 3 years. But till then, I've to keep trying right? She shouldn't think I've given up on her.

Thats what I'm doing.

I made whole video about how we Pisces act when we are over someone or not interested. And sadly I think she genuinly likes you nothing more than a friend.

From my experience it doesn't matter how busy we are (I remember when I was in university and working and being all around busy) I would still find time to answer the guy I liked. Because when we genuinly romanticaly like someone we will make that person more important than most stuff. Even if we will have to sacrifise sleep or other stuff.

But on a flip side is that if we do not like someone romanticaly but we care about the person as a person we will try to let them down gently. "I am busy" is the best excuse to do so since it seems like tottaly not personal. Other excuses are: I need space to figure myself out, life is hectic I need to find balance and it would be unfair of me to keep you here when I don't know what I want from life. Or I don't even know myself so I can't be with you because it wouldn't be fair to you.

And if we genuinly ignore you that's it. Because Pisces are not shy 🙂 when we like someone and person is showing interest too our shiness goes away really fast.

While if you push us for more we just remove ourselves from situation since we don't want to hurt your feelings. At the same time she may be keeping you for the sake of just having you if nothing else comes along (sadly at young age sometimes Pisces do that). And actually at that time we don't really understand that we are doing it.

Also as a side note you intend to marry her— I will say that's tiny bit creepy considering that you said she herself said she doesn't like you in that way.

Anyhow like I said I made video way way back about this and actually you basicaly have the situation I described: